Male to Female (MtF) Transsexual Discussion

Well, I've been talking over the internet to this guy on this forum I'm a moderator at about my situation. He's really polite but holds one of the narrowest views I have ever come across about gender, and it's not religious at all. So, I've read a lot about the hypothesized causes of being gender-queer but it's been a while and I need to refresh my memory. I've been using the hormone imbalance in the brain a few weeks after conception theory but, he's found specific citations of people saying that biological sex is determined at the moment of fertilization, not the gender neutral theory where sex is developed later which the theory for our existance depends upon... I'…

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I had a brain fart and couldn’t think of the correct terminology for the subject, but I think it comes across fairly clear. I have full intentions on reassignment surgery in the future. But I honestly don’t know which way to go. I know if I went for depth I would be using a dilator for the rest of my life. Which sounds like a pain in the butt. But I don’t know if I would be fully happy going nondepth. So I wanted to ask everyone here what the pros and cons are of each. And to the ladies that have had the procedure, what were some of your reasons for your choice? I know I need as much research as I can get prior to the surgery. At the moment all I have had …

Most M2Fs have an ability most GGs don't: The ability to pass as a male. Are there any full-time M2Fs here who use this ability to their advantage? For example, if you need to walk alone at night, you do have the option of impersonating a guy so that you're less likely to be bothered. I'm not full-time myself, but I do go out as a girl a lot. I've recently taking to walking an hour per day, several days a week to try to slim down my belly/waist. My boyfriend told me I should do my walking as a guy so that I won't be hit on by random guys. Note: I'm not as gender dysphoric as a canonical M2F, i.e. I don't loath my male self, but I do prefer being female.

I would like some feedback regarding how your level of arousel or passion changed since beginning hormones; after 6 mos on them or post op. Best wishes Gordy

hi im new here. well im 15 years old male and i want to be a 15 year old girl. So my parents dont know it but im planning to order estrogen and progestorone pills. i know how i will hide it already. I was looking up gynomastia and in my research i realized that exactly how i would hide the fact that i will have breast growth. anyway the reason im stalling on taking any estrogens is because of football. i realize some of you may think "if you like football than you probably arnt a trangender" but i am. so i had some questions to ask people that started taking estrogens around my age 1 what kindof mucle reduction did you experiance 2 what kind of breast growth 3 d…

Hello All, I've been visiting the board lately but not posting much. There is lots of fascinating things going on around here. Though neither TS nor much into sports I am curious as to how the athletic world accepts trans-folk. Are there all sorts of 'roadblocks' to participation? Would a MtF be considered to have an unfair advantage? Either perceived or realistically? How do hormones figure into this? Do you have to be concerned about brittle bones as elderly GG? While several questions have been thrown out for starters, I'm hoping this thread will be used to address the topics of sports participation in general and go beyond these initial questions. Please f…

Hi all. I am a 23 year old post op transsexual, having had my operation back in 2003. I've noticed that my sex drive has dramatically decreased since the operation and it's really messing things up with me and my boyfriend who i've been with for 2 years. I'm of course still on hormones but my sex drive just won't come back. I mean this is horrible, lol!!!! I feel totally satisfied with my results, body, myself in general aside from this. I just get irritated alot when my bf wants to engage in any sort of sexual contact and it's very bothersome for him and especially me knowing how sexual i used to be. I was wondering if any of you that are knowlegeable or post …

Hello, all... my name is Danielle; I'm a ts in my mid-forties, and I have an urgent request for help here on deciding where to move... it's such a looong story, but I find myself now with a unique opportunity to go start anew somewhere... I've been stuck in OH for quite a few years now, and this place is horrible if you ask me... My own research has yielded the following possibilities: Minneapolis - There's the transgendered program at the U of M to consider; I also have a single contact in that town who has offered to help me get on my feet... but it's been a long time since I've been on 'em, and she's a good friend but with no real experience in dealing with transge…

i hope someone will lend an ear to this... i identify to myself as transgender... and this is why; since i was a child i never felt right in my body... when i was 3 or 4 my moms favorite story was when she asked me how her little boy was, i told her i wasn't her little boy... she never probed any farther... in school i would rather read a book, play hopscoth, or be with the girls, not playing football, or other things with the guys.. when i was 10 or 12 i started wearing my moms undergarments... panties, nylons, etc... i felt like i was supposed to, it was comfortable to me. then i went into the army at age 18 "had to be a man" i kept myself busy, got married and ra…

I've been thinking about something a lot lately with regards to transitioning. I think I'm pretty safe to say that most people want to do it because they feel like they've been living a life of lies and can't stand it anymore, and want to finally be themselves. Whether those lies are physical (my body is all wrong) or psychological (pretending to be someone you're not), whether they're lies to yourself or others, whether they're explicit or lies of omission, there's a lot of lying involved in pre-transitioned TS people. That sounds sort of accusatory.. sorry, I don't meant it that way.. just restating what I've heard many people say. That it's such a relief for them to…

