General Transgender Discussion

Just a lightweight blab to say how much I dread wrestling with earrings every day. Short stem, long stem, danglers- you name the type, and I've had my butt kicked by a set. Argh.

Forgive me if you have already talked about this. I was watching 60 minutes last week, and it was about what they called "extreme gender nonconformity". It was the story of identical twin boys, one of which was obviously not interested in traditional male things, such as boy toys, sports, etc. It was to the extreme. One of the boys had a typical 'boy' room, and the other twin had pink walls, dolls, stuffed animals and the mother was fine with this. they mentioned a statistic that when this occurs, from birth, it is almost without exception that the one who is displaying the extreme nonconformance will be gay. Now the story was really about the fact that identical tw…

Been thinking about this a lot recently, and I think I need some pointers in the right direction, or maybe a kick up the bum... How does someone act female / feminine I was just wanting everyone's take on this, and then me and other people that are considering transition will have a guide on how to act. I maybe looking to far in to this (which I normally do), but if there is anyone out there that has gone through transition and now act's differently, or if you haven't gone through transition but have some thing to say on the subject, please put it down on this thread Thanks Lee

My psychologist and I had a good talk about HRT this week. Now, I am married, and currently I am very much "in the closet", so I had mentioned that I would have to start outing myself before proceeding. However, she indicated that was not necessarily the case, and that people had started HRT without coming out before. Now, please note she wasn't *endorsing* doing it this way, and in fact mentioned that doing it this way was fraught with dangers, but it was technically possible. I'm not sure how this would be viable long-term, since if everything works as you would want, there are going to be changes that you couldn't exactly hide from a spouse. As well, it seems re…

I'm going to the in-laws for the holiday weekend. I am thankful for all of you! MIWBJ

i have an important question i wanted to ask you all and i need honest opinions on it. i have been for quite sometime pondered starting my own gofundme account to raise money for my SRS. the problem im running into is that social security wont allow me to recieve checks since im on SSI. i want to do this but im unsure if anyone would ever donate to it and such. my goal is to try to accomplish the srs within 2 years if i can.....4 years tops. one idea i came up with was have the check sent to the doctor who ive picked to do the SRS and that would get around the whole cashing the check part. do you all think i should take this chance and see what happens...or do you think …

My apologies in advance for this post being so long.... I read a couple of posts today on a thread which I would have dearly liked to have added my comments. But those comments might have alienated the individual who started the thread. And then too, occasionally, there are differing opinions when it comes to the topic. I think also, as I get older, and the more I read about the intolerant people in the world, the less patient I am with those who "don't do their homework," so-to-speak. Growing up, I was often asked if I didn't ever want a sister. And no - I did not want one. I knew quite a few (both boys and girls) who had sisters, and from the horror stories I…

Hi Everyone, Can anyone recommend an endocrinologist in Los Angeles area? Thank you! Andrea

Question, I have recently started hormones, which has been great. I haven't been able to start anything for facial hair removal yet, so I wanted to know if anyone has any advice for facial hair removal aside from shaving?

My therapist recommended this book to me, and I finally picked up a copy the other day. I'm only about half way through it but it's already totally rocked a lot of my views and has (at the risk of sounding like a total marketing geek) really been pretty paradigm-defining for me. It's wonderful, she just comes right out and says all the things, bluntly, succinctly, and humorously, that everyone else (including us) has been afraid to say. I don't agree with everything she says, but I agree with enough that it's been really refreshing to hear someone else thinking them besides me. It's obtainable now in cheap/used paperback so I really recommend it if anyone's looking for…

I am just abit curious, open for all those concerned......I was five when I awoke to the realization that I wasn't me, at what point in your life had you realized that your body was not your own.....did it hit you all of a sudden or was it gradual..Did you awake in a cold sweat or just a calm over took you... did you get the preverbial light pop up over you and you just knew....and at that time was your name realized or did you have to find it hiding within you... I know at once what my name was it all came crahing down on me at once like a ton of bricks...( BAMMM ) I realized who I was completely....does this happen to everyone or just a few.... did you tell any one at …

:D A page from my diary 12/13/2005 started medroxyprogesterone 01/13/2006 started spironolactone and estrodiol... Now i have been reading all the articles, read every message on this site, searched the web about HRT and yet I said to myself..here goes nothing, if it works terrific, if it doesn't..at least I feel good about my decision and process. Diary chest measurement 01/13 40 inches chest measurement 02/13 42 1/4 ....... WOW!!!!! Ladies, IT WORKS! Can't wait till 03/13 and 04/13 who knows even a few more inches and I'll be elated! So for all you just starting like me...you and I have a lot to look forward to. Womanhood..Here we come!

