General Transgender Discussion

I have a sort of homemade sports-bra type thing that holds my breast forms in just the right place, looks and feels great, etc, even laying down. I got to wondering a while back, I wonder what would happen if I wore these to bed? I mean there shouldn't be any problem with that because people wear them all day, which is twice as long as a good night's sleep. And things going on in the outside world tend to influence dreams. So I tried it. First of all, I have to say it was wonderful laying there in bed and feeling like I had a full-sized set of breasts. It took me a while to get to sleep. But I remember having at least two dreams in which I was in girl-mode and passing…

I am wondering, are there any places noted for being especially friendly to the T community? Have you any personal experience there or somewhere else? MIWBJ P.S., with all the heavy topics currently going on, I thought we could use something a bit light and optimistic to read.

I read this line recently, written by a transman: I really like that. I feel the same way; I'm a kid at heart too, and I guess you could blame it on the fact that I never went through puberty, but just turned into a Neanderthal. This made me think of Jennifer Diane Reitz's response to a letter someone wrote her on a similar topic: http://transsexual.org/letters30.html So what do you all think? Any of you do anything to make up for your lost childhoods? Are any of you still kids at heart? I'd be interested in hearing other people's thoughts on this.

Well, after two weeks of pure hell, my mother finally kicked me out of the house. I am still in shock over it and very numb and I think that's my body's defenses kicking in so I don't have a mental breakdown. But, now I can honestly so without a doubt I have experienced the worse form of rejection from my family since coming out, short of murder. I have applied to a graduate school and Im hoping i can get in for their summer classes. This is all craziness

Hey Girls, what's your favorite fragrance? I love Lilly of the valley, it's so sweet and aromatic. Love to hear any of your recommendations. Thanks x

Ok, so I have this really shi**y part time job until graduate school starts in July. I was in the break room yesterday, and they were bashing the gays and lesbians that works for us. They were talking about how many of them are homophobes and how they would literally drop everything and run away because they don't "want to get raped." I was so horrified over it. It was like 15 minutes of hell. I heard it from my own family the last thing i need to hear it from is my job. I looked on the internet and saw the company i work part time for is rated as the least friendly towards the GLBT community. Thank God i am only there for 4 more months.

To get everyone up-to-date; I have been in transition for four years, and am now a post-op woman living full time as such. Before and during my transition I suffered from a great deal of anxiety, largely due to my gender issues. These issues came to a head four years ago when my depression became so severe I was not able to make it through university. Through therapy, medication, and living my life the way I wanted I became a much happier and well adjusted person. I thought that I was finally well enough to take on school full time. After some success in arts administration I decided to take an Arts and Culture Management course at MacEwan College. I started part time …

Hi everyone, I am really getting upset with my doctor in Los Angeles. He doesn't prescribe hormones. He charges $65 for an injection of estradiol+progesterone that he claims last a month. He charges another $70 for a 10 minutes consultation if I have questions. he said is not necessary to measure the levels of hormones to find out the right dose. I am just confuse about if I am going to the right doctor. I feel like I am getting rip off and not getting anywhere. I wonder if i would be better off just going to a regular endocrinologist.

Figured I'd attach a cute party animal instead of a cake this time (I always love your avatars) HAPPY BIRTHDAY, KIM!!! ~Shannon

Hey everyone! So, Who here has had to feel the pain of being fired back into the closet.... Coming out for me was extremely hard because I did it on more then one occasion.. The First time, I simply just told my parents I was a lesbian, not an issue to my bio-mom. She already knew. By dad refused to talk to me for a few weeks until my mom Overdosed and I had to live with my dad. Then, there was a whole new problem-- My step mother who is a religious zealot. at the time, I was still figuring myself out, I never knew was transgender was until meeting a girl my sophomore year who was the nicest person I've ever met and she was trans. She helped me sort of figure mysel…

Hi All First off, I hope I do not upset anyone with this post. Please note that I recognise the possibility of the content being upsetting to some but at the same time I am trying to better understand some issues that affect our community. I am writing this in a genuine attempt to deepen understanding and 'ventilate' issues we may face. I therefore apologise in advance and hope that you read this in the spirit and tone that it is intended. I am writing an article for Frock magazine (frockmagazine.com) on the connotations of the word 'tranny'. If you do not mind assisting in this survey, could you please reply to this thread by answering the following questions: 1.…

i've heard about people cutting, but never "knew" anyone that cut until i started chatting with other TG/TS people, and "met" up with a transboy. before i stopped going to where we used to chat...i discovered there were about three young guys -all teens ranging in age from about 14 to 17- who admitted to cutting. but my little buddy was by far the worst. seems he actually set out to draw blood. it's my understanding that self-mutilation (not for purposes of body modification) is primarily a mechanism for coping with something else. allegedly, the pain keeps one's mind off the real problem. it got me to wondering if i fall in that category. i don't cut... never …

Hi all, long time since I visited here, hope all are well. My question is about the word transition, I have read about people who abandon transition due to money, location, and the like. Does transition only mean physical changes? In my non tg mind, transition happens inside first, like for a M to F person, they are transitioned already inside, it's the clothing and appearance that matter so much? If money is the issue, but you are M to F inside, can't just simple clothes and maybe makeup be OK? Or does the meaning of the word Transition mean that hormones and/or surgery is necessary? I met a auto magazine reporter who was born male, and all they do is wear femal…

