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  2. Thanks Monica,. I am fairly good with computers but this one does baffel me Seems like anytime we have an update my photo files cannot be loaded. Happened before during a receint mod and I was able to reduce the file size and get the photo to load. Only affects the album loader. Thanks for the comment - actually feel like I am a bit overweight - getting ready to do a Coolwrap procedure. More soon. Your Friend - Dawn
  3. Jessicatoyou

    My wife brought this up to me. I said “What?”

    Yeah, I laughed. Out Loud! 😂 Already checked out the video this morning. I like her. Thanks for the other links, too. It will keep me busy! DON'T STOP! But look both ways. Jessica😍
  4. Christy

    My wife brought this up to me. I said “What?”

    Warning this content may cause certain individuals to be triggered! Viewer discretion is advised! If you notice any signs of discomfort please stop reading intermittently and seek medical attention from Dr. Anne M. Vitale PhD. ASAP. Okay my peeps! Here is a link to the video Monica found I hope you like it.😄 Then below that is her website! I just found it which is kind of embarrassing because it's basically her name. Crazy how a search with her name brought up nothing but when I added the PhD. There it was. Anyway look below. I will be busy going through that website for some time. I might even call her for more insight on a couple of things. Hope you enjoy. Her website. http://avitale.com Please let me know what you think and I hope the top made you laugh....just a bit. Christy😍
  5. Jessicatoyou

    My wife brought this up to me. I said “What?”

    Haha, not surprised! Jess
  6. Christy

    My wife brought this up to me. I said “What?”

    Jess I love horses too 😍
  7. Christy

    My wife brought this up to me. I said “What?”

    I just watched the video. I think she answered the 3 questions spot on. Now this was recorded in 2012 and something’s have changed but I believe she has a tremendous grasp on the transgender/transsexualism issue. Now at 40 years of experience, treating hundreds if not thousands (at this point) of transgender clients and being transgender herself I believe her to be an invaluable resource. I will post some links shortly for those who are interested.
  8. Mikaylajane79

    My life moving forward

    Well moving forward I am cutting contact with all my family except my ex wife and son. It is really messed up when the only person I have that accepts me and supports me is my ex wife. Her and I have a long story and well she says she loves me but won't do anything to show it to me. Just says it. She says she understands me but yet she doesn't because she thinks that me being trans and having these feelings I do is my mom's fault. No I have been like this as long as I can remember. I remember when my older sister was going through puberty I was like Damn I hope in a few years I am as pretty as she is. Then it hit me a few years later and No was like uh WTF this is not supposed to be me. I have felt off ever since. So I don't think my mom loving my sister's more and telling me I was supposed to be a girl and do girl things and then. All of a sudden is like your my son you don't dress like that or do those things anymore has everything to do with it. But it would be nice if she could at least accept me for me. And not look at me with disgust all the time. I probably won't speak to her again unless I absolutely have to.
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  10. Jessicatoyou

    My wife brought this up to me. I said “What?”

    I know much more about horses than mules, although I've been called a mule on occasion! (in addition to other descriptions of the species). I absolutely love horses, but that's not the purpose of this message guide. If you want to PM me will tell you more., ….❤️ Jess
  11. Christy

    My wife brought this up to me. I said “What?”

    Monica the pic is from one of the canyons in the south west. They are mostly mules. Big ears and they can see all 4 hoofs making them ideal haulers and sure footed on steep narrow trails. There were a couple of horses as well.
  12. Jessicatoyou

    My wife brought this up to me. I said “What?”

    Love ya, Monica! Just when I've screwed up. you have my back!😍
  13. MonicaPz

    My wife brought this up to me. I said “What?”

    Dear Friends, Anne Vitale has made one 12 minute YouTube video in 2012. You can search for her under "Anne Vitale" in YouTube. Hope this helps. Yours truly, Monica
  14. Jessicatoyou

    My wife brought this up to me. I said “What?”

    Christy and Monica, Sorry, my fault. I mentioned it in a previuos post, then realized my mistake and edited it out. Was thinking of Dara Hoffman Fox. Will be getting her book too! Jess
  15. Christy

    My wife brought this up to me. I said “What?”

    I don't think I mentioned viewing any of her video's. I haven't been able to find any video's so if you do please let me know.😀 I have only done a quick search though.
  16. MonicaPz

    Message Forum Upgrade

    Dear Dawn, Hope someone can help you. At my local library, there are two wonderful technical librarians who have helped me with tech issues in the past. Perhaps your local library have tech libarians/volunteers? In your photograph, you look slim and trim, which has inspired me to lose weight! Your friend, Monica
  17. MonicaPz

    My wife brought this up to me. I said “What?”

    Dear Friends, Am going to check out her YouTube videos! Thanks for bringing her YouTube videos to my attention! Your friend, Monica
  18. Jessicatoyou

    My wife brought this up to me. I said “What?”

    Thanks again. I found a used paperback off amazon, was the last one, very cheap, very good condition via snail mail. I should have it this weekend. I can wait; have already waited 5 decades, lol.😊 Jess
  19. Christy

    My wife brought this up to me. I said “What?”

    You are welcome. I will be interested in your thoughts on the book. I bought it as an ebook. I do have it in a pdf file so I could send it but that would be stealing Soo. I have been and always will be searching.
  20. Jessicatoyou

    My wife brought this up to me. I said “What?”

    Thank you Christy. I've already ordered the book this past Saturday. I studied Psychology and Sociology quiet extensively in my college years, and have known many "therapists" and most I've held a rather dim opinion of, but not all! Back then I suppose I was looking for my own answers, mostly, but this was unchartered territory in those times. Jessica😍
  21. Christy

    My wife brought this up to me. I said “What?”

