eveannessant

I told of coming out to my wife in My Journey so far , it was my first blog on 30th Jan.

I'll send you a direct message tomorrow morning GMT with more detail, in the meantime goodnight, time for zzz's

Eve

Emma,

That's a very good blog and much of it reminds me of my own past experiences. I was content at first to wear underclothes under male clothes, and then later on to cross-dress more completely but with no make-up or wig. I hid it all from my wife. You've read my first blog regarding telling my wife, so I won't repeat it here, but I have taken a long while slowing down what I knew in my heart would happen and still has to happen, complete gender change, my wife has known that I have been Trans for 3 years now and in that time I have slowly increased my femininity, without coming out as a full-time Trans Woman, It was only on Decmeber 3rd last year that I came out in the full-time femme role, or as some would call it pre-op transexual.

I love my wife dearly and by taking my time it has allowed her to adjust to my becoming to all intents and purposes a woman.

So please take it slowly with your wife and don't let it dominate discussion and interaction with her. Softly softly catchee monkey.

My wife said to me the other day to not let my Trans thing become a disability, what she meant was that she still wanted me to do all the things that I used to do as Steve, but now as Eve.

Good luck with hugs, Eve

This isn't the first time I've heard similar from a fully transgendered woman! It's something to look forward to in the future!

Hi Emma & Karen,

Thanks for your comments re trans violence, yes it has happened in the UK, but not in the numbers reported on the internet in the USA. We are a smalll country so we can expect fewer instances, not sure if the percentage of total population who are Trans is any different or not though.....

With regard to Karens point of no return comments, I have been on oestrogen for two and a half years now, so my equipment is not functioning as a normal males would! GRS? yes please I want it to complete my transition if not for any other reason. I had made the decision to transition many months ago, however the new passport bought back some slight mixed feelings, it was as if it rubber stamped my decision..............

I hope that this explains my feelings and situation..,

Eve

The above advice is sound, and I see that you've already gone for counselling.

I'd also add that going to Trans venues can help, not sure where your local ones are but those that I regularly attended in Birmingham UK, helped me a lot, being with a lot of other transgirls sort of normalised my inner feelings, and then allowed me to progress. Best Nursery School ever!

Thanks Emma,

After reading your latest blog, I realise that we have had a lot of similar experiences, this also helps me to get on with my life.

Peck on the cheek!

Eve.

Emma, You have expressed thoughts, fears, emotions that I too have had. Yesterday my new UK passport arrived, whilst I was thrilled to be Eve and have F printed for gender, I was none-the-less tinged with slight feelings of remorse and trepidation for the future, I hadn't had those feelings for the previous 3 months.....Trepidation, yes worrying about others reacting to me (mostly unfounded), remorse probably the final farewell to Steve.

That's really nice Karen, I'm glad it went well for you. People can be very surprising and pleasantly do things that you wouldn't have expected them to do.........

Well we call these "creeps" Tranny Chasers here in the UK. I can't ever imagine doing sex with a man, it quite frankly turns me off! I can't see what my wife saw in me as a man before we married. It's only since I have transgendered that I have come to think this way. When I went to the gender clinic I asked to become a lesbian! Women are more gentle and loving and frankly amazing! That of course includes trans Women.

So True.

Excellent blog, I don't come across haters very often, but when I do, I must remember and quote your phrase, "I hope that you find peace and happiness in life. If you do, you won't feel the need to harm others or want them to feel bad about themselves." A real dinosaur killer!

Thanks for the warning Karen.............can't wait to rid myself of my junk!

Work was the easiest of organisations to accept my name and gender change, They have been fantastic with me, I did it in early December, and this story is so reminiscent of my experience. Good luck with your new life!

Eve

That's a really moving story, and it makes me so proud of my wife for putting up with me especially as I am now Eve, and outwardly at least not the Steve that she married.

I took a long time transitioning to help her to adjust to my new identity, it's taken over 4 years to the point that I pass in public and do not appear as male anymore. Perhaps we should bear in mind that it can often take our wives or partners longer to adjust than we can ourselves? But know what, it makes me love her all the more.

We went on an anti Austerity event on Saturday, she was speaking on a PA system, but I went along to support her, it's things like this that help to cement a relationship together.

Eve