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  1. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Breast Cancer Poses Unique Challenges for Trans Community   

    ""I was trying to see if I could get back into that program as a trans man, because I had the woman parts, but since I switched my identity over to male, everything says 'male,' then it doesn't count anymore," he added."  --
    It's one thing to know what ailments affect certain groups the most.. but maybe it's about time that medicine, and especially insurance, stop dictating who can or can't be treated for what, and what someone will or won't be covered for.
    "...there is limited research to assess their risks for developing breast cancer, according to Deutsch. She said transgender women who are taking female hormones can develop the disease, but their overall risk remains a mystery."
    Does there have to be research done and completed before transwomen can be treated?  Biological males can get breast cancer also - it's just not as common as in females, so either way, the chance is there.  They can do research, but in the meantime, transgender women shouldn't be denied preventative care or treatments.
    Based on what appears to be practices that are quickly becoming antiquated and reasons for denying medical care being illogical, we could soon have large numbers of transgender people (at least in the US) dying from certain forms of cancer that insurance will not cover, and doctors do not/will not/can not screen for just because of the "M" or "F" on a person's records, with no regard to the parts they were [unfortunately] born with.
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  2. UsernameOptional added a comment on a blog entry Lonely   

    TG Guide has been my "home away from home" also.  It's very rare that I don't sign in.  And yes, I feel bonds with people here too.  It is comforting to know that I can come here and read posts and makes post knowing that most everyone here understands most everyone else.  There is little judgementalness, and there is always someone with an encouraging word, or a sympathetic word.
    Ooh... and nail polish does not the woman make.  That's in your heart.  The polish is just so much window dressing 
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  3. UsernameOptional added a topic in Transgender Health Care   

    Gender-affirming Surgeries to Resume After Nearly 40 Years
    "The prestigious school is finally distancing itself from its anti-trans reputation."
    Zack Ford | [18] October 2016
    "In 1965, Johns Hopkins made history as the first academic institution to offer gender-affirming surgical procedures. Though the surgeries were experimental and geared toward research, they served as a model for teaching surgeons about the procedures that other schools then adopted."  --
    Johns Hopkins to resume gender-affirming surgeries after nearly 40 years
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  4. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic NYT: "How Changeable Is Gender?"   

    Woooooo-hoooooooooooooo... the let me see this article!!
    "If gender identity were a fixed and stable phenomenon in all young people, there would be little to argue about. But we have learned over the past two decades that, like so much else in child and adolescent behavior, the experience of gender dysphoria is itself often characterized by flux."
    In my opinion... all the more reason to lay off the binary system, and let people identify in whatever manner suits them - no matter their age.  Then, if a person's gender identity did change at one point or another or again, it would be no big deal.
    "... some groups recommend pharmacologically delaying the onset of puberty in gender dysphoric children until age 16, before proceeding to reassignment. Puberty suppression is presumed reversible, and can be stopped if the adolescent’s gender dysphoria desists. But the risks of this treatment are not fully understood."
    Seems to me that every pharmacological product on the market has some kind of undesireable side affects - if it's not evident by the documentation that comes with a drug, it's evident by the 100's of television commercials we're bombarded with by law firms telling people to call them if this or that happened to them while on some specific drug.
    If society can't dump the strict male-or-female-only construct, then it should allow medical professionals to administer hormone blockers until a child is of an acceptable or legal age and decides they are cisgender, and can then be taken off of hormone blockers and allow natural puberty to take over, or transgender and can then proceed with transition.  Society shouldn't be able to demand a person is cisgender AND refuse medical interventions, too, with the excuse that it doesn't know what hormone blockers 'might' do.
    Just seems to me to be logical.
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  5. UsernameOptional added a comment on a blog entry Lonely   

    Thank you ladies.  Loneliness does indeed touch us all at times...but it's a little easier to shoulder when there are people like you all around.  Maybe if I had been here on TG Guide back then, that poem might never have been written.  I've considered TG Guide like a haven online.  I was "sheltered" so to speak by the woman who invited me here from another transgender site.  Over time, she has faded into the background, but not before I learned from her how to moderate.  She doesn't come around so often fact, very rarely.  Over time it's people like you all who have filled the void.  As I'm sure you all know, acceptance means nearly everything, and for the most part, I have always felt accepted as the man that life outside of this forum doesn't even know exists.
    "Never had I seen such a touching poem about loneliness by a man!"  -Monica
    LOL... I guess it doesn't matter if a guy is transgender or cisgender, too many of us have a tendancy to keep things bottled up.  I never realized it, but my g/f has addressed this with me on several occasions, and even my own brother has expressed a concern about it.  But I guess every once in a while if the moon and stars are lined up just right, that bottle gets opened up, and all kinds of stuff comes pouring out. 
    Love all of ya's
    - Michael
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  6. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Transgender voters may face problems voting in US elections   

