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  1. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Blogs   

    Hi Sara - LTNS.
    Yep.. that's exactly what has happened to me on several occasions.  I have found that sometimes simply reloading the page solves the issue.  I have yet to apply any rhyme or reason to why or when it happens.  It neither happens everytime, nor does refreshing page work each time I come up with a blank.
    Chances are, this is something that Lori may have to have tech support look into since it seems to have happened at the same time as the failed upgrade.  She was having problems even then getting help out of tech support.
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  2. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic North Carolina's HB2 Anti-GLBT Bill   

    "This in fact makes it legal to use facilities based on that M or F on your I.D.. It may circumvent HB2 even if that piece of legislation stays on the books for a little while longer. Just a thought."  - Erica
    It may make it legal in NY, and perhaps in other places.  But if I understand that HB2 correctly, nothing trumps what is recorded on one's legal BC.  As far as NC is concerned, you are what you were labelled at birth... and that's it.  Though they apparently will allow one to get a BC changed/amended (not sure which), it sounds as if the only way to get that accomplished is after GCS.
    I have no doubt that NC officials would be more than happy to toss one's buttage in the pokey if that person was found using (or found to have used) a bathroom intended for the alleged "opposite sex."
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  3. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Southern Comfort Transgender Conference Has Been Discontinued As Of December 10, 2016   

    "The details can be learned by Googling "Southern Comfort Transgender Conference," and reading some of the websites that discuss it.  Can't vouch for any of their accuracy."  -- Monica
    Sad indeed... I had hoped to make it there one day.
    Anyway... here's a wiki page, and the SCTC own facebook page, both with limited info on what happened.  Seems that a "gag order" was part of a settlement on a rather lengthy lawsuit that recently concluded.
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  4. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic North Carolina's HB2 Anti-GLBT Bill   

    Sometimes, I find some things so incredulous, so unbelievable, so mind-blowing, that the words I need to adequately express my feelings leave me and take a slow boat trip around the world.  That's what happened when I first read about NC's soon-to-be former governor and HB2 which not only enshrined discrimination primarily towards trans people, but also nullified the nondiscrimination ordinace passed by Charlotte, NC.
    After reading this latest article, that boat finally returned and docked.  I found the words I wanted ...
    It takes a level of bigotry that is totally unimaginable to me, to create and pass a law to deny a people something that all others enjoy and take for granted.  But it takes a deep, vile, unmeasureable amount of hate, to create and pass a law, meant to keep someone from treating another person right.
    And while NC may repeal HB2, it's sad that McCrory may still get some of what he wanted, in that Charlotte has agreed to do away with their nondiscrimination ordinance if the bill is repealed.
    Has anyone really won here?  I mean... anyone except bigots like McCrory??
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  5. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Transgender in America survey results   

    Just as the survey showed the U.S. average in the "Psychological Distress/Suicide" category, it would be nice to see averages in the "Harassment and Abuse" and the "Housing, Employment and Poverty" categories, as I'm willing to bet those are very much above the U.S. average.
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  6. UsernameOptional added a topic in Forum Help & Support   

    Hey Everyone -
    Is anyone having trouble accessing the blogs on occasion?  I've been having trouble ever since the failed upgrade attempt not long ago.  Some days I can get to the blogs, other days I can't.
    Please post here if you are having trouble on occasion so that it can be looked into.
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  7. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Tennessee bill would allow therapists to refuse LGBT patients on religious grounds   

    Just my opinion... but I'd say the lawmakers of Tennessee are wasting their time on such a law, because for the most part, it is recommended that people suffering gender identity issues, see a therapist experienced in...   well, gender identity issues.   So, their law is worthless, 'cause most of us don't wanna see a regular, inexperienced therapist anyway.  So let them pound on as many bibles as they want, as often as they want.  Chances are, some people probably already knew where such therapists stood on the matter anyway....
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  8. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic I Will Not Be Tortured Again   

