General Transgender Discussion

Ahh I'm confused lately. I'm like looking in the mirror and seeing that I'm more attractive and feminine slowly but surely, which is good, but the question is... How do you tell if you're becoming who you, on the inside, really are, or if you're just excited when you look in the mirror because you see a pretty girl? I guess this isn't a problem for straight girls, but still... I look downstairs like after a shower n see stuff that I don't think should be there but is that me seeing myself and I shouldn't have anything, or is it me seeing a girl who does have something and I don't think it should be there on her? It's pretty confusing. I mean Iunno I just feel deta…

Hi all, I know I haven't been super active lately.. Since my lay-off, things have gotten surprisingly busy. I am now back in school, working on my Computer Science degree. And even better, I got a sewing machine! Yay! So I'm learning how to use that well, still working on my knitting and improving my cooking skills... I made this apron as my first attempt I hope everyone has been well, I miss the discussions here and hope to get back into the swing of things soon!!

It’s been a bit since I was on here. Of late my meds were ruined and I’m playing hell getting them filled again before the end of October. I’ve begun wearing a bra daily. I’ve heard it helps with shaping them. Not sure I can believe that but what the hell i do love wearing them. I hope my doc can help get my meds. It’s been horrible not having them. My addiction to becoming female is overwhelming and has brought me to tears because I can feel ["him"] trying to move back into me. Any advice from anyone on how to handle it would be nice. Love you girls. Cynthia

Hi Everyone, I’ve been away for a while ... my personal life has been quite hectic with very much having happened since I was last on the forums. I miss the friends here that I talked with regularly and look forward to reconnecting, I am however still quite busy. The last I was here my partner and I had been working on some issues in our intimate lives as any of you know can be troublesome if you stay with the partner from before transitioning .. though it is rare I’m pleased to say there can be successful transition of a relationship on all levels when one person changes gender. I had no desire to be in a sexless marriage as many of us face as women of transsexual …

I have been very tired and busy for a while now. Came out to some friends and family that just went well almost totally ignored by everyone. I am having some medical problems. Stress at work piling up. I may be starting Spyro soon hopefully. Life is just getting out of hand. I have been working with a therapist for a while now and that helps a lot. I have a lot of dysphoria all the time and anxiety issues. Hopefully things start working out soon.

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I stated crossdressing when I was 15. It was my escape and safety net from an abusive brother. I started off wearing pantyhose and tights under my clothes. Over time, I started wearing women panties full time. I even bought high high shoes and knee high boots to walk around in. As time went on, I slowly started buying women clothes, makeup, and couple wigs. I even thought about becoming a transgender woman. My psychologist wanted me to prefect my crossdressing skills first. For me to learn dress up where I can truly pass as a women. Even though I been slowly taking baby steps for crossdressing over the years. I'm still new to becoming a full crossdress women. I will app…

Being an ally vs. just telling others how to be an ally LGBT Weekly Most folk who aren't part of the T of the LGBT community aren't aware of the divides between some of those who identify as transsexual, but not as transgender, and those who identify as both transsexual and transgender. To me, the divide seems to be...

Within what I'm going to write I will name no names. I'm really bad at names anyway so the chance I would remember the names correctly are slim to none, lol. This however is a serious subject I hope people will read. A dear friend of mine told me this evening that a person in the complex in which I live said she would never let her children near me because I'm transgender. This without my knowledge at the time but she wasn't going to allow her children to come to my haunted house. Again I don't know who this person is, it turned out she came with her children to my haunted house. Now two things are teaching moments here. One, parents understand I totally respect your want…

I read this line recently, written by a transman: I really like that. I feel the same way; I'm a kid at heart too, and I guess you could blame it on the fact that I never went through puberty, but just turned into a Neanderthal. This made me think of Jennifer Diane Reitz's response to a letter someone wrote her on a similar topic: http://transsexual.org/letters30.html So what do you all think? Any of you do anything to make up for your lost childhoods? Are any of you still kids at heart? I'd be interested in hearing other people's thoughts on this.

For me, being TG is like having lived my whole life in a country where everyone looks a certain way except me; I've picked up the culture from my earliest years, to the point where I know no other, and many see me as a noncitizen because of my physical appearance. (Fortunately, women usually overlook that when they get to know me; the girls at school treat me more like they treat each other than like they treat the guys.) It's like being Jewish in a strongly Christian anti-Semitic country; by being who I am, I break the basic God-given rules the majority live by, and if people find out the truth, I'm finished. Male puberty is like changing from human to Neanderthal…

