Leaderboard

Dear Dee and Emma, Being rejected by my family gave me permission to reinvent myself. My homosexuality was the tip of the iceberg in an already toxic family. My true family is the T/LGB family! Your friend, Monica

@MonicaPz: Better late than never: absolutely! @ScottishDeeDee: Fear of rejection has always been and is still a big issue for me. I will say that my coming into my own authenticity is giving me emotionally stability, calmness, and reducing such fears. When we use the word "transition" we generally think about transitioning from our born gender to another. From my side of that journey I see that transition is lots more, mostly revolving about growing away from those habits, thinking and otherwise, of trying to fit in to the mold we were expected to fit. It's fair to say that everyone has self doubts and self consciousness. But for people like us I think the burden is much greater. I suggest reading Glennon's book and see what comes up for you. Maybe that would provide things to write about in your blog. I'd love to read your posts.

Important safety tip!

Hi Jess, as soon as I started questioning my gender I put my non existant romantic interests to the side, as I realised if I did not see myself as a cis male, it was pointless holding onto the idea of being heterosexual until I figured out my place. It'll all come out in the wash eventually. It was just really nice to wake up with that warm fuzzy feeling of being wanted. I haven't had that in a very, very long time.

I just read this and am crying now. That's so terrible. You are not damaged, and you are not worthless. Just by your kindness you've helped me in ways that I could never have imagined possible. Hang in there BA. ❤️

Goodness, BA, I’m sorry. That must be miserable. Like Dee, I don’t think of you as damaged at all. You’re a friend in a horrible situation just trying to make the best of it.

🤗 I cannot offer anything except a virtual hug BA as I am not in your position, but for what it's worth I do not look on you as damaged, I see you as unique when you post - which is a totally different thing altogether. No one else here can speak from your perspective.x

Dear Black Angel, Am disabled myself, (ambulatory, on a cane), but I have many friends who are severely disabled. Trying to find purpose in helping others and allowing others to help me. Ultimately, we are all damaged people, including you and I. The important thing is to overcome our defects to be there for each other. Yours in Sisterhood, Monica

❤️

Not having someone to please is making the process a bit easier, but it is strange that the biggest motivator for not changing is almost always fear of rejection. Especially when for me it was being finally rejected beyond doubt that gave me the crisis I needed to question who I was. Interesting post Emma