    News like that makes me angry.  I am so sick of hearing the "sexual predator dressing as and claiming to be a trans women to get into the womens' restrooms" scare tactic.  How ignorant do you have to be NOT to know that this is not happening.  Oh wait... I forgot - they don't consider trans women, women, and [from the sounds of it] trans men don't exist so there's no issue in that regard.
    It will be hillarious when they start busting trans men for going into women's restrooms because their idiot laws requires they do.  I still say that all out trans men should set up an event somewhere in the country where the law says a person must use the restroom that corresponds with their birth sex, have a "bathroom bill convention," and be sure to use the women's restrooms everywhere in that city/state they go.  Some of these moron law makers and fear mongers need to be awakened to their idiocy and ignorance.
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  9. UsernameOptional added a topic in Transgender Rights & Political Activism   

    TRP Offers Help with Legal Documents
    "Given the results of the election here in the US, we are aiming to help as many US-based trans people get their paperwork / legal documents (especially passports) in order in the time they have to do so before the rules surrounding those documents change. We’re primarily focused on giving financial aid to people...."  --
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  10. UsernameOptional added a topic in Not Necessarily the [Trans] News   

    I Will Not Be Tortured Again
    David Michael Conner | 11/11/2016 11:36 am ET
    "I can’t say whether he is one of the abusers who called me a faggot, who kicked me, flicked my ears, pinched and punched me in the locker room, and who ultimately caused me to read the suicide textbook “The Final Exit” and stockpile pills throughout my youth as an emergency escape hatch."  --
    I Am Gay. I Will Not Be Tortured Again
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  11. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Breast Cancer Poses Unique Challenges for Trans Community   

    ""I was trying to see if I could get back into that program as a trans man, because I had the woman parts, but since I switched my identity over to male, everything says 'male,' then it doesn't count anymore," he added."  --
    It's one thing to know what ailments affect certain groups the most.. but maybe it's about time that medicine, and especially insurance, stop dictating who can or can't be treated for what, and what someone will or won't be covered for.
    "...there is limited research to assess their risks for developing breast cancer, according to Deutsch. She said transgender women who are taking female hormones can develop the disease, but their overall risk remains a mystery."
    Does there have to be research done and completed before transwomen can be treated?  Biological males can get breast cancer also - it's just not as common as in females, so either way, the chance is there.  They can do research, but in the meantime, transgender women shouldn't be denied preventative care or treatments.
    Based on what appears to be practices that are quickly becoming antiquated and reasons for denying medical care being illogical, we could soon have large numbers of transgender people (at least in the US) dying from certain forms of cancer that insurance will not cover, and doctors do not/will not/can not screen for just because of the "M" or "F" on a person's records, with no regard to the parts they were [unfortunately] born with.
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  12. UsernameOptional added a comment on a blog entry Lonely   

    TG Guide has been my "home away from home" also.  It's very rare that I don't sign in.  And yes, I feel bonds with people here too.  It is comforting to know that I can come here and read posts and makes post knowing that most everyone here understands most everyone else.  There is little judgementalness, and there is always someone with an encouraging word, or a sympathetic word.
    Ooh... and nail polish does not the woman make.  That's in your heart.  The polish is just so much window dressing 
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  13. UsernameOptional added a topic in Transgender Health Care   

    Gender-affirming Surgeries to Resume After Nearly 40 Years
    "The prestigious school is finally distancing itself from its anti-trans reputation."
    Zack Ford | [18] October 2016
    "In 1965, Johns Hopkins made history as the first academic institution to offer gender-affirming surgical procedures. Though the surgeries were experimental and geared toward research, they served as a model for teaching surgeons about the procedures that other schools then adopted."  --
    Johns Hopkins to resume gender-affirming surgeries after nearly 40 years
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  14. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic NYT: "How Changeable Is Gender?"   

