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Dear Michelle Lea, Thank you for your concern. You, and my other friends here at TGGuide, keep me going. This Spring, I am visiting Burlington, VT. Next, I will visit Seattle, WA, where I am also on the waitlist for public housing. Again, thank you for your support. Yours truly, Monica

Monica, I hope you will be okay. I'm not sure what I can do to help, but let me know. At least, keep us up-to-date.

Monica you are the best and thanks for commenting as much as you do. Seems like I always learn much from you. Latest trip and gender mix up. I was at a Ross Store in GA ready to check out, in guy mode, and the female teller said I can help you over here Miss. I thought she was talking to someone else and then I realized I was the only one there. I checked out and am quite sure she thought I was a woman. Then the next day while eating at an IHOP with friends the waitress said to me what can I get you ma'am, because I was with friends I corrected her saying "sir." She repeated "sir" but when she came back she presented me my breakfast and said ma'am can I get you anything else. This time I did not correct her as actually I was a bit flattered and later I checked the mirror to try to see what she saw. Could be my chest/breasts are showing more (Was wearing a bra but straps were almost impossible to detect), earrings, hair, wore unisex clothing - still in acceptable unisex look.

Dear Karen, Emma and Chantal, Not only have I heard this about those who successfully transitioned dropping out of the T/LGB community as they make associations based on common interests rather than seeking out others simply for transitioning, but I also see this among Lesbians, usually after they find a committed relationship. In the case of the transwoman, I think it is a HEALTHY reason, while in the case of the Lesbians, it is because of insecurity, because healthy relationships are so difficult to find. Living in a place that gives you MANY OPPORTUNITIES and CHOICES is key! Your friend, Monica

Dawn, May I add, that I rejoice that you got 20,000+ views, because you are helping to encourage and inspire many people, most who are "lurkers," rather than people who leave a post, but these "invisible" people need help and support the most. Many people start out as "lurkers" first. Your friend, Monica