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  1. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic North Carolina's HB2 Anti-GLBT Bill   

    ""Any harm to plaintiffs due to lack of access to restrooms designated for the opposite sex certainly cannot outweigh the privacy and safety risks presented to the public," McCrory's lawyers said in a court filing opposing an injunction."  -- reuters.com
    Okay.  Am I reading this wrong?  Have I now lost all comprehension skills?  Is this fool actually [implying] that it's better someone get the holy freakin' doo-doo stomped outta them and left in a heap on some nasty bathroom floor than to chance some fanatical far-right bible-thumpin' ignorant bigot getting freaked out over someone simply coming into a bathroom (the RIGHT bathroom I might add) just to relieve the pressure mother nature has placed on that person's bladder?
    Really?
    REALLY??!!
    I need to go back to bed.....
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  2. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic New WHO Diagnostic Labels Perpetuate Transgender Stigma   

    "The problem with this, Fisher argued, is that many people who successfully go on HRT or those who have selected to have gender affirming surgery are no longer unhappy or distressed—yet they require continuing medical care."  -- huffingtonpost.com
    I don't see where this is an issue.  A diabetic can suffer ill affects of high and low blood sugar levels.  Poor health can make one unhappy or distressed.  Once they are prescibed the appropriate medical care, those issues are abated, and the person can lead a better quality of life, but they require continuing medical care.
    I don't understand why this is so hard for the medicine men and pencil-pushers to understand.  Once they pull their heads out of their seats and get it straight, society will follow suit eventually, and we'll all be a lot happier.
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  3. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic FTMS   

    I'm gonna say the reason you see no posts about, by or for transmen in this particular forum is because, well, very few guys are wearing make-up, or using cosmetics.  However, it's probably fair to say that "cosmetics" could also include facial cleansers and preparations for acne - something many trans men must fight for a period after starting T.
    There may be one or two threads in the Prosthetics & Other Body Enhancements forum, but let's be honest - the women require more in the enhancement department (just like cisgender women) than we guys do, and so would explain why there is little there also.
    And then of course, historically, there has always been more emphasis on trans women.  Most likely explains why there are so many threads dominated by the women.  Look at the board like the closet in a male/female couple's bedroom - in most cases, the woman usually dominates most of the space in that closet with all her shoes and skirts, and dresses, and blouses, and slacks, and sweaters, and robes, and gowns, and purses... and all that stuff in every colour under the sun!  ::: shrugs ::: Same thing here.  Even in a bedroom where there are "his" and "her" closets, some of the "hers" spills over into "his."
    In addition to the link to the FTM Crossdresser forum that Emma provided, there is also the FTM Transsexual Discussion, which may contain even more info on achieving a more masculine appearance the former.
    -Michael 
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  4. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Transgender High school Students Forced To Wear Arm Bands!!   

    I can't believe this.  I have no words.
    I couldn't even read the entire article.
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  5. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic North Carolina's HB2 Anti-GLBT Bill   

    ​ROFL... apparently! 
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  6. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic North Carolina's HB2 Anti-GLBT Bill   

    NBA Pulls All-Star Game Out of Charlotte Over Transgender Bathroom Law HB2
    Jul 21 2016, 10:18 PM ET | Emma Margolin
    " Governor Pat McCrory, who has loudly and staunchly resisted overturning HB2, released a statement Thursday to warn American families that "the selective corporate elite are imposing their political will on communities in which they do business, thus bypassing the democratic and legal process.""  --  nbcnews.com
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  7. UsernameOptional added a topic in Transgender News & Happenings   

    Convention Makes History with Transgender Speaker
    24 July 2016 } James Withers
    "The largest LGBTQ civil rights organization in the country  made the announcement today (24 July). She  is scheduled to speak on the assembly’s last day (28 July). Chad Griffin, the organization’s president will also speak that day.  -- gaystarnews.com
    Democratic convention makes history with first openly transgender speaker
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  8. UsernameOptional added a topic in Transgender News & Happenings   

    Kansas Lawmaker: Transgender People are Insane
    Peter Hancock | June 2, 2016
    "His remarks came during debate over a nonbinding resolution condemning the Obama administration's new guidelines on Title IX compliance that instruct schools to allow transgender students to use restrooms and locker rooms and to participate in other sex-segregated activities that correspond to their gender identity."  --ljworld.com
    Psychiatric consensus: Kansas lawmaker’s claim that transgender people are ‘insane’ is false, misguided
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  9. UsernameOptional added a topic in Not Necessarily the [Trans] News   

    The Enemies of Equality
    Jonathan Capehart | July 7, 2016
    "The chart below from FFAA shows the organizations doing the coordinating and the people leading or bankrolling those efforts. If you click on this link it will take you to an interactive site that will give you even more information."  -- washingtonpost.com
    Here they are, the ‘enemies of equality’ for LGBT Americans
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  10. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Pentagon ends transgender ban   