    I've said it before, and I'll say it again - EVERYONE'S SITUATION IS DIFFERENT.  Not everyone is out - that doesn't make them a "weekend warrior."  There was a time when the only time I could let loose and be and feel as my true self was on the weekend.  And while I no longer don anything that comes out of the women's department, I'm still not out, not transitioned, and have no documents that reflect my true gender.  But I'm not a weekend warrior, and I've never considered myself a crossdresser.  And while I don't understand gender fluidity, and will not pretend so, there should be a place in this world for the gender fluid, those who feel both male and female, and those who feel that they are neither.
    Some states make certain demands on trans people before they can legally change their ID, and some people are not able to meet those demands.   If a person cannot meet the requirements of their state, and cannot get the ID that matches their gender, does that mean they should present at places like voter registrars contrary to how they live?  And if they do, does that then make them a weekend "weekend warrior?"
    What we actually need is a society that has finally pulled it's head out of it's binary-determined ass and accept and/or embrace all people no matter WHERE along the gender spectrum they do or don't fall.
    If you're a cisgender, heterosexual male - good for you.   If you're a transgender female who's attracted only to women - good for you.   If you come to work in a dress, with make-up, curls, baubles and heels today, then tomorrow in a suit and tie - good for you.   And each one should respect the other for however they present.
    THAT'S where we need to be.  And if one wants to register to vote, they shouldn't have to bend, bow and be humiliated into some socially designed box or told, "sorry, you're not allowed to vote because you don't look like what we think you should look like."
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  7. UsernameOptional added a topic in Transgender Health Care   

    Hope, Relief in New Policy
    Ben Finley, Associated Press |  ALEXANDRIA, Va. — Oct 2, 2016, 10:28 AM ET
    " A federal statute from the 1980s specifically bans military insurance from covering surgery for "sex gender changes." The law allows the defense secretary to make exceptions for active-duty members but not military dependents or retirees, said Pahon, the Pentagon spokesman."  --
    Hope, Relief for Transgender Military Families in New Policy
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  8. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic North Carolina's HB2 Anti-GLBT Bill   

    Meka Beresford | 1st October 2016, 5:43 PM
    "The governor of the state, Pat McCrory, said his state would call a session to consider repealing the widely condemned bill, but only if the city of Charlotte repeals its own LGBT protections."
    Southern Conference will keep their championships in North Carolina
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  9. UsernameOptional added a topic in Transgender Health Care   

    Clinics to Start HRT for Trans People
    Naseem S. Miller | September 27, 2016, 5:18 PM
    ""Studies have shown that over the last couple of decades, due to discrimination and abuse, transgender people simply postpone or do without health-care. As a result, their situations are more likely to become emergency medical problems and much more severe," said Duncan, who helped train the Planned Parenthood staff."  --
    Clinics to start hormone therapy services for transgender people
    While this is great news, I have to question WHY the Orlando Sentinel found it necessary to stick a vid about an increasing threat of untreatable gonorrhea smack in the middle of the article.  Is it some subliminal message to straight cisgender people that VD and transsexuality go hand-in-hand?  Okay...that sounds a bit conspiracy-theory-ish... but damn!!  -Mike
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  10. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Homosexuality not inate   

    ​I did consider deleting the OP until I spotted the mention of trans people in the article also... and of course, the purpose of this particular forum is for news, information and discussion that is not necessarily or directly trans related, but could potentially affect us.
    I tried to spot a link to a legitimate medical or scientific website among the returned search results when I googled this topic, but saw nothing (didn't really spend too much time on it though).  It would be interesting to know exactly where this came from, and if it was really worded they way these conservative websites have done.
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  11. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Homosexuality not inate   

