General Transgender Discussion

For fourty years I have been molded and shaped into a person who represents the classic stereotype of a good Christian, loyal American, and Caring Father and Husband. I have done well in school and followed the instructions of many teachers, employers, fellow classmates, friends, and co-workers. I grew a business that has provided an adequate but below average income for ten years now. As long as I have done everything as carfully prescribed my life had meaning to others and people approved. However with every passing year I became more and more depressed. Why? Because I began to learn more and more about the real self within me. The self that had good things to say…

That's right, My wife gave birth to our second child on Tuesday 15th of January. A little girl weighing in at 7 pound 7 oz. Mother and baby are now home and doing well.

Push the world aside and Just be Yourself. Tell us how one Feels.

Hello, After years of hurt and pain, I have come out with my real feelings. It has been a long time for me. I guess it started when I was real little. My sisters used to dress me up. My Mom kept my hair long which was a plus. They would often dress me in their skirts and dresses and put my hair in pony tails with ribbons in them. I can remember that it felt weird to me, but I also felt good. I so after started dressing in my sisters clothes on my own. This continued on and off all through my school years and into college. I had a BF in HS and nobody knew about us. I would often dress for him and told him I would like for him to marry me someday. I always was very jealo…

Like it wasn't a shock. I was served divorce papers from my wife's attorney today. Im more worried about my kids. I hope she doesn't brain wash them. For a super duper mega Christian she has a heart made of mud

I've been looking around the forum for the last few days, and I've decided to join up! I'm in my late teens, and I guess my story is similar to a lot of others: I remember I was four years old when I told a woman at daycare that I was a girl, I got along well with other girls in my childhood and was basically happy until (drum roll please!) I hit puberty. On the upside I could open pickle jars really easily but the rest of it - the unwanted physical changes, being one of the "weird" kids, thinking I was gay because I didn't date anyone - all that I would have gladly avoided, I have a male body but have always felt like a girl, so I guess that's why I'm here. I don…

Something just happened that I just had to post and tell everyone.My folks had gone to the store and when they got back my dad noticed he lost a ring I had given him years ago.I suggested calling the store just in case someone turned it in. My mom who really is an optimist and feels I'm a pessimist was the pessimist this time.She didn't think if someone found it that they would turn it in.I told her you never know.My dad tried to call but the phone was busy so he drove all the way back there. He went to the counter and enquired about it not really expecting anything but the lady behind the counter said that a lady had just turned a ring in knowing someone would be looki…

Ok how do you know if you are a CD or TG. I have felt wrong my whole life. I grew up where you could not be girly or act soft. My family would not understand back then. My dad caught me with panties and bras from a house we where house sitting for and I made up some story. I have known for a long time that I like being in the other genders cloths . I like heels , dresses, night stuff. It's not all about sex. I am married with 3 boys. I'm 36 years old and have been hiding this for a long time. My loving wife knows and is doing her best with it. She loves the man I am but does not know if she can think the same way about the other me ,the real me. The real me? I have starte…

I have been reading and not posting very much and the impression I have gotten is that a lot of you feel like you are in your own hell because you can't be open and out about what you do. What I want to know is have any of you REALLY taken the time to stop and think about not only the hell you are in but, if you are in a relationship, the hell your partner might be going through. My own real life experience says NO! My partner thinks only of personal needs, not mine, not our daughter's, only of self. I realize there have been the years of hiding this side, the side that NEEDS to dress, but that softer side has always been there. I have said the clothes don't change…

I picked up a copy the other day. This is a great series I really can't recommend enough, especially for MtFs, if you're at all interested in manga and anime. The art is beautiful, the characters are as believable as they can be (considering the circumstances ... ). The basic premise is that an extremely effiminate boy accidentally gets creamed by a space ship, and they bring him back to life.. but as a girl. (Whoops.) It takes a while into the books to figure out why, they actually do explain eventually, and it sorta works into the plot. But anyway, the basic premise is a very effective introduction to TSism in my opinion. This girly-boy becomes a girl and his friend…

Adrianne and I are planning on taking several trips as my MD is getting worse, before I'm completely unable to travel. One place I want to go is Key West. And it's not for the sun and beach. I want to meet Robert. I've wanted to meet him for a very long time. But since we'll be there for several days, and I don't plan on sleeping at the museum, I was wondering if anyone knew of any transgender friendly places there. Or anything else that would be worth checking out. We're thinking of going this summer. Hopefully. Other places on the list are Chicago, Washington DC, San Diego Zoo, Tijuana Mexico, Bradford PA (Zippo Factory), Wyoming (Bear Tower), Monroe CT (Annabelle)…

Three nights ago i stopped peeing (well, peed only blood) and i went to the hospital. OMG everything hurts so bad. I had a cath put it me. I still pee blood and no kidney stones yet. Not having a good week :(

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So my landlady was here a while ago. She is elderly, uses 2 canes to be able to walk. Her friend who is also an elderly woman was with her. I noticed they were trying to do some stuff outside so went out to see if I could help. I don't see my landlady very often. She does know I have transitioned. Anyway, for the first 5 minutes, she kept calling me by female pronouns. (I guess full facial hair doesn't register.) But I decided to keep my peace. She is a nice lady and I am just not into being that easily offended anymore. Anyway, after that first five minutes, she looked at me and apologized. And all was well. We had a friendly, fun conversation. When she left…

A little shocked to see one of those KY sensation stuff commercials last evening featuring a gay female couple. I realize this isnt tg related, but i was still shocked. I also thought how cool that we've come this far that a sexual aid featuring a gay couple made it on mainstream tv. Nothing gay related on tv when i was younger. But, i did not appreciate ky commercials featuring anyone obviously using it for sex, being on at 6pm on regular tv. C'mon really ? Sitting with my 11 year old neice watching history channel? Did not appreciate that.

