Monica, with the best will in the world, I would not take love advice from someone who is both single and celibate (probably)
There is another saying, never trust a skinny chef! (or a clean mechanic)
I believe your mother was closer to the truth of it. While I am well out of the dating pool, I have never had a relationship when I have been seeking one, but perhaps one day one will find me when I stop hiding myself.
I am very pleased for you Emma