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About Dawn13

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  • Birthday 07/13/1951

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    Back in the USA - Recently returned from Germany
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    I love history, Indian lore, hiking, ballet and modern dancing, sketching, visiting battlefields, doing genealogy, collecting coins, stamps, rocks and traveling all over the world.

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  1. Dawn13

    How many times have you been mistaken as a girl

    Another great day of being mistaken occurred while I was on a trip driving to VA. I really think most people now see me as female most of the time no matter what I am wearing. I went into a restroom at the road side stop. Men's of course. As I was washing my hands I saw through the mirror a young man come in, He immediately paused as he was looking at my backside. He turned and went out and looked at the door to determine if he was in the right bathroom. He then came in and quickly went into a stall. I know I had embarrassed him as he thought I was a girl. (I did have a pony tail and earrings on as well as girls/unisex sports wear and now I always wear a bra but for the most part it cannot be seen) I then quickly exited the rest room. Back to where no one would know I am not a girl. Couple of photos of my growing hair below.
  2. Dawn13

    How many times have you been mistaken as a girl

    Today I was called "she and her " twice. I was at a Rural King getting birdfeed and the teller first after looking me over asked if I needed help unloading. I told her that I could handle the heavy bags - because I was able to put them in the cart. Then another teller came over and started to put the feed bags in my cart. She said I " just wanted to help her." (Me) Then I muttered something but did not mention I was a he. She said again "I thought she needed help." The other lady was heavy built with large arms and she must have seen my thin feminine looking arms and possibly that I was wearing a bra, I actually need one now, and she must have thought I really needed help handling the heavy bags. Made my day! Dawn Just added one of my never posted shots from when I weighted about 138. I hope to get back to that weight soon.
  3. Dawn13

    How many times have you been mistaken as a girl

    Just two days ago I was eating breakfast at Panera and was called to pick up my/our order "Mam here is your order" and moments later a second employee said "how are you ladies doing." My wife was with me and made the second employee see that I was her husband. This second employee seemed a bit embarrassed and then went on to explain the confusion; said it was my beautiful blond curly hair and my hat/head visor. My wife asked was it my two earrings and this lady said "no." Then see looked at my eyes, said they were beautiful and asked "if they were really mine" = really - then she told me I was "gorgeous." Wow it was almost too much to take in. Almost too much feminine attention for me in one day - Dawn
  4. Dawn13

    This world is destroying my family

    JeffDad and All, I am a happy person most of the time and I have not transitioned. I am recognized as female often without trying to go out of my way to dress and look female. Still I do fully understand Usernameoptional and for many/ maybe most the transition will help. See https://www.thesun.co.uk/archives/reallife/888347/two-years-ago-arin-was-a-girl-called-emerald-and-girlfriend-katie-was-a-boy-named-luke/ Arin Andrews is the example I most often think of as a good example with the most positive results when I think of female to male changes. But of course life is not simply made of gender. So many aspects. Really love is the main thing - go's so far beyond the sex we are or have been born with. One of my cousins took the courage to transition to being a male. He seems very happy now and we are becoming friends again now that I have learned of his change (Friends first). Yes, I was surprised and at first did not know how to take it/respond. This does make it easier to let him know I too am transgendered; just in the opposite direction. let me know if I can clarify anything - I definitely do not think changing sex will solve everything and in fact it could make things worse, as other underlining issues may be part of what is occurring. In my life role I have been a scientist/analyst. Dawn
  5. Dawn13

    This world is destroying my family

    I have now read the entire correspondence. And I agree with most of the advice. As a young person I remember day dreaming a lot. Wishing and dreaming of other possibilities. I have always been extremely creative and have always loved to role-play. I was transgender when I was born but I just did not even know what this meant. Yet my behavior of being like a girl was something I struggled with for many years. Physically I was very girl like in body and I was bullied guite a bit when I was young. About my thoughts - I also thought the thoughts and feelings I had would just go away if I took control and fought them off. Today I know this is not possible, however, in my case I have adjusted to the fact I will push the envelope but I never plan to transition. For me I have a loving family and I do not want to lose this part of what I have, over taking drastic changes to have my gender and body match. Now if I had known what I know today, if it had been possible in the 60's, I would had considered going for a body sex change. (My dad was very harsh with me and likely would not have supported me in this decision.) Really in the 60's there was nothing like the technology and knowledge available allowing for the possibility of this kind of change. Thus you actually can decide today - but the real battle is within the mind. Sorry this is so complicated - but it is. Society is really part to blame. Labeling our genders is like mind police controlling our thoughts. So much would be better if limits - laws- rules were not placed on our gender views. Most people except the limits as they are a secure place for them to be in. (Cis gender) If a person with mixed gender views/creative thought is put a box/prision the tendency is to want to break out. To free themselves. Still I see many directions possible for you. May the best way be the path you take
  6. Dawn13

