General Transgender Discussion

Several months ago, I was asked to be a gues speaker to a primarily Gay group that lives at a Senior citizen facility. I accepted the invitation without question . First, I see these people in several situations outside of the center all the time . second , I want to help bridge shall we say, some of the "Fear " some gays have of us . I'm also tired of the portrayal some of the media has of us too. It was decided to have a Panel dicussion and to have a question and answer session on being Transgnder . Also , I'm to find out what prospective Tennants might wish to have avalible to them in a semi assisted living enviorment . This is a sincere question being asked by t…

UK law is now punishing transgender people – often very young – for having sex ‘by deception’ because they didn’t tell their partners their full gender history first 03 July 2013 | By Ashlee Kelly "The potential for transphobic cases to spring up over a bad relationship is a terrifying prospect. I shouldn’t have to make a recording of everyone I give intimate details about myself to." --gaystarnews.com Stealth trans people having sex should not be criminals

So, I was put in charge (since I suggested) of the transgender day of awareness as my college and I'll be working with Pflag, who will probably be doing most of the presentation, but I want opinions as to what kind of things we should talk about. Being as this is my first semester of being "Out" on campus I don't really know what I should touch on for my club or for the community. Suggestions?

It was eight years ago today that I came out to myself as a crossdresser and transgender person. My life went in nother direction and it get better. the journey has been interesting and challenging at times. I wouldn't change anything that has happened.

Fantasia Fair in Provincetown, Massachusetts, is in October. I am in DC and I will plan to drive up...so I can offer a free ride to anyone between here and there... let's plan a group field trip?

Hey everyone As someone who was diagnosed with bipolar disorder, I wonder if it is common among transgender or people who don't prescribe to the gender binary to have some kind of mental illness. Do any of you have bipolar as well (or something similar)? I suppose my biggest fear is that being bipolar will affect my treatment and diagnosis as a transgendered individual. Transitioning is crucial for me. I was doing a bit of research, and I can understand how the issues we deal with can cause a manic break, therefore making a mentally ill individual even more so. Mental illness definitely runs in my family, so I think being FTM and dealing with the emotional issu…

I have been wondering about the way we (as a community) refer to women. Why do we so easily and readily call grown women 'girls'? Do you think that we should find another more respectful term rather than 'GG'? What about CGW (cis-gender woman)? Is this not a better descriptor? Am I being too politically correct? Check out: https://daniellaargento.wordpress.com/2015/03/18/referring-to-women/ for more if you are interested.

So here is what has been going on with me lately. I have decided to make some positive life changes and I am taking charge of my life staring in 2012. First on the list is a move to Phoenix and getting involved with some of the programs that will help me with my transition into womanhood. That article that I had posted about H.O.P.E. House had me intrigued and I checked into it some more and made the decision to go down there and start my life over and go solo for the first time in 15 years. I discussed this with my dad and he supports my decision and knows that I can't live with him forever and that he's not going to be around forever so I better prepare for being on …

So, with medicare covering surgery, I have contacted surgeons to see if they will accept medicare and have gotten an emphatic no from them all . Even from surgeons that are trans themselves. Yea, guess it is all about the almighty dollar. So, at my age, I am giving myself 3 years. 3 years to get back in to my profession, get my surgeries done. And If it doesn't happen, then, I give up.

I had an interesting chat today with someone from Personnel regarding me coming to work dressed according to my inner perspective. It appears that TS are very easy to manage in the sense that one day they appear as one gender, the next day in their new gender role. Changes such as name changes, new ID badges, and so on, can be easily implemented. A TG defies that easy rule, because every day could be different. I never feel very masculine or manly, and when I pretend to be manly (grr, beats chest) it's very comical. It is also insightful, in that being manly doesn't come easily to me. I really have to work at it. I digress. I can be somewhat more masculine one day, more…

ok so is it wrong of me to be always cautious and suspicious of every male i encounter? i mean i know not all men are pigs and stuff but being that i used to be a male, i know what most of them think of and want, and tend to think with their you know whats. maybe its fear cause im afraid that being hit on by one will turn out to be too creepy for me...i dont know....lately ive been just wary of guys who want to chat with me especially on my virtual game i play.

