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Dawn13

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  1. Some updates - Neat - My wife just purchased me a gift two new pairs of Hanes Silk Reflection Ultra Sheer hose for an upcoming outing - she was also helping me to find a new blouse to wear that would match one of hers.   Also, on a recent Disney Cruise I was called mam and lady by almost everyone.  For a lot of the trip, they thought there were two sisters together on a cruise. Still in boy mode for this trip but obviously I was looking feminine.  Was wearing a bra most of the time.  Just in the last two weeks; my breasts have been getting noticed quite a bit - My Doctor who I had not seen in about a year in his almost only comment - said my chest was noticeably larger and at GNC the store manager that is a friend and knows me as a boy just made a real big deal about noticing my chest (Breasts) had gotten bigger - he could not take his eyes off my top the whole time I was in his store.

     

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  2. Still cannot post a photo to the Gallery.  Up-loader does not appear to work for my computer at the Gallery doorway.  But I can load one here.  Just last week I took this photo.

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  3. Was described as a "beautiful ... lady" last week by a waitress at a restaurant I was at in Florida.  I did not even have any makeup on.  Here is a recent photo of me with my own hair, near the time of this neat encounter.

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    1. Jessicatoyou

      Jessicatoyou

      Very, very keen eye in that waitress!😍

    2. Dawn13

      Dawn13

      I was not wearing this blouse at the time, just women's sportswear and I always wear a bra now as my breasts are now size B+.  Have some great photos from the trip I will post soon.

       

  4. Another great day of being mistaken occurred while I was on a trip driving to VA. I really think most people now see me as female most of the time no matter what I am wearing. I went into a restroom at the road side stop. Men's of course. As I was washing my hands I saw through the mirror a young man come in, He immediately paused as he was looking at my backside. He turned and went out and looked at the door to determine if he was in the right bathroom. He then came in and quickly went into a stall. I know I had embarrassed him as he thought I was a girl. (I did have a pony tail and earrings on as well as girls/unisex sports wear and now I always wear a bra but for the most part it cannot be seen) I then quickly exited the rest room. Back to where no one would know I am not a girl. Couple of photos of my growing hair below.
  5. Today I was called "she and her " twice. I was at a Rural King getting birdfeed and the teller first after looking me over asked if I needed help unloading. I told her that I could handle the heavy bags - because I was able to put them in the cart. Then another teller came over and started to put the feed bags in my cart. She said I " just wanted to help her." (Me) Then I muttered something but did not mention I was a he. She said again "I thought she needed help." The other lady was heavy built with large arms and she must have seen my thin feminine looking arms and possibly that I was wearing a bra, I actually need one now, and she must have thought I really needed help handling the heavy bags. Made my day! Dawn Just added one of my never posted shots from when I weighted about 138. I hope to get back to that weight soon.
  6. Just two days ago I was eating breakfast at Panera and was called to pick up my/our order "Mam here is your order" and moments later a second employee said "how are you ladies doing." My wife was with me and made the second employee see that I was her husband. This second employee seemed a bit embarrassed and then went on to explain the confusion; said it was my beautiful blond curly hair and my hat/head visor. My wife asked was it my two earrings and this lady said "no." Then see looked at my eyes, said they were beautiful and asked "if they were really mine" = really - then she told me I was "gorgeous." Wow it was almost too much to take in. Almost too much feminine attention for me in one day - Dawn
  7. JeffDad and All, I am a happy person most of the time and I have not transitioned. I am recognized as female often without trying to go out of my way to dress and look female. Still I do fully understand Usernameoptional and for many/ maybe most the transition will help. See https://www.thesun.co.uk/archives/reallife/888347/two-years-ago-arin-was-a-girl-called-emerald-and-girlfriend-katie-was-a-boy-named-luke/ Arin Andrews is the example I most often think of as a good example with the most positive results when I think of female to male changes. But of course life is not simply made of gender. So many aspects. Really love is the main thing - go's so far beyond the sex we are or have been born with. One of my cousins took the courage to transition to being a male. He seems very happy now and we are becoming friends again now that I have learned of his change (Friends first). Yes, I was surprised and at first did not know how to take it/respond. This does make it easier to let him know I too am transgendered; just in the opposite direction. let me know if I can clarify anything - I definitely do not think changing sex will solve everything and in fact it could make things worse, as other underlining issues may be part of what is occurring. In my life role I have been a scientist/analyst. Dawn
  8. I have now read the entire correspondence. And I agree with most of the advice. As a young person I remember day dreaming a lot. Wishing and dreaming of other possibilities. I have always been extremely creative and have always loved to role-play. I was transgender when I was born but I just did not even know what this meant. Yet my behavior of being like a girl was something I struggled with for many years. Physically I was very girl like in body and I was bullied guite a bit when I was young. About my thoughts - I also thought the thoughts and feelings I had would just go away if I took control and fought them off. Today I know this is not possible, however, in my case I have adjusted to the fact I will push the envelope but I never plan to transition. For me I have a loving family and I do not want to lose this part of what I have, over taking drastic changes to have my gender and body match. Now if I had known what I know today, if it had been possible in the 60's, I would had considered going for a body sex change. (My dad was very harsh with me and likely would not have supported me in this decision.) Really in the 60's there was nothing like the technology and knowledge available allowing for the possibility of this kind of change. Thus you actually can decide today - but the real battle is within the mind. Sorry this is so complicated - but it is. Society is really part to blame. Labeling our genders is like mind police controlling our thoughts. So much would be better if limits - laws- rules were not placed on our gender views. Most people except the limits as they are a secure place for them to be in. (Cis gender) If a person with mixed gender views/creative thought is put a box/prision the tendency is to want to break out. To free themselves. Still I see many directions possible for you. May the best way be the path you take
  9. Hello JeffDad, I just started to review this thread and will look at it in depth tomorrow. What I do want to say is firstly, there are many variations within being transgender and there are also just as many solutions a person with transgender tendencies can come up with. Not everything is final and black and white. I look at gender more as a discovery and a journey. To be safe one needs to develop a path that allows a person to be as functional as possible. This state of happiness and self fulfillment are paramount. What I think I am hearing is you need more time to develop a plan for success for your child. To do this I agree that a really good counselor is the place to start. (I have one - a Christian Counselor) Any counselor you chose needs to have a real understanding of gender issues as well as the dynamics of family. Ok - the hormone blocker could be there to buy you more time to work things out Maybe the final solution would be to go through transition????; but really there are so many other possibilities. There also may be another root cause - my own counselor told me many of us are wounded by unresolved shame and brokenness. I have been doing regression therapy. And yes, I have been diagnosed as transgender. Hope this helps a-bit - From my own profile - I mention the issue of freedom and creativity. Because most of us are stifled by the world with its' gender stereotypes, we are often sicker for it. If I want to wear a dress - why can't I? Sometimes I feel we are forced to change gender to better fit an acceptable world view. More soon - I really want the best for you - and thanks for reaching out. D
  10. Yesterday - twice identified as a woman. Once called mamm by a lady needing help at a gas station while I was pumping gas. The second was called a lady ("how are you ladies doing") by the waitress at a IHOP while getting dinner. I did not correct them and I was wearing all women's sportswear, legs tan and shaved, earings, my women's styled glasses. Actually everything I had on was what I would consider unisexual clothing. I really think my face and ponytail are the reasons I was coded female but this time I did not correct them so I could ask what they saw that made me appear as s woman to them. Actually enjoyed being treated as a woman. Dawn
  11. Went in to a Horton's yesterday and the woman there said to me and my wife "how are you doing ladies."  I was dressed a bit feminine but not overly so.  Still being coded almost daily as a woman and I really an not trying to go out of my way to make myself look like a woman.  Dawn

