General Transgender Discussion

On this date in 2005, I came out to myself as a cross dresser. All the tension and struggle and inner turmoil dissipated upon making that confession. I have progressed from a cross dresser to transgenderist to transgender woman. I've never been happier.

I have been out for nearly seven years now. There have been many improvements and changes. Protections for GLBT persons are law in many counties, towns, states, and countries. There is also more backlashes because we dare to make our voices heard. Transgender Day of Remembrance reminds me that we’re still in a fight. What is encouraging is that more people are seeing through the labyrinth of lies thrown up by our enemies. I am seeing cracks in the armor of seemingly impenetrable social institutions because people are being educated about gender and sexuality. The church is one such institution. I am part of a task force that forming a ministry for LGBTQI persons. I’…

This is a very important isuue for me and probably for alot of us ts girls. I would like to hear about personal experiences for post op girls and sex. I have not had any sexual experiences with men. This may sound silly but I am holding out until I get srs. I don't want sex to be the overriding factor in my reason for transitioning. I know if I were to start having sex with men it would preoccupy my mind so much I might become promiscuous and wish for transition to happen faster. Sex as a woman with men will be very importatnt. I do crave being with men but as I said it will only compound the problem. I am a hetero woman but I don't want it to push my desire to live as…

I tried this test quite a few years ago. It's a series of visual challenges and questions used by psychologists to define your Sex ID or Brain Sex. I don't think tests like these are an exact science, though I was quite relieved that my brain was ID'd as female. Sex ID

Hi, I'm new around here. Couldn't get the registration to work today so I've decided to work with a guest name for now. What I've seen around the TG community is that the majority are male to female, with intent to date other men (single, gay, TG, or whatever)... but I was wondering, is there anyone like me that feels like they're a woman on the inside (definitely not on the outside) that is only interested in straight or lesbian women? I haven't seen or heard of many people like that, and if so... it makes me wonder if there are any women that would take someone like me. Just curious and a little muddled. :P

Sunnivie Brydum, August 06 2012 4:00 AM ET "Olson believes that current research looking for a “gay gene” is searching in the wrong place. Rather, Olson contends, sexual orientation is determined by brain hemisphere dominance. Most men are left-brain dominant, whereas most women are right-brain dominant. Seizing on the implication that “most” necessarily excludes some people, Olson wondered what happened when brain dominance was reversed from the standard. "After reviewing a large collection of scientific literature, Olson hypothesized that when a man is right-brain dominant or a woman is left-brain dominant, that person will be gay or lesbian." -advocate.com New …

From a spiritual perspective, as a trans sexual woman, I am intrigued by the shamanic tradition in indigenious people of two spirit individuals. In some tribes we are considered blessed with the connection to both genders. We are considered healers and the receipients of the tribes shamanic traditions for healing and spiritual quests. Does anyone else see the transsexual experience in this positive light? Does anyone have sources of information about this topic

Hi I have always had quite sensitive skin, and as is the same for everyone some parts more sensitive than other's. I pretty much shave as much of myself as i can legs, arms chest, stomach, pits etc. I find that after shaving that some area's start to get irritated and rash up. Over the next few days it gets worse untill it's like i have acne. In the past i've solved this problem by just not shaving those area's that are worse affected, but i dont like doing that. It just doesn't look right to me having these horrible jet black hairs. Has anyone ever had this problem before? If so is there a way to stop it? Any help would be much appreciated :D

I sent an email to a former co-worker and said, this has to be our little secret for right now, but this is what I've been up to lately, and then I sent her some pics of me in a dress, skirt, etc. I did not specifically tell her that I was a trans-sexual or that the pics were of me in my girl clothes. She replied back with: How awesome! She is really cute! Is she around here or is she from somewhere else?? I really enjoy our friendship, but I am so happy about your new love - it is wonderful. Does your daughter know yet? I replied back and went, um, Thank you for the compliment, but I have something to tell you. Those are not pics of my girlfriend, …

I have been dressing up quite a bit the past couple of weeks. I desire to dress up more now. My spouse has noticed and she is somewhat bothered by it. She wrote a poem about my desire to be a woman rather than a man. I understand how she feels. She fears that she is losing the male person that she married. I tell her that I’m the same person. I’m not really surprised by her response because I thought that this day would come. Things were quiet for a while. I sense that another shift is coming. I guess the holiday season may have triggered it because there have been more opportunities to dress. Just the other day I saw a transgender woman as I was crossing the stree…

Shopping for the new me has been a lot better lately and I credit my sister for it.My sister has been helping me out shopping for clothes,shoes and jewelry and it has been great help from her.Today it was buying high quality handbags that last me a long time,she loves her Dooney and Bourke handbags and introduced them to me.Was even proud of me ordering a couple today that I liked,said go for them.Not cheap too Seen this one I loved and ordered it in the black color, http://www.qvc.com/Dooney-&-Bourke-Pebble-Leather-Zip-Zip-Satchel.product.A252389.html?sc=A252389-24HR&cm_sp=VIEWPOSITION-_-11-_-A252389&catentryImage=http://images.qvc.com/is/image/a/89/a252389.0…

