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  3. Briannah

    Still alive!

    Hi Monica! I have been settling back into the work force, and it's going reasonably well other than an insane amount of overtime. Going back to work has been good for my marriage since I see Nikki most in the car going there or back or at work! LOL And it's been completely different from my last company, no one here calls me stupid or blames me for everything and they actually seem to be pretty happy I'm there (and I've achieved things! LOL). But it doesn't leave so much time for a personal life. We still own the house, but are buying a new one closer to work anyway. We ran the math and can afford it, and the hour commute each way is LONG. So now we're in that weird we did everything we can and just have to wait for the final pieces and mortgage underwriters to finish up to close and actually get on with the moving. Dash diet is going well, and I'm really doing MUCH better. I know people were getting worried about me last fall, but it appears to have been mostly hypertension related. And removing the salt from the diet, my body is WORKING again. I still have the occasional bad day if I ear wrong, but mostly I feel great and am able to do more and more. I have nearly 7000 steps today on the fitbit, and while my legs are unhappy, I didnt' have to sit much and I kept up with the group. Nikki and I have relearned to eat as well as cook, and it's sort of an adventure! What have you been up to?
  4. Jessica237

    2 months hrt

    So fat iv been on hrt for like 10 months but am only counting it as 2 because that's how long I been on the injectable form . And so far so good so on the second round of lupron I discovered there's only one dose you can get I had to ask because I noticed semi arousal oppose to nothing with the spironolactone. And that's once a month still not sure if I can get more than one dose ? And the weekly esterdiol is the lowest dose of close to it 5ml a week I want more as I noticed a pleasurable feministic attitude that weres off so hopefully still waiting on results of current estrogen level. Ok so growth yes getting perky breasts and I obviously want bigger if I where a bra though it looks like I'm wearing a bra if I dont it looks like I got boobs if I fold my arms somebody say I look like a football player witch really made me mad like omg so mad swearing and everything very bad expressionism excuse me but whatever .o so yes I can be very moody if provoked and i think that can be animated considering my hrt so i do keep that in mind . Also my weight distribution is not ideal as i have a nice butt now looks like a bubble and female so that's good but my legs got thicker some pants dont fit anymore and i got a belly , so waiting till all that stops as it only started 2 months ago and that equals 35 pounds. Also no motivation to work still trying to get a grip with that as far as what is the cause and am led to believe its my hiv and meds from that witch is just one pill genvoya and that started the motivation loss prior to being diagnosed so definitely hiv not the meds from it .o I'm also undetectable and my cd 4 #s were last over 500 I forgot exactly , so far I'm on welfare as I kept getting injured doing work that normally takes 2 well fit men to do and cant get up in the morning and cant sleep at night either so working on that still with my dr s. In the mean time having no income it's a fight to eat and have food or have clothes and I worry alot about homelessness but somehow I been staying afloat without doing anything bad so that's good and trying to find work that I can do that's not so bad to do and I do find it as scarce as it is . Well I'll be back again to share how my transition is going In a bit till then blessings and be kind Jessica
  5. I think I'll just get one on ebay So it's still better than shaving every day So like once a month or once every 2 weeks I would have to shave so far with laser hair removal.
  6. Wow I did not know that Omg So how much does that cost ?
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  8. EShaver

    Virginia TIES , now in it's 4th year !

    I'm not real sure who is putting the classes together for this year's T I E S yet . I do know I have volunteered to do a class in How to dress for an interview . You're welcome to contact me at my work as I own a design and exhibition service ......
  9. MonicaPz

    Still alive!

    Bree, I am so glad you're back!
  10. Briannah

    Still alive!

