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I"m sorry, I didn't meant to make anyone thing I was leaving Nikki! We have issues, like every couple, but we are pretty successful in working through them I think. There were a few times it came close over the years, but we stuck it out. At least we've held it together a long time. We may be doing the separate cities thing for a while though, depending on how prepping/selling the house and his jobhunt drop into place. But the days when you could wait for everything to align perfectly are long gone, and we gotta make it work in any order we can.

Dear Nikki, Think VERY FEW find true love from their first relationship. This is why I encourage group dating in junior high school (ages 14 to 16) and one on one dating (celibate - although I know it is hard to do!) in high school. The human brain is not fully mature until age 25. Sadly, I see a lot of heart break in college. Read one of your recent posts, and even I thought you two were separating, and, boy, am I glad I was wrong. Always encourage women and, yes, Straight people to be slow to divorce. Think separation (does not mean permission to have affairs) is a good idea, as long as a start and end date is mutually agreed on in advance, Am so glad you two are OK! Yours, Monica

Sometimes I wonder if facing the bull head on is smart, but then I remember Chuck Norris spin kicked the bull unconscious, so who am I to fear that bull if a man can beat him, this lady can also do it. Doesn't mean I dont fear the results till I read them. But as soon as they read, give me a day or a week to mope about it if its bad news, and I will tackle it head on, as I dont know how to go down without a fight. Michele

Hi Michele, I agree that tolerance wasn't the right word to use, and probably my friend meant nothing untoward by using it. All too often I'm a bit overly prepared to sense or take some offense and this may very well be one of those times. Perhaps from his perspective - like most cisgender people - the whole concept of what it means and is to be trans is so foreign that he didn't perceive my need for him to express something stronger and more affirming. Thank you for your feedback. I very much appreciate hearing from you. Love, Emma