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  1. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Female voice improvement   

    Hello Allison... and welcome.
    This entire forum is about voice.  There is also the youtube video that Lori put the link for in the post just above your's.
    Go back to Transgender Voice... and you will find a variety of discussions on voice issues, vocabulary, tips and voice training.
    -Michael
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  2. UsernameOptional added a comment on a blog entry Is There A Place For Short-Term Relationships?   

    Hiya Monica -
    So much great input by two people.  Bree and Emma have said a lot of the things I was thinking and intended to comment on.
    But I gotta add to the "gassy."  Yes, we are all gassy.  As Bree said... it's a by-product of digestion - there's no getting around it.  Well... maybe with a little Gas-X    But considering we are all four fairly close in age, we each know that such concerns are a result of primarily your mum and other female relatives hammering into your head what nice girls and women do and and don't do.  No doubt one of them made it plainly clear more than once that 'only men do disgusting things like fart.'  This kind of up-bringing applies to and has affected other alleged short-comings a person carries around with them.
    That said... I see a lot of your concerns as a product of the era in which we were raised.  There were so many things that women weren't supposed to speak of, or even think about.  Men weren't supposed to know certain things about women.  Now, one would think that logically, as a lesbian, a woman wouldn't worry about things like being gassy - she's not trying to keep a man from knowing she farts too.  Both of you are in the Women's Secrets Club.  But because so many that were raised during the mid and late 50s thru the early to mid 70s (commonly known as baby boomers) were continually bombarded with all of what society expected of them...these things that were drilled into us are hard to escape.  And it is some of those things that affect our relationships.
    As far as long- or short-term relationships are concerned and natural human imperfections notwithstanding, I dare say that religion, primarily Christianity, has played a big part in villifying short-term relationships - especially for women.
    I think we can probably all think of reasons why someone else would not want us.  And the list of advantages for short-term relationships makes a little sense.  But I don't think that list should be used to draw a line in the sand.  One of those short-terms could end up being a long-term - if you let it.  You never know where that long-termer will come from.  No matter what age you are.
    -Michael
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  3. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Apologies for the Interruption   

    UPDATE ----
    Lori is still working on things.  She also had a support ticket submitted, which is just being responded to.  Beause there were more issues associated with chat, she is working on that first.  After that, she will be working on the site.  She has indicated that this will be quite a job, so we may experience hiccups here and there for a while.  Either I or Lori will try to provide updates as necessary.  Hopefully, the overhaul will go smoothly and no one will even hear the hammering, sawing and cussing...
    -Mike
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  4. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Apologies for the Interruption   

    "Photos below 300kbs load - in-between appears to vary based on aspects of Width to Height pitzels."  -- Dawn
    Yup... I was getting the same results
    -Mike
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  5. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Transgender Activists Attack Pro-Family Campaign Bus With Hammer, Paint   

    Considering this "news" piece came from Breitbart, the radically-conservative-conspiracy-theory-mongering site that the 45th U.S. President trusts over all real, legitimate news, I don't know that I'd put too much stock in it.
    For one thing, first time I saw a big orange bus in the news with male and female figures on it, proclaiming that sex is biology and not politics, it was in Spain.  The slogan splattered across the bus was:
    Los ninos tienen pene.
    Las ninas tienen vulva.
    Que no te enganan.
    which translates* to:
    [Boys] have penises.
    Girls have vulva.
    Do not be fooled.
    That bus was seized by Spanish authorities and a probe was launched to determine whether the campaign could constitute a hate crime.
    It's possible that some uber conservative American groups might have copied the idea...but who really knows considering the source?  And who really knows if the vandalism really happened?  When I googled bus boys have penises girls have vaginas  before replying to this post, the majority of the returns on the first page had to do with the bus in Spain.
    Now the bad part, the sad part- 45 will probably eat this up because after all, Breitbart is not "fake" news.  Whether true, false or twisted, we better hope 45 doesn't try to use this to justify more anti-TGLB actions.
     
    *Source:  Google Translate
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  6. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Joe Biden Blasts Trump Administration For Rolling Back Trans Protections   

    "...the man in question came in power for reason being only, to build a wall..."  -- C2P
    Yeah... that damn wall is part of why he's slashing the funding for anything and everything he can get his tiny little hands on.
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  7. UsernameOptional added a topic in Transgender News & Happenings   

    Mother & Son to Father & Daughter
      NICOLE PELLETIERE | 18 March 2017
    "Maison said in June that Corey was bullied for being transgender when she was younger. The first incident was when a child pushed her down a hill covered in frozen ice, causing injuries to Corey's face. Eventually, Corey was moved to another school as a result of the bullying, Maison said."  -- gma.yahoo.com
    Dad and daughter transition together from mother and son: 'If she can do it, so can I'
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  8. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Joe Biden Blasts Trump Administration For Rolling Back Trans Protections   

    After-school programs, PBS, the arts and "Meal-on-Wheels" are on the chopping block too.  As one night time talk show asked, [paraphrasing] "how hateful do you have to be to cut 'Meals-on-Wheels'?" 
    But what do you expect?  His children don't need any after-school programs, PBS is not his style, he can buy whatever art he wants, and he won't be starving or trying to decide whether to buy food or medicines in his advanced years.

