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Bree, I love NyQuil, at least when I have a cold! Such a wonderful way to drift off into lala land... What a treat when one feels so crappy. I'm delighted to hear that you and Nikki are doing so well. You are so right that Nikki's revelations and discoveries are affecting you as much or more than for him. You deserve and want warm hugs too. I think you're both right now in kind of a whirlwind. For Nikki it's such a tremendous relief to be accepted and not rejected. For you, maybe kind of the same although also on edge about what is right both for him and for you. I think what you will find is that over time you will both settle back into some more comfortable patterns. Maybe a bit different than before but comfortable nonetheless. So hold on tight to each other while also trusting that you'll be fine. I have a good feeling about you two. Warm hugs and NyQuil, Emma

I have a weird thing with cold meds. I couldn't take any of them without risking a painful death when I was on my long term asthma medication, so I sort of developed a fear of them in general. My brain makes important things habitiual so I don't forget when I'm half sleep or not paying attention. So Nikki has to fight stupidly hard to get me to take them. And of course, they are huge, my throat hurts, and damn near just choked myself. At least things with Nikki are going great. We've settled into a comfortable environment for everyone involved, and things are going swimmingly. We're still sorting through my tendency to big picture everything and his to narrow focus, but communication has gotten really good and we're learning. For the spouses like me that stay, it's as much a period of change as the person talking the dysphoria. So many things change for me too, and you really have to keep sight of balancing the needs of both. If there's a secret to succesfully navigating this as a couple, that's it. And as much openness as is feasible for a couple. I Know some wives want to be completely out of it, but I couldn't be like that. The known is so much less terrifying than the unknown. Being included not only supports him, but it supports me. He's happier than he's been in a long time. Here's hoping the therapist will keep that going. And, of course, that i don't have pnumonia again. If I don't feel significantly better tomorrow I"m going to the dang urgent care. I don't have time for this crap. I missed a gorgeous day! WEll sorta anyway. It was nearly sixty degrees! SO AWESOME! I went out to lunch with Nikki, and you'd think I ran a marathon. Wahtever this is has seriously damaged my internal energy production. And now the scary Ohio wind has kicked up, and is finally caving in the neighbors scary chimney. That has been falling for years and no one did anything about. Here's hoping it doesn't break my house or our shed we have in the side yard.

Well it did take a hit when I had the radiation treatments and for like a year after got everything that came at me. My immune system has bounced back though and is ready to take it all on! Except apparently this one. Which reminds me, time to take some of that Dayquil in case.

No the giraffes should never get this. Nikki is numbing me with ice cream.

bree, hope you feel better soon and get lots of chicken soup or chicken soup for the soul... good thing you're not a giraffe.

People don't actually NEED throats right? It would be okay to rip mine out? *headdesk*

I am excited, have a date with a female twenty years younger than me this weekend and she is gorgeous then a handsome man the following weekend.