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  1. Lori added a topic in Mental Health and Crisis Intervention   

    Online Resources for Transgender Mental Health, Crisis Intervention and Suicide Prevention
    The following are the web addresses for individuals in crisis. However, if any person is in immediate danger of suicide, call 9-1-1 (in the US and Canada), or other emergency number in your area, right away.
    http://www.glnh.org/ (US, All ages)
    This is a GLBT National Help Center website. There both hotlines and talklines listed on the homepage, and also a link to a peer-support chat.
    http://www.thetrevorproject.org/ (US)
    While The Trevor Project can be beneficial to many, it is geared toward our youth, providing crisis intervention and suicide prevention.
    http://www.suicidepr...onlifeline.org/ (US, English & Spanish language)
    The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is also the place to turn to if you are a victim of bullying. There are also resources for veterans.
    http://www.samaritans.org/ (UK & Ireland)
    Samaritans is an emotional support service for anyone in the UK and Ireland, available 24 hours a day.
    http://www.suicide.org/   (U.S.)
    Suicide.org - suicide prevention, awareness and support
    http://www.translifeline.org/  (US & Canada)
    Trans Lifeline has a hotline staffed by transgender people, for transgender people.
    NOTE:  There have been reports that people have called this lifeline and got no answer.  It is apparently staffed by all volunteers, and the website does indicate when there are no operators on call.
    Suicide survivors forum
    A listing of suicide and crisis hotlines around the world
    http://www.befrienders.org/help-and-support (International)
    Another site for finding helplines and hotlines around the world.

    http://www.suicide.org/international-suicide-hotlines.html  (International)
    Listing by country for finding suicide hotlines
    ATTENTION:  Because this is an international list, I recommend that you locate the appropriate crisis number in your area in advance, and keep it near your phone or in your contacts to have if ever needed.  A list of this magnitude may not be beneficial if you are in crisis, or trying to help someone in crisis, and needing support NOW.
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  2. Lori added a topic in Message Board Rules   

