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  1. Lori added a post in a topic Transgender deaths so far in Subcontinent Pakistan since 1st January '18   

    I thought of your post here, as I published today's news on Transgender News Channel. 
    History made as scouts association welcomes: Pakistan’s first-ever transgender recruits https://www.thenews.com.pk/print/282084-history-made-as-scouts-association-welcomes-pakistan-s-first-ever-transgender-recruits
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  2. Lori added a post in a topic Transgender Memorial Vigil held   

    Thank you for showing support for the victims. 
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  3. Lori added a comment on a blog entry My First Bra Fitting   

    Reminds me when I stopped by one of those "free makeovers" at a Clinique booth in Macy's. $650 later I walked out with all sorts of moisturizers and toners and makeup. I never used most of it, to be honest, but it felt great to have that makeover and I left with a better idea of what works best for me. I eventually opted for lower priced makeup options. 
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  4. Lori added a comment on a blog entry Guess who showed up.   

    You HAVE come a long way in 47 days. I can see it in your posts.   Congrats to you. I hope all continues to go well. There will be bumps so be ready for them. Seems you have good support with your therapist so I think you'll do well. 
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  5. Lori added a post in a topic Transgender deaths so far in Subcontinent Pakistan since 1st January '18   

    Our sister site Transgender News Channel has been covering stories of transgender news in the Middle East. Transgender people have a very difficult life in some countries. There are some small signs of progress and acceptance. For example;
    ISLAMABAD: Senate Standing Committee on Human Rights on Saturday approved the draft on rights of transgender persons that would soon be tabled at National Assembly to become a law.  Read More http://menafn.com/1096452533/Pakistan-Senate-Standing-Committee-approves-draft-on-rights-of-Transgender-persons 
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  6. Lori added a comment on a blog entry Time   

    Hey, let's not get crazy here!  Girls ride motorcycles too, and look darn good on them! I think I know what you're experiencing. I went through the same thing. I actually threw away every single piece of male clothing and I quit riding my motorcycles for a period of time. Gradually, as I settled into my new gender role, I allowed myself to enjoy things I used to and started riding my street and dirt bikes again. I even wear the occasional piece of male clothing -- like motorcycle gear. Why not, if it is better suited. 
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  7. Lori added a comment on a blog entry Awareness   

    There are some trans people (cisgender as well) that I don't care to be around because they become a spectacle everywhere they go, whether through appearance, mannerisms, speech or behavior.
    I agree we should be free to live our lives however we want, but the reality is different. 
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  8. Lori added a comment on a blog entry A good day   

    I hope your days continue going well and that everything works out for you.  
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  9. Lori added a comment on a blog entry Time.......   

    Same here. Plenty of similarities. I went through the same exploration when I was younger, followed by parental disapproval and futile attempts to repress my identity. I had a family and career and just tried to dismiss it. Eventually my inner identity could no longer be denied. Fortunately, I have managed to maintain a good relationship with my children and with my now ex-spouse. Wishing you the best as you explore your gender identity.
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  10. Lori added a comment on a blog entry stalkers   

    There will always be a few people who don't like to see you move on. They may be envious of your success. Some may feel left out and need some help understanding. Some will have other motives. I agree on the helpfulness of qualified counseling and a plan to rid anything negative from your life.  
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  11. Lori added a post in a topic Pinterest and other social media   

    One option on Facebook is to create a page using your "real" profile. You can name the new Facebook page anything you want including a personal name. Authors and entertainers frequently use this feature. So, using a real Facebook account you create a page and name it something like "Cruella DeVille" and then you can like, comment and share things as your page rather than your real Facebook profile. ​
    Facebook seems pretty comfortable with transgender topics even though they have not been understanding about the need for pseudonyms among the trans community. ​
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  12. Lori added a comment on a blog entry Getting on the bus 😱   

    Love the post!  My own test of my inner courage to live life on my terms came at the shopping malls. I loved shopping (more back then than now) so the mall seemed a great way to get exposure and experience interacting with the public in a somewhat safe setting. I'm surprised I was never stopped by mall security because some days I would show up and just drive around, park and then drive around some more, trying to summon the courage to get out and go inside. In the early days I frequently failed but I kept at it.  Eventually I made my way inside and  slowly developed my confidence. I was terrified when anyone looked at me and especially when someone engaged me in conversation. Occasionally I was read and that was always emotionally devastating for me. I know, I shouldn't be so hard on myself, but it's a special gift I have -- to kick myself around for failure. There was some point along the way that I knew I had made it. Once I lost the fear and just became more confident the instances of being read were virtually eliminated. 
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  13. Lori added a comment on a blog entry Crazy   

