General Transgender Discussion

Hullo all I'm still very new to these forums so if this is the wrong place to be posting this topic please let me know! I've been living my prefered gender for almost 2 years now. To be honest, when I started I thought I was never going to find anyone who would accept me for me as a partner, especially after my girlfriend at the time walked out on me a few weeks after I came out to her. It was about a year after coming out that I met the person who would become my first boyfriend. Well... That's a term I should use loosely because this person was otherwise identifying. Xe and I were together for about 7 months. I was really happy to have someone who knew and acc…

Hi! I'm Mani, and I just signed up for these forums today. A little about me, I'm transgender (ftm); 20yrs old in college where I'm gonna try to be stealth; studying film with a hobby in graphic design. Feel free to ask me any questions ~Mani

I just wanted to share some info that my endocrinologist recently gave me. There are numerous articles on HRT reversible and irreversible effects, once HRT is stopped. Most of them state that these reversible effects will occur after 6 to 8 months (depending on the article). I was on HRT for 4 months, ending on June 30, 2006. I stopped because of certain health reasons, under the advice of my doctor. Everything is okay now, so, under the monitoring with my endocrinologist, I will commence HRT again within 2 weeks. Anyway, after only 4 months, I developed breasts approaching an A cup. I still have this size today, and have lost nothing after stopping HR…

Someone else on here sent me this link, it's most amusing Focus on Hallucinogens My comment after reading this was... Wow, why hasn't the trans community found this earlier? LSD turns you into a woman! *runs and hides*

I got to thinking about this today as I had to pick some automobile hardware at an auto parts store . I was dressed in a female top , the usual minimal jewelry , watch , ear rings . Even a decidedly female coat . I probably should have had a picture . O K , the manager who see's me all the time got talking with me about her Mother. I could tell that I was getting a detailed look. I finally leaned over the counter and said, "Look, I have both female and male parts, I'm transgender. Expecting a negative reaction , she patted my arm and said , lets talk outside . We did , she went on about her Mother .I listened . She was way more comfortable with ma that point. I ju…

Annie wrote an article before about confidence, and how confidence alone can persevere... Most of us don't have near the difficulty to 'prove' their worth, than this person I want to show to all here. I must admit, I watched this show today on the suggestion of my friend, and was blown away. Since she loves this show, I decided to check it out and after watching it - I just thought it was *perfect* to illustrate the point. I'm not sure how crazy we are about linking, but, in case its no biggie, I suggest anyone who might need a lil proof that perseverance can indeed lead you to your goals, watch this amazing woman overcome harsh superficial judgement, and prove to…

hi everybody. My name is Angela. I am looking for some assistance with coming out as Transgender to my adult children. They are 22 and 24 years old. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

i am going to be taking hormones soon...but bc of fear and lack of courage i haven't told my elderly parents yet that i am trans. what do u think is better, coming out then starting hormones. or taking hormones and then come out as people notice changes

In one of the groups I'm in on Facebook the following poll went up. Gender poll FTM - 145MTF - 88Non Gender - 51Gender Fluid - 43A Gender - 27I was surprised (kind of) that there are so many FTM and surprised there were not more MTF and Non-Gender. What was cool is the average age of members is 20 and will be interesting to see if there is indeed a rise in FTM.

I have looked into my states rules on changing my name. The process seems straightforward. If I was single and alone things might be easier, but many people strongly identify with me as a male because of my past and my traditionally male name. I like the name Amy very much, after writing so much on this website and becoming friends with other transgender members I really do feel like Amy as well. My mother always told me that if I was a girl she would have named me Sarah Jane. Since my mother did not know whether she was going to have a girl or boy when she was pregnant she had a boy and a girls name picked out. I can't help but think that my name really is Sarah b…

"Words build thoughts and thoughts create actions. Thus, every word helps lay the foundation for empowered trans people and trans equality worldwide." Read: What Not To Say When Discussing Transgender People See the poster: Words that are Transphobic and Why What could you add to this list?

Resource from today's conference call http://www.amazon.com/True-Selves-Understanding-Transsexualism-For-Professionals/dp/0787967025

i wish i had a better job for many reasons...my current job would be impossible to start my transition and begin hormones. ..its not a trans-friendly place...its not even a regular friendly place...its just a retail store in a not great part of an inner city...me wanting a better more friendly work environment is not just an excuse to delay taking hormones...its a legit concern

Happy 23rd! I almost remember when I was 23! Hope you enjoyed your day! -Kim

Well, I decided once again to make another phone call attempt with my sister, *sounds of the phone ringing* finally my sister picks up the phone, although I was waiting to be disappointed again to listen to her answer machine. Well Paula answered the phone, and we started the conversations, catching up. Not too long ago my sister had told me over the phones that one of my family relatives had passed away, and so I had questioned her back in the past about when the funeral date was going to be? Well the date came and has gone, without Paula notifying me to attend my uncle's funeral, perhaps she was.. nahh scratch that, I know my sister was embarrassed about my gender app…

