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  1. stephani


    Ok , I am getting a bit perturbed ... Well ok maybe not , but any ways it is apparent just because my shoe size is 10 w or 11 m I have to pay any were up to $210.00 for a cute pair of pumps . Are you b***a**s kiddin me ... Ok Who around here knows were I can get some sexy dress pumps , flats for every day use , and a nice comfortable pair of 1"1/2 healed slipons ...Also I have been to way to many online sights saying discounted and such yet still I find all the cute shoes are over $75.00 and up to $210.00 , I find a closet full of 10's at reasonable prices but guess what not in W size just M , I have managed to find one pair at the local thrift shop 3" dress with an UGGLLLYY Brass Bow tipping it out . So like I said any one around find a place to order reasonable priced stylish and sexy shoes for dress and evening and also day time , dont get me wrong I love my canvas flats but I really need more then this and my running shoes... I know no names of stores so if need be PM me thanks hun's all my love to you all. hugs and kiss' steph
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    good small scissors?

    Well no matter where or who you buy from the world is full of humans and few could care less about the next human standing next to them. Opinions on political ideologies are just as stink filled as porta potties, As far as sharpening your scissors, take a sheet of aluminum foil and fold it three to four times making sure your blades have two inches of extra length to fully cut thru, so depending on your blade length a sheet of aluminum foil folded so you can cut strips off from one edge to the other ( i do 1/2 strips ) they should be really sharp depending on how dull they were by the time you have made the last strip of aluminum foil. Hope it helps and spend that fiat currency it was made out of thin air and has no intrinsic value. Steph
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    tiny razor invention?

    So few know this but on good razors there is a small single blade on the end of the blade head turn the razor 180 degrees and wah lay that lil bugger is there specifically for the lil buggers next to your snoot holes, and for side burn straightening. Just buy a good quality blade, I get mine from the two leading online sellers, they are both really good blades last me a long time for the price and use I say that the Mr. "Blade" company is best over the $ of the month, but it is a personal thing just do the trial deals to see what you like . Steph
  4. stephani

    Life is never what you think

    So, you see after Forever I am adding a new blob giggles. Yeah a big pile of blob, why eh I suppose because here is a place just to dribble out some thoughts without disturbing the flow of a thread, or a means to vent without disturbing the flow of the forum. I know that not everyone appreciates my opinions or views on life, wether or not if it has anything to do with transition or not, not everyone will, I respect that, I do. That being said, some times you just want to reach thru the screen and grab the other person and give em a bit of a shaking lol. Ahhhh you twat giggle Smile everyday even when some self absorbed thumb sucking twat struggles through life and wishes to drag you along for the shitty ride. Oops PG nah you know better coming here, yup you do don't you, that's why you read my posts because in the end of it all I will never lie to you why should I I don't expect you to lie to me, if you think I am a blow hard big mouthed deisel dyke who prattles on tell me that because I will tell you your a twat. Smiles and laughs. Thanks Mom and Aunts for my understanding no one wants needs or deserves to be Molly coddled. You know it's been a hell of a trip but in general transition is fine, yeah I wish I had done a few things differently but for the most part, it's exactly what I knew it would be, life in a different pair of pants. Just go live your lives free from the delusion transition will change everything, because it won't, you will change what you see needs to be changed, you will feel it's over when you feel it, no one can control you unless you allow them to. Grow up be an adult and live the last bit of this life you have to it's fullest. And yeah life can beat the hell out of you just drag your butt up and say is that the best you can do well here you go I can take it.
  5. stephani

    Is There A Place For Short-Term Relationships?