    Message Board Rules
    The TGGuide message forums are a free service provided for transsexual, transgender, cross dressing and intersex people to create a fun, friendly, intelligent and informative atmosphere. But to maintain our atmosphere, we ask that you follow the following rules and guidelines to help create a respectable community for those who come here and prevent abuse of these forums and the people who post here. The rules and guidelines posted in this forum do not supersede any rules and guidelines posted for the site or message boards as a whole; they supplement any and all such site or forum-wide rules.
    Our Rules and Guidelines
    1. Forum rules
    a. Posts are to be made in the relevant forum and Users are asked to read the forum descriptions before posting.  A post started in the wrong forum will be moved.  Off-topic posts that become a distraction or a large part of a thread's content will be deleted or moved to an appropriate forum if the post meets the description of a target forum.  Follow-up posts to off-topic content will also be deleted or moved as appropriate.  Posts to this board may be modified by registered members, but moderators are under no obligation to remove the posts of a present or former member.
    b. Users are asked to refrain from acting as "back seat moderators". If members note an issue which contravenes something in this policy document they are welcome to bring it to the attention of a member of the Moderator Team if a Moderator Team Member has not replied within 6 hours.
    c. Users should remember this board is aimed at a general audience so postings should be directed at a G or PG rating level. Posting pornographic or offensive text (including user names, and terminology such as tranny, shemale, fag, etc.), images (including avatars, emoticons), links or other content will not be tolerated.
    d. Users are asked to respect the copyright of content owners. Posts linking to or asking for information on warez, crackz, etc. or re-printing material without permission of the copyright owner are in violation of our rules and will be removed, and will subject the member to further administrative action.
    e. Users should respect the bandwidth of other users and sites and refrain from the use of image tags referencing data stored on third party systems for which the user has not received permission to reference.
    f. Users should not post excessive numbers of emoticons or text which does not follow the norm for size and color. Users should not write entirely in upper-case letters or use excessive punctuation in topic titles or posts.
    g. Users should use an appropriate, descriptive title when posting a new topic. Examples of bad titles include; "intersex problem", "money", "trouble", etc. Examples of good titles include; "Medical complications associated with adrenal hyperplasia", "What problems did you experience while transitioning?", etc.
    h. Spam is not tolerated here under any circumstance. This includes offering hosting services (charged and free), installation services, etc. Users posting spam will be warned and their post removed. See specific item on spam and 3rd party linking for more information.
    i. Users are asked to not post topics or replies containing information which may detail a security vulnerability in the TGGuide services. If you believe you have found a hole or other issue please contact webmaster@tgguide.com. NOTE that this address is not to be used for general support questions - please use the "Forum Help & Support" forum for general board support questions. If you do email this address for a support issue do not expect a reply.
    j. The Moderator, Support and other Teams reserve the right to edit or remove any post at any time. The determination of what is construed as indecent, vulgar, spam, etc. as noted in these points is up to Team Members and not users.
    k. Personal attacks, bashing, baiting, threats, trolling, profanity and sexual innuendos are strictly prohibited.
    l. Users may not divulge the content of private messages or moderator correspondence without the permission of the author.
    m. Users may not publicly post any information which may reveal his or her identity. Such information includes, but is not limited to a Member's full name, address, social security number, credit card or bank account information.
    n. Users may not impersonate another user, use avatars that portray the user as another user or as having an official status, or access another user's account.
    o. Users may not post commercial or non-commercial information that may reasonably be considered advertisements.
    p. Users may not re-edit a post that has already been edited by a Moderator.
    q. Users may not discuss bans or any other Moderator actions on the forum because such discussion usually results in a flame war. Please ask questions via the private message system to individual Moderators.
    r. The gender identity and/or presentation of all people is to be respected. Members and non-members are to be addressed and referred to in the gender of their presentation. We will not allow disrespect of any person based on gender pronouns.
    s. Occasionally, there may be exceptions to the rules above and the Moderator Team reserves the right to be able to make exceptions to rules when we believe an exception may better our community.
    t. Abusive or unique situations may arise that are not covered by our rules, but we reserve the right to deal with those situations in a manner appropriate to protect the integrity of our forums and community.
    u. Users are prohibited from starting or participating in any discussion that aids, encourages, details, abets or facilitates illegal activity of any kind.
    v. We do not condone attacks, flaming or disparaging comments, originating from these forums, against any website, group or persons, even if we disagree with their views. We will not infringe on the rights of others to express their opinions or views on their own forums or pages. Posts may, however, be made, or information included in on-going threads about organized petitions that have been started, such as at change.org or other similar sites.
    w. Users may not discuss how to obtain hormones without a prescription or their specific dosages of hormones (Ex: I take XX mgs of premarin a day with XX mg spiro. What do you take?). We must emphasize that hormones are only to be administered by a competent physician. Do not take chances with your life.
    x. These forum rules apply equally to our public and private forums, private messaging, forum chat, status comments, photos (including avatars), member galleries, member blogs, calendar and associated comment fields.
    y. It is recommended that Users review the Board Rules occasionally as rules are subject to be edited or updated as necessary without notice.

    2. Avatars/Emoticons
    a. Users are permitted to upload an avatar image subject to the limitation that user-defined avatars are to be no larger than 90 pixels square, must contain no animation, must not contain any image which attempts to portray the user as having an official status here, and may not exceed 6KB in file size.
    b. Avatars/Emoticons are subject to the same conditions as posts with respect to decency and other restrictions.

    3. Policing
    a. The TGGuide forums operate a three-strike policy. Users will be warned a maximum of three times for any and all rules violations during a three month period. Upon the issuance of a third warning, a temporary ban lasting 1 to 7 days may be put in place against the violator.
    b. Users who argue with Team Members about a warning they have received will immediately receive an additional warning. Should this raise the User's total of warnings to 3, a ban may be put in place as in 4a above.
    c. Users who feel they have been unfairly warned are welcome to contact the Moderation Leader. If the Moderation Leader feels you were treated badly he or she will remove a warning. If you feel the Moderation Leader's decision is also unfair you may contact the webmaster to appeal. Contacting the webmaster for appeal before all other avenues for appeal have been exhausted is forbidden.
    d. Any User who attempts to circumvent a temporary ban will cause that ban to be made permanent. Circumvention includes re-registering under a non-banned username, changing IP addresses to evade an IP ban or registering a new email account to evade an email ban.
    e. Any User who directly contacts a Team Member personally and posts insulting, indecent or vulgar material immediately forfeits all right to use the forums and may be subject to an immediate permanent ban.
    f. Permanent bans are a last resort to a problem User's actions and discussion is undertaken before permanent bans are put in place, and will only be removed on a case-by-case basis.
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  3. Lori added a topic in What's New at The Transgender Guide   

