General Transgender Discussion

Well My lovies , aint this a shot to the system , Yeah I know I am hardly around so when I do show up I hope I make it a good one , LOL Now lets get down to the nitty gritty of the whole "Transition Thing ", So your on the fence about wether or not to take the next step , ( that would be something only you will know ) , is there a first step well in a way there is : It would be Acceptance , not by others not by society but By You , if you dont accept the fact you have issues that need to be addressed and discovered why you may have any such issues then your not going to start to Transition in any aspect of Your life , being Trans any thing is not about being m…

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Getting more confindent when i go out as Victoria as time passes.I joined a dart leauge a few months ago at a local pub as my male name but now go completely as Victoria.I have been getting lots of support and love from my friends there and couldnt be happier. Also have been going dancing there a few times to a live band and have had no problem with dance partners.I am finnally going to post a a few pics here! Feel free to look and comment if you wish. Love and hugs! Victoria ❤❤

What the hell is it with forums in our community? They are all so damn clicky that anyone who comes in and posts a slightly different opinion (which I thought was the point) is automatically denied from becoming part of the "good ol boys club" and the forum turns on them. And regular members decide they're the mods and police the board taking the job away from the mods. I've been posting on another forum, but it's becoming painfully clear that I'm a worthless *expletives deleted* because I'm not a clone of everyone else there. There's a regular there that can't take criticism. When told to get off his high horse and drop his holier-than-thou attitude he loses it. Then he …

One of the biggest concerns we have prior to transition is passability-- whether or not we'll be able to function in society as a person of the sex opposite our birth. As someone who jumped the fence a decade ago, I have some thoughts on this. I've got this lifelong habit of throwing things into a wastebasket from across a room. 99% of the time I don't miss. There's a certain mechanism at play here-- you fling the wad of paper or empty can with the prior expectation that it will land precisely where you want it to go. I call the phenomenon "willing it into the basket." And that's how I go about my life as a rather large woman. I'm at ease in my skin, never get "fl…

After getting really tired of seeing how much a bra costs, I searched and found a link to a website called, 'Zivame.com.' I have no connection to this site; I only found it, and I am passing off to you nice people. I already ordered two bras...I will let you know how the quality runs.

hello im new to this thing i dont know exactly what im doing but i have some questions that maybe someone can help with, im 36 and since about the age of 5-6 i havent quite felt like i was me i know that is probly how most on here felt also but all my life has been spent doing what i was told that good boys do and are how good boys act but deep down inside i knew that im not what i look like im in here why cant i just show myself why did i get stuck in this body why cant i do the things i want to do am i so wrong for wanting to be me? am i not aloud to be me? why do i have to do these things that i have been told that is what im supposed to do? i dont know any more im so …

Hi all. My Dad suffered a mild stroke 2 weeks ago. He is now home and i went to see him today. It was a little rough seeing this strong man now needing so much help. At the same time, we had a great visit and I will be seeing him again on Monday to help him out. He kept trying to give me money and I told him, "Dad i am not here for your money. I am here because you are my Dad and i love you." Anyway, what felt really good is that, for the first time in many years, I am my dad's son again. You see until puberty hit, my Dad always treated me like his son. And, I loved every minute of it. It is sad that it took a health issue for him to finally see me again. I wi…

It is that time of year when depression can slide into life and wreak havoc especially for those who are in a dark place. My hopes are that those who have nobody to share the holidays properly with do find activities to keep them active and not alone as this is not good for mental health. For those who have someplace to go but not so welcome say if you were to attend in attire of the opposite gender consider dressing androgynous, might not feel the best but better than staying home alone. Anxiety and depression is huge in our community and if at all possible is best to get ahead of this before the holidays.

