Please, everyone, consider MUST VIEWING of Emma's link. The transwoman who was the love of my life, she did not do hormones and had no surgery, but I considered her as much a woman and lady as any transwoman. Refused to pressure her to have hormones and surgery, and, in fact, I encouraged her to take her time. She was very lucky to be in a very supportive transgender support group who pressured no one. Being transgender has everything to do within your head and very little to do with the body, in my opinion. Must confess, I asked my beloved to present herself as a woman and as a lady in my presence. My beloved's health was my primary concern.