stephani

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  • Interests I Have to say I am flattered BY your glances But I hold nothing within other than a Little Knowledge , if this is what you seek then by all means , lets walk for a whille .

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  1. stephani added a post in a topic: Is There a Link Between Autism and Gender Dysphoria?   

    Gennee, I have taken great notice in the research and the statistics of the " So Called Necessary Vaccinations of our population " and one thing keeps popping out that is disturbing to me, they are said to help reduce and aid in the fight against outbreaks and diseases but when it come rite down to it they are only creating worse problems within the population, me myself if have been given the choice would have never opted to receive any vaccination what happens when man messes with mother nature yeah she fights back and with a vengeance, we are poisoning our children and our selves with these things and no one even thinks twice about the reverberations from the environment that we live in, the world has a balance and we try to interrupt its natural vibration it tips, and generally not for the better. Stop Killing us with your cures and start letting our own bodies once again learn how to fight off any lurking virus or what have you call it. that is what we were designed to do, not just take a shot and move forward it all ends badly trust me. the vaccine that caused Aids/HIV was suppose to be the cure for the common cold and look what that got us. just my thoughts, If there is a tie betwixt the two it would not surprise me one bit.
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  2. stephani added a post in a topic: One thing therapists don't teach   

    Stephaniie, Hawkman does not take Hormones if memory serves me, so The notion of Hormones causing euphoric feelings for him doesn't play into the statement, he has gone through a lot in the last what five or so years and if my memory isn't as far gone as I think for a great many more prior to that. So when he has a great or good day, it is because he deserves it on a daily basis. As do we all, So when they come accept them embrace them and take joy in them, because as stated the feeling of sadness and annex will soon be back within our minds soon enough, take heart knowing your special in your own ways and when some one stands up and offers you a kind word in acknowledgement accept it graciously and with dignity and offer one in return because that person deserves one as much as you do. Though it is not easy to take or understand why your receiving such praises know that they thought well enough of you to say what you may seldom hear.
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  3. stephani added a post in a topic: Bible study   

    What in the hell is wrong with this thing, awe maybe I can find the answer in your link... giggles not likely I don't think god considered computer issues when he told his story.
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  4. stephani added a post in a topic: Bible study   

    interesting, I am sure this will help some with the questions they have in their lives.
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  5. stephani added a post in a topic: Reporter Refuses to Properly Identify Murdered Woman   

    No, one in the media could care less about reality, reality doesn't sell papers now does it because we all have to deal with reality every moment of the day why would anyone want to pay for the chance to read Real information on Real events about Real People and who they Really are, no one could give two bits about that now if I want to sell papers or push some sort of agenda then twist the words sensationalize the information and make it appear to be no more real then the man in the moon. then people will buy your fotter the use of Her Birth name Had Nothing to do with the Reality of the story, Her Gender played Little in the article other then stirring the pot about the blurred line today about who and what Gender anyone is or was, does it matter if I am killed whether or not I was born with a Penis, No the fact is I was killed, why only I and the assailant knows that for certain, but the fact of Real life is I would have been Killed by some one, my birth name only matters if I have not had it changed once that is done you have No option to call me by any other name then My new Court Ordered Name, period. Sew them and see how fast that apology shows up. write letters all day long and they will toss them in file 13 along with any other truth that comes across their desks.
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  6. stephani added a post in a topic: Fox News readers agree: based on Fox’s lie, trans kid should die   

    Well, Now aint this just one more stab to try and coheres the media driven population to hate any one that is Different, it doesn't matter if it is all BS it never does what matters is what Media can spout out and get the public to believe in a matter of hours, if you have enough Balls to spread lies about children then your not to concerned whether or not the facts line up to what your agenda is, and apparently the agenda is once again to spred lie's and miss conceptions about "Trans" or "Gender Variant" individuals. I try and stay out of these sort of lie mongering ploys set forth by the" Right Wingers" ( crap can't believe I just said that ), but I and everyone who is open minded can see that these tactics work Very Well and the Lemmings will follow this Crap with bated breath anticipating what comes next. Grow up World, we are not out to coheres you innocents into our seedy underworld, we could give less then two bits about them we are just trying to stay alive and live a happy fulfilling life without being beaten or killed or even forced to take our own lives. I dislike the news so much I go to the other room when it is on, lies on an hourly basis is not my idea of News. News for me would be that I won the lottery and can now help my self and others out of this life of torment and torcher, now that would be News.
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  7. stephani added a post in a topic: Todd Kincannon, Former Executive Director of South Carolina GOP, Believes Transgender People Should Be 'Put in a Camp'   