    P.S. ...  You GO Joe!!!!
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  9. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Apologies for the Interruption   

    Dawn -
    I will pass this info on to Lori.
    I tried the system again - you'll remember that I had been successful in uploading an image some time back when we were discussing this in PM.  I could not replicate the failure then - today I had different results.
    1st try:  Upload failed - no error message, just a blank page.  File was 3.54MB.  All that appeared in the album was an empty image holder
    2nd try: Upload failed - no error message, just a blank page.  File was 0.98MB.  All that appeared in the album was an empty image holder
    3rd try:  Upload successful.  File was 156kb (about .15MB)
    4th try:  Upload failed - no error message, just a blank page.  File was 518kb (about .5 MB).  This time, there was not even an empty image holder where the image should have been
    5th try:  Upload successful.  File was 247kb (about .25MB)
    6th try:  Upload failed - no  error message, just a blank page.  File was 379kb (about .37 MB).  Again, there was not even an empty image holder where the image should have been
    7th try:  Upload failed - no  error message, just a blank page.  File was 292kb (about .28 MB).  No empty image holder where the image should have been
    8th try:  Upload failed - no  error message, just a blank page.  File was 253kb (about .25 MB).  No empty image holder where the image should have been
    On my end, it appears that uploads might be a hit-n-miss kinda thing now.  I was beginning to think that perhaps size was the issue as you can see the 1/2 MB file I attempted to upload failed just as yours did, but the first two smaller files loaded without any problem.  But when I tried again to upload a file that was only .25MB, that one failed.  I would think that if size was the problem, that last .25MB file upload would have been successful.
    So, it's likely that the problem is not ours unless we happen to have the exact same environments.  This is what I'm working with:
            
            Window 7 Home
            Firefox browser, 50.1.0
            Avast Anti-virus (free version)
            Windows firewall
            Cox broadband, 25mbps
    And of course, this issue with image upload failures did not begin until the failed upgrade just a couple or so months ago.
    -Mike
     
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  10. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Apologies for the Interruption   

    Hiya Dawn -
    I'll have to find out from Lori.  In the PM where we were discussing this issue, I had mentioned that all I could find as far as sizing were dimentions... but 2MB is most definitely a pretty large file, and could very well be part of the problem.  I'll try to find a large image file and see if I can upload it.  I'll let ya know how it turns out.
    Stay tuned.....  
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  11. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Texas 'bathroom bill' advances after 13 hours of testimony   

    If it wasn't a shame... it'd be almost be funny.   THIS... after all the hullabaloo over the Texas boy who was FORCED to wrestle on the GIRL's team against other GIRLS.
    It's obvious, these people have learned ab-so-LUTE-ly... NOTHING.
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  12. UsernameOptional added a blog entry in Michael's Blog   

