This is a subject I have done a lot of thinking on . I do believe that the terminology "marriage" is a sticking point and I believe that there does need to be a specific term for a union of man and woman directly resulting or potentially resulting in a family with children. For as long as remembered this term has been marriage and I support it remaining this way. I also understand the need for some kind of "civil or legal union" mostly for the tax and financial affairs of a same sex couple; that goes beyond friendship . (Equality under the law ) Maybe a new term should be developed for this unique relationship , but I am not sure what it would be.
Also, as far as transexuals I believe they are legally women, so in my mind marriage would apply - this is my opinion.
In many ways you are a bit of a hero to me. As I have become more accepting of my own feelings I have been out in public in the last few weeks doing nothing out of the ordinary most of the time wearing mens or unisex clothing . (Sometimes I do wear womens jeans and beach t's and sometimes panties - really a lot of what I have is mens/unisex / small size items or boys wear). Anyway, three times in one day before I said a word I was called ma'am and a lady . I was not trying to hide anything as I was wearing a ski jacket and a running cap and as soon as I spoke I corrected the person . This did give me a chance to ask them why I was first coded as a woman . The first person, gatekeeper , told me it was my profile and hair . The second person, store clerk , said from when she saw me from behind it was my jacket, hair and jeans. The third person , waitress , said it was my glasses, hair and face and she said she almost never mis-IDs. Even when I told her I was a man she almost acted like she could not see it. Amazing ! Now when I go out unless I want to be coded a woman I make sure I use my male voice before they say ma'am to me.
There have been several occasions when I have purposely gone out dressed as a woman - running and hiking and driving through a drive through or convenient store - I actually think I am a natural because I seem to blend in better as a woman if I don't try to do anything special but if I think about dressing I start to feel ackward - I am most nervous about saying anything as my male voice is my weakness
I hope you continue to do well and maybe at some point in the future we can meet as I have been in the USA travelling quite a bit as of late.
I enjoyed your story. I too also have shopped for women's clothing under no pertense that the item was not for me. However, I have never shopped for a bra and matching panties/garter belt so I know how much courage this must have took. Some of what I have done. I have purchased seveal womens leotards over the years with the sales lady helping me to find the right size and fit. Several times my wife (Helps me when my wife is with me) and I have asked the sales lady to help us find matching outfits, such as pants and blouses, and we have even tried them on in the same dressing room. So I am with you.
Again. great story - if you think of more please add them. Best wishes - Dawn13
Thanks for adding your story - I assume the part about the apartment or the walk in the park might not have happened - But if it happened in your mind then in a way it did happen. In many ways our dreams are reality. Best wishes. Dawn13
Well written. From what you wrote I can feel some of your excitement and also your pain. Even when all seems perfect in a relationship anything can go wrong. Several years ago putting myself into his shoes I think I might have thought the same way. Now because I have relaxed a bit to who I really am I tend to see things more clearly. However, it is difficult to change the boxes we have been put in and then when we do we can pay dearly. Thanks for sharing.
Crazy but I believe I wear some kind of nylon leg cover almost every day. For me these are my running tights and capri running tights. I remember when fitness wear only consisted of heavy sweats or running pants - but today almost everyone wears the tights. Most of the ones I wear are considered unisex but I have several that are women's styles.
Also, when I go to ballet classes I wear various color nylon tights - blue, gray and black. These I have worn with women's tops and leotards
Most of the nylons I wear with dresses are sheer to waist. I do not get to wear my dresses much, but the nylons really highten my sensativity and of course they enhance my legs - I have been told my legs are my best assets. (Both when I am dressed Male as well as Female)
This winter I wore nylon hose under my jeans on several ocasions for added warmth. I also have a pair of nylon support hose I often wear, under my pants, on long overseas flights - just makes good since as it helps leg circulation
The below photo shows me in my favorite sheer dress - This time I have on a support hose that I am showing off.
I do wear one pair of loose fitting nylon women's wear shorties however I have found that I like a form of men's lingerine better. I often wear a pair of oversized Poly Spandix, Stafford, night shirt and matching boxer style nylon shorts - truely a men's cut lingerine. I find it hard to sleep with womens nylon underware. Just way too silky. I love women's wear - but in order to sleep I usually wear basic cotton shorties. (Not the basic men's cut when I can find them) Dawn13
My latest on Gaff use. I have tried various (Three different ones) Gaff products and have decided that most of them still do not work as I would like them to. I have two main criteria - One - hiding and blending and two - confort. What I have discovered is when I have used two gaffs at the same time I have been able to meet criteria one fairly well and have had only minor disconfort. So for now it is the "ultimate Genital gaff" as a top layer over the top of the "Hide Away Gaff " (Photo attached) I am eager to hear if anyone has found any luck with any other product. So the verdict is still out. Best wishes to all. Dawn13
I viewed two of the videos. Very interesting - I would love to hear more about the brain and how gender is assigned within brain functions. I believe I have issues with my own thinking, brain function, as I tend to be more female in the way I think. I will try to look at more of the links/videos. Thanks for finding this series. Best wishes. Dawn13 My previous post on this subject.
