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Hi Karen That's good to hear. The total opposite at the station I work, almost everyone knows, but won't dare to take me on, because they know my B complex is harsh. Where each time a new person came and I had to prove myself because of their misconception that I was gay (nothing wrong with that, but I'm female through and through and hetero by that). Now that they perceive me as female, they more protective of more overall, but to another degree feel scared I might vanquish them with my abilities, which if I let it shine through they say I'm an Asian chick with deadly moves. So currently looking at either applying to another post, as a promotion to another station and cluster. Or what we call a lateral or cross transfer, because closing in on my 13th year anniversary at this station seems ridiculous out of an almost 14 year service in the police. I sometimes miss being capable of blending into the background without a trace. Now, I'm still petite, but noticed where I move without any difficulty. Sp glad, you have found a workspace of peace. Hugs Michele

This twin of mine died so I could live and was last seen 2008/9. You decide, that look like me a decade younger or not. The first and last I'll ever compare tit with tat. Hugs Michele

I wasn't using bad as in the literal meaning bad. Was using it to show the contrast of what people think is bad and actually that their exterior can show off some kind of light that shines from the inside. External beauty is nothing, if the interior doesn't match that. Thanks. Michele Ps Steph, I legally also had my name spelling changed from mother's version of Michel Jerrard Heynes to more appropriately Michele Jerree Heynes, and I only use my names on legal documents, but my signature is so simple and messed up that you can't figure out what I scribbled. Yes, I kept my names or at least the meanings of my names, because they resonate with me. And because the ambiguous Michel left people calling me Michael or Mitchell most of the times when calling me, and so infuriating me and abusing my names pronunciation of Michelle, also felt the double L is way to commonly used and still wanted a dash of uniqueness or rarity with my name.

You look lovely Michele! All of us are our harshest critics. I hate mirrors because when I don't see myself I just look out into the world with my two eyes presenting myself just as I am and, I suppose, envisioning a more attractive me than what I see in the mirror.

Hiya Michele. I agree with Monica. Your Beauty, and Your Warmth of Character, radiate from the Inside Out ! You at 38, ARE still Young ! You Only have one chance of Life. Take that chance, and enjoy it Young Lady ! I will explain on Messenger, the Reason's behind My Full Name ! Sweetheart, the way that You spell Your Name's, are Special, and Unique, and Individual to You. Enjoy Your Individuality, because You ARE A Lovely Girl !! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Dear Michele, Your beauty shines from the inside out! Yours, Monica

You look terrific now! Then? You look like you have a little chip on your shoulder, a bit of swagger perhaps covering up for your deeper self. It’s also interesting how your earlier photo is in monochrome and current one is in color. Very apt! I wonder why cis women are threatened or unhappy with you. Maybe they’re just unfamiliar with trans people and need time and experience to warm up? I know that some women feel so downtrodden by men that they might think that a trans woman is a bit privileged to have it both ways as male and female. I know that’s nuts but maybe? I hope you’re well and safe. I could never do your work and I appreciate those who do. Hugs, Emma

Coming out is hard, but then I never hid my plans of transitioning to anyone. Met a friend after being absent from each others lives for basically a decade. When she saw me she said, "You finally did what you told us as a teenager when I met you, good on you for grabbing life by the balls. It must've been difficult seeing that you in the police and the environment isn't the safest to do so." We started chatting again, and the decade of absence in our 24 years of knowing each other hasn't changed. I found one of my rocks returning and supporting me all over again. Just as she got the support from a friend she needed. If the people in your life views you as important to them, they will support your decision full heartedly, and actually ask you why you never started earlier or had the courage to ask them for help when you were at your most confused and vulnerable. Be strong, my mom, one brother and sister still can't manage to get the pronouns right, but I know if push comes to shove, they'll be in my corner. Even if I sometimes have to emotionally blackmail them. Hugs Michele

Hiya Michele. All that I CAN say about Your Photograph, IS Wow ! Wow! Wow ! You look Absolutely Stunning Sweetheart ! Also, what a Pretty Dress Babes ! You Definitely do NOT look BAD. You look Wonderful Young Lady. If You go onto My Facebook Page, of Stephanie Maycock, You will find a good number of Photograph's of Me. The one's with My Hair nice and long, are the Most Recent. Most of them, have been Taken at Pink Punters ( Lesbian; Gay; Bi--Sexual; Transgender;) Nightclub !! They were taken by the Official club Photographer's !! Michele, You ARE a Gorgeous Girl. Now stop selling Yourself short !! Keep Smiling, because You have got a Very Sweet Smile !! Take Care Honey, Love and Very Best Wishes Babes, Stephanie. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Coming out is so scary, I feel for you. At least some of others reactions are due to unfamiliarity with how one determines that they are trans, what it means for your future and, indeed, how your coming out might affect them and their relationships. I suggest a couple of things: - Be aware that you’ve had your feelings about your birth gender for a very long time. Even if you didn’t even have a concept of being transgender, you have learned a lot. For your family and friends this is all new. It’s best if you’re patient and calm with them. They are transitioning too. - Prepare your own Frequently Asked Questions and answers. Thinking about this and writing it all down helps prepare you to provide better answers with the defensiveness that can arise when we feel pressure. Idea: post you FAQ here in your blog! - Create a short list of videos and perhaps websites or readings that some may appreciate so they can learn on their own. Some may be fascinated and want to know lots more! Others may be skeptical... Best wishes! Emma