    No worries at all Emma! It is my hope that the following will help people understand the author and the book as well as the self proclaimed scientist in me👩🏼‍🔬😘. I believe she transitioned in 1979. MTF. I found that her experience with “500 gender-variant clients over the last 26 years— covering everything from intake to long-term outcomes.” at the time of publication to be one of the most extensive I have found so far. Also that she is transgender herself brings an understanding that shouldn’t be ignored but could also cause some bias. I was aware of this as I was reading and didn’t detect any bias. Very clinical. I could be wrong though and that’s why I will read it again. 4x. I really liked the chapter “Genderizing the Brain” it made a lot of sense to me personally. It’s logical and if it’s true explains a great deal for me personally which falls in line with my beliefs that there is an environmental impact on the fetus. Could be chemical, stress on the mother, food intake or an entire array of variables that will take a lifetime to identify. It also might be an evolutionary change for the human race that has been going on for thousands of years. Those are my personal thoughts on this and more study is greatly needed. I also really appreciated how she broke it down into 3 groups and then the stages of life that these groups go through. “Based on hundreds of self reports taken on client intake in the last 26 years, I have noticed that gender variant individuals seem to fall into three relatively distinct categories. For discussion purposes only and with no regard to importance or severity of diagnosis, I have categorized these permutations into Group One, Group Two and Group Three.“ I definitely don’t like being put into any type of group or “box” but this is for discussion purposes only and I absolutely fall into group 3. Then she discusses the stages of life, and she calls “GID”, “GEDAD” as she feels it is a better description. I agree because as soon as I was able to start expressing myself my “GD” began to diminish. Immediately. “Gender Expression Deprivation Anxiety Disorder (GEDAD). If left untreated, GEDAD manifests itself differently in each of the five classical developmental stages of life: confusion and rebellion in childhood, false hopes and disappointment in adolescence, hesitant compliance in early adulthood, feelings of self-induced entrapment in middle age, and if still untreated, depression and resignation in old age. Untreated GEDAD as it is manifested across the five major stages of life. GEDAD in childhood is characterized by confusion and rebellion GEDAD in adolescence is characterized by false hopes and disappointment GEDAD in early adulthood is characterized by hesitant compliance to the norm GEDAD in middle age is characterized by feelings of self induced entrapment GEDAD in older adulthood is characterized by depression and resignation.” The book goes into a more detailed description of each. What the book is about: “Finally, this book is about the people who, for no reason of their own making, find themselves intellectually and emotionally separated from living fulfilled lives by the sex of their physical body. It is the story of what it means for thousands of men, women and children who suffer gender expression deprivation anxiety but find a way to go on to live full and successful lives.“ I hope this wasn’t too much to digest but it is my goal to disseminate as much quality material as possible. I have spent a lot of time researching the gender issue to try and find some answers for myself. So, if someone can benifit from my limited discovery’s......well that’s a positive thing. I would absolutely love for people who read this entire book to provide feedback as well. That’s how we come to a better understanding of things. Civil communication is paramount for a democratic society. Who am I? Well, I put this into one of my paintings back in 03’. I didn’t even think about it. It was pure emotion at a really tough time in my life. I couldn’t sleep so at 3am I started painting. Someone else had suggested that I paint away my overwhelming emotional anxiety. I knew nothing about painting at the time but I was willing to try anything. I had attempted suicide about a year earlier and my wife saved my life. I was really struggling to survive and this just flowed out of me onto the canvas like water rolling off a ducks back. It has been deeply ingrained into my soul and I never forget that this is my truth. “I am a small pebble thrown into the still pond of life, creating ripples that go out into the world, always returning to me through the filters of life itself.” I guess I should probably write a blog about it because I still get emotional. Learn, live, love ❤️ Positive ripples please 😘. Christy 😍
  22. Emma

    My wife brought this up to me. I said “What?”

    I may very well have screwed up throwing Anne Vitale under the bus. I’m sorry that I may have confused her with another. No harm intended!
  23. Hello everyone - still trying to load photos and cannot. Is there a format that seems to be working best? I have tried to slim down the file size but still no luck in posting. Dawn This is the photo I have been trying to load here. But cannot load it into my Albums. Dawn
  24. Christy

    My wife brought this up to me. I said “What?”

    Thank ya Monica. It was published in 2010. So yeah somethings are outdated like surgery, soc etc. but it is the descriptions of what she noticed in her patients that I found accurate and made me think. I realized a lot about my own life. I also like “gender expression deprivation anxiety.” Instead of GID. I truly feel that had I been aloud to express myself in the way I truly wanted to without the shame, fear or ridicule. There would have been far less stress in my life especially as I got older. But hey I don’t regret it so....hopefully more people will be able to avoid what I went through. That’s the goal. Isn’t it?
  25. MonicaPz

    My wife brought this up to me. I said “What?”

    Dear Christy and Emma, Christy, I am proud of you for acknowledging that being asked about your use of smart phones and smart pads triggers you. We all have our triggers. Am a horse lover, and I love the picture of the horses. Were they photographed at a dude ranch? In my opinion, I feel many transwomen (as well as transmen), go through a "second adolescence," and they should, reflecting their response to the change of hormones coursing through their bodies. Emma, I have not read Anne Vitale's book, but there is outdated information that some cross dressers get a "sexual high," when cross dressing. Am going to read her book. Will see when it was published. Generally, a book is out of date five years after it is published. By the way, Emma, what is the book you like to recommend? Yours truly, Monica
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