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I should elaborate more on "out of pocket", one needs to pick a surgeon with a great track record and accommodates patients well.

My surgeon was Marci Bowers who does surgery is an excellent hospital. After surgery I spent a week in a hotel where all the staff were well versed with bottom surgery out patients.

My hospital stay was great, Marci checked in on my three hours after surgery and also the next day. After five days in the hospital I was released for the weekend and then a visit to Marci for a check-up. Was given the green light and went back to my hotel for another seven days which is recommended.

Throughout the time spent in California there were zero complications.

One last thing, Marci provides you with her personal cell phone number in case of any issues or questions.

I'm now post-op for two years, I did contact her several times and always a quick response. One time thought I had an infection, she asked for a photo, she responded with this is normal, if it does not clear up in several days let her know. The issue cleared up three or four days later. Another time, was having O's several times a day,  she referred me to a OBGYN, in the end there was nothing to be done but happy to say many people I've told this too said they wish they had that happen to them.

So going back to "out of pocket", one can pick a surgeon that is not a good choice for this surgery and/or have it done out of country with little or no support. Going with support, I had two friends fly in from Oregon to be with me (one from this site) and my brother's girlfriend from 30 years ago so I had support. 

The person I spoke of had zero dollars and was boxed into one surgeon and did not heed my warnings I had reservations for the surgeon, wish I was wrong but ended up being right.

Congratulations on your promotion!!!

​I liked it, the people doing this are professionals and noticed other interviews being done the same way and they were fine with it too.

​I should expand, it's more like paraphrasing then asking myself a question. 

​Slow recovery at this time, still in a recovery center this week.

Latest update, they went in and did a revised surgery this morning. She will be in the hospital for at least four days or more.

The more thought going into the events leading up to this and her attitude are recipes for what happen. What I had not mentioned before is she is dyslectic and has issues getting information down on paper so myself and another person drilled her for issues and came up with at least six things that we felt the surgeon should know and wrote them down for review.

Sounds like things are looking up for you  And that is wonderful. A thought about the difference in male and female wages, in my profession, software development there are no differences in wages between the two genders. I met up with a cross-dresser recently from another site, (s)he is the team lead for a large group of developers and is fully accepted but with a twist, she works from home which might very well make a difference yet in IT jobs we are all a little off the wall anyways. If there is a point in my ramblings is I would say you are right on yet there are fields that are fine with transgender people and at the same time would guess that cross-dressers are not accepted as much as transgender in professional fields. College degrees may or may not make a difference, I have no clue. 

I will say that higher educated people tend to be less discriminated but how much I don't know.

Best of wishes for you!

​Hi Vi, thanks for the compliment. In regards to my sister/friend, I met her back in 2007 on MySpace, we ended up dating on and off until (I think) 2010 when became friends.

I came out to her in September of 2015 and she has been extremely supportive with me. I ended up as her brides maid when she married, told her future husband I needed to be her braid's maid.

So we were at a party last summer, picture of us was posted on Facebook and several people said we looked like sisters, hence we are now sisters

Here is another picture

I admit to watching it but for the following reasons. First, can't remember her name, think it's Candis, she is hot. Second reason, to watch Canit make a fool at herself as in my mind still is working with a male brain rather than a female brain. The show is what it is, something for people to watch and criticize, at least that is how I see it.

I record it and watch a segment then pause, go away, come back etc. 

@Veronica Yes the hormones have changed me a lot over the past 12 months, that is what I am told by my friend in the picture. I am still getting up to speed with the changes and too really see them have to look at older pictures of myself.

@Eve yes this is my twin sister, although we are not twins or biological siblings we started calling us sisters because of a comment someone made to us on Facebook so it stuck.

Update, came home today and the pass-book and documents arrived woohoo.

Hi Briannah,

Thanks for your reply. In my case I think they have kept my documents because I also applied for a pass-book which has not arrived yet and in a recent email it was indicated I may have up to three packages.