    Transgender Chat Room
    Transgender Chat Room Updates
    We've been working hard behind the scenes and have some exciting news regarding our transgender chat room. The chat software has been upgraded for optimal security. Your registered username and password is safe! You can still enter as a guest but we recommend you take a few minutes to register for a chat account. Please note that you will need to register separately for the chat room if you want to secure your username for the chat room. It operates on a third party platform that requires separate registration.
    Registered Member Profiles
    The new transgender chat profiles have been installed and work great. You can enter personal information and a photo of yourself, if you'd like. The profiles are one of the more popular features of our chat room. This is a great way to get to know other folks. You can still access our old TG chat profiles in case you want to copy the information or photos for your new profile.
    Who's Chatting Feature
    We have included a Who's Chatting feature so you can check to see who's logged in before you join the chat session in progress. This has proven to be a popular feature that allows members to check to see if their friends are signed in prior to entering the chat.
    Social Chat Promotes Inclusiveness
    Many of the transgender chat rooms online seem to focus on special groups and you'll be shunned if you don't fit in. We take pride in being inclusive of everyone associated with the transgender community. We welcome male to female, female to male, pre-op, post-op, non-op, transgender, transsexuals, crossdressers, transvestites, intersexed, androgynous, straight, gay, bisexual, pansexual, metrosexual, genetic males, genetic females, significant others and friends.
    Moderator Selection and Training
    Being supportive of all transgender community members requires a special skills for our moderator staff. We have developed a rather comprehensive selection and training criteria to ensure our moderator staff can meet the needs of our diverse membership. You're welcome to review our transgender chat moderator selection and training guidelines.
    Transgender Chat Portals
    We have worked with our sister sites, as well as some friendly associate sites to create a network of chat portals. This greatly increases the reach of our chat room so we can bring in an active group of participants. You're likely to find a lively chat going on any time of the day or night. Some major chat portals are;
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  4. Lori added a post in a topic Transgender Physician in Portland, Oregon Area   

    Dr. Becker has retired, however, there are other physicians within the office who have taken on her transgender patients. 
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  5. Lori added a topic in What's New at The Transgender Guide   

    Apologies for the Interruption
    We apologize for the downtime following a recent failure due to a failed upgrade attempt and resulting database errors. It took some time to figure out but we're back. It's good to be back online. Come on in and socialize!
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  6. Lori added a post in a topic Repeal of US Military Ban on Trans Service Members   

    The US has been very resistant to change with regard to transgender people. While I'm happy to see change finally coming about, I have to ask what the hell took so long. We're supposed to be a freedom loving society but if you're a member of any number of marginalized groups, then you don't get to enjoy the American Dream. 
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  7. Lori added a topic in Transgender News & Happenings   

    Repeal of US Military Ban on Trans Service Members
    Pentagon officials: Repeal of ban on transgender service members coming within weeks
    Read the article online at https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/checkpoint/wp/2016/06/24/pentagon-repeal-of-ban-on-transgender-service-members-coming-in-july/
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  8. Lori added a comment on a blog entry Addictions   

    I'm glad you found your way out of the bad relationship. Been there, done that! I'm sure you have grown wiser from the experience. I usually find that there is something to take away from every relationship, no matter how painful. 
    Bipolar disorder is a complex disease. I've seen people try self medication through marijuana or other drugs. I've also seen them quit taking their prescribed medication without medical supervision. Both have always been a disaster. Somehow I've known quite a few people with the disorder. Properly supervised they seem to lead reasonably normal lives but I've never seen alternative treatments work. I may be wrong, but I've never seen it.
    Wishing you the best as you move forward with your life. 
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  9. Lori added a topic in What's New at The Transgender Guide   

    Server Maintenance & Site Outage
    The TGGuide.com website and forums may be down at some point between 11 pm (Tue 3/29/16) and 4 am (Wed 3/30/16). This is for server maintenance. We expect about 1.5 hours down time during the scheduled maintenance. I'm sorry for any inconvenience but it will be very temporary.
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  10. Lori added a post in a topic Canada appoints 1st transgender Judge to court   

    Congrats to Mr McKenzie!
    "Kael McKenzie, a Crown attorney from Winnipeg, was officially designated a judge on Dec. 17 and will begin his new job immediately. With his appointment to provincial court, Mr. McKenzie becomes the third openly trans judge now practising in North America. The first, Victoria Kolakowski, of Alameda County, Calif., was appointed in 2010."
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  11. Lori added a blog entry in Lori's Blog   

    Transgender Bloggers Wanted: Share Your Journey
    Create your own blog at TGGuide.com. It's FREE and you can start right now. Some people blog as a sort of journal to share our thoughts, feelings, experiences and insights. Others blog to express opinions on social and political issues. Others blog to share their knowledge and experience with others. Go ahead. Express yourself! Others may be grappling with issues you blog about and your words could provide useful insight or answers.

