General Transgender Discussion

I am a cis gendered straight white male. Currently, my oldest friend is working on her (I think she still uses female pronouns, that's in flux) journey. She's had a lot of turmoil on a lot of other fronts, and I don't envy her the path that brought her to today. When she told me her orientation was basically asexual, I really didn't care. It mattered not a whit, mostly because there's never really been any matter of sexuality between us, but also because I've never really understood why sexual orientation was such a big deal in the first place. Later, when she told me she was considering having her breasts removed, in large part I was happy for her, as they get in her way…

Readers - i moved the post below, made by shannon (and replies with it) to afford the topic it's own space. quite often readers have questions or concerns about how to go about getting the gender and/or name changed on their BCs, or whether their state will even allow it. in the thread it originally came from, "I Have the Feeling that I Lie" by Jesse K, questions cropped up about which box to check for gender on forms. this eventually led to discussion about correcting/changing birth certificates -michael -------------------------- "I have never had anyone say anything about it outright, but I have on occasion encountered some of these documents again, af…

I think it is fantastic that people get together on the phone like this which creates a safe haven to actually talk to each other. Sorry I had to jump out but had a call from my mother.

So, Family Guy is a pretty offensive show, on its surface. It's clearly meant as satire. All of the characters have major personality flaws (like pretty much everyone, right?), so when views are expressed on the show, it's often through the lens of someone who clearly has no clue what they're talking about, which should likely impress upon you that it's wrong. In a new episode of Family Guy titled "Quagmire's Dad", the character Glen Quagmire's father returns home for a celebration of a successful military career and then, as it turns out, to get a "sex change". There were glaring misconceptions in the story which may have been used as plot devices to craft a 30 min…

I've been thinking about Tuesday now since Yesterday, ( Sunday ) when I was sitting in for our receptionist at the host church which will hold our local TDOR. I spoke to several people in the church who had no idea of what it was to be one of us , transgendered . I explained to one lady who was denied Pierced ears until she was 38 ! I said , "see, you're now living out you're life as you want. " She questioned me again . I explained to her how in Virginia at least , Electro Shock therapy was administered to us as late as 1980 ! I was warned a couple of times when I tried to come out in the early 1970's that being transgendered in Virginia could have easily gotten me…

ima 38 year old male that needs help getting out of this body and into the body i was ment to have

This week on Tuesday I received my first hormone prescription. I am so happy upon taking the first steps to transition. Yeah baby yeah, I'm so happy. I even received a round of applause when I told everyone in the support group I visit in NYC. I hope all is well with everyone here. ^_^

I tried this test quite a few years ago. It's a series of visual challenges and questions used by psychologists to define your Sex ID or Brain Sex. I don't think tests like these are an exact science, though I was quite relieved that my brain was ID'd as female. Sex ID

Hello! I was wondering if you guys remembered going out trying to pass as the "opposite gender" for the first time? What did you learn from that first time? What would you have done different if you could redo it, and would you recommend going with friends or alone at first? Thanks :)

I actually went out en-pseudo-femme this evening for the first time. (Well, there were some false starts years ago, but let's just forget about that. ) It was only walking out to the car, driving 10 miles to pick up my wife and head home, and walking back into the house, but... wow, how wonderful. I had my androgynous urban grunge clothes but I had a pinkish shirt under my hoodie, a choker, my hair done in a feminine style, and the breast forms. I thought it was rather cute actually, and little possibility of mistaking me for a normal old straight guy. I had a "holy crap" moment when I first stepped out of my house because I don't know if I've ever felt so un-dissociat…

I am an extremely happy tgirl. Monday night, January 11th, 2010, my therapist told me that in March she would be more than happy to write me the letter approving me for SRS. Now to get my finances in gear. Bobbie Jo

Dear Friends, A friend sent me this and I really enjoyed it, and I think you will, too! https://www.facebook.com/ABCCOMEDY/videos/1623017944417952/ Enjoy! Your friend, Monica

Do you think that you are truelly in need of hormones to change you into a woman or a man, does this concept control you in some sort of way good bad indifrent maybe...I am only courious as to why the thought of hormones can cure our ills they dont change us in a drastic way they wont mirakulously change us over night into the woman ( or man ) we know we are to be so what is it about them that makes our minds turn to them in such a fasion? I know that hormones can aid in the process, I know that they also help in some developmental aspects of the transition, but the why bothers me, why must I turn to them, or must I even turn to them at all. I know the answer to this q…

Hi everyone! It is my pleasure to announce the initiation of taking harmones in order to go to the next stage in my life. After living 4 years on and off as cis women, I have finally decided to go for breasts development or via harmones. I have over in past 2 years meet real transgenders like me but with using harmones and to see their breasts development. I honestly wasn't that impressed as in my head the bay watch models and huge breasts come to mind? But those are perky, apple or oranges well I thought to let you know harmones don't get those types! So the need for surgery is required at all cost for "perky" breasts to say minimum. And my final question is down t…

Just as the question says ! I ask this because it seems that Women in in general and especially those with an Artistic back ground seem to be far more accepting of we M2F's .