    I am often just dumbfounded when individuals use outlets like twitter or any such place to bash anyone, I could care less the statement was directed toward a "Trans" person, the fact any such idiocy is being thrown out into public view simply shows the truths of humanity, if you are out of the norm or in some way opinionated in an unconventional manner you are going to be subject to idiots and their slow witted remarks. I am less concerned over Twit remarks then I am about the day to day business that I have to deal with, if you are so worried about others business then yours is less likely to be resolved. just how I see it, watch your day go by with a lot less stress if you stop worrying about what others say about others they don't even know on a personal basis. In other words Mind your day to day business and you'll have a lot less stress and anxiety looming tomorrow. I don't care if your "Trans", "Straight", "Bi', "Gay", or of Non White Ethnicity just live your life on your terms and stop worrying about everyone else's business, isn't your life hard enough as it Is, then stressing and carrying if some Twit post has some narrow minded words posted on it.
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  8. stephani added a comment on a blog entry: WHAT THEY ACTUALLY MEANT IS...   

    Interesting, I have the same feelings about those who criticize or mock or ridicule any one that does not fit into the generally accepted gender binary they are afraid of receiving the same treatment so they often times will not pursue their true want and desire to pursue that in which they desire most, the unknown factor the other gender what ever you or they wish to call it, I myself could care less about their sexual desires ( as far as the male species is concerned ), and since I am in a relationship nor am I seeking the affections of another. It is at times flattering to hear one thing from their mouths then see their true feelings in body and facial expressions, it is really quite comical in my opinion.

    So to say they who torment those within the nonconforming gender binary are truly seeking affections and responses to increase their self worth and attain some sort of dominant stance over yet another conquest within their lives. Yes I believe this is true enough.

    Stephani
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  9. stephani added a post in a topic: Social Security to ease requirements for transgender people   

    Okay, Finally SSA makes Changes to Policy on Gender marker.

    Yup you read that right. It's a new day and the sun just came out, So finally your in for getting this one done then going to the drivers licence office and getting that fixed as well ( because most states wont change gender marker or name unless it has been changed at Social Security first. Congratulations it is Glorious I tell you.

    So Read this from SSA:

    http://ssa-custhelp....security-record


    Here's the cool section and what that means to you:

    "or a medical certification of appropriate clinical treatment for gender transition in the form of an original letter from a licensed physician)."

    Now, what this means is your no longer required to have SRS and a letter stating such action has occurred by the preforming Surgeon, Now you simply need a Letter From your Doctor, or Psychologist, both of whom have Degree's stating they are either A, Ph.D or Psy.D both will suffice in the Licensed Physician aspect of the ruling .

    Now for the Letters They should look something like these examples:


    I,' (physician’s' full' name),' (physician’s' medical' license' or' certificate' number),' (issuing' U.S.'
    State/Foreign' Country' of' medical' license/certificate),' (DEA' Registration' number' or'
    comparable'foreign'designation),'am'the'physician'of'(name'of'patient),'with'whom'I'have'a'
    doctor/patient'relationship'and'whom'I'have'treated'(or'with'whom'I'have'a'doctor/patient'
    relationship'and'whose'medical'history'I'have'reviewed'and'evaluated).'
    (Name'of'patient)'has'had'appropriate'clinical' treatment' for'gender' transition' to the'new'
    gender'(specify'new'gender'male'or'female).
    I'declare'under'penalty'of'perjury'under'the'laws'of'the'United'States'that'the' forgoing'is'
    true'and'correct.
    Signature
    Typed'Name
    Date

    2nd:


    I,'(physician’s'full'name),'(physician’s'medical'license'or'certificate'number),'(issuing'U.S.'
    State/Foreign'Country'of'medical'license/certificate),'(DEA'Registration'number'or'comparable'
    foreign'designation),'am'the'physician'of'(name'of'patient),'with'whom'I'have'a'doctor/patient'
    relationship'and'whom'I'have'treated'for'____________.
    _______________ has'been'diagnosed'with'GID'and'meets'the'DSMPIV'criteria'for'Gender'
    Identity'Disorder'(302.85);
    According'to'international'guidelines'set'forth'in'the'World'Professional'Association'for'
    Transgender'Health'(WPATH),'it'is'now'necessary'for'the'patient'to'live'fullPtime'for'at'least'one'
    year'in'the'new'gender,'in'preparation'for'the'upcoming'Gender'Reassignment'Surgery;
    __________ is irrevocably committed to'the'sex'change'procedure;'(exact'wording'is'extremely'
    important)
    It'is'appropriate'at'this'time'to'grant'the'patient’s'request'for'name'change'and'gender'marker'
    change,'and'that'doing'so'will'provide'the'ability'to'correct'his/her'personal'identification'to'
    reflect'his/her'new'role;

