General Transgender Discussion

I find the loneliness of it all being the most difficult. I've looked for support groups within NJ, and I have found that most of them have disbanded, the rest seem to be purely political and don't seem to care anything for support, just combat.

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First, I want to say, that I am so thankful to God for giving me this opportunity for the great relationship i am now having with my Dad. Wanted to write this for those that , right now, maybe parents are not being accepting. Things were'nt always this great. My Dad, for years, refused to accept me....of having anything to do with me at all. I had many therapists tell me to let my family go. But, that's just not me. Family is family. It took alot of hard times, alot of biting my tongue and being humble, and alot of perserverence. Not giving in or giving up. Tough to do, but I am finding the years of fighting are now worth it. I now have this great relationsh…

I think I'm officially a fan now 'Dear Abby' says she's for gay marriage

Ok, so I am writing this here because I do not know where I was suppose to put this so yeah, going to have this post here. I am in a situation that well I am not sure on and yet I am severely unhappy with things in my life. Here is the list of them 1)I am in the low income bracket, meaning I am on SSI and can't afford to transition to female Like I truly want to. 2) I hate the town and state where I live and want to move me and my dad to where I can have friends in the trans community that will be supportive and help me with trying to transition as I am so scared I will screw it up. 3) I been getting depressed more then normal because I am lonely and don't hav…

I have been in such a low place lately. My depression meds don't seem to be working. I haven't even wanted to shave my chest or armpits or legs. Which I normally do. I have been called out before on pieces of clothes I wear. But that does not really bother me. What bothers me the most is the looks people who don't understand give me. When someone makes a comment of look at that guy he has boobs. Or is he wearing women's pants? What does he think he is. Well and a lot of those comments are made by people I deal with daily. I use the bathroom in the front of my work so nobody will walk in and see my panties that I wear daily. In fear of being a victim of a hate crime. Its s…

I don't know if the title conveys this all that well, it was just the best I could think of. Does the impossible trigger your depression, or just get you down? I'm talking about more than desire. I'm talking extreme despair. For example I don't want to have to have a sex change. I want a uterus, Fallopian tubes, ovaries, menstruation. You get the idea. The things that a cis woman would have. The closest I can come is GCS. I can have a vagina, but that is where it ends. A lot of the time I talk about going back to being "him". Letting my beard grow, stopping HRT, and just giving up. It's triggering to the point that I'm about to.... I don't want to use the S word, but I kn…

Did get good news today at the hair salon I go to,been a customer there since I was 17 years old.The owner I have known for a long time is retiring next month and met the new owner today taking over whom bought her out.It is going to be the same transgender friendly and learned about me well being bigender living and dress as female.I had an appointment anyway and she was ready for me asking the right questions.The new owner and I will get along and listened to me.Always wanted to try something new for a change and said thought about a medium length cut,said it was a good idea and went to work on what I wanted.I love my new look and told her thank you.Did listen to me on …

ohhhhhhhh-kay... many of you are familiar with the post i began in sept 2005 "THEORY: Why So Many MTFs Prefer Women." it quickly became a hot topic and generated some lively debate. so...i'm off on a new quest for info and understanding -- since i began hanging out in TG/TS chatrooms and forums, it seems to me to be, that: most of the women, the MTF individuals, strive to be all that is feminine and womanly. most seem to work untiringly toward achieving a feminine shape and look, perfecting feminine mannerisms, and eliminating as much as possible...anything that would ID them physically as having been born male-bodied. on the other hand.... lately, …

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I run an online business in my female name. However, my legal name is still my male name (I'm undecided about changing it at this time). I'm about to hire someone who will work for me over the internet; I may never meet him in person. But my legal name will need to be on the contract he signs (I am a sole proprietor, not incorporated at this time). So, I will be presenting him with a contract that has my male name on it. Any suggestions on what to do about this? Should I just be honest but nonchalant about it, like "Here's the contract, please sign it, btw <malename> is my legal name" or what?

I was at the community center last night waiting for a friend. A gentlemen who I have seen numerous times sat down and chatted with me. He complimented me on my attire. He seemed very fascinated with my hands. I have long, sleek fingers. It's not the first time someone has complimented me about them. We chatted for about ten minutes before he had to leave. Yesterday I received four emails from men desiring a relationship with me. This past Saturday, a couple of gents took notice of me while I was walking. It's really been interesting the past few days.