    While this article could potentially throw EVERYONE not heterosexual and cisgender smooth under the bus... I want to highlight the fact that the article indicates not that homosexuality is not innate (despite its headline), but that allegedly, SEXUALITY is not innate - that includes heterosexuality.
    It also appears that the website is a faith-based site, and will no doubt jump on anything that would indicate or imply that being homosexual, bisexual or transgender is a choice.
    From another website, "two top Johns Hopkins University psychiatrists say there is insufficient evidence to conclude people are born with heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual attractions."  Again however, the website on which the quoted text can be found, according to wikipedia, is "influential in American conservative circles."
    What's scarey is that the bigotted politicians of the country could use this kind of thing to undo every advancement that the the TGLB community has rightfully achieved.
    NOTE:  The OP's comment, "I don't know if the posting thread is in the right category but anything involving sex should be in intersex forum's," is obviously out of place:
        1.  The post was originally in the intersex forum, and was moved
        2.  There is either a misunderstanding of what intersex is, or a misunderstanding of the purpose of the intersex forum
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  12. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic How to Upload a Profile Photo   

    Are you trying to upload a photo to use as an avatar?  If that is where you are getting the message, then it means the image cannot exceed that file size.  If it is for your avatar, you could upload it to the member gallery if you like, then I can download it, resize it, and upload it so that you could then use it.
    Otherwise, I would really need more info in order to figure out the problem.
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  13. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Salem police investigating explosion of LGBT newspaper box   

    The attitude of the police is disgusting.   
    Considering the "explosion" could be heard a mile away, this obviously wasn't a firecracker.  Had it been a firecracker, I could understand the hesitation to call it a hate crime, as something so small (in the scheme of things) could be considered a stupid act of vandalism.
    That the mailbox has been "vandalized" TEN TIMES IN THE PAST... would seemingly qualify this latest incident as nothing but hate, thereby making it a hate crime.
    But what the heck do I know?? 
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  14. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic U.S. Judge Grants Nationwide Injunction Blocking White House Transgender Policy   

    "The preliminary injunction would mean that, until that lawsuit works its way through the courts, the 'status quo' would be maintained and the guidance could not be considered enforceable."
    No, what it means is that, until that lawsuit works its way through the courts, the "status quo" would be maintained, and the zealots and bigots could continue, for a while longer (and hoping for forever), to exercise their dearly and closely held discrimination.
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  15. UsernameOptional added a topic in What's New at The Transgender Guide   

    Changes on the Transgender Spotlight Board
    Members -
    You all were probably familiar with the the "old" Transgender Television & Movies  forum, where one could post about television shows and movies in which there was a transgender character, or the storyline documented the activities or life of a transgender person.
    The forum, located in the Transgender Spotlight  board, has been expanded to include radio and online podcasts:  Transgender Television, Radio & Theater  -  Share and discuss your favorite TV, web TV and webisodes; radio and internet podcasts; and other web series and broadcasts that feature a transgender theme or character.
    Check it out!
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  16. UsernameOptional added a comment on a blog entry How I present myself   

    I'm not sure how people see me either.  I can only guess based on how they do or don't look (stare) at me.   I think I've mentioned recently that it seems men don't even notice me for the most part.  I dunno if it's because in passing they just see (or think me to be) another guy, or if they see me as a female that's "not much to look at."
    Women, on the other hand, do notice me.  There is an age group that has no problem in just straight up staring at me in a disapproving manner - the look on their faces bordering on disgust.  But every once in a while, there will be a woman cut me a glance that clearly indicates she likes what she sees.  Most often though, that happens when I am in a vehicle...
    I did try to be like women.  Make-up, jewelry, curls and smells.  Until I just couldn't do it anymore.  I was always nervous.  And of course being nervous made me sweat more than I already did.  After I started wearing men's clothes from shoes to shirts and everything in between outerwear to underwear, I realized that the female trappings are what caused me to always feel nervous - I was uncomfortable, self-conscious, unsure of myself, never felt like I measured up.  I always felt like people could see my vulnerability.  I'm sure that added to making me nervous.  I hated going to salons, and so I too often cut my own hair.  In salons, I felt naked.  I felt like the women around me were able to visually completely strip me of the facade I presented, and then glare at me because they knew I wasn't supposed to be there, and I was invading one of their sacred places of womanhood.
    As for the binder and STP... I have to agree that those two items might cater to the psychological.  I only know that I feel better in a binder and packing.  When not packing, my jeans don't feel like they fit right.  And then of course, that feeling of something missing is distressing.  That feeling is reminiscent of when I tried to dress and act like women do, and because of that, I rarely go out without it even though I'm the only one knows that it's there.
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  17. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic French Woman Killed with Hammer   