    (Name'of'patient)'has'had'appropriate'clinical' treatment' for'gender' transition' to the'new'
    gender'(specify'new'gender'male'or'female).
    I'declare'under'penalty'of'perjury'under'the'laws'of'the'United'States'that'the' forgoing'is'
    true'and'correct.
    Signature
    Typed'Name
    Date

    The second letter will work as well for petitioning the court for a legal name change/gender change, do them both at the same time and have the same case code on both or you'll end up paying twice for the documents to be processed through the court.

    So recap:

    First Get Name Change and gender if allowed in your state, if not that's a matter for later.

    Second get Letters from doctors I suggest one of each from Both doctors. the letters are to be originals on the doctors letterhead , get an additional copy if you wish to do your passport because it requires the same letter to make proper changes.

    Third get Drivers license done . Using a copy of letters should get this done as well as the courts name change. All have to be original's or certified Copies.

    Fourth take your new SS card, Drivers license, and name change to all respective locations that have you under old name and gender. ie: Bank, Utilities, Lease or Mortgage co, Phone, you get it.

    So cool I can't stop grinning.

    All the best
    Stephani
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  10. stephani added a post in a topic: How Obamacare Protects Same-Sex Families And Transgender Patients   

    Yeah and as of what last week or so they blew off the obamacare for another year..... lets see what they slash by then.
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  11. stephani added a comment on a blog entry: My Introduction   

    Welcome, and thank you for sharing your life and plans with us all.

    Hugs
    Stephani
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  12. stephani added a comment on a blog entry: True Life Experiences From Couples Where One of Them is Transsexual and has Transitioned/is Transitioning   

    (1) give me the basic (without names or using fictitious names) description of the type of relationship you are/were involved in,

    OK, The relationship Prior to transition for me was one of a woman playing a heterosexual Males Role, unfortunately in doing so for the first 9 Years of our relationship/Marriage I was allowing myself to be physically Raped in the name of Matrimony, after years of self torment I learned to hide the pain away I no longer had to run to the shower within 15 minutes of fulfilling my duties as a man just to try and wash the pain and disgust off of my body ( even though this males body served a purpose I still felt dirty and unclean ) then for the next 8 years I just shut down and went through the motions, fulfilling her needs over mine. But now isn't that what we do prior to transition, fulfill every ones needs, wants, and desires over and before our own needs. Next for The following Two years after coming out to my then partner we had Homosexual relations this being one woman with another woman, Lesbian as it were, the first year I finally felt now this is so much better she stated the same reaction, No more BS, just pure Love for the other not expecting something as a result of the act just enjoying the companionship and the feelings that comes from a true open relationship, then it turned to her pulling away and no longer wanting to participate in such a relationship she wanted a man not a woman yeah it was fun and exciting for a while but as she said she was not a lesbian, easily understandable and I accepted the fact, then towards the end of the second year after the Hormones had really started doing their job she forced me out of the house and thus making me homeless and shortly after out of employment .


    (2) the gender of each partner (trans-partner has pre transition and post transition/gender identified as listed),

    I have always Identified as Female, pre and post transition, my partners have always been Female, pre and post transition, my current partner is also MtF yet I see her as Female, she as well has always been Female Pre and Post Transition, I see her only as a woman.


    (3) sexual orientation of both partners (pre and post transition listed if different),

    Pre Transition I was forcing myself to be the typical Heterosexual Male, Post Transition I am Lesbian. My partners pre transition were all heterosexual females, post transition my partner has been a Lesbian.



    (4) years together (pre marriage/civil union and years married/in union),

    The number of years I was with my Ex was for 20 years, 2 years later I am still trying to save up for a divorce, life ain't no ballroom nor glass slippers, so total 22 years.


    (5) whether or not you and your partner survived the transition as a couple,

    To answer that Yes I survived Transition but my Marriage did not, My Ex survived my transition and the ending of our marriage.

    and (6) any types of aiding devices used by you and/or your partner (please specifically list what type of aid you used and can include but does not have to be limited to therapy with a counselor, peer support groups, social networking, reading books or journal articles).