Does anyone know if some of the series goes into the brain issues and other aspectes of being intersexed? I will watch more of the series as I have time. I really appreciate having this kind of resource to review. Dawn13
Dawn 13, here. Great on the jeans. It does appear your hips are fairly wide so the pair of jeans you have seems to be a good fit. What did you say the brand was? (Did you mention this in one of your other posts?) Personally I am not as crazy about heals with jeans - I am more of a sandals kind of person - but if your heals are real comfortable as you said they are then I am sure they are nice. I have been looking at jeans again and found the Levi Stretch Jeans to be my latest favorite. I was just shopping today at a German mall and asked about the seasonal form fitting Capri jeans. I was told they will be in the stores for spring in the next two weeks. Maybe I will have something to share soon about these jean fashions soon. Keep showing off those great legs. Well more later. Cheers! Dawn13
This story is 50% true with some embellishments. See if you can tell what portions of this story were true. The names for this story have also been changed. In all of the stories in his series I am underweight and small for my age which was always true, thus this made it easier for me to fill a role as a girl.
Chapter 4 – The leotard
It had been a couple of months since Deb and my sister had humiliated me physically. One day I was looking at some of my sisters old clothes and I found a girls black Danskin cap sleeve dance leotard with a back zipper that it looked like she was going to get rid of as she had grown out of it. This was the kind of leotard that you needed some help with when putting on as it had a tighter than normal fit. I had always wondered if I would ever be able to wear this kind of dance attire again since my younger days when I had worn a much smaller outfit in class when people thought I was a girl. I went in and asked my sister if I could have the leotard. After she flexed her recently developed arms in front of me she chuckled and said sure. She also said she would help me to "pull off the look." Also, you will need these. From her closet, she pulled out a bag. In it was some ballet pink tights she was getting rid of and even an old training bra and a ballet clothes pant liner that she handed me in a bag. She said try them on. I first put on the pant liner. She said to me tuck myself in so no one could tell I was a boy. Then I put on the training bra followed by the tights. My sister said not to pad the bra so I would look like a girl of the age that would fit the leotard I was going to wear. Then I slipped on the leotard and my sister said turn. I did and I felt her hand on my back and then a zip sound. She said, I am surprised David, on your body it fits perfectly. In fact it is amazing and even where the training bra is it appears that you have soft undeveloped breasts. She then handed me a small gray dance belt. This will really make your waist look small. She looked at me again and said. David I cannot belive what this outfit does to your shape, now I want to see what your measurements are. She left me for several minutes and came back with the tape measure. Chest – 34; waist 26; hips 36. Whow David those are better measurements than mine. Almost perfect for a girl. I said sister what are yours? She said normally I would not answer you but because of your acting like a girl I guess I can tell you. They are 37, 28, 35. I guess all of my working out has given me more of the look of a boy. I had noticed that most of her chest really was chest and chest muscle. Only the smallest tips of breasts could be seen on her. Then she said now I will help you finish the look. She quickly touched up my eyes and cheeks with some very light make-up and finally added a final touch of neutral lip-gloss. She the brushed my long hair with her brush making it curl on the end. Now look at the mirror at us David and tell me who you think is the girl. My sister was setting me up. She knew I looked like a girl. Looking my sister had a smile of superiority having helped in making me look feminine. Now that she had short hair and was wearing neutral clothes she looked like a boy. In contrast, I looked like a girl getting ready for ballet class. She said. If you and I were to do a ballet tomorrow it's really obvious, I would have to have the man's part lifting you and you would be the one wearing the tutu. This made me a bit embarrassed but as I compared her strong muscular arms to my weak thin ones I knew she was right. After I was done looking at us she said she had a surprise for me. She said David take my hand and go with me. I did and she led me to the living room. When I got there I went in and to my surprise there were four people sitting in the living room. The first comment I heard was whow! Who is the girl? This was from Debs older brother who had come over. Then my mom and Deb's mom said. Well turn around. Debs mom said "nice figure." My mom said David you do make a cute girl. I think we better not tell your dad about this. Finally Deb in her deeper alto voice said David "You do look good. Almost too good." After that I went back to my room, changed and returned to being a boy.
Thanks for the encouraging comments. I believe you can do it also. It started for me when I bought the bikinis. I was too fat and I made a goal of fitting into them. It took me three months - I still have a little bit of tummy but I for the most part I can wear them. I wish you the best in your efforts to diet and wear your bikini. Maybe you can post some swimsuit photos when you are ready. Have a great day. Dawn13
Here is all of my remaining best Bikini Shots wearing my other Teal/blue Christina bikini. This suit also has a good fit and is a great color form me. Thanks for all of your comments. I want to thank Amie who helped me with some of the photography basics. Still not 100%, but much better photos than they would have been. Again enjoy these and provide comments please. My diet secret is just really watching what I eat and I am still a few pounds short of where I hope to be. Anyway as I said before - Spring is coming and I want to be ready - How about you. Best Wishes. Dawn13
Here is all of my best Bikini Shots wearing my favorite pink J Crew bikini. This suit fits me perfectly. Enjoy and provide comments please. Spring is coming and I want to be ready - How about you. Best Wishes. Dawn13