  12. It appears the site is working again - Hurrah!  And I do like the new changes in format.  Dawn

     

    1. Lori

      Lori

      Thanks for your feedback. We have a lot of options on how to rearrange the forum layout so let me know if you have suggestions. 

    2. Dawn13

      Dawn13

      I will give it a gentle hard look and give feedback soon

      Appreciate this site - it has meant a lot to me.  :)

    3. Dawn13

      Dawn13

      Hello Lori - the site was off line for a few days and when it came back on I could not load photos again; into the albums.  Is there a new clue that I need?  Dawn

       

  13. Fun and enjoyable day yesterday. Got fitted for glasses at Lens crafters.  I purchased a very feminine woman's frame.  The lady added that my blue eyes and eyelashes really showed well and the smaller frame accented my roundish face well.  She said this could be my "fun glasses" for maybe when I go dancing.  While getting my new glasses, I was completely in women's sporty looking clothing;  sport top, Levi tight stretch jeans with small woman's belt, women's body warmer sleeveless jacket, women's running shoes, earrings and necklace, nails shaped and polished; all women's;  including bra and pink panties underneath.  I was called mam twice.  Again my voice did not seem to change how I was treated; as a woman.

    I just added photos of my new glasses.  Dawn

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    1. MonicaPz

      MonicaPz

      Dear Dawn,

      The bottom picture looks best.

      Love the blouse. Every shade of blue looks great on you, as your Season is Spring.

      Like the shape of your glasses. Think blue or green would flatter your hazel eyes. Hazel eyes change color, depending on the color of what you are wearing.

      You may want to consider developing a wardrobe of glasses, because they are a fashion accessory.