Early in my transition, confused and feeling alone, I was excited to find that there was a local group called Tri-Ess in my area. I reached out to them for help... and was shot down! Why? Because I identified as bisexual and transsexual. You see, Tri-Ess was, and still is, only for heterosexual male crossdressers and their wives. It was my first taste of the in fighting in the transgender community. It hurt to be excluded from a group where I felt I might be able to finally be myself. Still alone but desperate to find others like me, I turned to the personals that appeared in the local newspaper. I hate to date myself, but there was no Internet back in those days. Fina…

Dear LGBTQQI community in Bakersfield, I am writing this letter in hopes that some of you or all of you are made aware of a growing problem that is here in the city. Recently me, my dad and his boyfriend moved to the city back in February 1st of this year. We rented a motel for the month in hopes down the road of finding a place to rent but just recently have changed our minds. We heard the Gay & Lesbian Center was just a couple blocks down the street from us and decided to go check it out and see what kind of services it had to offer. Well me and my dad went and we was for the foremost rudely in a polite way shoved out the door and told that they was havin…

Yea, haven't written for a while. Been looking into the medicare provision for my remaining surgery. I find the biggest problem is staying motivated to try. I have been fighting for so long to get this done that I am out of steam. And, one thing I need to find is people that will encourage me to keep going. I get along great with family, but they do not want to hear about the trans stuff. As for friends, well they contact me when they need something. I keep telling myself that I am too old. that even if I get the surgery done, I am too old for a relationship, or to find a real job, or to have a real life. Man, I am so tired of it. Having a life shouldn't be one …

I have been out in my neighborhood more and more. It's very refreshing to see that people see and treat me like anyone else. I've even received some compliments. It's really wonderful that I can be authentic self. I see that there will be some changes ahead. I don't know what they will be but I sense it. This is nothing new with me because whatever I did sense in the past came to fruition. I will have a clearer picture in the months ahead.

Good evening! I'm trying to find places to go in Toledo. I don't actually live in the city so it's not really practical to just go all over asking bartenders to describe club climates to me but I will if I have to. My spouse is not yet certain what he's looking at in himself, and isn't ready to have any of this spill over into his day to day life until he's worked through his confusion, and I support however he wants to deal with this. He grew up in a bullying environment and is rather shy, so I thought I would try to see if I could reach out and get some recommendations. He has expressed interest to me in going out together with him in dress, only neither of us have…

No, I'm not venting! I have had this thought in my head for a couple of weeks. It's good to let all the frustration and tension out of your system. Whether its posting here, writing in a journal, creating a blog,or just screaming in an empty room, getting out all the negative vibes is therapeutic. Once that's done, creative and positive ways to resolve issues can be thought of. I read numerous posts of people who vent. I do understand what they go through. I created a blog when I was dealing with my gender issues in 2005 (still have the blog). I posted everything that was on my heart. One one particular night I posted until three in the morning. I was emotionally drai…

I am so sorry that I have not been around for awhile. I have been trying to get my life in order and been so wrapped up in other things that I almost forgot you all. :( :(

Always good to see others publish things about their journey and that anything is possible when you put your mind to it.

Saw my Dad today, and knowing i would'nt see him on Christmas, we did the gift giving today. And, my Dad gave me the best gift. On a Christmas card he gave me, he wrote this one sentence. "I thank God for sending you to me. Love Dad" What greater gift could i ask for.

Misgendering happens, whether you’re a trans man, trans woman, non-binary... especially if you’re not cis. What to do? I’ve talked about this several times over the months I’ve been seeing Sandy Hirsch, my voice therapist and coach. As a cis woman who’s very supportive and experienced with many transgender clients, she’s an excellent resource to discuss issues like these. Early on - when I was still pretty on edge - I told her that I’d be a little righteously indignant to someone who misgendered me. Like “Do I look like a man to you?” She worried that this would trigger defensiveness and perhaps anger or worse. So I just let being misgendered go. Better to be safe than so…

I want to touch base on average life expectancy of male versus one who transitioned into m to f woman ?? Are there any significant amount of years added towards total aging? Any technical help appreciated thank you 😊

Self- acceptance is the first step toward self discovery. It is declaring that I accept who I am regardless of what others say or think. The fog clears away and opportunities to express my gender variance without shame or fear. When I accepted that I was a cross dresser, the tension and stress of several weeks of denial dissipated. in due time contentment followed. I felt comfortable in my own skin. I was free to explore and grow as a transgender woman. No one can live our lives for us. Seeking to improve ourselves does not compromise us as individuals, parents, or neighbors. I sometimes cringe when I hear that some one is called selfish because they desire t…

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Here is an article worth reading. https://www.boredpanda.com/people-gender-transition-stories-twitter/?fbclid=IwAR0WQgS0yIW5K9HK2lKRZUEkVTB6I_3fgbCsWocXeGbR1dFT5SF5eMMjC40&utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=organic The things I love about life are those special, subtle reactions that say I'm worth it. I look for them; there are many!!! I try to ignore and distance myself from the negative.