    Here are some blog topic ideas to get your creative juices flowing;

    A daily journal about your life and experiences
    A journal documenting when you go full time
    A journal to document your gender reassignment surgery
    Dating experiences and tips
    Crossdressing tips
    Experience with makeup
    Passing in public
    Your experiences when you go out in public
    Restroom experiences
    Transitioning at work
    Dealing with counselors or medical personnel
    Introspection about your particular gender identity
    Dealing with or overcoming self-limiting beliefs
    Dealing with addictions
    Dealing with self-destructive behaviors
    Interactions with police or government workers
    Changing your drivers license, birth certificate, etc.
    Applying for jobs
    Your big day, when you go full time
    Hormonal development (please don't discuss dosages or make medical type recommendations)
    Experiences with electrolysis
    How other members of your new gender react to you, and your experiences
    Your recommendations to others about to follow your path
    Your thoughts about whether surgery is necessary to be your desired gender
    Differences in how you feel dressed or not dressed
    What your life would be like if you still repressed your inner identity
    Poetry or prose

    These are a few ideas to get you started. Feel free to leave comments to suggest your own ideas, or just start a blog and share with everyone.

    Just log into your control panel to start your own blog. This could be interesting!
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  12. Lori added a topic in Transgender Events   

    2015 Transgender Events
    2015 Transgender Events
    First Event - Waltham, MA
    Jan 21-25, 2015
    The Keystone Conference - Harrisburg, PA
    March 18-22, 2015 
    Diva Las Vegas – Las Vegas, NV
    March 22-27, 2015
    Trans-Health Program – Philadelphia, PA
    June 4-6, 2015
    Esprit 2015 - Port Angeles, WA
    May 10-17, 2015
    Gal's Spring Fling - Gananoque, Ontario. Canada
    May 27-31, 2015
    Sparkle – Manchester, England, UK
    July 10-12, 2015
    Camp Aranu’tiq – July and August
    A camp for transgender and gender variant youth and their families
    Contact for details http://www.camparanutiq.org/contact
    Southern Comfort Conference - Atlanta, GA
    Sept 29-Oct 03, 2015
    TIC Translating Identity Conference - University of Vermont, Burlington, VT
    October 10, 2015
    Fantasia Fair - Provincetown, MA
    Oct. 18-25, 2015
    Beauty and the Beach - Rehoboth Beach, DE
    Nov. 4-8, 2015
    Transcending Boundaries – Springfield, MA
    Nov. 20-22, 2015
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  13. Lori added a comment on a blog entry Thoughts on Caitlyn Jenner   

    It is interesting how perspectives vary on this. My thought was that Caitlyn probably suffered even more than me for a number of reasons. 
    1. She is older. She grew up before there was the Internet or much reliable information about transgender issues. I remember believing I was the "only one" in the world who felt this way. Caitlyn came up at a time when there was even less information and much less tolerance. 
    2. She became famous. Bruce Jenner was an American icon and was a hero to many. Bruce received endorsements such as Wheaties and became instantly recognizable in virtually every household in America. I can relate from being fairly well known in my home town and how scary it is that your "secret" might get out. Remember this was in an era when most of America was very intolerant. 
    3. Caitlyn probably realized she could never just disappear and then reappear as her female self. At the time of my transition (over 20 years ago) that is exactly what I did. I disappeared and reemerged as a female. Fortunately for me I passed pretty near flawlessly so I pretty much just got on with my life. Caitlyn probably didn't have that opportunity with Paparazzi hounding her. 
    I believe Caitlyn's coming out will signal a turning point in how America views and treats transgender people. Or course there will still be ignorance and bigotry, but Caitlyn has people talking. Now, everybody knows somebody who is transgender -- or at least they feel like they do. I have never seen the outpouring of support that I am for Caitlyn. I do believe we're at a cross roads. Let's hope this will be the shift we've been hoping for. 
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  14. Lori added a comment on a blog entry My very own Pandora   

