Who moved the goals?
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I was just offered some good advice on my main blog and want to stick it somewhere to digest and process it. Well, it's not really advice, more of a suggestion.
I know that I fit the definition of being transgender. Any which way you look at it I am not comfortable in this body of mine.
My main blog is somewhere I update every week - it may not always have the most riveting of content but that is because it is mostly writing for myself. It is where I mull over my week and try to put a pin in where I am on my gender journey and then if someone stumbles across it they can offer me their insight or opinion too.
The advice was given to this person when they went to visit heir therapist asked her to consider the following question - "how comfortable I would be presenting as a woman in a male body."
It is an interesting thought exercise because it is shifting the goal posts a little. We talk about presenting as our target gender.
Presenting female is easily understood for taking that nerve wracking trip out, hoping that you are dressed suitably and looking as feminine as possible in order to not get yelled at beaten up or generally abused in some way, shape or form. I am still working up to that moment I can take a coffee shop selfie (though it is getting closer).
So my understanding is that presenting male would be the equivalent for trans men when they do the same thing and be seen and understood as men as they go about their business.
The way I read the question from the therapist, the starting position is moved. The natural assumption for me is not; born male wants to be female, but; is female and has to be perceived as physically male...
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