    More Clarity
    Somewhere around here, I've shared the fact that my mother is NOT accepting of my transgender being.  She was.  At first.  But then something changed, and she wanted to hear no more about it.  She let me know she bore only ONE son [and that wasn't me].  She's also gone so far as to say that there is "nothing 'wrong'" with me, I was just adversely influenced and affected by my work environment and the people I worked around and with - all men.  She refuses to accept that I wanted to be in job where I felt comfortable, and felt more myself - that being, with other men.
    I already knew that my mother was a "girly girl."  She was the kind of girl growing up that laid across her bed, looking at fashion mags and dreaming of a big wedding, a husband, children and a family.  In fact, my mother did not leave home until she was married.  My mother also used to draw and water colour.  What did she draw?  Women in all the top fashions of the day.  She could have been one of those people that illustrates the envelopes that women's sewing patterns come in.
    A few years ago, I learned that my mother is perhaps (I hate to admit it), a bit on the vain side.  In a rant one day, the rant that pretty much shut down all future conversation about me being a transgender man (and despite that the topic really was irrelavent to a degree about me being trans), she talked about how any man she had ever dated had to be physically fit (no pot bellies, for example), had to be a good dresser (that didn't include jeans, or as they were most often called back then - dungarees), had to have neat [appropriately short] hair, and be the quintessentially perfect gentleman.  She went on to let me know that my father was a very nice dresser and a gentleman.
    Now, yeah, nothing wrong in dressing nice when the occasion calls for it.  And nothing wrong in a man being a gentleman.  But my mother was the type of woman that expected and demanded those qualities to the Nth degree.  Of course on the flip side of that coin, she expected that women should dress a certain way with strict attention to whatever the occasion was, AND there were things she felt that only [bio]men should do, be able to do, know how to do, and that unless you are a [bio]man, you don't know jack about those things.  In those things, she would and still does defer to men and take only the word of a [bio]man.  
    Example: cars.  Doesn't matter what I know... if I try to tell her something, suggest something, advise her of a problem, give an opinion, offer to repair something...she will invariably ask me what do I know about it, how do I know it, who told me or how did I learn it.  If it's something very minor, she may accept what I suggest or recommend.  But anything more than minor, she will wave me off saying, "I don't know."  Later, she will make it a point to ask a man about it whether that man is a mechanic, burger flipper, surgeon or pencil pusher.
    In fact, I have learned since my dad died that there are things my mother does not know how to do.  Doesn't have a clue.  Things that, if she'll let me, I do for her 'cause...  she doesn't have a clue.  She will let me know, "you father always took care of that - I didn't have to do those kinds of things."  It's not that my father didn't let her do these things, it's that in my mother's world, those things were his job to do, and she expected him to do them.  My father, being the quintessentially perfect gentleman, acquiesced.
    And so now, we come to the present.  Over breakfast the other day, mother was telling me that she had stayed up a little too late the night before - she had been watching a movie that "had Madea in it."  She couldn't remember the title of the movie and was describing some of the characters.  When it came to Madea, she stumbled over what to call the character choosing instead to say "Tyler Perry."  I said, "Madea."  She said [paraphrasing], "he, Tyler Perry, he plays Madea."  Then she went on trying to describe a scene, referring to Madea as "he."  I retorted with, "she.  Madea is a woman."  My mother came back with, "but Madea is played by a man."  This was supposed to justify her referring to Madea as "he" and "him."
    My mother is so steeped in a strict male/female society, that she can't even refer to Madea as a woman, like most people apparently seem able to do, though I'm sure for many it's only because it's entertainment.  It hit me then -- how will I ever expect that my mother will see and accept me as a man, when she can't even use the proper pronouns for a fictional character in a movie?
    -Michael
     
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  13. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Apologies for the Interruption   

    Hi Dawn -
    No... I doubt it's anything you can do on your end, though it doesn't seem to be something that everyone is experiencing.  In an email from Lori just yesterday, she advised me that she is trying to get someone from tech support at Invision or  at her hosting company to assist with the software upgrade.  She is hopeful that a successful upgrade will resolve the issue with uploading images, among other things.  Tech support has been the biggest issue now for about a year.
    Hang in there... on behalf of Lori, thank you for understanding, your input, and most of all - your patience.
    -Michael
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  14. UsernameOptional added a comment on a blog entry More Clarity   

    Thanks ladies for the kind and supportive words.
    Ya know, it's really funny... my mum is so loving.  She loves babies and dogs and they love her.  And she hurts for you when you are [physically] hurting.  You'd never know that she would not accept someone being trans.
    Crazy, eh?
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  15. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Trump administration poised to change transgender student bathroom guidelines   

    So Drumpf has ROYALLY screwed us over, and the Supreme Court took the cowardly way out.
    I hope they can all sleep well every time a trans kid has been beat up by mini-me bigots while their teachers stand idly by.

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  16. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Trump administration poised to change transgender student bathroom guidelines   

    COMMENTARY
    Randi Weingarten | March 03 2017 5:34 AM EST
    "Over the last eight years, we made great strides in expanding LGBTQ rights, enabling those of us who are gay to live our lives without fear or discrimination. But these days it feels as if our gains are all crashing down and we are moving back in time. On transgender rights, as with so many other rights and freedoms he is trying to restrict, Trump has shown that he’s captive to the worst instincts and divisive policies of his inner circle..."  -- advocate.com
    Fighting Back Against Sessions's Trans Attack
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  17. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic 5th Trans Woman Murdered in US this Year   

    TWO MORE MURDERS
    Trudy Ring | March 02 2017 10:16 PM EST
    "Holland, who also used the name Jaquarrius Brown, was unemployed and lacked stable housing, friend Chesna Littleberry told the site. She often stayed with Littleberry, who said Holland was like a younger sister to her and taught her self-acceptance. “I’ve struggled with accepting myself and being who I am, and she always helped me with that," Littleberry told Mic. “I want her to rest peacefully.”" --advocate.com
    Murders of Two More Trans Women Reported
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  18. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic 5th Trans Woman Murdered in US this Year   