On a side note, I really don't need the pass-book but thought, what the heck, get one  

I've had feeling like you are having and can complete understand where you are coming from. Like you, I don't do patience very well either. 

Thanks for the kind words Veronica. I am hoping next weekend will be even better regarding the club with socializing and play time.

Doubt very much I would move on from here as I enjoy like minded people and sharing so others possibly may learn from what I have gone through and continue in this life.

With surgery like this is bound to be some degree of discomfort but I always view this as "Pain is transitory" and well worth the time it takes to recover. In regards to legs, I found it difficult to keep my arms down for breast augmentation and would guess this is similar to what you have gone through. Hopefuly they prescribed decent pain relief meds for you.  

Best wishes on a speedy recovery!!!

Well after writing this seems I went a bit past replying to your reply, oh dear, I am such a girl  

​Thanks for the gracious compliments Veronica. Something your reply made me think of is how I presented myself in the conversations, was not overbearing or too quite but instead blended into their conversations. In my old identity I could easily dominate a conversation but as time travels I have been adapting as you will to the more feminine ways.

I am sliding into a place where men feel very comfortable around me which brings me back to the attractive thing, I truly become overwhelmed at the attention received like last night or at the Miata club or out with friends at a bar. When leaving last night I did feel overwhelmed, in a manner of speaking my breath was taken away driving home.

What really is hard to accept is that one of the men (very handsome) eluded that he wanted to perhaps get to know me for possibly a LTR. Perhaps years ago that might had been a consideration but over the past three years or so I have gotten use to my freedom. This freedom is one price I paid to transition. Transitioning from what I have read goes smoother for a single person who does not get heavily involve in a relationship yet I am sure there are those who do just fine but I felt better being single.

Looking back now, for me the physical transformation is not enough to then go out and be in public such as this club but instead one must spend real time 24-7 to get into the new identity.

Good to hear you got the coy thing, it's something that did not happen overnight either but developed per-say naturally out of how our society is and what is expected socially of a female. 

Thinking back to last night and the president's wife, she said no certain terms nobody suspected me as once being male. I feel the true reason is that time and persistence play a huge part with this which includes things like taken care of myself to what I have learned from voice lessons.  

​I met some very intelligent, fun people last night who are there for both socializing and sex rather than simply sex. Learned there are just under 200 people in this club and that some make up to a two hour drive several times a month to attend.

There was one couple, male, female that I could tell wanted to play with me from their demeanor and subtle innuendos towards me plus staying at my table were there were plenty of open tables to pick from.

I have to admit that I was taken back at how very nice the people were and at the same time the attention (and I mean lots of it) given to me with conversation only.    

I would not put much into this appraisal, I tried it again, this time I got 97 percent female and age 20. I look young for my age but give me a break, 20 for a 60 year old?

There is another app, similarity meter. So I uploaded my male picture and my current picture and here is what I got.

I agree with Veronica in regards to both of you sharing, not many couples do this.

Many relationships where one is transgender or cross-dresser that person in many cases does become self-centered until the spouse calls them out on it which at this point focus needs change from self-centered to being there for each other. 

Congrats on your boobies  

My or oresent problem is I would like to transition but feel I can't because it would cause too many
problems for my wife and my adult children. I also don't want to lose them.

The truth here in my opinion is when hearing this (and have heard this many times) is what about your mental well-being? Can you envision yourself living a lie? The cold hard truth is, and should go without saying, see a qualified therapist and if they indicate you may very well be better off transitioning at one level or another to keep sane then it would be wise to entertain their thoughts on the matter of you, your life and your families lives.

The atomic family is ever changing when only considering hetrosexual couples, toss in a third gender or a cisgender person who would be better off transitioning to the level of transition that makes them a well rounded person ought to be considered.

My marriage, one reason for failure was I was living a lie. Lost a wife but through the years have always been close to my children and after transitioning I am here, I thinking of it as a late reboot down the road of life.

Food for thought.