Dear MichelleLea and Lori, Resonate with you both, as I desire to have a social life on my terms, not on the terms of others. For example, my phone never rings from friends, only reminder calls from doctors! 😰 It wasn't always this way. When I lived in Florida, my phone rang off the hook almost constantly from friends, sometimes almost too much . . . I recall one friend that used to call me regularly at 3 A.M. and I had to ask her to call me at more decent hours! Not sure if this is because Florida's culture is very different than upstate New York's or if that now I am 60, and back then I was in my 30's and 40's, or perhaps both! 😕 Miss my Beloved, a pre-op transwoman who identified as a fem Lesbian, but who is now in a happy relationship that I don't want to disturb. Yours truly, Monica