Hi Michele,
In case it helps I feel similarly. Not that I blend in nearly as well as you... ever. I think I always stand out a bit. I have been thinking about getting full on FFS and maybe other modifications but I’m not convinced I’d ever fully blend in. And, at what cost? The money is one thing and that’s considerable. The bigger thing for me is that I don’t want to feel compelled to wear another costume.
Like you I’m feeling more confident and proud of myself. I want to look nice, feminine, and appropriate for where I am, my age, etc. I’m thinking now about getting a face lift and brow lift, not to blend in but to look a little improved.
I think we need to try to do what makes us feel better, not for anyone else.
Emma