Do you feel that there is a discrimination against the Trans Community within the GLBTQ Community? If so, why is that? What do you think it would take to bridge the gap?

Last night I discussed transgender and Christianity with my bible fellowship group. It was an overwhelming success. There were many questions asked and I was able to answer them to the best of my knowledge. I opened up the discussion defining the many transgender terms. I explained that 'transgender' is an umbrella term for people whose gender identity and/or expression differs from their birth sex. I mentioned that the term may include transsexuals, crossdressers, gender queer, gender non-conforming and other gender-variant people. I had the most questions about transition and Gender Identity Disorder. I explained that transitioning is a complex prcedure that occu…

Just thought I would throw this out there. Maybe get some discussion going. I know of people that once they start hormones, get immediate results. There are also people, like myself, that had to wait for years to see the change. for me, I was on hormones for about 4 years before I saw anything. And then it was like an overnight change. And then, I had to spend time for my brain to catch up to what I was now seeing in the mirror. It seemed like overnight, I was this hairy beast. Never having to shave, and now, five minutes after I shave it seems like I should shave again. Just thought I would throw this out there because I know a lot of people think transition h…

Over the years, because I (if no one else) knew that i was a boy, many words, and some phrases became distasteful to me. Some I even came to hate and will when possible avoid using them. Others cause me to inwardly cringe when I hear them. Here's a sampling: *Tomboy (when directed at me) *My own birth name (when I have to say it) *Ms, Miss, Mrs and Ma'am (when directed at me) *the "politically correct" words like "chairWOMAN," "mailLADY" *"Act like a LADY!!" (when directed at me) *any words for certain parts of the female anatomy (causes embarrassment more than anything) *"That's a BOYS shirt!!" (uttered by the speaker - female, naturally - with great di…

Please someone, explain this video to me ...I just don't get it?? They're kinda vague on the what happend to them, to get bullied, or picked on part... I kinda get the sense, Disney miss the mark on; what gets better!....again!!

I want to touch base on average life expectancy of male versus one who transitioned into m to f woman ?? Are there any significant amount of years added towards total aging? Any technical help appreciated thank you 😊

I know that we have talked about this subject many times but I will never get used to people talking about me. I was at the mall the other day and I over heard some guys talking about me, saying "I couldn't tell if that was a man or a woman". I usually just ignore such talk but I just don't know how you can let it keep from bothering you. Should we just accept such behavior as a fact of life because of what we are? Am I alone in these types of situations or have others experienced such circumstances? :(

Wasn't sure where to put this..so yeah. the gay guy on the left in the video really pisses me off for his narrow minded view on transpeople. ! Language in this video not suitable for viewers under the age of 18, or for others easily offended by profanity !

As you know I am a gg. I envy the women I see out in the stores and workplaces that can get away with wearing really cool and stylish heels. Problem is I am 5'9" and i don't have itty-bitty feet. Size 10 to be exact. I feel like a lumbering giant in heels, and I wish i could just get over it. Why shouldnt I be able to wear really cool, like leopard print high heels. Dammit, i am missing out on some fun here. My question for the taller ladies, do you have the same feeling I do when you wear heels? My husband says 'just wear them if you like them', but i dont like looking like an awkward giant either. Last time I went to Kohl's wearing 2 inch heels, I had 2 shorte…

I did not wear much makeup for the longest time, but recently lost weight, and am feeling better about myself, so am starting to wear some make-up again. I have a very very favorite eyeliner, it is by Urban Decay, and the color I use is called Smoke Out. It is not waterproof so it comes off at night easy, but it stays on great all day. I highly recommend it! If you have some fav's, share them! -Kim PS) Sorry Mikey, nothing for you to contribute here. hehe

For most of my life as a transgendered person I have definitely preferred wearing dresses or blouses with skirts. I wanted to dress as feminine as possible and I usually felt more sensual, as well as more sexy, when wearing a dress or short skirt than when wearing feminine pants. This may have also been partly a reaction against perceiving, as a male, I was supposed to wear pants, not dresses, blouses and skirts. In the last couple years, as my transsexual desires and consciousness have become more intense than ever before, I find I can feel almost as feminine wearing a blouse or feminine sweater with feminine pants as when wearing a dress or blouse with skirt. …

Doctor's Office: What to Expect When You Are Transgender Rainbow Times Here are some glimpses into the transgender patient's experience at the doctor's office. About 10 years ago, I remember some girls who went in for checkups as female and never said a word about being born into a male body. They just went in for their ...