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On Tuesday and Wednesday I shaved my legs (30 minutes and 2 razors for each leg! ), on Thursday I used depilatory cream on my chest and under arms (I like the ease but it never takes it all away roughly 10 mins including the rinse to make sure the cream is all off afterwards) and today I shaved my arms (30 mins for both). 😮😫 After being hairy again for so long - I cannot remember the last time I de-fuzzed entirely but it is almost like a literal weight has been lifted. I feel so much better!! 💖 I knew I would be at home today too so I put on a simple white top and a pair of loose fitting black wide trousers with white spots and then just some mascara and lip gloss and of course my hair and had a me morning. It was three hours of bliss I did not get any work done but honestly I cannot tell you just how right my reflection felt in the mirror and my mood has definitely lifted. Even having to spend the time taking the mascara off and putting on my dad clothes did not dampen my spirits. In other news I have been trying to look up how to tell your children you are transgender and have not found much that is helpful, lots of info for parents of transgender children, and a rather toxic mumsnet thread where 3 women who had split from their partners because they came out as transgender and then projected all of their fears and bigotry onto what the kids would think (that did make me sad - I have the same worry around getting my kids bullied that they cite but they really downplayed trans as a life choice - they said their partners when from being thoughtful men to self centred shallow women) I also found a blog from a woman who had told her children by asking them if they were okay with it - I already know that mine do not like change, the split has been tough enough for them, adding autism onto that will not make them say yes lol. However they dressed at home for a year in front of their children before they went full time.Though the good advice as talking about how sometimes things are not the same on the inside as they are on the outside is something I could use.. It's been an interesting day so far! x

Hi Dee, Always nice to hear from you, and good for you on losing all that scruffiness! On telling your children I would never ask them if they’re okay with it. In some ways their opinions don’t matter. You are what you are. I told my two sons individually, which I think worked well. I told them how I had determined that I am trans, and what it means. When they asked what I was going to do (this was about one year before starting any transition) I was honest: I didn’t know. I told them that I planned to continue to explore, figure out and determine my authentic self. One of my sons was very interested. I forwarded articles and YouTube vids to him. My other son didn’t care much at all.’ I suggest that you write out what you want to say before meeting with any of them.’ Maybe rehearse beforehand so you’ll remember it. And then, go forward. My son told me that i was inspiring to have come to my determination and, later, as I transitioned.