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Dear Emma and Mike, Have a "pen pal," of 5 years that I met through a Lesbian dating website. We write about once a week, and enjoy a satisfying friendship. Have lived in my senior public housing apartment building for 5 years, and I have no friends (as far as I know, they haven't made friends with each other, either, and I am talking about 100 people). The bottom line is that I have little in common with them. If it weren't for my flexibility in defining what a friend is, I think I would be a very lonely person. Keep loneliness at bay by taking a lot of classes in my building and at the library, and being active in TGGuide and my local T/LGB support group. Also have a lot of hobbies, such as writing and creating art. Thank you all for being my friend! 💄 Yours, Monica

Ha! Well, she has good taste just like you! Perhaps also, though, seeing her looking good in the dress triggers some emotions in you such as envy or sadness? I can see where it might. It’s hard to be a trans woman. We want to appear just as nice as another woman and sometimes that’s just a bit of a bridge too far. And, like all women we compare and often negatively judge ourselves versus other women. So unlike being a man, right? So, you rock that dress! Have a fun time wearing it! And tell her how nice she looks in it. Women often complement each other.

Hiya Michele. You Look So Much Better Now Sweetheart. You Really have turned into such A Very Pretty; Beautiful; and Gorgeous; Young Lady. Please Honey, do Not let Anyone, tell You Any Different. Michele, I Am glad that We are getting and expanding Our Friendship, especially via Messenger Honey. You ARE A Really Terrific Girl. Take Care Honey, And My Very Best Wishes, And Lots of Love, Stephanie. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

I think younger people who grew up with the Internet certainly have a different set of experiences than we have had. They may very well believe that there isn't much difference between friendships with people online or in person. I'd say that however they feel is fine. Maybe as they grow older they will learn differently? But then maybe we'll have real-time holographic image displays and they will be right! I have certainly made several friends online including you and others here at TGG. But some other notables are: * Dara Hoffman-Fox: although we've never met or spoken to each other we have helped each other. I consider her a friend because we know of some personal details of each other, I trust her, and I appreciate her as a person. * Marlo Mack, producer/owner of "How to Be a Girl" podcast. She and I developed a friendship via emails last summer. I learned that she lives in Seattle and now we have met several times, I've helped her with her podcast a little, and she's introduced me to others here. * Dr. H, the endocrinologist who has the blog "Hormones Demystified." I don't even know his name but he's been a huge help to me, and I have tried to help him too. I'd love to meet him someday. So yes, my friendships with Dara and Dr. H are less than what I have with Marlo. I definitely consider Marlo a friend but she's also very busy in her own life and we see each other much less than I'd like. For me the closeness of my friendships really depends on how comfortable we are with sharing ourselves with each other, being vulnerable, talking about what is going on for us. I guess that's a reason I feel so deeply for my therapists? But sometimes even that isn't enough. Maybe we find that we don't have the "chemistry" to be close. Last weekend I went on a hike with a couple of lesbian women. We had a great time, we shared a lot, and enjoyed each other. But I doubt we will get together until we go on another hike. The weekend before we were on another hike with those same women and two others. One of the others and I were inseparable! We could not stop talking and really enjoyed each other. Last night she came over and we went out to dinner and had a wonderful time. For whatever reason we are just really clicking. I don't know why and she doesn't either but we both are grateful for our friendship. Interesting? Emma

Hiya Michele. You look Younger than 37 Babes. Your hair is Really Lovely Sweetheart. I Am 56, so I Am getting Old !! L.O.L. !! Michele, age is just a number, and You are Young; Pretty; and Beautiful; and You have still got the rest of Your Life, ahead of You ! Enjoy Your Life, Young Lady, because We only get one go at Life, and You are Young enough to enjoy it !! Enjoy the rest of Your Day, and Take Care. With Love and Very Best Wishes, Stephanie. ( Steph53.).