Hi everyone I’m Jamie, I’m in a weird situation where I’m planning to move and work to Japan from China(I used to live in the US) and also I’d like to begin my transition from male to female while there. In order not to derail my “coming out to my spouse” thread too much I made this one. I would like to know any resources or information of mtf life in Japan. Or your experiences while there. Firstly I’d like to recommend this source to anyone asking similar questions https://stonewalljapan.files.wordpress.com/2016/02/transguide2016.pdf this seemed both helpful and a bit depressing. I’ll be working in a small(?) city called Mito and I don’t know if…

Not sure if anyone else has dealt with this. I finally, after a very tough week, realized that i have been living my life for everyone else except for me. I always felt i was being selfish if I did'nt, in some way, conform. Take care of everyone but me. After a week from hell, I now know that, I need to be the man I am. And, if others don't like who I am, it's their problem, not mine. I will say, in this past week, dealing with loss, my dad's illness, and more, well I have never come so close to suicide. And i know it is all because i have been stifling who I am to please others. In looking to change my ways, I have been making a list of goals. Goals for my own …

Some words seem to become difficult in a TG situation. I'm curious what substitution words people have developed to get around this. Good example: "wife". See, I started out saying "SO" partially because I didn't feel like exposing that detail at the time, but partially because it's an awkward sort of word to use. I somehow can't see a lesbian couple calling each other "wife" or even "husband" if one was really butch, unless they were doing it as a joke. I don't know, maybe they would? I guess if a lesbian couple did somehow manage to get married in the current political climate (Massachusetts and Canada excepted ) they'd probably be pretty proud of it. But what do …

Beyond Male and Female: Creativity, Risks, and Resilience Among Genderqueer People Huffington Post (blog) This new article shows that genderqueer people have unique demographic characteristics and experiences of discrimination and violence when compared to transgender people who identify as "male" or "female." The National Transgender Discrimination Survey...

This was shared to me on my Facebook by a good friend of mine . She often sends me these links as a "Teaching tool " As I am a Suicide prevention councilor and a M2F group owner : http://transgenderuniverse.com/2016/08/08/dealing-with-the-fallout-when-your-transition-goes-nuclear/

There’s something I’ve been thinking about that only confuses me more and more as I think about it. We’re all under fire for being who we are. But when you see news about imposing bans and restrictions, there’s one common theme that sticks out to me. They seem to forget half of the community. Their hate is seemingly directed only at trans women and gay men. I honestly don’t remember anyone mentioning trans men or lesbians. They direct their hate at those of us who were born with a penis. Those born with a uterus are off their radar. Trying to figure out why is like trying to understand the Crimean War. I might as well pull a Stewie Griffin, and build myself…

Okay, I must be extra brunette today or something , I've read the instructions, but still not sure what I need to do to start my own blog. I go to my control panel, and I see the blog, but it says no entries, where/how do I post a new entry? Anyway, my latest update is that I posted two new pics in my gallery on this site, and also that I have just received a great job offer as team lead/senior consultant for a Fortune 100 company. I will be moving to Columbus, Ohio next Thursday the 29th. Bobbie Jo

The Transsexual Stigma Montreal Gazette (blog) Hoping to find Mr. Right and live the American/Canadian dream after you have transitioned? I'm not saying that all Male-to-Female folks will strike out in finding true love with Prince Charming. But it might not be easy. From what I've seen... A reality check worth reading for anyone who fantasizes that they'll transition and meet their knight in shining armor. ~ Lori

Sooooo I know alot of people are doing youtube nowadays, and after a crazy stressful day, I decided to make one. Here's the link if you all wanna drop in and see! http://www.youtube.com/user/Ashleetorin Not sure if anyone else has one, but if so, do share! :)

Hi Everyone, I am doing laser removal for face and other parts of my body. However, i don't know what to do about my facial blond hair. Any suggestions? Please help.. Andrea

Ok, I have a question...I want to start HRT (and yes correctly, under care). I am 41, 5'10", 185 and workout daily. I have a very defined body and am wondering what effect hormones will have on me? If I am taking them but continue working out, how much will I hurt my breast growth, if any? As is I have a small B cup just from having a developed chest. Anyone have some thoughts on this?????? I appreciate any and all comments.

Apologies if I am in the totally wrong area or The topic exists already. (I'm new) Anyway, boobs; the kind that come out of a box. I trust you guys but not google searches. The question is simple. What would you recommend, Criteria? Realistic, adhesible for days and days and days.... (and how) but don't cost a small mortgage. Over to you fellow residents of the twilight zone......xx Thank you, Pollypagan

:) We can talk about my boobs or your boobs. I am not so large yet, but I am very proud. I went from a flat as a pancake bird chest to a good 36-B so far. When I ride my bicycle, I can feel them bounce about. I've taken up shadow dancing. Partly because I'm bored and partly because I can watch my boobs bouncing. So, tell me your boob stories. Does anyone have a good link about boobs? Informational, humoristic, etc. Remember, nothing too naughty. - Virginia - Do you think I'll get in trouble for this one? Cast your vote.