Well I've noticed a lot of people aren't yet on HRT. Why is it taking so long? I'm by no means trying to rub anything in. Perhaps I was in some stupid way a "special case"? ( I'm used to that. Beena ginuea pig all my life with medicine, GID wasn't the only disorder I was born with. ) I came out in December of 2004 to my parents. Received councilling and was on T-blockers by I believe April 2005. Then I was on Estrogen by I believe August. And finally I was put on Progesterone at December of 2005. Is my progression fast? Or is it merely a case of me having no concept of time? It seems to take much longer for you other girls and I don't get why? Raises all sorts o…

I simply can not see a need for gender separate fitting rooms.Considering they are one - person- at - a- time!! What's the big deal? When I use the fitting room I hardly care who .male or female. has used it before me! (or who will afterword for that matter) :o

Today was my first day with the gender therapist a F2M medical activist had found for me, only about ten minutes from my workplace. (Which is amazing, here in the middle of cattle country.) She's not a "niche" counselor, she deals with many other patients, but she has actually had a number of transgender clients and even walked with at least one the whole way through transition; so she is probably the most qualified in my neck of the pastures. (She told me today that there are many therapists in our area who would not even touch a TS patient. Which is as expected -- I live in a mini-Bible belt, it's all Bush country around here.) Talking to her, it was very clear to…

i have thought bout but am still undecided (please someone help)

In contrast to the Being treated like a lady! thread, here is something that happened yesterday. I just spent the weekend in Chicago at a board of directors meeting for Lutherans Concerned. One of the other directors is a transman named Galen. Yesterday we were at the airport to catch a flight back to Minneapolis and stopped at the food court to get some breakfast. We both opted for breakfast burritos. We were both asked if we wanted guacamole. I had to pay 75 cents extra for my guacamole. Galen got his for free. So we're looking for a table, and Galen starts in being insensed that he didn't have to pay extra and I did. Frankly, I hadn't noticed that it had h…

As a TG MtF it is such a glorious feeling after 60 years, to feel my breasts as my arms brush by. With the help of a little modern chemistry they have now grown quite significantly. They may only be the size of a French model, but to look down at my t-shirt and see the curvatures, the pointed shape and the nipples outline without the need of my trusty pushup bra that has supported me all these years. It chokes me up, and brings me to tears, from sheer joy and fulfillment. I know some of you must have experienced the same or similar in your TG journey, and thank-you all for your support too. Love to all G

Has anyone tried waxing their beard area, or is this as stupid an idea as I think it might be? Or both? It sounds painful at any rate... although its still oddly tempting...

From what I have read and common sense indicates, some transsexuals are very fortunate in being quite passable, some transsexuals pursue various surgeries to become passable or more passable and some transsexuals know they will probably never be passable, but decide they must live as females anyway. Some transsexuals also eventually decide not to live full-time as a female and/or have SRS because they feel and perceive they can not be truly passable to an extent desired. I have wanted to pass as a female since about my mid 20's, but I have been too shy, passive and lacked self-confidence to try to pass in public as a female, many years before beginning female hormones. …

I have seen a lot nice and positive stories on the tgguide with getting a real woman. But not a lot of stories from those how have had the SRS transition and there life experience after and how this feels now. For me this is very important to know how many positive or negative real life experience there are from after the SRS transition. Is it what you have expected? Are you really home in your new live? I myself like to go the hole way but have still some questions on how others have experienced it and watt I need to know and expect. I think a lot of us dealing with this issues have this questions. Sorry for all my spellings and grammar mistakes I hope you al…

I am currently in the process of a career change and interviewing for jobs and I am looking to buy myself a nice pant suit. I have found one that I really like online, but I need specific measurements in order to get the right fit. For the suit I am looking at I need to provide measurements for bust, waist, high hips, and low hips, as well as height. The height part, of course, is easy, but what I am wondering is *where* exactly on my body I take the rest of these measurements, especially the ones for the hips? Also, should I take these measurements standing up or lying down? I have noticed there is a little bit of difference. I know these probably sound like dumb que…

With all the talk about the side effect of hormones, does anyone know which form is best? Is it better to go the patch route or the gel. Is one pill safer than another? I use the sublingual form which is said to go directly into the blood stream thus avoiding liver damage. Would the patch be better? I sure could use some opinions from girls that are more experienced than me. :)

With the pain and depression and stress that comes from knowing you are in the wrong body, and therefore must have felt depression at some time, has any Dr. given you antidepressants hoping that will make things *ok* for you? I would suspect that some would, and I was wondering if you thought this actually made it 'worse' rather than better. Because I know first hand that SSRI's can make you feel apathetic, and unmotivated. Modern medicine sometimes like to 'suppress' pain rather than deal with it head on.

Moderator Note: Though the OP deleted her original post, she has entered back into the discussion below

This post contains excerpts from the transgender forum on this message board. How to tell your friends, family and co-workers about your intention to begin transition can be a frightening experience. Please use this thread to post your quesitons or tips. We'll start with some of mine. Note for readers: I do not recommend that anyone risk losing their family unless they are firmly dedicated to pursuing gender reassignment or their desires are so strong as to make occasional crossdressing in secrecy an impossibility. We can't control exactly how others will react, so think long and hard whether you really need to tell others in your life. I believe the most important…