Has anyone had the gender marker changed on their driver's license in Arkansas? What type of documentation is required? Do you have to have surgery first? Is there an official policy? Any information on this topic would be really great. Thanks!

hey everyone i'm a student at san francisco state doing research on gender role attitudes and i was just wondering if anyone could take a minute to fill out this anonymous online survey that i made. i'd really appreciate it!! feel free to talk to me about it after you've taken the survey. copy and paste the link in the URL. http://FreeOnlineSurveys.com/rendersurvey....ec4dk4anm502256

"Because the word is predominantly aimed at trans women, with us as the joke, it is only trans women who can “reclaim” it if we so choose. While I’m certain some trans men have had the word thrown at them, it’s not theirs to reclaim. While I’m sure drag queens have had the word thrown at them, they have the benefit of being able to wash off their makeup, take off their dress, and fade back into their male lives. I don’t have that luxury. This is my life. This is my identity, not an activity, and not a hobby. This is who I am, forever trans, forever vulnerable to the damage this word can cause." -Parker Marie Malloy, It's Time to Stop With The T Word, advocate.com I'm …

Thought this would be a neat thread, that could be potentially informative. I want you girls and guys to post stuff concerning potential scams or misinformation that appears as if it’s supposed to help us but in reality is a sham. I can think one such example are people on YouTube posting endless “this hypnosis will make you transition through subliminal blah blah blah” videos, often adding in their descriptions “subscribe to activate the magic” lol. But in all seriousness these things are kind of scummy as I think their reasoning is to make many very desperate trans people hope for some truth in these videos and give them ad revenue. I could give a beni…

Lately I've been noticing a lot of people e.g. cashiers saying something that sounds a great deal like "Can I help you, man?" Now, there's a nice big stoner culture here and people are pretty laid back, so this would not be all that surprising, to be addressed that way when perceived male. But I realized I've been hearing it a lot more lately (more than previously, enough for me to take note of it anyway) and I'm not completely sure that's what they're saying. I realized all I can really hear is "ma" and some sort of closed-lip consonant. In Japanese, a "single letter" n/m syllable are the same thing (much like the well-known r/l thing). These are very similar sounds. …

I have seen, and heard of, plenty of people for whom that's exactly the opposite. They pass wonderfully in person, and as soon as they open their mouths it all goes out the window. Or on the phone, where they just never pass. There was an FtM in a sandwich shop I frequent, today. I would've never suspected a thing until he opened his mouth and out came a female-pitched voice. I felt sorry for the guy... once I realized what was going on, it was apparent he had done chest bindings and everything, and he looked totally awesome. Just a no go on the voice. I think for anyone who plans on or is contemplating any sort of transitioning or passing, we can't just not worry abou…

I'm always getting these spam mails, I'm sure you know the ones, "fix your problem down there!" and I can't help but laugh a little and think, really, you can sell me something that will do biological SRS for me?! But it got me to thinking.. is there anything that works the opposite of "blood flow increasers" like viagra? I mean, I guess for some people long term HRT does that. But it'd be handy to have something you could take for a day to make sure you don't have any uncomfortable reactions down there for whatever reason... I guess if all else fails there's the old standby, imagining my parents in bed :blink:

I've recently discovered adult ADHD or rather the correct name ADD attention deficit disorder. IS THERE A CONNECTION BETWEEN ADD AND CROSSDRESSING? ADD explains in one sweep what I have been trying to answer all my adult life... Why can't I focus on anything, why I procrastinate , why I can't achieve the things I'm passionate about. I've heard there is a connection, so I'm curious to know... How many of us girls have ADD or symptoms (poor long term focus - distractability - zoning out of conversations - chronic "laziness") AND if you do, do you see any connection with crossdressing or even transgender ism? Josie >'.'<

Most of you can probably identify with how well clothes fit when it is one size fits all. As often as I have been duped into believing this phrase, it continues to catch my attention. I am surprised at how often when I am reading the remarks online that I am drawn to the tempation of the transsexual progressive ladder that has been posted a few times on this site. And I can't help but feel inferior to the person who has gone "all the way" and even made it to being "stealth". Personally I don't want to be envious but sometimes I just can't help myself. On the other hand sometimes what I am reading from those who have completed transition I actually feel very sorr…

Tomorrow , 3-31- is a day to get OUT , be in PUBLIC, GASP and do anything that makes you be seen ! 3-31- is a SPECIAL DAY to celebrate the fact WE ARE PEOPLE OF WORTH and talent ! ANYONE in the Richmond Virginia area tomorrow , join me for a PUBLIC grouping as I sign autographs and take orders for the book, Community in Transition ! April starts a month of FREE Shipping ! Taza Coffee Forrest hill ave and West over Hills Blvd - Richmond Va 2-4PM eastern