    Oh hun, it's becoming ever evident to me that relationships are over rated , for 23 years now I have been a truck driving diesel dyke and at this point of my like I can say proud to be, I have always felt I needed to have " that someone waiting at home " and so I did just that convenient relationships ones that understand I come home seldom and am in no way interested in going out after getting home. Is this fare no I suppose not yet I pay all the bills, do all the household work when I get home and don't want, need sexual interactions, I have gone without for so long I am no longer interested. Is it a bad thing this being alone, set in our ways, I think He'll No, your lists of why you live alone gave me a bit of a chuckle because a lot of the list was my thoughts for me. Connection is a wonderful thing but so is a bit of are you kidding me what the hell adds a lot to ones life, I can get that from co workers, or friends and some times from my beagle Skipper trust me he is a joy, a pain, a wonderful addition, no not everyone wants or needs a pet/fur baby but for some of us just what we need. I am glad to know a bit more about you I love having you just a tap on the screen away, your opinions matter and the site Bennifits from your being here. Hugs hun
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    As said no, they are there as a merely interactery part of social media, indicates a notice to or indication of understanding to nothing more, just ignore them if they are of concern to you. They basically are just hey I read that or I agree with that or yeah I suppose that's one way to look at things sort of interaction others can have without adding dialogue to the stream.
  7. No matter who or what one represents your agenda will always enter into whatever you are interacting in, it's inherant . My inherant beliefs as a lesbian holds it's own agenda's for my purposes so do everyone else's no matter how much we try to remain "non bias" never happens, we all slip. So the term Gay Agenda has always makes me cringe so does anything agenda, lbgtqasn get my point ever point on that star has it's own agenda's, even if you try to separate them the muddle into the discussion or debate how ever one might deem the situation, see agenda right there is it a discussion or debate. Smiles
  8. stephani


    Yeah, I have purchased a number of shoes there. Now, not so much. No pumps Flats yup.
  9. stephani

    Woman Harassed in Bathroom

    Three broke phones, two broke computer's and couldn't remember my log in stuff. Finally got to the remember password email to fix. All better now, I could read the new postings all this time just couldn't reply. Hugs Steph
  10. Another great addition . Congratulations. Hugs Steph
  11. stephani

    Woman Harassed in Bathroom

    The instances that happen only shadow the ones that don't get light shed upon them, the one's where the individuals are beaten, arrested, have been forced by the judiciary system to be placed on Predatory watch, to live the rest of their lives as criminals, this all because of High profile s hats who deem them selves the voice of all those who are Trans whatever. I have, dealt with this in the mid west, the bible belt thumpers up in arms claiming untruths and being believed over the real truth. I cansay my situation worked its self out only because I kept my head and had my documents supporting me, no so for many. Just be careful out there, carry anything that supports you, and keep your head about you, you never know who is filming your reaction. Hugs Steph
  12. All throughout history it has been discovered that both mtf and ftm persons have served in their prospective roles and secretive gender roles. Many times in valor. Often times descrased after being found out. Just wish history will show, no matter what those who sacrificed in honor of their countries their countries could do the same for them. Steph
  13. Sorry, all about my extended time away, Life is a busy one as always but since Its just me tending to the Two of us Plus our dog I have little time to relax and sleep a bit before I get back at it, so I let my brain go blank in meditation and free myself from the onslot this world offers up.

    I watch my email and read the happenings and I keep an eye open for a subject that might need my help, or comments on. Plus its not ideal reading or typing on my phone. Giggles.


    Hugs all

    Stephani R. 

  14. Gennee, I have taken great notice in the research and the statistics of the " So Called Necessary Vaccinations of our population " and one thing keeps popping out that is disturbing to me, they are said to help reduce and aid in the fight against outbreaks and diseases but when it come rite down to it they are only creating worse problems within the population, me myself if have been given the choice would have never opted to receive any vaccination what happens when man messes with mother nature yeah she fights back and with a vengeance, we are poisoning our children and our selves with these things and no one even thinks twice about the reverberations from the environment that we live in, the world has a balance and we try to interrupt its natural vibration it tips, and generally not for the better. Stop Killing us with your cures and start letting our own bodies once again learn how to fight off any lurking virus or what have you call it. that is what we were designed to do, not just take a shot and move forward it all ends badly trust me. the vaccine that caused Aids/HIV was suppose to be the cure for the common cold and look what that got us. just my thoughts, If there is a tie betwixt the two it would not surprise me one bit.
  15. Stephaniie, Hawkman does not take Hormones if memory serves me, so The notion of Hormones causing euphoric feelings for him doesn't play into the statement, he has gone through a lot in the last what five or so years and if my memory isn't as far gone as I think for a great many more prior to that. So when he has a great or good day, it is because he deserves it on a daily basis. As do we all, So when they come accept them embrace them and take joy in them, because as stated the feeling of sadness and annex will soon be back within our minds soon enough, take heart knowing your special in your own ways and when some one stands up and offers you a kind word in acknowledgement accept it graciously and with dignity and offer one in return because that person deserves one as much as you do. Though it is not easy to take or understand why your receiving such praises know that they thought well enough of you to say what you may seldom hear.
  16. stephani

