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That is my new fact for the day, I didn't now Accupuncture had mental health benefits too. : ) My allergies have started to settle down after decades living in this state. One of the things they don't tell you about big moves (I live roughly six hundred miles from where I grew up, and grew up literally across the world from where I was born) is that allergies and immunities can be an issue. Fortunately in my personal case exposure in daily life appears to have had some therapeutic effects and ithe reactions are much duller than it was my first decade here. I wish you the best conquering yours, allergies have such an impact on life quality in my personal opinion (aside form the obvious potential threat to actual life some people struggle with).

Dear Bree, Knew sleep apnea can lead to heart disease, but not depression. Had been diagnosed years ago with borderline sleep apnea years ago. My oldest brother has sleep apnea. As for myself, my youngest brother told me that he never heard someone snore as loud as me, so loud the whole house can hear it. He and his wife actually got up in the middle of the night to check on me. Don't know if it is related, but my dentist but tells me I show signs of grinding my teeth at night. Your friend, Monica

Well, BA, I have a couple of things to say: 1. It seems unlikely to me that she doesn’t want to break up for you. Take her at her word. Is she upset and concerned? Sure, pretty certainly. But I highly doubt you’re able to read her mind. That said I think you owe it to each other to have a heart-to-heart talk. You love her and it sounds like she very much loves you. Ask her sincerely what’s coming up for her these days. Listen, and ask more questions. Let her know that you’ve really heard her. She’ll love you even more. Don’t try to “fix” or “repair” her or her emotions. Just let her get them out into the open. 2. I personally know how the guilt and shame adds up to feeling like you’re better off gone. That would so terribly hurt her and I know you don’t want that so what do you do? After listening to her (see #1 above) ask if she’ll listen to you. I’ll bet she will. Pour your heart out to her. Your shame, doubts, worries. Tell her how sad you are, that you feel miserable for hurting her. Go ahead and cry if you need to. You both have each other and need each other. There’re no guarantees but it sounds to me like you both love each other deeply and are terrified about “what might happen.”