     
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  11. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Repeal of US Military Ban on Trans Service Members   

    Well... whether they liked it or not, whether they knew it or not (until recently when a few came out)... there have always been trans people in the military.  Sad they had to hide, just like gay people had to hide... but they've always been there.  And the military has benefited from their service.  If Uncle Sam would admit that, he'd stop calling us mental cases!
    -Mike
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  12. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Changing Screen Name   

    Hello Queenie -
    I can change your username for you.  You can either reply to this thread with the name you prefer, or you can PM me with your choice.
    -Michael
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  13. UsernameOptional added a topic in Religion & The Transgender Community   

    Gays deserve an apology
     June 26, 2016
    Francis was asked Sunday en route home from Armenia if he agreed with one of his top advisers, German Cardinal Reinhard Marx, who told a conference in Dublin in the days after the deadly Orlando gay club attack that the church owes an apology to gays for having marginalized them.  --  yahoo.com/news
    Pope: Gays and others marginalized deserve an apology
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  14. UsernameOptional added a comment on a blog entry T Time   

    After I reached a certain age, it occurred to me that I favoured my dad some.  But it was shortly after my dad died that my mother apparently began to realize that things like my hands and feet resemble my dad's, and some of my mannerisms and body language are like his.  I really never noticed that my hands looked like his until I had made a vid to send to my brother.  In the vid, only the item I was talking about and my hands were in the scene.  When I reviewed the vid before sending it to him, I noticed for the first time that my hands, and the way I use them, do indeed look exactly like my dad's hands.  You would think that something like that would not be a surprise since we all see ourselves in mirrors and reflective surfaces all the time - I can't figure what makes the difference, but try it.  Needless to say, it made me very happy to know that I was more like my dad than like my mother or any other female in the family.
    Congrats on the "T"
    -Michael
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  15. UsernameOptional added a topic in Religion & The Transgender Community   

    European Christians Forced Gender Roles
    Pearson McKinney | June 19, 2016
    "The Navajo refer to Two Spirits as Nádleehí (one who is transformed), among the Lakota is Winkté (indicative of a male who has a compulsion to behave as a female), Niizh Manidoowag (two spirit) in Ojibwe, Hemaneh (half man, half woman) in Cheyenne, to name a few."  --  bipartisanreport.com
    Before European Christians Forced Gender Roles, Native Americans Acknowledged 5 Genders
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  16. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Repeal of US Military Ban on Trans Service Members   

    "The Defense Department is expected to repeal its ban on transgender service members within weeks, Pentagon officials said Friday, putting to rest a long and complicated debate that has stretched out for a year." -- washingtonpost.com
    Considering there are 18 countries (according to wikipedia) that allow trans people to serve in their respective military forces, the United States could have solicited advice, information, suggestions, input, feedback, etc., from any of these countries, as it appears there is little issue in allowing transgender people to serve, and therefore might have greatly decreased the duration of debate.  Because I've never read anything about US officials calling on the officials of other countries, I can't help but believe that the US didn't want to know that there apparently is no issue in allowing trans people to serve just like their cisgender counterparts.
    "...the lack of a new policy has created complicated situations for them and their commanders, including what to do with gender-specific uniforms, grooming rules..."-- washingtonpost.com
    If this is one of their sticking points, well... I say it's nonsense.  I've always felt that a soldier should be genderless... or perhaps androgynous.   I've always had issue with the fact that there are specific things that male soldiers are not allowed, but female soldiers are.   I've always felt that all uniforms should be the same, and that hair lengths should be no different for women than they are for men.  Society glady "allows" women the "frivolous" luxury of wearing hair pieces and wigs, and so they could easily avail themselves of such accessories off duty.   I think the only time there should be any deviation in clothing style is that perhaps the women could have a dress uniform that is specifically for formal balls, but even then, I think that it should only be in the form of an ankle or floor length dress in place of the slacks.  Everything else should be the same as the men's dress uniform.
    They are soldiers first.
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  17. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Church sign saying 'Satan made gays' covered in black paint   

    It is very sad, Steph.  Certainly gives the good christians a bad rap.  I was raised Episcopal...but it is this kind of hypocracy is one of the reasons I'm not exactly a believer.
    -Mike
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  18. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Church sign saying 'Satan made gays' covered in black paint   

    [Pastor] Wright, "also said the shooting in Orlando at Pulse nightclub did not change his mind on LGBT people." -al.com
    Another article indicates that residents of the town where the church is located were concerned that the church was dividing the community.
    "Pastor Bobby Wright explained to WXIA that he was not concerned about the sign stirring up hatred following the Orlando shootings."  - rawstory.com
    This kind of attitude makes me think that someone who is not moved by such violence, is no better than the man who terrorized the Pulse, someone to be feared, and someone who could possibly be capable of the same kind of thing.  I have even commented to a friend that Omar Mateen simply did what some fanatically homo-/transphobic lawmakers and clergy would like to do.
    See video on ajc.com
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  19. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Church sign saying 'Satan made gays' covered in black paint   

