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  1. UsernameOptional added a topic in What's New at The Transgender Guide   

    Changes on the Transgender Spotlight Board
    Members -
    You all were probably familiar with the the "old" Transgender Television & Movies  forum, where one could post about television shows and movies in which there was a transgender character, or the storyline documented the activities or life of a transgender person.
    The forum, located in the Transgender Spotlight  board, has been expanded to include radio and online podcasts:  Transgender Television, Radio & Theater  -  Share and discuss your favorite TV, web TV and webisodes; radio and internet podcasts; and other web series and broadcasts that feature a transgender theme or character.
    Check it out!
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  2. UsernameOptional added a comment on a blog entry How I present myself   

    I'm not sure how people see me either.  I can only guess based on how they do or don't look (stare) at me.   I think I've mentioned recently that it seems men don't even notice me for the most part.  I dunno if it's because in passing they just see (or think me to be) another guy, or if they see me as a female that's "not much to look at."
    Women, on the other hand, do notice me.  There is an age group that has no problem in just straight up staring at me in a disapproving manner - the look on their faces bordering on disgust.  But every once in a while, there will be a woman cut me a glance that clearly indicates she likes what she sees.  Most often though, that happens when I am in a vehicle...
    I did try to be like women.  Make-up, jewelry, curls and smells.  Until I just couldn't do it anymore.  I was always nervous.  And of course being nervous made me sweat more than I already did.  After I started wearing men's clothes from shoes to shirts and everything in between outerwear to underwear, I realized that the female trappings are what caused me to always feel nervous - I was uncomfortable, self-conscious, unsure of myself, never felt like I measured up.  I always felt like people could see my vulnerability.  I'm sure that added to making me nervous.  I hated going to salons, and so I too often cut my own hair.  In salons, I felt naked.  I felt like the women around me were able to visually completely strip me of the facade I presented, and then glare at me because they knew I wasn't supposed to be there, and I was invading one of their sacred places of womanhood.
    As for the binder and STP... I have to agree that those two items might cater to the psychological.  I only know that I feel better in a binder and packing.  When not packing, my jeans don't feel like they fit right.  And then of course, that feeling of something missing is distressing.  That feeling is reminiscent of when I tried to dress and act like women do, and because of that, I rarely go out without it even though I'm the only one knows that it's there.
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  3. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic French Woman Killed with Hammer   

    An article at indicates that a man has been arrested in Bulgaria. While there was no name in the article, the man arrested was the last to see Mylène alive. It's nice to know that this case has not just been pushed to the back burner, but it's sad that entities involved continue yet to refer to Mylène as a man despite the fact that she identified as female.
    Limoges: the last man to have seen Mylène arrested in Bulgaria (English translation)  (Page no longer exists)
    François Clapeau | Published 12/09/2013 | 7:05 p.m., updated on 12/09/2013 | 7:05 p.m.
    Original French article   (Page no longer exists)
    It also appears, according to that Mylène was cremated shortly after this thread was first created.   (Link in this paragraph goes to the website, article is most likely archived)
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  4. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Athlete Worries About Competing in NC   

    Mosier Featured in Nike Ad
    Mari Brighe
    August 09 2016 8:48 PM EDT Updated August 10 2016 3:28 PM EDT
    "Mosier will not be in the Olympics, as the duathlon is not an event in the Summer Games in Rio De Janeiro. He has noted that there are no out trans athletes in the games — there are reportedly a couple who have not come out publicly — but this year's Olympics are the most open for trans athletes ever. New rules issued by the International Olympic Committee this year removed all surgical requirements for trans people to compete in events concordant with their gender identity."  --
    Team USA's Chris Mosier Is First Transgender Athlete Featured in Nike Ad
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  5. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Athlete Worries About Competing in NC   

    Mosier on Making History
    Lauren Steele | August 2, 2016
    "During his time at Northern Michigan University, he edited the school newspaper, hosted a radio show, played rec sports, and performed as the school's mascot – Wildcat Willie. He did anything he could to stay busy, because busy felt safe. "I didn't have enough time for relationships, to put myself out there, or have people get to know me," he says. "I didn’t have to have these critical conversations about who I was.""
    Mosier on Making History as First Trans Member of Team USA
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  6. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic #WeAreNotThis   

    Wow, that little victory didn't last long....
    See related posts --
    Gavin Grimm, Transgender Teen, Fighting To Use Men's Restroom At School
    What a federal appeals court’s ruling could mean for North Carolina’s bathroom law
    It's a GREAT day to be a Virginian !
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  7. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic UK top court split on transgender woman's pension right   