Hello Everyone, As I stand here, trying to get out of the closet, trying to figure out how to tell my family and friends who I really am, to finally come into the light, it has occurred to me that, among other things, what seems to be holding me back is the fear of being alone. Some of this is the fear of leaving the relationships that I have and not finding new ones. Some of this is the fear of being shunned by people I know, people who think they know me. It almost feels like I have to leave my life to find a new one. While I think these feelings certainly have some basis in reality- I will in all likelihood lose people I love - I also believe some of this is o…

Just for fun I took this test, got 80 percent female. http://www.allthetests.com/quiz26/quiz/1242009206/How-masculinefeminine-are-you

I am soooo happy as of last Monday I Victoria Anne am legal , the judge signed the papers changing my name and I was jumping for joy ,literally I was so excited. I have this step done and now I can move forward , I can't describe the feeling it is so wonderful. I had a friend with me and we celebrated the event with a manni and peddi lunch and dinner. I can't wait to get all the papers filed with all proper parties so I will get my mail in my new name, I am just so happy and had to share with you all.

Just talked to my Mom today. In talking with her, i told her that she is always invited to come down. Told her it's been many years since she has seen me, so I have changed alot on the outside...and before i could complete my sentence...my Mom said, "but you are still the same on the inside." Nice!! My Mom is also 83 years old so she did'nt know if she could remember how to get to my place. But I have a cousin that visits her often. Told my Mom, find a time you and my cousin can come down. Told her,"You are welcome anytime." Writing this because I am finding my Mom was just waiting for the invitation. That she is had the time to deal with my transition and has j…

Actually it came to me in my sleep, probably because before I went to sleep, I had been researching way to finance my surgeries. Anyway, heres my idea. Alot of us dont have surgery because we either cant afford it or dont choose to get it. Well the ones who do want it anf havent got it yet, is most-likely because they cant get a loan because of poor credit, they maybe unemployed, it could be because they're full time students, whatever the reason. Money is tight all over the world right? Okay, because we have thousands of people on this messageboard, and it is active. I see different faces/names posting/joining everyday. Now what if everyone here could take two dol…

My therapist expressed the thought, when we were discussing Diane Kearny's "visit" to this forum a while back, that maybe part of the reason why MtFs seem to have such trouble with "the ladder" is that it's a holdover from their male socialization, that feeling of competitiveness and having to have "one up" on the next person. (Not that women never do this, but it seems much more common and overt with men.) Not ever having really swallowed that particular piece of socialization, I found myself agreeing with him, because even at times when I'm considered to be "on top" of a ladder (not this one but others), I find the things annoying and frustrating. It intercedes between…

I am in the process of writing a book that will be published in about 4 years. This book is going to be an autobiography as well as a collection of stories from other Transgendered people that would like to be included. Some of the proceeds of the book are going to be donated to; The National Center for Transgender Equality (NCTE) and dedicated to all the Transgendered people that were murdered for just being what they were. The purpose of the book aside from the aforementioned is to pave my way out of the proverbial closet and reveal myself to the world at the same time I can help a very worthwhile cause. If anyone would like to contribute stories to this book please e-…

I've been developing this FAQ to hand out to supportive friends and family and I thought maybe it had some things in it that might be useful for others on here. I've tried to be as unbiased and up to date as possible, though I am lacking "sources" for some things that I can't remember where I heard them now. Also I've removed some personal info from it where possible. It is obviously written by an MtF, but I have tried to include info on FtMs where possible as well, since I think it benefits us all for people to hear about all sides of this. There are some links at the bottom too which, if I'm not supposed to have them, moderators feel free to nuke 'em. But they're int…

Hey all. I am very interested in music, I have been all my life. I thought this was kinda funny and thought i'd share, I was listening to a song that I have listened to probably thousands of times before and for the first time I thought to myself that it sounded like what we go through when we're struggling with our GID and haven't told anyone yet. :-) Anyone else had any experiences like that? the Song i'm refering to is "Jane Doe by Within temptation" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jFswItQAKR0 :-D The lyrics are below Why, you just won't leave my mind Was this the only way I couldn't let you stay Run away, hide away the secrets in your mind S…

Well, today , I guess I show more in our fair city, former capital of the Confederate States of America what this scrappy Texan trans gal is about . Actually , I'm getting a cancer screening . Monica, Jace an Emma know how to reach me ...........................