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Christy: What is the "academy", please? Dee and Christy: After writing my comment on Monday I came across the report that my coach provided when I went through a more extensive test (which is known as the Meyers-Briggs Step I and Step II Testing and Interpretive Report) about seven years ago. Indeed, it pegs me as INTJ, however: - Although I'm an "I" (Introversion) I'm one of those people who often strikes up a friendly conversation in places like grocery store check out lines. When it comes to more professional conversations I have to push myself. - It's a real toss-up for me between S vs. I (Sensing vs. Intuition) and T vs. F (Thinking vs. Feeling). It's fascinating for me to read and consider this now, and with the added details in the report — which is 18 pages long — it's interesting to consider how I (we) straddle the Meyers-Briggs type indicators. I engaged with this coach at a time when I also wanted to consider an alternative career that I hoped would be more aligned with my core personality, values, etc. This has been a common theme throughout my adult life... although successful I was never satisfied. Notably, at that time (2012) my gender dysphoria and all that was buried way back in the closet under layers of shame. I certainly didn't share any of this with my coach. And now that I'm no longer avoiding that aspect of myself I feel confident that had I acknowledged and supported living and being authentic earlier in my life, well, I might very well have been happier in my career and/or would have found one that truly was more satisfying for me.

Last weekend was a long weekend off for me, Friday, Sat, Sun and Monday off from my "retirement" part time job with a Medi- Transportation Co., picking up clients and bringing them to their medical appointments. Was looking forward to the continuity of being able to live life just as Jess, and I did just that. By Monday night, I dreaded Tuesday having to return to boy mode and go back to work. That evening, I got my text from the boss, also a business friend, for Tuesday's assignment asking if it would be okay with me. (have been working more or less on call, as needed). " Pick up a couple from Albany, NY at 6am going to Boston Med, wait several hours, and return them to Albany, an all day transport. (about 10 hours) Tuesday, up at 3:30 am (had to leave my house by 5am.) THEN, I got the bright idea! This is gonna be a job for Jess!🙋‍♀️ I washed, threw on my girl Jeans, a top, my make-up and my hair and out the door I went. The couple, close to my age, were from Italy, spoke very broken English, and spoke among themselves in Italian and got several calls in Italian from their kids along the way. We didn't talk much at first, only a few pleasantries along the way. I honestly couldn't yet tell if they made me or not! About an hour outside Boston the Turnpike turned to a standstill and it appeared we were gonna be up to an hour late for the appointment. Thanks to GPS, I re-routed and went the rest of the way off the highways, through the suburbs, over the hills, and through the tunnels, back through the neighborhoods and got there in the nick of time. I dropped them off and gave the gentleman my cell number and said I have to find out where to park my car, so when you're done, just call me and I'll find you. He said what's your name? I almost screwed that one up but said Jessica, call me Jess! He did call, I got my car out of the parking garage, and promptly found them. In the interim I sat in Starbuck's for a while sipping, no gulping, coffee, 2 large cups, and walked around the district streets some. On the way back, we talked quite a bit, learning a little about each other and where we each lived. At the end of the ride, the gentleman stuck his head back in, and said, "Hey Jess, you did a good job, thank you!. What a great feeling! Only thing, I'm gonna have to deal with it when they call for their next appointment and they ask for Jessica😁 Oh well😍

I went to my first support group session tonight. The group. meets once a month and is moderated by my therapist. Approximately 15 people attended and was highly relevant to the issues I'm most concerned with and many other issues important to the others. All were MTF, and some were post surgery. Met several girls with very similar backgrounds as myself and made a few friends that I look forward to getting to know better, too. I think on all accounts, for myself and the others it was very productive and informative. I am looking forward to the next one.☺️

Sorry Christy/Emma, I do not know anything about the academy - i'm guessing it must be connected to the site Christy used for her test somehow? You can change which answers you get at different times, as we can drift as we become more confident or if we are doing certain tasks, but knowing that as an introvert being with others drains my energy no matter how much I enjoy building relationships - it makes sense when I do not want to leave the house, and then being someone who is intuitive and reactive & struggles to make detailed plans, means if I am working with someone who needs those things then I will have to adapt to prevent clashes. It is extremely useful and I've never seen it get someone "wrong".

It is herbal, the claim is for up to two cup sizes in 6 months... I'll let you gals know how it comes out. All my love, Tilly