“When it comes to identities, we in The Community seem to have enough to spare. Part of the problem is the assumptions that everyone makes. I would like to take some time to discuss something directly that I have mentioned in a variety of different stories- that is the difference between being transgender, transsexual and intersexual.” - Bridgette P. LaVictoire Thoughts On Sex, Gender And Transcending In The LGBT Community

Hi, I found this forum after browsing Twitter and followed the Transgendered Guide, just seeking more information at the moment.

I know I ask an awful lot of questions, but as many of you know this is the first time that I'm open with myself and others about who I am. I wanted to know, because I'm in the process of looking for a new job, When would be the appropriate time to tell your employer about name/gender/pronoun business?

I'm so sad so stressed I feel like I'm trapped in a bad dream and can't get out. I try to forget about my pain but the more I try the more it hit's my heart I walk every day a lie as. I should be walking a beautiful woman but I'm not I'm stuck a male that is stuck in a cage screaming let me out I'm so stressed so sad

Hello and happy holidays everyone! It has been a while since I last posted , so I thought I would post some pics of my progress and update on my status. I have come a long way in 2010 and started with living through the divorce and finding gainful employment. I also recently went full time at work! So far all is well with the job!. I hope everyone had a great holiday and will have a wonderful new year! Much love! Lauren

I can't really tell what is going on but It not Good I guess??

Hey everybody! My name is Emily, and I got to university in the UK. I've been elected as one of the campaigns officers for my LGBTQ Association, and one of the issues that I would like to focus on throughout my term in office is trans representation. However, (possibly due to lack of campaigning/visibility within the association), there are no people who are openly trans who are willing to talk to us about the issues that they face and things that need to be changed. I suspect it's a vicious circle - people don't know that we represent them, or don't see anybody who is comfortable enough to talk about it, and so they don't come to us and work with us, so people don't …

Hi Iv been feeling a bit strang for the last few days. I seam to have lost all interest in any thing I feel quite happy about my self, I just have no interest in any thing else all I want to do is sleep and watch television. Just wondering if this has happend to any one else or is it just me. I will be discussing this with my doctor at my next appointment just thought I'd see if any one else has felt like this at eany point Emma

I've shaved my thigh area a few times. I usually get ingrown hairs and stuff like that. I recently saw that I have this large mosquito bite like lump in my inner thigh. It's all swollen and red. Today I squeezed it to see what would happen and blood kept coming out of it. I'm really confused as to what it could be. It must be from the shaving.

Hey, Here's me again asking yet another question. Does/did anyone else ever have the issue that I am where you can't even focus on figuring out what you want to do with your future? I honestly spend more time thinking about trying to get out of my house and start transitioning, i really can't see a future without first being comfortable looking in the mirror. -Ty

Los Angeles - "Authorities are seeking the public's help in identifying a man who shot and killed a transgender woman in Hollywood late Thursday night and who may also be responsible for the attempted armed robbery of another transgender woman in West Hollywood less than an hour later..." Read the article: Police seek help in finding transgender woman's killer

Years ago I was in Spain and went into a bar called the Daunte, All the 'ladies' in there were wearing neck scars like back in the 60's. I found out later it was to hide the Adams Apple. My question is what is involved in removing the Adams Apple? BTW there is more to the story, but I'll not bore ya with it here (chuckles) SaltyRob

Iam a man that loves to transform into a woman and I love being the sexy woman I become , I love going out and getting a man to spend the night with . . But iam also a man with wife and kids I.enjoy sex with my wife and love her . So why do I need to become Carlly the promiscuous woman and love it

I'm sure many of you have seen or even participated in a "womanless" beauty pageant. The "femulate site" has many in depth looks at some of the best pageants. Just Google it and look around on the site. In addition have you've seen any of the Japanese TV shows that dress high school boys as real attractive girls? Very impressive! We will never see a TV show (no pun intended) in this country like it! You have to sort through the "not so good" with the American shows to find the contestants who have either worked hard at being a girl or have a lot of practice! Maybe Mom wanted a daughter? Well she got a pretty darn good looking son for these pageants. All of this brin…