    Whole lot of ground covered in that post. Stuff most of us go through to some extent as we come to terms with our gender identity.  There are a couple thoughts that came to my mind as I read. I've come to realize that most people are so absorbed in their own lives that they pay little attention to those around them. There will always be those who are negative, but try to surround yourself with positive people who can help you, rather than bring you down. You don't need many good friends. Even one will do, but having some kind of support network is critical. I had some mighty wonderful people who helped pick me up when I was at my lowest points in life. That happened to be about the same time as my transition but not entirely due to the transition. Try to keep a positive attitude and always move forward toward your goals. Hugs to you.
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  14. Lori added a post in a topic Pinterest and other social media   

    Sometimes things happen and you just have to wonder. Frequently there is no explanation. Transgender people have had an awful time with Facebook.
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  15. Lori added a comment on a blog entry Happy Birthday Monica!!!   

    Monica, you are a WONDERFUL person! I'm grateful for your participation here at TGGuide.  I hope you had a very happy birthday.  
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  16. Lori added a comment on a blog entry There be hope here!   

    Good luck Briannah!  I'm preparing to place a house on the market. I'd rather wait for summer but a life situation is pushing for a faster sale.  It is a rental property, so nobody worry about me being homeless. Hope all turns out well for your sale.  ​
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  17. Lori added a comment on a blog entry Clipped wings   

    Hang in there. ​Sounds like life is frustrating but things seem to have a way of working out as long as you keep moving toward your goals. ​
    It is a good analogy. ​You'll grow those feathers out​ and fly!    ​
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  18. Lori added a post in a topic Woman who founded trans beauty pageants becomes first known trans person killed in America this year   

    It makes me wonder though. So often, trans women are objectified just as cis women are. I can't help but think trans women are objectified even more and seen as disposable. I can't help but think she was perhaps treated differently (more violently) because she is transgender. We'll probably never know that, but as wrong is the objectification of women is, it is even worse for trans women. 
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  19. Lori added a comment on a blog entry Starting Over   

    It sounds to me that you're in a healthy place for now. That is probably good as you sort out who you really are. There may come a time when you're ready to open yourself up to someone else but no need to rush that. 
    Haha, I can relate to the long, strange trip. It sure has been here too. As mentioned, I feel things here and there. My eyesight is getting gradually worse and my hearing isn't what it once was. All in all, life is pretty good though. 
    Best to you in the new year. 
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  20. Lori added a topic in Transgender Health Care   

    The Future of Transgender Healthcare Is Online
    Transgender patients often travel long distances and pay more for less-than-competent medical care. But as doctors embrace virtual treatment models, those problems may soon be obsolete.​
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  21. Lori added a topic in Transgender News & Happenings   

    Transgender Student’s Discrimination Suit Is Settled for $800,000
    Ashton Whitaker had been forbidden from using the boys bathrooms and felt degraded by administrators at his high school in Wisconsin.
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  22. Lori added a topic in Transgender Crime   

    Woman who founded trans beauty pageants becomes first known trans person killed in America this year
    Woman who founded trans beauty pageants becomes first known trans person killed in America this year http://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/americas/transgender-woman-killed-first-2018-christa-leigh-steele-knudslien-beauty-pageants-a8152226.html
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  23. Lori added a comment on a blog entry Moving Right Along   

    That reminds me of an interesting book I read on the topic of sales " The Go-Giver." 
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  24. Lori added a comment on a blog entry My past   

    Your story reminds me of an older woman I met when I was in high school. By that time I had repressed my true identity and was in full denial. I came to find out this woman was transgender and that she had a sex change. Sadly, I distanced myself from her when I should have befriended her. I sure needed a friend back then that I could confide in. It was about 15 years later that I'd find another such friend and begin to openly discuss my gender identity. ​
    Thank you for sharing. 
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  25. Lori added a comment on a blog entry I Don't Care Much for Myself Tonight   

    Big hugs to you Emma. We all go through emotional struggles and the holidays can intensify those emotions for many of us. It's just fine to have a moment where you're not  "all together." I have plenty of those times.
    Love the beautiful cat! They make great companions. 
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