    "Because sometimes murder is just murder regardless of what the victim is, and they have to figure out if it it was because it was a transperson, or if it was because there was some sort of acrimony between them, mugging gone wrong, mistaken identity(weirdly this happens), insurance, a million motives."  -Bree
    This is very true - sometimes it's just a murder.  My gripe is, while officials seem always quick to flirt with just a possibility of hate being involved in crimes against other non-TGLB people, I have yet to hear/read any news item about a murdered trans woman "possibly being a hate crime."  No conclusions.  No bottom lines.  Just a "possibility" that will be considered once all the facts are in.
    I'm not suggesting they wear it out, or jump to such a conclusion and especially not to the point that after a while people desensitized to it.  But if they can make comments in passing upon first discovering other brutal crimes, they can do the same for a trans woman who's been brutally murdered, and in light of the fact that trans women seem always being murdered.  The possibility is ignored so often, that I can't help but believe it IS because the victim was trans.  I mean... what else can ya think when they won't even acknowledge a woman's gender identity?
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  19. UsernameOptional added a topic in Transgender Crime   

    5th Trans Woman Murdered in US this Year
    I still cannot, for the life of me, figure out why the murders of transgender poeple are NEVER immediately thought to be, believed to be, speculated that or suspected of being, a hate crime - only statements are made like (paraphrasing), "officials have not commented on whether the murder will be investigated as a hate crime," or "it's unknown if this will be concidered a hate crime," or "the murder is not being investigated as a hate crime at this time," etc., etc., etc..  Even in murders where their is unmistakable, viciously brutal over-kill, no one will even say, "this looks like a hate crime."   It's like they go total stupid about it.
    I don't get it.
    27 February 2017 | by Stefanie Gerdes
    "At least one news station – New Orleans’ WWL-TV – misgendered her, and a number of others used Chyna’s dead name." --gaystarnews.com
    Performer shot down in New Orleans is fifth trans woman to be killed in the US this year
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  20. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Trump administration poised to change transgender student bathroom guidelines   

    Allison Tate | February 24 2017 6:07 PM EST
    "Governor Andrew Cuomo stated that Trump's transgender rollback has 'no force or effect' in New York state."  --advocate.com
    Transgender Students Will Keep Protections in New York (Video)
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  21. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic College: Feces swastika found in gender-neutral bathroom   

    When I first read the article Charlie linked, I was really jacked up about it.  Whoever did this, took down three groups in one fell smear (yeah, the pun is intended) - Jews, transgender people, and hard-working blue collar people (the janitors) whom the culprits probably figure are all black or brown, and so they couldn't care less that they had to clean up that mess.
    What also hurt is that this happened in an institution that one would think would be progressive, accepting, inclusive, EDUCATED above bigotry.  An art school.  Of all places, a sanctum of artisticly creative minds.  Being an artist (albeit, a "starving" one...LOL), this merging of the arts and hate is painful.  It has now shown me that they are everywhere... the haters are in every nook and cranny, in every crease in the fabric of mankind.
    And they are all feeling empowered now....
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  22. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic College: Feces swastika found in gender-neutral bathroom   

    I can't even say what I think about this - our board doesn't allow that kinda language....
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  23. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Outside US, trans kids' toilets often not a federal issue   

    "As Donald Trump and U.S. courts seek to make transgender use of toilets an American battleground in schools , the more progressive corners of Europe and Latin America are shaking their heads in bewilderment. From Tipperary to Tierra del Fuego, schools let children go to the bathroom that suits their identity, a trend that could be reversed if the bitter U.S. debate travels overseas."  --AP
    Yeah, for such an allegedly world-leading progressive country, the U.S. is about the most up-tight, anal-retentive, prudish country in the world.  It seems that the U.S. has not yet emerged from the Victorian era despite the advances in technology, science and in other areas.  No doubt because the U.S. is considered a world leader, and is emulated by so many other parts of the world... the attitudes and actions of this country's politicians and bigots will be a poison to other countries.  All we have to do is look at what happened to one or two countries in Africa after one uber-ultra-far-right-conservative-homophobic maniac convinced them that homosexually had to be stamped out at all costs!
     
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  24. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Woman says billboard's message slams gender equality   

    Pictures and news video HERE
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  25. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Apologies for the Interruption   

    Thanks for your input, Dawn - I will email Lori to be sure she sees this post in case there is anything she can use in figuring out or fixing this problem.  If it's a timeout of some sort, I think I understand that issue as I ran into a similar situation on another website.
    -Mike
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