Hi Everyone, I'm new here. Kinda feeling this out. Uhmmm.... I have been in transition for 9 years, primarily on hormone treatment. Estrogen, Spiro's alone. I am also living with a chronic illness that most would scoff at if I as to share what it is. But other than that, my conundrum is about after this life is over. I was orphan till the age of 10, then adopted by a woman, a teacher and a devout catholic. Since a teeanger, I fought the urges of desiring another male. Though before my adoption, at 3yrs old I was molested by a cousin on my mother side of the family. Till I was in my 20's and in college. I was bullied in my earlier years of high school, and made gay friends…

I talked about GLBT with my son. He asked a number of questions to which I was able to answer. He asked if being gay is a sin? I answered no. I shared with him that I knew that I was different all my life. I love these moments because it presents an opportunity to share that we are people, too. We touched on topics like gays in the military, trangenderism, my wearing women's clothing, Christianity, GLBT people in the church, and numerous other topics. I'm happy that he's accepting and open about my transgenderism. He's always been perceptive about life. I hope that there will be more opportunities like this. :)

I have a new man in my life and it is going good.I consider myself as bisexual although I have my GF Stephanie.His name is Blake and he likes transgendered women and we started dating 3 weeks ago.Stephanie has been great about it and we talked about it first.Blake has been so great to me so far and knows I am going through the whole thing including SRS.Met his family on Saturday,has a great family that has let me in open arms.His family knows I am trans going through the transition becoming the woman I see myself as.

So I am not looking to discriminate against anyone. If anything I want to be a help. The obstacle that I face is not understanding people that question if they are trans or not. Or people, later in life, questioning their gender. I know for myself it is because I am an old fart. And for myself, it is because I have known since I was 4 years old. I do believe there is a generational gap in what it means to be trans today vs. 10 - 20 - years ago. I know I was 43 years old before I even knew that I could transition. That such a thing existed. And I jumped on it. And have no regrets. So, I'm not sure if my not understanding is because trans issues have become more…

I also posted this in the Intersex forum, just heard the Oprah show today is supposed to have a good discussion of the Intersexed. If interested, tune in! -Kim

For fourty years I have been molded and shaped into a person who represents the classic stereotype of a good Christian, loyal American, and Caring Father and Husband. I have done well in school and followed the instructions of many teachers, employers, fellow classmates, friends, and co-workers. I grew a business that has provided an adequate but below average income for ten years now. As long as I have done everything as carfully prescribed my life had meaning to others and people approved. However with every passing year I became more and more depressed. Why? Because I began to learn more and more about the real self within me. The self that had good things to say…

Today the same salon that has cut my hair for about 2 years put specific conditions on my being accepted for beauty services. I called for a haircut as usual but reminded the stylist of my being transgendered and wanting a feminine hairstyle. I simply asked if it would be helpful for her if I wore make-up to help recommend a style that would be best for my facial shape and feminine identity in public. I was told that I would have to come in for a special appointment because my being there would be "bad for busines". I was told that because it was a small town everybody talks and the owner didn't want that. I respected the viewpoint that they were looking ou…

Someplace here I indicated this movie was coming out soon and just had a chance to see it in the theaters. I was rather surprised that the theater was full and had not expected this. Synopsis: Well done but will warn anyone on HRT for any length of time will need to bring tissues to wipe away the tears. I wrote a blog entry on WordPress on it. The entry starts off with my thoughts that lead up to what happens in the movie and how I felt coming out of the theater. If you plan on seeing the movie don't read this entry else it will give away things that are important to see rather than hear from me. Amazon has the book and would urge you to read it. Suffice to say I was touc…

Well, recently I've been really feeling as if I belong as a boy. The thing is, I was extremely girly as a child. I am going to 7th grade currently, the hesitation in gender roles, and just being a girl started around 4th grade. That wasn't much though, I just started fearing wearing skirts. Actually, no, it was when puberty started for me. When my balls that were misplaced onto my chest started growing. (my way of saying it reduces frustration) My mom says that she just thinks its a hormonal imbalance because of that, and this is probably a phase. The thought of dressing as a girl, and everything as a GIRL not only scares me, but makes me angry, upset, and want to…

My next appointment is now one week away, and I'm nervous. Its been three months since my last appointment and things have been going great, which makes me more nervous than ever. Now I know site rules on dosage info so I will do my best as that's concerned. But it dose make this harder to explain. In one week I will have been on HRT for nine months. I started on a typical low starting dose. After three months at my follow up appointment they doubled my dose of both anti-androgen and estradiol. At that point things began happening and I was so happy just to have some progress, even small. At my next appointment I told my doctor as much. After some general questi…

As I've mentioned a few times, I make up for never being able to have a childhood as a girl by collecting "girl toys"--baby dolls, Disney Princess toys, Hello Kitty stuff, that sort of thing--and playing with them. Jennifer Diane Reitz mentions on her site that she used to go out with a FTM who had an extensive collection of Star Wars toys (I think she said he was about 40). Does anyone else here do this? If so, what kind of toys do you collect?

I asked this question on another site. My reason being that maybe I can get some insight into something I have noticed. I don't really want answers from cisgender folk. I am more interested in what y'all think. I noticed that many transsexuals say they felt transsexual from the age of 7 or 8. Not all but very many. Have you ever wondered why that age span? Do you have a theory? The main reason I ask is to try to get some insight because of people I know and meet. Sort of get an idea of what they think so I don't say the wrong thing to them. Thank you.