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Dear KittenNikki, This sounds like a TOXIC WORKPLACE to me! May I ask, does it help you be a better person (bring out the best in you) for having worked there? Is there any way you can look for another job before it becomes so unbearable that it pulls you down further? This may be the wake up or heads up that there might be something better for you out there! Good luck! Yours truly, Monica

Dear KittenNikki, Think having a FEW quality friends is more helpful that having many light acquaintances. In my case, I have a very few face to face light acquaintances, and a few good friends here on TGGuide. Some of my TGGuide friends have turned into telephone friends as well, which is very helpful as I do not own a computer. Also have a two good acquaintances that I met on a Lesbian Internet dating website called "PinkWink," one of which is now a "snail mail" friend (amazingly, she curses EVERY OTHER WORD on the telephone, but writes a BEAUTIFUL letter, and the other, lives across the Hudson River, and we get together once a month when she does business on my side of the Hudson River. Am grateful to ALL of them! Today, we make friends in many different, creative ways than we have had in the past! Yours truly, Monica

Hey Warren, I agree, your insurance has you stuck in a Catch-22. Here's a couple of ideas: 1. Does your state have an insurance department or commissioner? Here in California we can file complaints with them. If you find them, call 'em up, tell your story, and ask for their suggestions of what to do. 2. Now that you have the firm "no" from your insurance, call your doctor, surgeon, and the like to ask "what would you do if you were in my situation?" They deal with this bureaucracy every day and may have an idea. 3. You might consider creating and posting some sort of YouTube video. I remember a few years ago a guy posted a great vid "United Hates Guitars" that went viral and yes, he got lots of support. Check out his vid and see if you can mimic it in some way. Here's the link: http://youtu.be/5YGc4zOqozo Your vid might be titled "Anthem Hates Trans". 4. Or, you might write a short speech and set up a stage that looks like a TED Talk... call it a REN Talk. People will make the connection and that might help get traction. But try hard to have a similar tone to what they do on TED. Be firm yet respectful. You want all people who see it to understand your plight and want you to succeed. In fact you might even close with a "What would you do?" which I seem to recall is used by some TV show like 20/20 or something. Thats all I can think of for now... Emma

Thank you, I just feel so bad that I couldn't't find a place to give them better lives. If I had any doubts about the statistics of feral vs. household cats before, they are gone now, I never see the same cats more than two years around here. I think the five year average is a bigger area figure, and in my area it's much smaller. We just had to dig the body of a less than two year old feral kitten we watched grow up through the windows in our back yard (it's privacy fenced, they like hanging out in it) out from under our computer room after the smell became noticeable. Mama cat has moved them, and they are off to face their short lives. : ( At least Creed and Yuriko were saved, even with her sad end Yuriko lived 14 years and had a busy cat life bullying the daylights outta our dog and her brother.

Yeah he really gives me the best of both worlds. Were still figuring it all out but right now I get a cool girlfriend sometimes without sacrificing the man I love. It's a wonderful balance IF it fits the people in it. I don't think our way is right for everyone, I think everyone needs to hammer out their own needs and relationship balances. The more Nikki is exploring himself the more he's telling me that while he is somewhere in the transgender spectrum he inside himself doesn't feel transsexual and doesn't want to change his body. So I guess that means balance for us, and I'm perfectly happy to straddle both worlds like this for the rest of our lives. As long as I manage to stop smacking myself in the face with the boob at least. Lol. I really am stupid clumsy.

Hiya Nikki. I Do keep in contact with My Lifelong Best Mate, around 4 times each week, by telephone. I have another Close Mate, who I also keep in touch with, also around 4 times each week. Both of these Mate's, are really Caring, and Understanding, in respect of Me being a Male to Female; Transitioning; Transsexual; and that I Am living Fully; Full-Time; as a Female, and that I Am Fully; Full-Time; Female-Dressed. Nikki, You are so Lucky, that Briannah IS being so Supportive of You, with Your Cross-Dressing. I can understand, why You live Part-Time Female; and Part-Time Male ! Nikki, should You ever wish to talk, I Am here for You, and for Briannah, as well. Nikki, You and Briannah have a Good Evening, Take Care, And My Very Best Wishes, Love to You Both, Stephanie. xx

Hiya Chrissy. WOW ! You look absolutely Gorgeous in that Photograph. Chrissy, Your Hair; Make-Up; Ear-ring's; and Dress; are Beautiful. You are one lovely Young Lady, and You can Be Very Proud Of Yourself ! Well Done Chrissy. Have a nice evening. Take Care, And My Very Best Wishes, Love Stephanie. xx