I would Love to Inject and clarify a bit Please, you said " made a decision to become transsexual ", to clarify this is not an easy thing nor is it a decision to Become Transsexual, " we grow up in two ways Knowing early on that we don't match mind and body, or in time as we grow up we notice these senses within our minds that what we have grown to know and understand about our selves has been incorrect, you can no more Become transsexual then you can become Homosexual you Are or you are Not, end of story. now that being said because I know the community is going to start spouting about instances and offer up cases of how they or some one they knew had Became Transsexual, this is not needed because I know all to well the truths of the matter, Yes, they may be Gender Variant and find more comfort within them selves to transition, this does not mean they are Transsexuals, this means that they understood all along that there was something missing from their lives and being allowed to transition filled the void that was there inside them, A Transsexual has No Void, We are complete, the Problem lies in the incongruences between our Minds and our Bodies not a feeling of something is missing, the parts are there they are just in the wrong positions, now your going to say ok well why do they feel a void and you don't, I can no more answer that then they can, all I know is to believe we choose to be Transsexual is in this sort of statement a view that one has a choice, there is no choice, we either rectify the issue between Mind and Body or We Die, why do you think that the statistics of Transsexual Suicide are so high, versus the rates of Gender Variant individual suicide, they have choices, we however have two Those being 1. Change the Mind Body Dysphoria by any means necessary or 2. Commit Suicide. and the attempt rates show eventually we do succeed with the attempts. I fortunately have not succeeded in the last 23 attempts to take my life, maybe I am just meant to be here or maybe I am really bad at killing myself but either way I am thankful my attempts have failed because I have now a life that is on track too make all this Hell I have undergone worth sticking around. This next Quote, I wish to add to as well " that we can find ourselves "going inside of ourselves" ... we get boxed in with fear, anger, lack of understanding and the big question looms: "What will mean to our relationship?" We are scared to death." Well, We to live a life as you put it as " going inside ourselves " , we do this as a life preservation tactic, because we have or are growing up in an unaccepting world and life, trust me you no more want to be trapped in your own mind as we don't and it is a dark place filled with the very things you continue to write, anger of why we were born this way, fear of what does this make me, or fear of what this means my life will be like, or doubt of who we are, and what we are, and why we are, what will this do to my family, my friends, or if its a late term Transition, My future stability in Work, finances, my relationship with my spouse and children " if any are had during the marriage " We as well are scared to death, and not just about telling some one but about just being this way in the first place, the darkness that you feel is real and is at times almost more then one person can take or be asked to undergo, but remember Those who are coming out to you in confidence have undergone these feelings for years this is not something we take lightly, your our worlds and our lives and to be subjecting you to what we have been going through and not knowing how you will react is more terrifying then any thing you can imagine, to lay our very future on the floor to have you either help pick it up and continue forward or have you trample on it and crush a life time of hope into oblivion, the fact they came out to you should be a relief and reason to step back and take a deep breath and say we can now move forward openly and honestly and not have this hidden creating tension between you two. this is often not the case and things Don't work out but times have shown that many a future can be filled with brighter and happier times then if things had remained in the darkness as they had been to the point of telling you.