    This world is destroying my family

    Hello JeffDad, I just started to review this thread and will look at it in depth tomorrow. What I do want to say is firstly, there are many variations within being transgender and there are also just as many solutions a person with transgender tendencies can come up with. Not everything is final and black and white. I look at gender more as a discovery and a journey. To be safe one needs to develop a path that allows a person to be as functional as possible. This state of happiness and self fulfillment are paramount. What I think I am hearing is you need more time to develop a plan for success for your child. To do this I agree that a really good counselor is the place to start. (I have one - a Christian Counselor) Any counselor you chose needs to have a real understanding of gender issues as well as the dynamics of family. Ok - the hormone blocker could be there to buy you more time to work things out Maybe the final solution would be to go through transition????; but really there are so many other possibilities. There also may be another root cause - my own counselor told me many of us are wounded by unresolved shame and brokenness. I have been doing regression therapy. And yes, I have been diagnosed as transgender. Hope this helps a-bit - From my own profile - I mention the issue of freedom and creativity. Because most of us are stifled by the world with its' gender stereotypes, we are often sicker for it. If I want to wear a dress - why can't I? Sometimes I feel we are forced to change gender to better fit an acceptable world view. More soon - I really want the best for you - and thanks for reaching out. D
  7. It has been a while since I engaged this forum item. Lately, I have been truely experiencing a more feminized body as I have had dozens of people recognize me as a woman. I believe this has to do with why I have had the following dream. I recently had a recurring dream of my breasts being fully developed and me breast feeding (my) baby. Dawn13. Please share your stories - Dawn
  8. Dawn13

    How many times have you been mistaken as a girl

    Yesterday - twice identified as a woman. Once called mamm by a lady needing help at a gas station while I was pumping gas. The second was called a lady ("how are you ladies doing") by the waitress at a IHOP while getting dinner. I did not correct them and I was wearing all women's sportswear, legs tan and shaved, earings, my women's styled glasses. Actually everything I had on was what I would consider unisexual clothing. I really think my face and ponytail are the reasons I was coded female but this time I did not correct them so I could ask what they saw that made me appear as s woman to them. Actually enjoyed being treated as a woman. Dawn
  9. Went in to a Horton's yesterday and the woman there said to me and my wife "how are you doing ladies."  I was dressed a bit feminine but not overly so.  Still being coded almost daily as a woman and I really an not trying to go out of my way to make myself look like a woman.  Dawn

  10. It appears the site is working again - Hurrah!  And I do like the new changes in format.  Dawn


    1. Lori


      Thanks for your feedback. We have a lot of options on how to rearrange the forum layout so let me know if you have suggestions. 

    2. Dawn13


      I will give it a gentle hard look and give feedback soon

      Appreciate this site - it has meant a lot to me.  :)

    3. Dawn13


      Hello Lori - the site was off line for a few days and when it came back on I could not load photos again; into the albums.  Is there a new clue that I need?  Dawn


  11. Fun and enjoyable day yesterday. Got fitted for glasses at Lens crafters.  I purchased a very feminine woman's frame.  The lady added that my blue eyes and eyelashes really showed well and the smaller frame accented my roundish face well.  She said this could be my "fun glasses" for maybe when I go dancing.  While getting my new glasses, I was completely in women's sporty looking clothing;  sport top, Levi tight stretch jeans with small woman's belt, women's body warmer sleeveless jacket, women's running shoes, earrings and necklace, nails shaped and polished; all women's;  including bra and pink panties underneath.  I was called mam twice.  Again my voice did not seem to change how I was treated; as a woman.

    I just added photos of my new glasses.  Dawn

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    1. MonicaPz


      Dear Dawn,

      The bottom picture looks best.

      Love the blouse. Every shade of blue looks great on you, as your Season is Spring.

      Like the shape of your glasses. Think blue or green would flatter your hazel eyes. Hazel eyes change color, depending on the color of what you are wearing.

      You may want to consider developing a wardrobe of glasses, because they are a fashion accessory.

      Your friend,


  12. Dawn13

    How many times have you been mistaken as a girl

    Thanks Monica, I guess by what you say is my ENERGY is female. Neat! Thanks. love and kisses. Dawn
  13. I still have a FB account as Dawn - but I made it inactive. I wonder if there are any sites besides this one that are really Transgender friendly. Bonnie mentioned a few sites she uses. Dawn
  14. Dawn13

    How many times have you been mistaken as a girl

    Monica you are the best and thanks for commenting as much as you do. Seems like I always learn much from you. Latest trip and gender mix up. I was at a Ross Store in GA ready to check out, in guy mode, and the female teller said I can help you over here Miss. I thought she was talking to someone else and then I realized I was the only one there. I checked out and am quite sure she thought I was a woman. Then the next day while eating at an IHOP with friends the waitress said to me what can I get you ma'am, because I was with friends I corrected her saying "sir." She repeated "sir" but when she came back she presented me my breakfast and said ma'am can I get you anything else. This time I did not correct her as actually I was a bit flattered and later I checked the mirror to try to see what she saw. Could be my chest/breasts are showing more (Was wearing a bra but straps were almost impossible to detect), earrings, hair, wore unisex clothing - still in acceptable unisex look.
  15. Recently I was on Pinterest with my own place using my name "Dawn." I coded myself as Transgender. I built a couple of boards - one called the "blur of gender" and another about feminine looking men and boys. Two weeks ago I was kicked out of Pinterest. I contested the action and the only reply I got was to read their rules; really. Was it my boards? Did I misrepresent myself. Was it a pin or pins I got from someone else that was considered offensive? There is transgender info in Pinterest so I am confused to where I may have gone wrong. I sent a second request for clarification and so far no reply. Does anyone have experience with Pinterest? I really liked the site but think it might not be transgender friendly. Dawn