Hi, For any who are interested, I'll draw you a little head that you can use for whatever you need. I know some people are reluctant to post their pics up in any public space, so this might be a way for you to have a customized face that isn't as easy to recognize. Also, if you don't have any pics of yourself as your proper gender, just let me know and I'll try to dress you up. I'll do these for fun, and when I get the time, so please no rushing. Just email me a decent headshot, and I'll email you back when its complete. email to: tempest.menagerie (at) gmail.com

I really like Andrea Grieve-Smith's blog and especially liked a recent post where she talks about the need for the trans community to be inclusive and to give us all space to decide when/if/maybe we will transition, and that that in and of itself doesn't qualify one as transgender or not. I felt that is such an important message that especially in this forum where I imagine many come first:http://transblog.grieve-smith.com/2015/11/06/we-need-support-to-decide-whether-to-transition/#comment-167729

Hi all, I just had my initial orientation for Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT). I'm very curious about the emotional / mental aspects of it. With a bit of luck I'll be starting HRT in 2 - 3 weeks from now. I'm super excited but also nervous. Can anyone tell me how they felt when they started HRT? Nervous to start it? How did the hormones make you feel? What were the changes you noticed? I was so happy during the informed consent process that I didn't know to laugh or cry. So I did both.

Well, it wasn't supposed to happen, I'd been assured, but I've become unemployed. My wife and I are completely broke and I expect I'll soon be evicted with nowhere to go. Why wasn't it supposed to happen, you might ask? Because while these trumped-up charges have been building, another department's manager offered me a position with him should this happen. When he asked the VP why I was terminated, instead, the VP said the office was too small. Since there are 3 empty offices and 4 empty cubicles, not counting my now vacant cube, it's not for lack of a workspace. My "new" manager is going to investigate but thinks his employee, a young male described to me as intol…

Well, this Saturday I start undergoing laser hair removal treatments on my private area in preparation for future SRS. Little did I know when I started down this road in 2007 where I would end up. I am proud to say that I couldn't be happier. I should have been born a girl, and I certainly shouldn't have waited this long to fulfill my destiny. However, after 49 years on this planet, I finally started living my life as the gender I should have been born in all along. The last 2 years of my life have been sbsolutely wonderful, and I wouldn't trade it for the world, even though I did become unemployed for a time along the way, and my ex took my daughter away from me.…

this hit home for me in a big way, this is so true to the way ive been in my entire life, it so true and thats a fact to every transgendered person in this world, read it completely and reflect on you entire life as i justhave,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,reality not insanity

Hi everyone, I am new to this group and just wanted to say hi. I am trying to sort out my life as far as being a cd or a ts. It has been a long 55 years for me and i wonder if it was all wrong. At any rate I hope to learn a lot from this group. Thanks, Robyn

Wired magazine recently had a blurb along the lines of "When a transgendered one has gotta go, where?" They answered with http://www.safe2pee.org. I checked, the site is real and created by self-described genderqueers with anarchist tendencies. You can search, add, upload photos, etc. Search is by city and state but includes Canada, too. Check it out before you go out!

Just a discussion on the "inheritability" of the transgender condition. I'm kind of interested because I have an aunt that is a lesbian, and I'm guessing that there could be genetic traits that can be inherited which would allow for someones child to be born G. L. B. or T. Discuss?

He is on Oprah right now! people in audience are freaked.

I thought I'd post this as a companion topic to the TG Movies thread. Does anybody have any links to online TG comix or graphic novels they'd like to share? I have been a longtime reader of Venus Envy, and always enjoyed it immensely, although, sadly, the updates have been far-and-few-between lately. This morning while link-surfing I was fortunate enough to come across the Jack Pallett Refridgeration online comic book. The genre is gutterpunk--and definitely much grittier than VE, but I find the artwork and storyline to be some of the most compelling and engrossing work of its kind I've ever seen. At any rate, I just thought I'd post these for those who might…

Hi my name is Loraine Walker and I have been on estradiol for 4 month and sense I have kidney problems and they have put me on a lower dose I have been having problems with the hair on my face and in the lower parts of my body what can I do to inhibet the hair growth I have tried everything should I be on a testosterone blocker