    The UK is certainly no more messed up than the US.  There are times however, when I look at the UK and consider it much further along (at least as far as law goes) than the US is when it comes to transgender people.  I know that many Brits complain about the NHS, but let's face it, at least the NHS has services for trans people (though apparently emotionally barbaric and difficult to navigate) - in the US, you are considered lucky if your insurance covers any part of gender related medical care.
    Considering same-sex marriage has been legal since 2014, enabling trans people who decide so to remain married to their spouses, I fail to understand what the issue is.  I also think it is crazy that there is one age for women and another for men for eligibility for pension.  And really, that men must be 65 and women 60 is stupid since on average, men die sooner than women.  Seems like allowing women to collect benefits at a younger age would be more of a financial burden on the system.  LOL... even in the US, ages for retirement and social security keep being raised... no doubt because the older a person is before they can collect, the less time they'll be in the system!  But I digress.
    Seems that it would be easier on everyone if the powers-that-be would forget about yesterday, and give this woman her pension under today's laws.
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  8. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Woman Harassed in Bathroom   

    "...I kept my head and had my documents supporting me, no so for many."  -- stephani
    It's sad that a person has to have "documents" just to pee
    ::: looks at stephani :::   Where the heck you been, missy??
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  9. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic UK top court split on transgender woman's pension right   

    There are so many things that seem totally messed up about this situation.  Just when ya think the Brits have their stuff together when it comes to trans people... something like this happens... and you stand back scratching your head, wondering, "what the heck are they thinking?"
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  10. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic New WHO Diagnostic Labels Perpetuate Transgender Stigma   

    Alexandra Ossola | August 4, 2016
    "But this classification has been controversial. "The conceptualization of transgender identity as a mental disorder has contributed to precarious legal status, human rights violations, and barriers to appropriate health care among transgender people," the study authors write. In 2011, the European Parliament asked the World Health Organization (WHO), which writes the ICD, to remove gender dysphoria as an option for diagnosis."  --
    from vocativ
    The long battle to remove 'transgender' from the list of psychiatric disorders
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  11. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic North Carolina's HB2 Anti-GLBT Bill   

    ""Any harm to plaintiffs due to lack of access to restrooms designated for the opposite sex certainly cannot outweigh the privacy and safety risks presented to the public," McCrory's lawyers said in a court filing opposing an injunction."  --
    Okay.  Am I reading this wrong?  Have I now lost all comprehension skills?  Is this fool actually [implying] that it's better someone get the holy freakin' doo-doo stomped outta them and left in a heap on some nasty bathroom floor than to chance some fanatical far-right bible-thumpin' ignorant bigot getting freaked out over someone simply coming into a bathroom (the RIGHT bathroom I might add) just to relieve the pressure mother nature has placed on that person's bladder?
    I need to go back to bed.....
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  12. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic New WHO Diagnostic Labels Perpetuate Transgender Stigma   

    "The problem with this, Fisher argued, is that many people who successfully go on HRT or those who have selected to have gender affirming surgery are no longer unhappy or distressed—yet they require continuing medical care."  --
    I don't see where this is an issue.  A diabetic can suffer ill affects of high and low blood sugar levels.  Poor health can make one unhappy or distressed.  Once they are prescibed the appropriate medical care, those issues are abated, and the person can lead a better quality of life, but they require continuing medical care.
    I don't understand why this is so hard for the medicine men and pencil-pushers to understand.  Once they pull their heads out of their seats and get it straight, society will follow suit eventually, and we'll all be a lot happier.
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  13. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic FTMS   

    I'm gonna say the reason you see no posts about, by or for transmen in this particular forum is because, well, very few guys are wearing make-up, or using cosmetics.  However, it's probably fair to say that "cosmetics" could also include facial cleansers and preparations for acne - something many trans men must fight for a period after starting T.
    There may be one or two threads in the Prosthetics & Other Body Enhancements forum, but let's be honest - the women require more in the enhancement department (just like cisgender women) than we guys do, and so would explain why there is little there also.
    And then of course, historically, there has always been more emphasis on trans women.  Most likely explains why there are so many threads dominated by the women.  Look at the board like the closet in a male/female couple's bedroom - in most cases, the woman usually dominates most of the space in that closet with all her shoes and skirts, and dresses, and blouses, and slacks, and sweaters, and robes, and gowns, and purses... and all that stuff in every colour under the sun!  ::: shrugs ::: Same thing here.  Even in a bedroom where there are "his" and "her" closets, some of the "hers" spills over into "his."
    In addition to the link to the FTM Crossdresser forum that Emma provided, there is also the FTM Transsexual Discussion, which may contain even more info on achieving a more masculine appearance the former.
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  14. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Transgender High school Students Forced To Wear Arm Bands!!   

