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That's an entirely another topic. My own expectations were completely turned inside out and unexpected with respect to romantic relationships. I'll address that in another blog.

I have always believed our time alive is precious whether we're 10 or 100 years old and everything in between. It feels like there is more for us to lose in our 60s, 70s, and 80s if we follow our truth. I don't wish to push you in any direction. But maybe there's more to gain, too. We all will eventually die, and death is largely a solitary experience. I anticipate that when I'm laying there dying I'll reflect back and of course there will be regrets, but I'll also have pride that I finally did what I'd dreamed of for so many decades. The reality of being a senior is that romance is hard to find, let alone finding someone who'll embrace our being trans. The field at our age is smaller, many are already married or committed. So yeah, look for dates, but moderate your expectations. Don't transition in the hopes/plans that you'll finally be in a romantic relationship. But there are communities of support. They need you, you need them.

Dear More, Emma and Jessica, Please consider the Lesbian community. More, your wife should be open-minded about the Lesbian community. They have a lot of activities. I strongly suggest looking into Lesbian Connection Magazine. Also, Moe, since you have a wife, may I suggest you get active in transgender conferences. They often have significant other (SO) support groups. I am a cisgender mid-butch Lesbian, and the love of my life was a mid-femme transgender Lesbian. Don't give up! Yours in Sisterhood, Monica

I had breast augmentation surgery four years ago, at the same time I had GCS. It was an interesting experience. The surgeon asked me what size I wanted; I said a C. She then said that during the surgery she'd insert a form and see how it looked on my chest. After, they looked great! I like them a lot!