    Aiding well giggles No aiding Sexually, Mentally now I sought out a Gender Psychologist and did what every good girl does when she is told she has to follow rules, yeah I followed the rules and in doing so I was claimed and deemed fit to live my life as a woman, yeah to be allowed to live my life only through the rules set forth by Men.

    What a joke, if your going to start living your life just do it don't wait to be allowed to by another who holds some sort of mystical gift the gift is you giving yourself the right to live your life no one can give that to you but yourself.

    I hope this aided you in your search for information, I hope to answer many more if for nothing more then comic relief , every thing I attest to is true and in no way should be considered false, I may add a quip now and again but this ol bag of hammers is blunt.

    Hugs

    Stephani Paige Ryan
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  13. stephani added a comment on a blog entry: Questions From Spouses/Significant Others Of A Person Who Identifies As A Transgender Person Or Is A Transitioning Transsexual   

    Well the first quest was " ARE YOU GAY?" , my response was well yes I am a Lesbian, her response was " I Ain't!", well then I see problems a bruin is what struck my mind at that moment, but onward and upward we went Two hours of tears and questions.... then months of tears and questions, and then years of tears, and no more questions..... just unanswered sorrows.

    So your question leads me to believe you have many answers to questions yet asked, Do you? lol, of course you do we all do, will those answers play out to the questions of the answers you should be looking for. I know that the years that I remained with my now Ex has many questions that the answers never matched up to, but what I have learned is that those questions are irrelevant now and need not be asked nor answered.

    I tried for a long time after my final separation to figure out what I had done wrong in the whole scheme of things the answer I found within my own heart was I had done everything I could have she was gone the moment I openly told her, well not quite that moment because that talk would come seven years after the first time I told her who and what I truly was, ain't that a bite in the tail, seven more years before she would finally listen to me and hear what I had been telling her for years.

    Question.... What does that Make You
    Question.... What does that Make Me
    Question.... Where does this Leave Us
    Question... What am I suppose to Do Now
    Question... What are You going to Do Now
    Question... Are We Staying Together
    Question... What will You do after You start " Transitioning "
    Question... What am I suppose To do about the rest of the family
    Question... What about Your Job
    Question... Where am I suppose to Live
    Question... Are You going To Leave Me for a Man(Woman)
    Question.... Is This Your Way Out Of Our Marriage
    Question... How Long Have You Been Planing This
    Question... Why Did You Marry Me
    Question... You Don'T Think Your Staying Here Do You

    Ok here's just a start to the list that seems to never end but it will trust me it will end.

    the next thing you'll see is your partner is no longer walking beside you and more to the side and behind you and your going to ask " why aren't you walking with me " " are you embarrassed to be seen with me ", the usual response, No I am just watching the peoples reactions to how womanly you are .... Yeah watch how twitchy she gets you'll know she's pushing a load your way.

    Hugs
    Stephani
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  14. stephani added a post in a topic: Transgenderism Is Not a Disorder, American Psychiatric Association Says   

    I dont believe they have to be vicious simply protective of their owners and friends and their home.

    Thank you hun
    Hugs
    Stephani
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  15. stephani added a post in a topic: Transgenderism Is Not a Disorder, American Psychiatric Association Says   

    I am in ways Glad to see the change But this being said I am wondering what this is going to do to the community as far as what and what Insurance is and is not going to cover , Ok the wordings use to say if Medically Necessary , thus then we can jump through the hoops and Maybe just maybe get some insurance coverage's . So now what does it mean that because On My Letters of recommendation it says Gender Dysphoria I can get the help I need but those who's are written up saying that individual is suffering from a Gender Identity disorder and they cant get any help what so ever because they are Miss Diagnosed now because of the changes in the rules , I give up , I hope that we are just allowed to have the options to under go What ever We feel is the best course for our own person .

    Once the Medical society and Psychological society steps back and minds their own business and butts out of our lives then and only then will we be allowed to our own lives .

    I have a condition that needs to be listed with the new DSM-5 its the BUTT THE HELL out syndrome , it consists of high emotions related to others butting into a persons life and the choices they constitute as necessary treatment options for that persons own well being . The treatment options for this Syndrome is to Keep your own opinions to your self in regards to another persons own body and how they see fit to alter or change the appearance of any physical attribute they currently have or desire to have or alter.

    Hugs
    Stephani
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