    It's possible that the message on that church's marquee might have gone unnoticed until the Orlando shooting.  And then too, maybe one of their own was awakened to their bigotry after that shooting.  (wishful thinking?)
    I find it mind-blowing that Flint and his bunch (and all like them) find it perfectly acceptable to trash whole groups of human beings in public and in hateful ways, but when people lash back, those defending themselves are the villians.
    I don't condone the vandalism.... but...
    YEAHHHHHHHHHH!!!
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  20. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Is the chatroom down?   

    kendra -
    The link I offered you in my post above... goes directly to the page on which you would access the TGG chat.  While chat has apparently been upgraded since your last visit... it is the same chat room.  And in fact, if you go to the top of THIS page, and clik on "Home" located in the darker bar, just to the left of "Forums," it will take you a page on the flip side of TGG where you can clik on the "Chat" link which will also take you to the page for which I've given you a link, and as you see in the image below.

     
     
     
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  21. UsernameOptional added a comment on a blog entry Avoiding the Law?   

    Ya know... I can't help but wonder why they are calling your top surgery as a male, cosmetic.  Do they turn down genetic males with gynocomastia, classifying it as cosmetic?  Are genetic males being forced to live with female-like baggage on their chests?  If not, then you might have an argument.   But then... if you have to be female to get even a reduction, why didn't they approve it before?  Or did they not approve it because they had perhaps already gotten wind of it being trans-related?  That thought came to mind some time back when you said you had once again been turned down.
    -Mike
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  22. UsernameOptional added a comment on a blog entry It's Dark   

    Ya know... sometimes, I can't help but wonder if the GIC intentionally drags out these initial appointment dates.  For one thing, there is nothing that I'm aware of in the SOC that indicate a person must endure a one or two year RL test BEFORE they can even get on hormones - which from my understanding, that is what will happen once you do get in and get evaluated.  It's almost as if the system there has formulated their own rules intended to make it as difficult as possible for the person, which seem to be about as inhumane and barbaric as the SOC were 50 or so years ago.  The GIC can't be seeing THAT many trans people - after all, we are allegedly such a minority.  And a minuscule one, at that.  And I realize that the SOC are simply intended to be a guideline for care, but I fail to understand why they can't follow those guidelines a little more closely rather than making patients suffer.
    It's disheartening that you had to deal with the insensatively intrusive questionaire, but hopefully going with a private doctor will turn out to be the better of the two evils.  And a quicker route to where you need to be.
    -Michael
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  23. UsernameOptional added a comment on a blog entry Warned   

    I don't mean to exacerbate the seriousness of this issue, but I think perhaps you should not take it so lightly.
    You said, "... I'm open about my gender and was expecting death threats, not rape threats.  Now that is indicative to me that I'm sexy and they know and want me but are scared of what people around them might say."
    Rape has nothing to do with whether or not a person is sexy - rape victims come in all ages, sizes, colours, rich, poor, pretty, not so pretty, skinny, fat, and any- and everything in between.  Rape is about power.  It is meant to show the victim who has the power, who is in charge.  It is meant to dehumanize and degrade the victim.
    If a male officer had it in mind to rape you, and sees you as a woman, it is to show you that you are less than he is - not that you are sexy.   If he sees you as gay, or as a "man who wants to be a woman," it would more than likely be to show you "what it's like to be a woman" in his sick, and male-entitled mind.
    I would be just as wary of those who spout "sexual threats" as those who might spout threats of other physical harm.  
    -Michael
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  24. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic "I break the law regularly and whenever I use the restroom in public."   

    "I'm assuming you are frustrated by the situation we find ourselves in and not me personally, lol"  --Erica
    Yes... the situation, not you.  I'm sorry.  I guess some things just really chap me. 
    And yes, the issue with the terms "sex" and "gender" do need to be straightened out.  It's possible that we may have trouble getting further faster until people learn, understand and accept that while the two have always been inextricably linked, they are distinct and mean different things, and neither can always determine the other.
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  25. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic "I break the law regularly and whenever I use the restroom in public."   

    "An argument I hear often is "Why should we bother changing anything for a group so small as transgender people?""  -- Erica
    THIS is exactly what I was talking about in the thread I started, "700,000."  And if you've heard this argument revolving around the M or F on your DL... then you KNOW damn well, there are THOUSANDS of others who have the same attitude!  And that is why I believe no one in this country is interested in REALLY finding out a true percentage of trans people, because then they will be able to feel better about their discrimination and bigotry.  Keep us swept under the rug.  In the dark.  Out of sight - out of mind.  If we don't exist, we don't have to be addressed.
    Michael
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