    Woooooo-hoooooooooooooo... the let me see this article!!
    "If gender identity were a fixed and stable phenomenon in all young people, there would be little to argue about. But we have learned over the past two decades that, like so much else in child and adolescent behavior, the experience of gender dysphoria is itself often characterized by flux."
    In my opinion... all the more reason to lay off the binary system, and let people identify in whatever manner suits them - no matter their age.  Then, if a person's gender identity did change at one point or another or again, it would be no big deal.
    "... some groups recommend pharmacologically delaying the onset of puberty in gender dysphoric children until age 16, before proceeding to reassignment. Puberty suppression is presumed reversible, and can be stopped if the adolescent’s gender dysphoria desists. But the risks of this treatment are not fully understood."
    Seems to me that every pharmacological product on the market has some kind of undesireable side affects - if it's not evident by the documentation that comes with a drug, it's evident by the 100's of television commercials we're bombarded with by law firms telling people to call them if this or that happened to them while on some specific drug.
    If society can't dump the strict male-or-female-only construct, then it should allow medical professionals to administer hormone blockers until a child is of an acceptable or legal age and decides they are cisgender, and can then be taken off of hormone blockers and allow natural puberty to take over, or transgender and can then proceed with transition.  Society shouldn't be able to demand a person is cisgender AND refuse medical interventions, too, with the excuse that it doesn't know what hormone blockers 'might' do.
    Just seems to me to be logical.
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  15. UsernameOptional added a comment on a blog entry Lonely   

    Thank you ladies.  Loneliness does indeed touch us all at times...but it's a little easier to shoulder when there are people like you all around.  Maybe if I had been here on TG Guide back then, that poem might never have been written.  I've considered TG Guide like a haven online.  I was "sheltered" so to speak by the woman who invited me here from another transgender site.  Over time, she has faded into the background, but not before I learned from her how to moderate.  She doesn't come around so often fact, very rarely.  Over time it's people like you all who have filled the void.  As I'm sure you all know, acceptance means nearly everything, and for the most part, I have always felt accepted as the man that life outside of this forum doesn't even know exists.
    "Never had I seen such a touching poem about loneliness by a man!"  -Monica
    LOL... I guess it doesn't matter if a guy is transgender or cisgender, too many of us have a tendancy to keep things bottled up.  I never realized it, but my g/f has addressed this with me on several occasions, and even my own brother has expressed a concern about it.  But I guess every once in a while if the moon and stars are lined up just right, that bottle gets opened up, and all kinds of stuff comes pouring out. 
    Love all of ya's
    - Michael
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  16. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Transgender voters may face problems voting in US elections   

    I've said it before, and I'll say it again - EVERYONE'S SITUATION IS DIFFERENT.  Not everyone is out - that doesn't make them a "weekend warrior."  There was a time when the only time I could let loose and be and feel as my true self was on the weekend.  And while I no longer don anything that comes out of the women's department, I'm still not out, not transitioned, and have no documents that reflect my true gender.  But I'm not a weekend warrior, and I've never considered myself a crossdresser.  And while I don't understand gender fluidity, and will not pretend so, there should be a place in this world for the gender fluid, those who feel both male and female, and those who feel that they are neither.
    Some states make certain demands on trans people before they can legally change their ID, and some people are not able to meet those demands.   If a person cannot meet the requirements of their state, and cannot get the ID that matches their gender, does that mean they should present at places like voter registrars contrary to how they live?  And if they do, does that then make them a weekend "weekend warrior?"
    What we actually need is a society that has finally pulled it's head out of it's binary-determined ass and accept and/or embrace all people no matter WHERE along the gender spectrum they do or don't fall.
    If you're a cisgender, heterosexual male - good for you.   If you're a transgender female who's attracted only to women - good for you.   If you come to work in a dress, with make-up, curls, baubles and heels today, then tomorrow in a suit and tie - good for you.   And each one should respect the other for however they present.
    THAT'S where we need to be.  And if one wants to register to vote, they shouldn't have to bend, bow and be humiliated into some socially designed box or told, "sorry, you're not allowed to vote because you don't look like what we think you should look like."
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  17. UsernameOptional added a topic in Transgender Health Care   

    Hope, Relief in New Policy
    Ben Finley, Associated Press |  ALEXANDRIA, Va. — Oct 2, 2016, 10:28 AM ET
    " A federal statute from the 1980s specifically bans military insurance from covering surgery for "sex gender changes." The law allows the defense secretary to make exceptions for active-duty members but not military dependents or retirees, said Pahon, the Pentagon spokesman."  --
    Hope, Relief for Transgender Military Families in New Policy
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  18. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic North Carolina's HB2 Anti-GLBT Bill   

