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Dear Emma, Have always loved VELVET and VELOUR. Growing up, as a teen, I received a beautiful hand me down from the 1950's, a purple velvet skirt from a cousin. Presently I am thinking about buying a velour long sleeved blouse in Christmas colors from Woman Within or Roaman's. Have always been a fan of COLOR and TEXTURE! Your friend, Monica

Hi Kitrah, Thank you for your feedback. You make a lot of good points and I agree with you on the litmus (or any objective) test for what it means to think as a female. I just walked for a couple of hours to/from a coffee shop and thought about this a lot. It is fair to say that in my life I've spent a lot of energy considering "what I'm supposed to be/act" as a male in my career, friendships, and socially. I felt like a chameleon. But it often felt forced, insincere. Especially over the last couple of years I've made a conscious decision to just be me without so much filtering and supervision. And overall that's felt good. And in that and in consideration of my historical thinking and behavior I'd say it's a fair bet that I do in fact think in a more feminine way. As I consider men and women that I'm around it is apparent to me that there is a lot of overlap. Not outwardly so much but in thinking and behaviors. When I think about myself as female I think I would be at the more feminine end of the spectrum which is at least partly why I chose my last name to be Sweet. That's what I'd like to be. Earlier today I ordered this dress on Amazon: Urban CoCo Women long sleeve V-neck Velvet Stretchy Long Dress. As I considered it I thought about what I would wear with it, a slip, stockings, shoes. But mostly how it would feel. I realized that I can well imagine how a woman would contemplate the dress and I think that underscores what you're saying too. Emma

Thank you ladies. Loneliness does indeed touch us all at times...but it's a little easier to shoulder when there are people like you all around. Maybe if I had been here on TG Guide back then, that poem might never have been written. I've considered TG Guide like a haven online. I was "sheltered" so to speak by the woman who invited me here from another transgender site. Over time, she has faded into the background, but not before I learned from her how to moderate. She doesn't come around so often anymore...in fact, very rarely. Over time it's people like you all who have filled the void. As I'm sure you all know, acceptance means nearly everything, and for the most part, I have always felt accepted as the man that life outside of this forum doesn't even know exists. "Never had I seen such a touching poem about loneliness by a man!" -Monica LOL... I guess it doesn't matter if a guy is transgender or cisgender, too many of us have a tendancy to keep things bottled up. I never realized it, but my g/f has addressed this with me on several occasions, and even my own brother has expressed a concern about it. But I guess every once in a while if the moon and stars are lined up just right, that bottle gets opened up, and all kinds of stuff comes pouring out. Love all of ya's - Michael