    So that job Nikki took last year has been going well, he's still there, and I have joined up also. More money than I've ever made, and while the working conditions are extremely chaotic and we don't have much time for a personal life, it's weirdly satisfying and they seem to like me. And it enabled us to afford to buy another house while we wait to sell the one we still own. Which of course means my NJ friends aren't talking to me for this week after I showed them the Zillow ad and admitted I negotiated under asking price, which could maybe buy me a garden shed back home. I do miss NJ still, but who can afford it these days! Nikki's doing wonderfully despite not being in therapy since she passed, but he plans to find a new one once we are settled. I get not wanting to start over twice, and I hope he gets one he likes as much. I think he's way more stable these days than I am. Of course, I also am the one that came up with the idiot plan to move in with my mom to try to sell our house. *smirks* Self-inflicted injury. But we are moving FINALLY sometime in the next month or two. Still married, still going along with the flow, have managed to NOT injure myself with Nikki's breast forms lately (brownie points to anyone who remembers that story!). Although I did manage to nearly kill myself with mom's weird bathtub, the kind that goes waist high that you walk in and bath in without having to step over the tub wall with this odd shaped door by slamming my head into it full bore when I dropped something. Some days it's a wonder I live. Nikki also wants me to go back to a therapist, he did some research and thinks I've been misdiagnosed with add instead of adhd, as apparently it presents differently in women, but they'd only done the research on male children back in my day. If he's right it explains a lot. *Looks around* I refused to tell him how many of the criteria I fit when he was asking me about the list, I'll get a pro to re-diagnose me thank you very much. LOL Hope you are all doing well!
  11. Christy

    This world is destroying my family

    I know NJ and you are correct that the teens in most parts can be hard core. I still have some family there. Not all but a lot of sixteen year old girls dress like 25 year olds. The boys are no different. Tough land for the timid. BUT and that is a big but, there are more transgender people all around you than you think. They are at the store, in the movie theater, bowling Ali , cafe, golf course, race track, riding by you on their motorcycle, ball game, Delivering babies. Etc. You just don’t know it because they pass! That is the truth. The earlier you transition....the better you will pass and most people who transition later in life wish they had done it earlier. There is a plus side to a later transition: money, knowledge, life experience. Transgender people are for the most part strong mentality because of the crap they go through. Times are changing and most kids today are pretty dam understanding. Stick up for your kids, fight for them. Fight for your family. Don’t let your kids manipulate you. At some point your other kids might need to meet some new people. Might help. I personally don’t get bent out of shape when people don’t understand. Hell it took me a long time to wrap my head around it. 10 years ago I would have said the same things you are saying. I would have felt the same way. Some people are hell bent on forcing their views and beliefs on others. They demand to be understood but that is selfish in my opinion. I do know that your child will be healthier if you spend some time getting to know some trans people. (Maybe you already do). Hear their stories. Before I would have been terrified to go to lunch with a trans friend in fear of association. AND I AM TRANS! Crazy. The truth is that where ever your child ends up she/he will have friends and love as long as you are their to guide him/her. Learn as much as you can. Here is a good YouTube link to get you started. https://youtu.be/GW8Plf_IXGs “Face that what you fear and that fear will die” Emerson All my best. Christy
  12. Briannah

    On Turning Sixty . . .

    Happy belated birthday, and I hope it was as lovely as you are. As for society at large, make them give way! Dont' let them put you under any feet! There is one benefit we tend to forget as we age, along with all the changes you outlined, comes knowledge and the realization that we don't have to care anymore and can be who we want to be. I'm working again, but my hair is still blue and they can like it for example, where I spent most of my youth too scared to do things I wanted that were outside the norm. There is still much to revel in my friend, and I wish you joy exploring and find it all!
  13. Emma

    This world is destroying my family

    With all due respect this sentence and its sentiment upset me. Imagine, if you will, how much courage it's taken your child to come out to you. And then pat yourself on the back that your child opted to do this instead of hurting themselves, perhaps even attempting suicide. I'd say it's quite positive that your child trusted you enough to overcome their own fears to do this. The positive thing would be if you shed your own worries and baggage and allowed your son (which is how I believe they wish to be addressed) to take a lead in this. Listen to your wife and especially your child. Just because you don't understand it that doesn't make it bad. Time for you to get out of your head and actually talk with and meet other parents of trans kids. Instead of casting so much doubt and worry about your child get real and up close with your child and their situation. You're whining and it's not becoming. Sure, your son son won't fit in with the girls in their puberty. Yes, he may have troubles with the boys. All kids have tough teen years, you know that. I'm at a loss of what else to say. I feel that you're looking at the glass as half empty instead of half full. I'm very frustrated and sad at the moment. I am well aware of how hard it is to raise kids. I have two adult sons of my own with their own issues. You can choose this moment to step up and be a real father or try to put your child back into their head which is likely to erupt in all sorts of negative ways, perhaps even death. Up to you.
  14. JeffDad