    Bible study

    What in the hell is wrong with this thing, awe maybe I can find the answer in your link... giggles not likely I don't think god considered computer issues when he told his story.
  17. stephani

    Bible study

    interesting, I am sure this will help some with the questions they have in their lives.
  18. stephani

    Reporter Refuses to Properly Identify Murdered Woman

    No, one in the media could care less about reality, reality doesn't sell papers now does it because we all have to deal with reality every moment of the day why would anyone want to pay for the chance to read Real information on Real events about Real People and who they Really are, no one could give two bits about that now if I want to sell papers or push some sort of agenda then twist the words sensationalize the information and make it appear to be no more real then the man in the moon. then people will buy your fotter the use of Her Birth name Had Nothing to do with the Reality of the story, Her Gender played Little in the article other then stirring the pot about the blurred line today about who and what Gender anyone is or was, does it matter if I am killed whether or not I was born with a Penis, No the fact is I was killed, why only I and the assailant knows that for certain, but the fact of Real life is I would have been Killed by some one, my birth name only matters if I have not had it changed once that is done you have No option to call me by any other name then My new Court Ordered Name, period. Sew them and see how fast that apology shows up. write letters all day long and they will toss them in file 13 along with any other truth that comes across their desks.
  19. Well, Now aint this just one more stab to try and coheres the media driven population to hate any one that is Different, it doesn't matter if it is all BS it never does what matters is what Media can spout out and get the public to believe in a matter of hours, if you have enough Balls to spread lies about children then your not to concerned whether or not the facts line up to what your agenda is, and apparently the agenda is once again to spred lie's and miss conceptions about "Trans" or "Gender Variant" individuals. I try and stay out of these sort of lie mongering ploys set forth by the" Right Wingers" ( crap can't believe I just said that ), but I and everyone who is open minded can see that these tactics work Very Well and the Lemmings will follow this Crap with bated breath anticipating what comes next. Grow up World, we are not out to coheres you innocents into our seedy underworld, we could give less then two bits about them we are just trying to stay alive and live a happy fulfilling life without being beaten or killed or even forced to take our own lives. I dislike the news so much I go to the other room when it is on, lies on an hourly basis is not my idea of News. News for me would be that I won the lottery and can now help my self and others out of this life of torment and torcher, now that would be News.
  20. I am often just dumbfounded when individuals use outlets like twitter or any such place to bash anyone, I could care less the statement was directed toward a "Trans" person, the fact any such idiocy is being thrown out into public view simply shows the truths of humanity, if you are out of the norm or in some way opinionated in an unconventional manner you are going to be subject to idiots and their slow witted remarks. I am less concerned over Twit remarks then I am about the day to day business that I have to deal with, if you are so worried about others business then yours is less likely to be resolved. just how I see it, watch your day go by with a lot less stress if you stop worrying about what others say about others they don't even know on a personal basis. In other words Mind your day to day business and you'll have a lot less stress and anxiety looming tomorrow. I don't care if your "Trans", "Straight", "Bi', "Gay", or of Non White Ethnicity just live your life on your terms and stop worrying about everyone else's business, isn't your life hard enough as it Is, then stressing and carrying if some Twit post has some narrow minded words posted on it.
  21. I am So, very Happy and SO much in Love with My Fiance April Rose. I love being home and holding her every day.

    1. Lori


      Happy for you :)

    2. tbirdgal


      What dis , no mo road runnin hon, ya need to phone me sometime ...... ellen

    3. AprilRose


      I love you being home and getting to old & kiss you as much as I want. I love you Stephani, nothing or nobody will or can change that.