      Your friend,

      Monica

  14. Thanks Monica, I guess by what you say is my ENERGY is female. Neat! Thanks. love and kisses. Dawn
  15. Monica you are the best and thanks for commenting as much as you do. Seems like I always learn much from you. Latest trip and gender mix up. I was at a Ross Store in GA ready to check out, in guy mode, and the female teller said I can help you over here Miss. I thought she was talking to someone else and then I realized I was the only one there. I checked out and am quite sure she thought I was a woman. Then the next day while eating at an IHOP with friends the waitress said to me what can I get you ma'am, because I was with friends I corrected her saying "sir." She repeated "sir" but when she came back she presented me my breakfast and said ma'am can I get you anything else. This time I did not correct her as actually I was a bit flattered and later I checked the mirror to try to see what she saw. Could be my chest/breasts are showing more (Was wearing a bra but straps were almost impossible to detect), earrings, hair, wore unisex clothing - still in acceptable unisex look.
  16. Dawn13

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    When I say it is all me - I mean the breast and hair growth is real. I am wearing a shaping sports bra with normal padding. So neat as I do not have to wear breast forms any more. Dawn
  17. Over 20,000 views of my site. This count is mind boggling. Maybe I can be a good influence to those I impact. Dawn Added - this is all me - wearing a sports bra and a nice running outfit - Showing two early photos to now - Can anyone see why I might be first seen as a woman now? This photo represents the best of how I feel and look today. I have changed quite a bit since I joined this site. Lost weight, longer hair, pierced ears, some breast growth, smooth small and shapely muscles, beard gone. I have reshaped and modified myself as much as I could with out going through extensive surgeries. Now much more feminine in body I am and much more aware of my being transgender. I love it when I look and feel like a woman. This is where I am and I think this is where I will remain. I expect I will take a few more steps toward physical and inward beauty. (Ask me) Thanks to all of you who have positively critiqued my photos,logs and blogs. I love and respect to all of you - Dawn
  18. Over 20,000 views of my site.  This count is mind boggling.  Maybe I can be a good influence to those I impact.  Dawn

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    1. Dawn13

      Dawn13

      This photo represents the best of how I feel and look today.  I have changed quite a bit since I joined this site. Lost weight, longer hair, pierced ears, some breast growth, smooth small and shapely muscles, beard gone.  I have reshaped and modified myself as much as I could with out going through extensive surgeries.  Now much more feminine in body I am and much more aware of my being transgender.  I love it when I look and feel like a woman.  This is where I am and I think this is where I will remain.  I expect I will take a few more steps toward physical and inward beauty. (Ask me)  Thanks to all of you who have positively critiqued my photos,logs and blogs.  I love and respect to all of you - Dawn

  19. Hello Emma, I care about as you have cared about me. I noticed you were having issues with your electrolysis. When I last had it done, the better electrologist (However more expensive) I went to used a cooling gel and it helped a lot. I had my chest done my face and my legs. It was expensive and I quit the treatments when all my dark face hair was gone. I took electrolysis for about two years. I still have about 3000 hairs left on my face as I even plucked the remaining ones a couple of times, but they are all white and easily shaved and when shaved I have no shadow at all. So the electrolysis was worth it. I share your issues with losing hair. In a few weeks I will be starting hair therapy. I also go to a therapist and the goal is currently to help my marriage while accepting that I am Transgender. Have I not been trying to salvage a happy home relationship I am sure I would transition completely. So I am hoping and thinking about you and your path - some things we share and others not - wishing you love and support along your way. Dawn
  20. I have posted several photos of the look I achieved with my Dicks Sportswear - here is one of my favorite ones
  21. Was on a trip recently and stopped at a rest area to go to the restroom.  There were two attendances' there one woman and one man.  Both of them tried to tell me when it looked like I was heading for the men's room; "the women's room is over here" "here is the women's room" and show me where the women's restrooms were.  This actually occurred three times so when I finally found the men's room I proceeded directly to a closed toilet.  I am sure they thought I was in the wrong restroom.  Also,I was concerned that the men that were in there were thinking I was in the wrong bathroom.  Actually I was pleased with this confusion but I just wanted to do my duty and move on.  I was really not trying to look female on this occasion but again I guess I did.

    1. Dawn13

      Dawn13

      yes - I was wearing a bra - my breasts are more than subtle now. 

      Photo is from a couple of weeks ago with my own hair showing.

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  22. My mail box is full - will try to empty it tomorrow. Dawn
  23. Monica, Bonnie has some good points. You must follow the course of your heart. I am a moral person but I also understand that I am transgender, finally not lying to myself anymore. The love I share with my wife is real and is unconditional. Do we agree on everything = no. When we married she did not know I was transgender but we have worked it out. I am as close to being female as I dare to be and still keep family and friends. A compromise - yes. If I had known what I now know about myself I would likely be female today; would have transitioned as a youth. More soon - have to go again -- Dawn
  24. Quick note to Bonnie - will try to meet you in SL - Do you have a blog I can go to? Dawn
  25. Finally I have some time to respond. I really do believe in the friendship and companionship aspect of life. This means a kiss and hug, a laugh together, some shared memories. A true friend is forever - my wife - and I have been together for 40 years and we are firstly just friends. I have almost 100 other friends I have strong ties to. I kind of collect my friendships. Some know of my transgender leanings others do not. About shorter relationships these all need to be friendships to succeed. The first aspect of being a friend is acceptance and realistic expectations. One does not try to make a friend someone they are not. If you have quirkiness that is you, who you are, this is usually the last thing a friend considerers - this may be something you joke about and actually could draw you closer, as all of us who are real have our quirks. I hope this helps. I know you through your writings to be a wonderful person well deserving of many good comments and relationships. Best to you. Dawn
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