    This world is destroying my family

    MomPride... that's great that you feel the way you do and just jumped on the trans train the moment your child said they believed they were trans. It would be much easier for me if I could delude myself into believing this is a positive thing but I can't. I really am happy for you. You are very accepting of the situation and believe that this is good for your son. I believe this is a disaster in the making for my daughter. My wife says she has never seen our child be this happy being a boy. I believe this is a moment in time of happiness until the real world situations kick in. My daughter is 11. I do not see her fitting in with girls as they hit puberty and I do not see boys accepting her as a boy. While I will always be there to love and support my child, I see a life of misery and struggle ahead. I hope I am wrong...... sooooo wrong.... but I fear I will be right.
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  16. MonicaPz

    On Turning Sixty . . .

    Dear Emma, My mindset is like that of a 40 year old, but my body tells me different. It is like a conflict. It might have to do with that I live in a senior apartment complex. Saw your picture with your friends, and I feel I would fit in with that crowd! Your friend, Monica
  17. Emma

    On Turning Sixty . . .

    Monica, I’m 62 so a tad older but similar in age. I’m more self-conscious about my voice and face than about my age spots, easily bruised arms, and stuff like that. I think that most people are self-conscious and worried. It’s part of the human condition. The trick is to have awareness of our feelings, let them breathe within ourselves, but not allow them to hold us back. Carpe dium, make every day as precious as you can. Emma
  18. MonicaPz

    On Turning Sixty . . .

    Looking back, I accepted my birthdays quite happily and proudly except for the last year before the decade turned and the first year of the new decade. For instance, I grieved turning 19, as I knew this was the last year I could call myself a teenager, and grieved a little more at 20, as I knew I was not only no longer a teenager, but never will be again. This happened at ages 29 and 30, as I knew I was leaving "young adulthood" behind. Again, at ages 39 and 40, I knew I was definitely middle aged. At 50, I realized I was medically a senior. And now, at 59 turning to 60, I definitely was a senior! Sometimes, I am unexpectedly reminded that I am getting older, such as the time I visited a beautiful library in downtown Brooklyn, that was filled with young people. Finally I found a seat, among a large group of teenagers, and I settled down to my work. Noticed adults pacing up and down between the tables. Finally I got up and asked the librarian if it was OK to sit where I was, and she answered that I was sitting among high school students taking their SAT's! The adults walking around them where proctors! Apologized, and moved my stuff. This scene reminded me so much of myself when I was their age, and how different I am now to what I was then. Somehow, I seem to see my life by decades. 0 - 10 Child 10 - 20 Preteen and teen 20 - 30 Young adult 30 - 40 Young middle-aged 40 - 50 Older middle-aged 50 - 60 Young senior Interestingly, the last few years I dream about being 18 - 22 years old and not using mobility aids (a cane)! In my case, I feel like in my early 40's, except when I am reminded that I am 60 when I look in the mirror or notice I suffer more aches and pains than in the past. Recently I had what I call, "The Linear Dream." At the time I was 58. There was a marked linear line, marked off by feet. At the other end of the linear line, was my two year old great niece, standing, facing me, at the two foot mark. In my case, I was at the sixty foot mark, having stepped forward to the fifty-eight foot mark, as I was fifty-eight years old. Know the dream was about age, but, beyond that, I do not know what it means. Somehow, I feel more comfortable about aging, when I think in terms of "the circle of life," rather than linearly. Here are some of the changes I have observed in myself due to aging: Fear of being "out of date." Fear of being alone (dying alone). Don't have as much a sense of purpose as I used to. Can't be as much "hands on" as I used to (accepting physical projects) More "word finding" difficulties. Having trouble with spelling and grammar. Chronic pain. Can't run. Less balance. Feel "underfoot" by society at large. More spiritual. Less eye/hand coordination. Difficulty learning new material. Feel less confident in finding a partner. Don't feel needed by my family. Can't walk far. Difficulty hearing with background noise. Intermittent tremor. Greater difficulty losing weight and keeping it off. Can't see as well, requiring a magnifier as well as glasses. Dry and thinning skin. Dry scalp and hair falling out at the scalp, as well as thinning and finer hair (don't mention the gray!) "Age spots." Dry mouth and eyes. Easy bruising. May I ask how you have coped with aging?
  19. Christy