    Meka Beresford | 1st October 2016, 5:43 PM
    "The governor of the state, Pat McCrory, said his state would call a session to consider repealing the widely condemned bill, but only if the city of Charlotte repeals its own LGBT protections."
    Southern Conference will keep their championships in North Carolina
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  19. UsernameOptional added a topic in Transgender Health Care   

    Clinics to Start HRT for Trans People
    Naseem S. Miller | September 27, 2016, 5:18 PM
    ""Studies have shown that over the last couple of decades, due to discrimination and abuse, transgender people simply postpone or do without health-care. As a result, their situations are more likely to become emergency medical problems and much more severe," said Duncan, who helped train the Planned Parenthood staff."  --
    Clinics to start hormone therapy services for transgender people
    While this is great news, I have to question WHY the Orlando Sentinel found it necessary to stick a vid about an increasing threat of untreatable gonorrhea smack in the middle of the article.  Is it some subliminal message to straight cisgender people that VD and transsexuality go hand-in-hand?  Okay...that sounds a bit conspiracy-theory-ish... but damn!!  -Mike
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  20. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Homosexuality not inate   

    ​I did consider deleting the OP until I spotted the mention of trans people in the article also... and of course, the purpose of this particular forum is for news, information and discussion that is not necessarily or directly trans related, but could potentially affect us.
    I tried to spot a link to a legitimate medical or scientific website among the returned search results when I googled this topic, but saw nothing (didn't really spend too much time on it though).  It would be interesting to know exactly where this came from, and if it was really worded they way these conservative websites have done.
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  21. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Homosexuality not inate   

    While this article could potentially throw EVERYONE not heterosexual and cisgender smooth under the bus... I want to highlight the fact that the article indicates not that homosexuality is not innate (despite its headline), but that allegedly, SEXUALITY is not innate - that includes heterosexuality.
    It also appears that the website is a faith-based site, and will no doubt jump on anything that would indicate or imply that being homosexual, bisexual or transgender is a choice.
    From another website, "two top Johns Hopkins University psychiatrists say there is insufficient evidence to conclude people are born with heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual attractions."  Again however, the website on which the quoted text can be found, according to wikipedia, is "influential in American conservative circles."
    What's scarey is that the bigotted politicians of the country could use this kind of thing to undo every advancement that the the TGLB community has rightfully achieved.
    NOTE:  The OP's comment, "I don't know if the posting thread is in the right category but anything involving sex should be in intersex forum's," is obviously out of place:
        1.  The post was originally in the intersex forum, and was moved
        2.  There is either a misunderstanding of what intersex is, or a misunderstanding of the purpose of the intersex forum
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  22. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic How to Upload a Profile Photo   

    Are you trying to upload a photo to use as an avatar?  If that is where you are getting the message, then it means the image cannot exceed that file size.  If it is for your avatar, you could upload it to the member gallery if you like, then I can download it, resize it, and upload it so that you could then use it.
    Otherwise, I would really need more info in order to figure out the problem.
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  23. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic Salem police investigating explosion of LGBT newspaper box   

    The attitude of the police is disgusting.   
    Considering the "explosion" could be heard a mile away, this obviously wasn't a firecracker.  Had it been a firecracker, I could understand the hesitation to call it a hate crime, as something so small (in the scheme of things) could be considered a stupid act of vandalism.
    That the mailbox has been "vandalized" TEN TIMES IN THE PAST... would seemingly qualify this latest incident as nothing but hate, thereby making it a hate crime.
    But what the heck do I know?? 
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  24. UsernameOptional added a post in a topic U.S. Judge Grants Nationwide Injunction Blocking White House Transgender Policy   

    "The preliminary injunction would mean that, until that lawsuit works its way through the courts, the 'status quo' would be maintained and the guidance could not be considered enforceable."
    No, what it means is that, until that lawsuit works its way through the courts, the "status quo" would be maintained, and the zealots and bigots could continue, for a while longer (and hoping for forever), to exercise their dearly and closely held discrimination.
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