    Yeah, perfectly passable in my opinion but I agree with Karen. All a person would see is a man and a woman.  
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  15. Lori added a comment on a blog entry Wondering   

    You are beautiful  
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  16. Lori added a comment on a blog entry Media Representation   

    Thank you for your thoughtful observation Brigsby. I agree there isn't as much conversation about trans men. I suspect that is because the men are less visible, but that doesn't mean we shouldn't talk about FtM issues. It reinforces in my mind that we were right, during the early development of TGGuide, when we decided to be open to all transgender people including FtM. In fact, during our recent upgrades, I am attempting to make the site more neutral so it feels welcoming for both the guys and gals regardless of where they fit on the transgender continuum.
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  17. Lori added a post in a topic Duggar Resigns Amid Sexual Abuse Allegations   

    The Family Research Council is despicable at best. They hide behind self-righteousness and try to stir up fear with their gross misrepresentations and outright lies. How many times does this have to happen before the larger society realizes that these types of churches and religious organizations don't really hold the key to morality. 
    But next week they will be clutching their bibles, as if they are the official spokesmen of God, railing against transgender people who need to use the restroom.
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  18. Lori added a topic in What's New at The Transgender Guide   

    System Update 2015
    Hi Everybody. I wanted to let you know that we're doing some fairly major updates of the TGGuide.com website and this forum. The updates will increase our forum security and will make the site more accessible for mobile devices. We could experience temporary site disruptions during installation but these should be brief.
    Updates being performed:
    Update TGGuide.com main site software and plugins [COMPLETED 4/21/15]
    Install TGGuide.com mobile responsiveness [COMPLETED 4/19/15]
    Software License renewed [COMPLETED 4/20/15]
    Added Forum Chat - See "Forum Chat" Tab. Currently limited to 5 members [COMPLETED 4/21/15]
    Update message forum software [COMPLETED 5/7/15]
    Update blogs software [COMPLETED 5/7/15]
    Update gallery software [COMPLETED 5/11/15]
    I am now working on some design elements to make the site more appealing (hopefully) and on privacy features, regarding what content non-members are able to view prior to registering. Please let me know if you spot any bugs during the upgrade process. The evolution will still take some time but we're past the worst of it now! Thank you for hanging in there and for making TGGuide one of the best transgender peer support sites on the Internet.  
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  19. Lori added a post in a topic System Update 2015   

    Gallery photos are back! 
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  20. Lori added a topic in Forum Help & Support   

    Technical Support
    Welcome to our forum for technical support. Please post any comments, issues or questions you have about the TGGuide message forums, galleries, blogs or other features on TGGuide.com. Our members and moderators will respond to your questions and we'll archive past topics for easy reference.
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  21. Lori added a post in a topic System Update 2015   

    You will notice the MtF cross dressers discussion forum is back online at http://tgguide.com/message/forum/2-male-to-female-mtf-crossdressers-discussion/ 
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  22. Lori added a post in a topic System Update 2015   

    I believe the galleries will be back online, with all member submitted photos, very soon! Still working on it but I think we have a handle on it now.
    The gallery has been the most problematic part of the software upgrade, for some strange reason.
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  23. Lori added a post in a topic System Update 2015   

    I have a support request in with the software vendor (Invision Powerboard) to see if we have fixes for these reported bugs. I expect we'll get an answer early this coming week. If we cannot resolve most of the bugs I have requested that we revert to their prior version. It will be a shame if we have to because there are some nice features in this new version, especially the mobile responsiveness. I will keep you informed. 
    Sorry for the inconvenience. Being the optimist I am, I believe the upgrade will be worth all the aggravation in the long run.  
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  24. Lori added a post in a topic System Update 2015   

    The forum upgrade will take place in the next few days. It is a major upgrade which will include a responsive design so you will be able to navigate the forums more easily on mobile devices. Once upgraded usernames and display names will be merged so that only the display name remains in our system. I will rebuild our forum skin (background, graphics, etc) once the new software has been installed. The forum should remain operational throughout this process. There may be a few hiccups along the way but these changes will be beneficial for our forum community.
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  25. Lori added a topic in What's New at The Transgender Guide   

    Welcome EmmaSweet - Our Newest Moderator
    Please help welcome EmmaSweet as our newest moderator here at TGGuide.com Message Forum. Emma always seems to have something to add that is positive and beneficial for our community. It is a pleasure to have her as a member.

    Welcome aboard the moderators team EmmaSweet. You're an awesome addition. :)
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