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Not having someone to please is making the process a bit easier, but it is strange that the biggest motivator for not changing is almost always fear of rejection. Especially when for me it was being finally rejected beyond doubt that gave me the crisis I needed to question who I was. Interesting post Emma

Dear Emma, Lived my early life, and much of my middle aged life, as a "people pleaser," so much so, that I was totally out of touch with myself. Had I been more in touch with myself, my life would have been a lot easier. As I have gotten older, I am being more and more my authentic self. Better late than never . . . Your friend, Monica

@MonicaPz: Better late than never: absolutely! @ScottishDeeDee: Fear of rejection has always been and is still a big issue for me. I will say that my coming into my own authenticity is giving me emotionally stability, calmness, and reducing such fears. When we use the word "transition" we generally think about transitioning from our born gender to another. From my side of that journey I see that transition is lots more, mostly revolving about growing away from those habits, thinking and otherwise, of trying to fit in to the mold we were expected to fit. It's fair to say that everyone has self doubts and self consciousness. But for people like us I think the burden is much greater. I suggest reading Glennon's book and see what comes up for you. Maybe that would provide things to write about in your blog. I'd love to read your posts.