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🤗 Thank you Christa. I am considering getting a sweep of my upper torso done but it is costing me £150-£180 per visit just for my face (either 1 hr of laser or 3 hrs of electrolysis) How much growth/stubble do you allow for laser - I find it incredibly painful although my facial hair has thinned substantially. I am still searching for the true me. Some days it seems obvious that Dee is who I should be and other days it seems that Dee is just a part of who I should be. I was asked recently if Dee is simply a way to allow myself the freedom of expression that I do not allow my male self, and the honest answer is I simply do not know. Do we become trans as a result of trauma we receive or do we receive trauma because we are trans and more vulnerable before we transition? x

Dear DeeDee, One thing I do through the years is to speak into an audio recorder as if I was talking to a good friend. Then I play it back, and think how I would counsel her. Hope this helps. Yours truly, Monica

Dee, I’m as sure as I can be that we don’t become trans because of trauma. It’s the other way around. We are born with our authentic gender pre-programmed. It’s like one’s sexuality, handedness, or other characteristics. Some very fortunate people do not experience such trauma and shame, especially young children if they are accepted and supported by their parents and community. For those like us it’s a struggle to not only find where we need to be on the trans spectrum but also to find self-acceptance and love. As Dara wrote in their book accomplishing this is truly a Hero’s Journey.

Thank you ladies, I needed cheering up today and it did the trick. I have had a lovely and properly relaxing day. 💛

That's a terrific idea Monica! I suppose we've all heard that we should talk to ourselves as if we're speaking with a good friend. I've tried that in my mind and I've not been successful. But I can well imagine how speaking and recording my words and sincerity would help me speak more nicely to myself.

Dee, please gently allow yourself to experience the normal ups and downs. Although I'm about as transitioned as one could be my journey certainly continues! I agree fully about returning to Dara's book and to adding to your recording of the work they recommend. There's so much wisdom in their book which inspires such powerful awareness in ourselves. 😍

Thanks Emma, I have been thinking of going back and trying again with Dara's book now that I am at a different point of my own journey. Though I am pretty sure I would be the annoying sidekick constantly needing rescued rather than the hero... 💛

Loved the looks, too! You'll know when it's definitely right or definitely not; I can't remember what turned the point for me, but maybe something to think of! Time is on your side.

I would say a 100 miles is a long hike! I guess your starting location is 100 miles away and the hike is there! I hope you enjoy it. Snapchat and the filter are free to use Emma, as long as it is just for giggles I do not see why not. People used to pay good money for glamour shoots which were the older equivalent. Thank you, that's sweet of you to say. 🤭 She has certainly made me feel beautiful for a while and that is what counts today. One day I will decide if she is going to become a permanent fixture on the outside or just a part of me on the inside.