    I can't believe this.  I have no words.
    I couldn't even read the entire article.
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  15. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic North Carolina's HB2 Anti-GLBT Bill   

    ​ROFL... apparently! 
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  16. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic North Carolina's HB2 Anti-GLBT Bill   

    NBA Pulls All-Star Game Out of Charlotte Over Transgender Bathroom Law HB2
    Jul 21 2016, 10:18 PM ET | Emma Margolin
    " Governor Pat McCrory, who has loudly and staunchly resisted overturning HB2, released a statement Thursday to warn American families that "the selective corporate elite are imposing their political will on communities in which they do business, thus bypassing the democratic and legal process.""  --
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  17. UsernameOptional added a topic in Transgender News & Happenings   

    Convention Makes History with Transgender Speaker
    24 July 2016 } James Withers
    "The largest LGBTQ civil rights organization in the country  made the announcement today (24 July). She  is scheduled to speak on the assembly’s last day (28 July). Chad Griffin, the organization’s president will also speak that day.  --
    Democratic convention makes history with first openly transgender speaker
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  18. UsernameOptional added a topic in Transgender News & Happenings   

    Kansas Lawmaker: Transgender People are Insane
    Peter Hancock | June 2, 2016
    "His remarks came during debate over a nonbinding resolution condemning the Obama administration's new guidelines on Title IX compliance that instruct schools to allow transgender students to use restrooms and locker rooms and to participate in other sex-segregated activities that correspond to their gender identity."
    Psychiatric consensus: Kansas lawmaker’s claim that transgender people are ‘insane’ is false, misguided
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  19. UsernameOptional added a topic in Not Necessarily the [Trans] News   

    The Enemies of Equality
    Jonathan Capehart | July 7, 2016
    "The chart below from FFAA shows the organizations doing the coordinating and the people leading or bankrolling those efforts. If you click on this link it will take you to an interactive site that will give you even more information."  --
    Here they are, the ‘enemies of equality’ for LGBT Americans
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  20. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Pentagon ends transgender ban   

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  21. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Repeal of US Military Ban on Trans Service Members   

    Well... whether they liked it or not, whether they knew it or not (until recently when a few came out)... there have always been trans people in the military.  Sad they had to hide, just like gay people had to hide... but they've always been there.  And the military has benefited from their service.  If Uncle Sam would admit that, he'd stop calling us mental cases!
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  22. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Changing Screen Name   

    Hello Queenie -
    I can change your username for you.  You can either reply to this thread with the name you prefer, or you can PM me with your choice.
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  23. UsernameOptional added a topic in Religion & The Transgender Community   

    Gays deserve an apology
     June 26, 2016
    Francis was asked Sunday en route home from Armenia if he agreed with one of his top advisers, German Cardinal Reinhard Marx, who told a conference in Dublin in the days after the deadly Orlando gay club attack that the church owes an apology to gays for having marginalized them.  --
    Pope: Gays and others marginalized deserve an apology
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  24. UsernameOptional added a comment on a blog entry T Time   

    After I reached a certain age, it occurred to me that I favoured my dad some.  But it was shortly after my dad died that my mother apparently began to realize that things like my hands and feet resemble my dad's, and some of my mannerisms and body language are like his.  I really never noticed that my hands looked like his until I had made a vid to send to my brother.  In the vid, only the item I was talking about and my hands were in the scene.  When I reviewed the vid before sending it to him, I noticed for the first time that my hands, and the way I use them, do indeed look exactly like my dad's hands.  You would think that something like that would not be a surprise since we all see ourselves in mirrors and reflective surfaces all the time - I can't figure what makes the difference, but try it.  Needless to say, it made me very happy to know that I was more like my dad than like my mother or any other female in the family.
    Congrats on the "T"
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  25. UsernameOptional added a topic in Religion & The Transgender Community   

    European Christians Forced Gender Roles
    Pearson McKinney | June 19, 2016
    "The Navajo refer to Two Spirits as Nádleehí (one who is transformed), among the Lakota is Winkté (indicative of a male who has a compulsion to behave as a female), Niizh Manidoowag (two spirit) in Ojibwe, Hemaneh (half man, half woman) in Cheyenne, to name a few."  --
    Before European Christians Forced Gender Roles, Native Americans Acknowledged 5 Genders
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