    An article at indicates that a man has been arrested in Bulgaria. While there was no name in the article, the man arrested was the last to see Mylène alive. It's nice to know that this case has not just been pushed to the back burner, but it's sad that entities involved continue yet to refer to Mylène as a man despite the fact that she identified as female.
    Limoges: the last man to have seen Mylène arrested in Bulgaria (English translation)  (Page no longer exists)
    François Clapeau | Published 12/09/2013 | 7:05 p.m., updated on 12/09/2013 | 7:05 p.m.
    Original French article   (Page no longer exists)
    It also appears, according to that Mylène was cremated shortly after this thread was first created.   (Link in this paragraph goes to the website, article is most likely archived)
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  18. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Athlete Worries About Competing in NC   

    Mosier Featured in Nike Ad
    Mari Brighe
    August 09 2016 8:48 PM EDT Updated August 10 2016 3:28 PM EDT
    "Mosier will not be in the Olympics, as the duathlon is not an event in the Summer Games in Rio De Janeiro. He has noted that there are no out trans athletes in the games — there are reportedly a couple who have not come out publicly — but this year's Olympics are the most open for trans athletes ever. New rules issued by the International Olympic Committee this year removed all surgical requirements for trans people to compete in events concordant with their gender identity."  --
    Team USA's Chris Mosier Is First Transgender Athlete Featured in Nike Ad
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  19. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Athlete Worries About Competing in NC   

    Mosier on Making History
    Lauren Steele | August 2, 2016
    "During his time at Northern Michigan University, he edited the school newspaper, hosted a radio show, played rec sports, and performed as the school's mascot – Wildcat Willie. He did anything he could to stay busy, because busy felt safe. "I didn't have enough time for relationships, to put myself out there, or have people get to know me," he says. "I didn’t have to have these critical conversations about who I was.""
    Mosier on Making History as First Trans Member of Team USA
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  20. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic #WeAreNotThis   

    Wow, that little victory didn't last long....
    See related posts --
    Gavin Grimm, Transgender Teen, Fighting To Use Men's Restroom At School
    What a federal appeals court’s ruling could mean for North Carolina’s bathroom law
    It's a GREAT day to be a Virginian !
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  21. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic UK top court split on transgender woman's pension right   

    The UK is certainly no more messed up than the US.  There are times however, when I look at the UK and consider it much further along (at least as far as law goes) than the US is when it comes to transgender people.  I know that many Brits complain about the NHS, but let's face it, at least the NHS has services for trans people (though apparently emotionally barbaric and difficult to navigate) - in the US, you are considered lucky if your insurance covers any part of gender related medical care.
    Considering same-sex marriage has been legal since 2014, enabling trans people who decide so to remain married to their spouses, I fail to understand what the issue is.  I also think it is crazy that there is one age for women and another for men for eligibility for pension.  And really, that men must be 65 and women 60 is stupid since on average, men die sooner than women.  Seems like allowing women to collect benefits at a younger age would be more of a financial burden on the system.  LOL... even in the US, ages for retirement and social security keep being raised... no doubt because the older a person is before they can collect, the less time they'll be in the system!  But I digress.
    Seems that it would be easier on everyone if the powers-that-be would forget about yesterday, and give this woman her pension under today's laws.
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  22. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Woman Harassed in Bathroom   

    "...I kept my head and had my documents supporting me, no so for many."  -- stephani
    It's sad that a person has to have "documents" just to pee
    ::: looks at stephani :::   Where the heck you been, missy??
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  23. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic UK top court split on transgender woman's pension right   

    There are so many things that seem totally messed up about this situation.  Just when ya think the Brits have their stuff together when it comes to trans people... something like this happens... and you stand back scratching your head, wondering, "what the heck are they thinking?"
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  24. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic New WHO Diagnostic Labels Perpetuate Transgender Stigma   

    Alexandra Ossola | August 4, 2016
    "But this classification has been controversial. "The conceptualization of transgender identity as a mental disorder has contributed to precarious legal status, human rights violations, and barriers to appropriate health care among transgender people," the study authors write. In 2011, the European Parliament asked the World Health Organization (WHO), which writes the ICD, to remove gender dysphoria as an option for diagnosis."  --
    from vocativ
    The long battle to remove 'transgender' from the list of psychiatric disorders
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