...Yeah, it shouldn't be that way, but it is...and there's not much we can do about it. Yet. So... I once commented somewhere among the many threads here at TGG that it seemed one can usually tell if the speaker (or writer) is lesbian or gay: lesbians will always say "LGBT," and quite often, gays will say "GLBT." Even some straight women and men will follow the same "rule." But no matter what, we are always last. Well, that is, if there aren't a slew of other initials tacked on by the well-meaning over-zealous. Some of you may have noticed that I have recently started using "TGLB" instead of "LGBT" or "GLBT." But that's probably only because maybe I make a f…

Michelle Wolf | March 30 2015 4:00 AM ET "Then she went into discussing privilege — and one by one, I could see her losing them. From there, she transitioned into talking about white trans privilege, and she started to even lose some of the trans folk. Nothing she said was the least bit untrue, but nevertheless, the message was building up the very walls she so effectively knocked down moments before." -- advocate.com Op-ed: Why Labeling Others As 'Privileged' Isn't Helping Trans Activists ________________________________________________________ I understand perfectly what the author is saying... but perhaps it's time that Americans face truth and accept reality…

I am a bit dumbfounded by it all. I mean the labels we use to describe ourselves: TS, TV, TG, CD, trans, genderqueer, etc. The nice young doctor asked me what I described myself as. Would I call myself a transvestite? No, I said, I am seeking a referral to an expert to find out what I am. If you need a description, transgender will do, I said. And that is why I post in this section of these boards, rather than in the cross-dresser section, or the transsexual section. Whilst I recognise the cross-dresser and the transsexual in me, I don't feel I am wholly one or the other.

In one post awhile back(before it went away because of some mean hacker people) there was a topic on these boards regarding Laser Hair Removal. I am in the process of having hair removed permanently with the use of laser treatment. So here is what I am learning. OMG the face has lots and lots of nerve endings! Moreso than I thought it had. When I went in initially to set up my treatment schedule I asked to experience what it felt like to have it done. So they showed me on my arm. It felt like a cool mist accompanied by a slight puff of air and the sound of someone flicking their index finger on the palm of their hand. It really didn't hurt, in fact it just sort…

The forum has been pretty quiet overall so I'm just going to step up to the mic here I've only been to two laser sessions so far, but after comparing some old pictures and looking at what I have today, I think the progress on that front has been pretty amazing. I don't have pics to share right now, but I've got some empty patches tonight, my upper lip has maybe 40% of the hair it used to, and most of the dark hair that's left is in my chin area now.. maybe 60% as thick as it used to be. Overall not too bad since I got a pretty cheap deal on it, and I have 3 more to go! I'll need some electrolysis later too, for blonde beard hairs as well as the "girl sideburns" area b…

Hi All, Does any one can refer a good laser hair reduction center here in Los Angeles area? I would really appreciate your help. Thank you! Andrea

I was listening to Laura Ingram's radio show yesterday and her lackies brought an article about the Opra network airing the Documentry about Chaz Bonno and His journey through transition and I was Highly disturbed with her remarks and backhanded slirs , I wonder how many others heard her show yesterday and what they thought about what she had said .

I know it's a long shot, but I figured that any shot not taken is a guarenteed miss. I have recently been denied a job by a company. During my interviews, they *loved* my background, my interview went amazingly well, and in the final interview, they had employment pamphlets and folders out for what I assumed to be a job offer. At the end of the interview, they mentioned that they just were doing background checks for everyone they hire, and asked me if this were an issue. Because PA took 9 months to change my name, at that point, I had not had it legally changed, I mentioned that I was indeed transgendered and my background check would need to be run under my birt…

Dear Friends, After I returned from a Gender Conference, I learned that a transwoman, who I don't personally know, but who is a dear friend of a friend of mine had GCS only a day after the Conference ended. The very next day, she had facial feminization surgery. During the facial feminization surgery, she aspirated vomit into her lungs, and went into a deep coma with a very poor prognosis, and then passed away a few days later. The doctor in question, was a speaker at the Conference, two of whose talks I attended, and he offered "free" mini-consults during the Conference, and I was told he offered discounts to those who agreed to surgery during the Conference. …

Many times elating, sometimes deflating. There are times when I go out, shopping, when I am always referred to as Ma'am, or Hun, or some feminine pronoun, and other times, I am referred to as "sir". I am grappling with the disparity from day to day. I have gone out without makeup, and have been addressed as a woman, other times, when I am fully feminine, when I am addressed as "sir" Here are my non-scientific findings: When I feel "confident" in my gender role, I seem to pass easily, generally regardless of how I am dressedWhen I am nervous or frightened in my surroundings, even when I "think" I am dressed passably, I have trouble 50% of the timeI am not racist in any…