    Wow

    Great Picture! It is nice to see you living life with a smile. I just got back from 8 days hiking the SW National parks Zion, Bryce, Grand canyon etc. and was shocked at how many trans people I met along the way. There was even a young FTM in our tour group. MTF park rangers and tourists from around the world. I am sure there were many more that I didn't even realize. Just incredible. I must say I am a bit jealous because I would have loved to hike around and swim in the rivers as me but I'm not quite ready yet. Someday. Enjoy life Emma!! Love the pics. Christy
  20. Gennee

    Shoes

    I'm 12E in a men's shoe. I also have a wide foot.
  21. MomPride

    This world is destroying my family

    My son just came out as trans 3 days ago. First thing I did was hop online. The first thing I read was a blog by a Mom of another Trans child. To paraphrase, it said: Your child already knows it will be infinitely more difficult to live Trans than continue to pretend they are the wrong gender. By the time they tell you, they have thought a LOT about it. Whether they were talking to you about it or not, they have been thinking about it for a long time. It is not a phase. It is not a mistake. They will not grow out of it. They are not wrong. It just is. Your son hasn't changed, he is just now being open and honest with you. I have to keep reminding myself of what that other Mom said - there is so much truth in it. As I see it, this isn't about us. It isn't about how anyone else judges us as parents; except for our children. It matters that they see us loving and supporting them no matter what. It matters that their siblings see it and know they will be supported and loved and that the siblings see it is OK for them to accept our sons. I went shopping for boy clothes for my son today, and it was FUN! I made sure to use masculine pronouns with him. I still can't use his new name, but baby steps, right?
  22. MomPride

    Virginia TIES , now in it's 4th year !

    My son JUST came out as trans. Will you post who signs up for the workshops? If a service provider will go out of their way to attend, that is who I want my son to see.
  23. MonicaPz

    Wow

    Dear Emma, You girls look great! Also, you look like you really fit in, as in, say, "one of the girls!" Monica
  24. Emma

    Wow

    I joined TG Guide almost four years ago. The time seems short and in hindsight it's passed quickly but there were many deep valleys amid the peaks. Last weekend I hiked to Tolmie Peak with some lesbian friends. Imagine that, out and about as natural as can be. Now making plans for GCS, hopefully by end of Q1 2019. And yesterday my ex-wife phoned to ask if I'd like for her to help me through recovery! (You bet, I answered.) Wow.
  25. They hath disgraced Transgender folks and hindered our existence, laughed at our struggle, mocked at our gains, scorned our identity, thwarted our dreams, cooled our friends, heated our enemies – and what's their reason? We are Trans. Hath not Trans folks eyes? Hath not Trans folks hands, organs, dimensions, senses, affections, passions; fed with the same food, hurt with the same weapons, subject to the same diseases, healed by the same means, warmed and cooled by the same winter and summer as CIS folks are? If you prick us, do we not bleed? If you tickle us, do we not laugh? If you poison us, do we not die? And if you wrong us, shall we not revenge? If we are like you in the rest, we will resemble you in that. - Original text from Shakespeare’s A Merchant in Venice edited by me to reflect Transgender folks struggle in a heteronormative bigoted society.
  26. SkyQueerChic

    I am transgender. Yes, yes I am

    I am transgender. Yes, yes I am. Millions in our community are on my side. Science is on my side. Psychology is on my side. Civility is on my side. Respectability is on my side. Love, is on my side. Friendships are on my side. Humxn history is on my side. Just love us for who we are. We are just as real, just as humxn, and just as worthy as you. ♥️
  27. SkyQueerChic

    Just a lil intro

    I am a Trans Womxn, I am Queer I came out March 25th 2016 My pronouns are XE XIR XIRS I am a womxn, I am valid, I am beautiful I deserve love, respect & happiness like everybody else Please see me as the Womxn I am Please see me as the humxn being I am Please love me and respect me & no throw me away I have sooooo much love inside me that shouldn’t go to waste Please see me, please value me.
  28. Emma

    Shoes

    It’s all approximate especially for women’s shoe sizes. My women’s size is 11 or 12, and the width is medium. Go to Payless and try shoes on that you like and you’ll soon see what I mean.
  29. Hazeleyes40

    Transgender Housing Network

    Is there a website for studio apartments for rent and affordable. I’m in NYC.
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