Yep, that Raven has landed on my shoulder, too. Never, ever let anyone in my inner circle and now after 64 years have just begun....a little bit at a time. I think my wife's death spurred my change in thought, but still keep myself quite guarded. I can say, though, since, I'm learning much about what I've missed in life and slowly but surely am seeing things I never thought could exist in human beings and quite frankly it's a joy and a challenge to be part of bringing those things out in both myself and others! How do I process it? Slowly but surely. There are still some disappointments, but the satisfactions far outweigh them.