A question. Should sex after the SRS operation be a factor in a decision weather to change sex, amongst all the other aspects of wanting to change? The reason I ask this is because when I have looked on the internet about transsexualism some websites say that this should not be a reason in a decision to go forward for the change. But I feel this is actually an important question amongst all the other reasons for wanting to change. As some sites say that if you are wanting sexual intercourse after the op it is one important topic to bring up with the surgeon, and some sites say not to say anything like this to the therapist. I see that this is important and t…

Should the LGBT Community Use Words Like 'Faggot' and 'Tranny'? Call Me a 'Faggot' Huffington Post (blog) The terms "faggot," "dyke," and "tranny" are just as important to identifying our queer communities as "gay," "lesbian," and "transgender." It's convenient to just dismiss these words as hate terms. We've been preconditioned to anticipate abusive blows

Hi my name is Rachel and i'm an alcoholic.... Nah, just kidding, i'm a shopaholic!!!!!! I'm starting this thread to showcase some of my new purchases. Some are photos with me wearing them, some others will be the photo from the eBay listing. Feel free to add to this thread. Thanks.

Revelation! "Committed long-term relationships are not what I need right now." That and I couldn't see it lasting. Neither did she. The only difference was the timeframe. She thought it would happen later. The stress caused by my discomfort with the relationship was enough to affect my driving. Barely missed two crashes inside a single minute. Pulled into a parking lot and sat there until I could go on. Had to talk first though. Wasn't the best place for it, but then again, I didn't feel like I had a choice. Oh well. There's never a good place or time for "bd news." It hurt, but both of us will be ok. I think I'm going to try "casual" relationships, w…

I am 6 ft and at 160 pounds. I was just wondering your folks sizes before you transitioned. Am I just to big to transition if it is what my heart desires. I ask because I do have a thin, muscular build. Thank you so much for your input. Bye Bye ^_^

As I have occasionally commented before, I am disappointed with my breast size. The options seem to be using pads or breast enhancers in my bras and/or wearing padded bras or just accepting relatively small breasts and wear unpadded bras. I know many male to female transsexuals have implants, but I have decided not to. Until recently I usually wore unpadded bras since developing some breasts. I realize many genetic women are also disappointed with their breast size and wear pads or padded bras to enhance their feminine appearance. So I have often lately been wearing pads or breast enhancers in my unlined bras. The difference in bust projection is, of course, noti…

As I wear my tight-lacing corset and practice signing my new name, I feel flighty. There is no other word I can think of; I am giddy and my my mind is racing. I love the click of my gel-colored fingernails (deep metallic blue). I got my eyebrows done a couple of days ago (DC sure has a lot of places for fingers and brows ). Tomorrow (Halloween) I am accompanying a good lady friend to a bar celebration, as the designated walker and metro rider. I will take advantage of the night to strut in one of my three-inch heel shoes (black lace-up pumps) and thereafter, have the 'stuff' I need to wear heels whenever I want to- which will be Sunday. Cheers

I've been living as myself, a woman for over four years now, post-op for over three ... I am who I always wanted to be, a strong woman working in my chosen field as an artist and have appreciated a full life. We (my partner and I) moved a year and a half ago to a fairly small town an hour or so from Toronto Canada ... recently a non-eventful visit to my (now not so) new Dentist required that a treatment be submitted to my insurance company, a fairly normal thing. Keep in mind now my legal name was changed some four years ago and after several visits to a couple different (because of moving) Dentists per year for check-ups and cleanings have caused no problems as my name h…

Hi all. In the past weeks, I have been getting numerous calls and e-mails from people I thought were my friends...my supporters. They have been calling, asking for my help dealing with tax issues. (I used to work as a CPA). Anyway, today, I sent them a message asking for their support. I have a big meeting on Friday....one that could change my life. One that will either propel me forward or leave me letting go of everything. And, no response...except for one. This person said....I am to tired to answer your question and I still need help with my taxes. So much for having a support system. I am still trusting that Fridays meeting will propel me to a new chance …

I am so sorry that I have not been around for awhile. I have been trying to get my life in order and been so wrapped up in other things that I almost forgot you all. :( :(

I'm so sad so stressed I feel like I'm trapped in a bad dream and can't get out. I try to forget about my pain but the more I try the more it hit's my heart I walk every day a lie as. I should be walking a beautiful woman but I'm not I'm stuck a male that is stuck in a cage screaming let me out I'm so stressed so sad

Do you think that you are truelly in need of hormones to change you into a woman or a man, does this concept control you in some sort of way good bad indifrent maybe...I am only courious as to why the thought of hormones can cure our ills they dont change us in a drastic way they wont mirakulously change us over night into the woman ( or man ) we know we are to be so what is it about them that makes our minds turn to them in such a fasion? I know that hormones can aid in the process, I know that they also help in some developmental aspects of the transition, but the why bothers me, why must I turn to them, or must I even turn to them at all. I know the answer to this q…

Kate Bornstein brought this idea up in her book Gender Outlaw but sort of brushed it off as half-baked. The funny thing is, lately I've had an experience I can only relate to people as feeling a great deal like waking up from a life long brainwashing. Things suddenly seem so clear with the globs of mental goop starting to be removed. It is actually sort of similar to Tadatoshi's description in some ways ... of course I've always been a girl, and now that I'm finally finding the cracks in my clay facade, I am able to tear pieces away and both allow others to experience the "real" me and experience the world without a lot of the fog/dirt that has clouded the lens for many y…