  22. stephani


    Interesting, I have the same feelings about those who criticize or mock or ridicule any one that does not fit into the generally accepted gender binary they are afraid of receiving the same treatment so they often times will not pursue their true want and desire to pursue that in which they desire most, the unknown factor the other gender what ever you or they wish to call it, I myself could care less about their sexual desires ( as far as the male species is concerned ), and since I am in a relationship nor am I seeking the affections of another. It is at times flattering to hear one thing from their mouths then see their true feelings in body and facial expressions, it is really quite comical in my opinion. So to say they who torment those within the nonconforming gender binary are truly seeking affections and responses to increase their self worth and attain some sort of dominant stance over yet another conquest within their lives. Yes I believe this is true enough. Stephani
  23. Okay, Finally SSA makes Changes to Policy on Gender marker. Yup you read that right. It's a new day and the sun just came out, So finally your in for getting this one done then going to the drivers licence office and getting that fixed as well ( because most states wont change gender marker or name unless it has been changed at Social Security first. Congratulations it is Glorious I tell you. So Read this from SSA: http://ssa-custhelp....security-record Here's the cool section and what that means to you: "or a medical certification of appropriate clinical treatment for gender transition in the form of an original letter from a licensed physician)." Now, what this means is your no longer required to have SRS and a letter stating such action has occurred by the preforming Surgeon, Now you simply need a Letter From your Doctor, or Psychologist, both of whom have Degree's stating they are either A, Ph.D or Psy.D both will suffice in the Licensed Physician aspect of the ruling . Now for the Letters They should look something like these examples: I,' (physician’s' full' name),' (physician’s' medical' license' or' certificate' number),' (issuing' U.S.' State/Foreign' Country' of' medical' license/certificate),' (DEA' Registration' number' or' comparable'foreign'designation),'am'the'physician'of'(name'of'patient),'with'whom'I'have'a' doctor/patient'relationship'and'whom'I'have'treated'(or'with'whom'I'have'a'doctor/patient' relationship'and'whose'medical'history'I'have'reviewed'and'evaluated).' (Name'of'patient)'has'had'appropriate'clinical' treatment' for'gender' transition' to the'new' gender'(specify'new'gender'male'or'female). I'declare'under'penalty'of'perjury'under'the'laws'of'the'United'States'that'the' forgoing'is' true'and'correct. Signature Typed'Name Date 2nd: I,'(physician’s'full'name),'(physician’s'medical'license'or'certificate'number),'(issuing'U.S.' State/Foreign'Country'of'medical'license/certificate),'(DEA'Registration'number'or'comparable' foreign'designation),'am'the'physician'of'(name'of'patient),'with'whom'I'have'a'doctor/patient' relationship'and'whom'I'have'treated'for'____________. _______________ has'been'diagnosed'with'GID'and'meets'the'DSMPIV'criteria'for'Gender' Identity'Disorder'(302.85); According'to'international'guidelines'set'forth'in'the'World'Professional'Association'for' Transgender'Health'(WPATH),'it'is'now'necessary'for'the'patient'to'live'fullPtime'for'at'least'one' year'in'the'new'gender,'in'preparation'for'the'upcoming'Gender'Reassignment'Surgery; __________ is irrevocably committed to'the'sex'change'procedure;'(exact'wording'is'extremely' important) It'is'appropriate'at'this'time'to'grant'the'patient’s'request'for'name'change'and'gender'marker' change,'and'that'doing'so'will'provide'the'ability'to'correct'his/her'personal'identification'to' reflect'his/her'new'role; (Name'of'patient)'has'had'appropriate'clinical' treatment' for'gender' transition' to the'new' gender'(specify'new'gender'male'or'female). I'declare'under'penalty'of'perjury'under'the'laws'of'the'United'States'that'the' forgoing'is' true'and'correct. Signature Typed'Name Date The second letter will work as well for petitioning the court for a legal name change/gender change, do them both at the same time and have the same case code on both or you'll end up paying twice for the documents to be processed through the court. So recap: First Get Name Change and gender if allowed in your state, if not that's a matter for later. Second get Letters from doctors I suggest one of each from Both doctors. the letters are to be originals on the doctors letterhead , get an additional copy if you wish to do your passport because it requires the same letter to make proper changes. Third get Drivers license done . Using a copy of letters should get this done as well as the courts name change. All have to be original's or certified Copies. Fourth take your new SS card, Drivers license, and name change to all respective locations that have you under old name and gender. ie: Bank, Utilities, Lease or Mortgage co, Phone, you get it. So cool I can't stop grinning. All the best Stephani
  24. Yeah and as of what last week or so they blew off the obamacare for another year..... lets see what they slash by then.
  25. stephani

    My Introduction

    Welcome, and thank you for sharing your life and plans with us all. Hugs Stephani