General Transgender Discussion

Life is filled with trials and tribulations. Some are pleasant, other not so pleasant. Whatever lessons we glean from this trials will serve us in the future. I listened to a sermon this yesterday touching on this subject. Trials are like studies in school; they are the basic training that we receive before going on our own in the world. Afterwards that training is put to the test. We all travel on our own roads in life. Sometimes we may have to go it alone. My road to self-discovery was one that no one else could travel for me. There may be detours along the way that serve us and help us to embrace new things in our lives. We may discover that there are some thing…

From here: Except the Daily Mail article they referenced said: Except Lowe took his own life after his gender reassignment was delayed: https://metro.co.uk/2019/03/30/trans-teen-took-his-own-life-after-gender-reassignment-treatment-was-delayed-9070691/ How interesting that the trasphobes ignore that.

i think my emotions might be getting the best of me today. got into an arguement over a video of a kid who got upset cause his parents pranked him with coal. i expressed that it was a mean prank to do on christmas and then i get mocked and made fun of because i genuinely believe that kids can get their feelings hurt being pranked like that on such a special day. i felt what the kid was feeling in the video because i have been through that mean joke myself. was i wrong to feel the way i did and side with the kid and his feelings? below is how the whole video went down... the kid runs into the living room and heads towards the stocking. his mother asked what did you get.…

I came across this article yesterday and found it so interesting, especially the graphical representations of gender identity, the spectrums within them, and social norms. Very interesting and informative: The Biochemical Nature of Gender Identity For example, there's this graph: I'm certain that I'm on the femme side of the feminine stereotype but not to the hyperfemme extreme. But isn't it cool the way that the graph also illustrates the transgender umbrella? I've met cis men who just need to get their femme on from time to time. Many cis lesbian women present to the right of the stereotypical line, and they are adamant that butch lesbian women are not "…

Many opponents label the passage of bills for transgender rights as a 'bathroom bill'. They stoke fear into uninformed people that allowing transgender people to use public accommodations will endanger the children and women. Well, these people shouldn't talk. How come the military is sweeping over 20,000 rape cases under the rug? How come lawmakers have a hard time protecting women from discrimination, abuse, and exploitation? Recently, a transgender woman was denied the use of a dressing room because the owner felt the customers would be uncomfortable. I saw through that ruse! SHE was the one who was uncomfortable. I'm not about changing people's perceptions be…

November is traditionally a busy month for me. I've bee slowed down the past few days by elevated blood pressure (doing better, thanks) but the mind is still sharp. Next Monday is Veteran's Day. I have marched in the past but this time I will be a spectator. Though my transness was hidden from me when I served I am proud of my service. I will attend Transgender Day of Remembrance festivities also. Once again I plan on speaking briefly. Over time these two events have meant more to me. What it demonstrates is that we are everywhere. We have talents, gifts, skill, and perseverence. No one can ever tell me we can't perform. We have done well even under duress. With th…

Please note: This is long. and it rambles, and it likely draws the wrong conclusions. I'm sharing it with all you lovely people because I think clearer when I'm writing for an audience rather than just myself. My intention is to not invalidate anyone's experience, but to put my own into context. I love you all. - Dezzy I've mentioned in a couple of threads that I'm just coming to my identity. It's very confusing and I don't have the language I need to express myself cleanly. But that's what our community is for isn't it? To help people coming into this new knowing of themselves to express themselves and understand better. I came of age in the eig…

Just had to get this off my chest. Even though I get along with all my family, today has been a somewhat bitter sweet day. You see, today is my birthday, and I heard nothing from my family. At the same time it has been a sweet day. Just got a phone call from a very dear friend, and telling me she loves me, and thanked me for being in her life. I also got a surprise e-mail from my life coach saying happy birthday. How she knew it was my birthday is beyond me, but it felt good. So, trying to hang on to the positive and let go of the hurt of not hearing from my family. I am finding that blood is not thicker than water. Having a few good friends is much more.

Well My lovies , aint this a shot to the system , Yeah I know I am hardly around so when I do show up I hope I make it a good one , LOL Now lets get down to the nitty gritty of the whole "Transition Thing ", So your on the fence about wether or not to take the next step , ( that would be something only you will know ) , is there a first step well in a way there is : It would be Acceptance , not by others not by society but By You , if you dont accept the fact you have issues that need to be addressed and discovered why you may have any such issues then your not going to start to Transition in any aspect of Your life , being Trans any thing is not about being m…

I was sitting here thinking just now. I got a text a couple weeks ago from someone that I cut out of my life several years ago. They asked if this was "Jared or Jennifer". How they found out my name since I changed it several years ago, I don't know. I'm not going to give my last name, but my first and middle were Jared Anderson. I always liked the names. But he is dead. And sitting here thinking about it, I realized that once in a rare while I kinda miss the names. Not often mind you. Heck, it never even pops in my mind much anymore. I don't miss anything else, just the names. Is that weird? Is it just me, or does anyone else feel the same way from time to time? If …

I have a great step mother,she has been in my life since I was 11 years old still loves me.Beside my father whom is acceptful I am transgendered,she is too.Through the years,she saw I was never happy.My bio mother shut me out of her life for good including her family.Not my step mother,never gave up on me and glad she has not to this day.I remember the day when I was 18,I decided to leave my male life for good and I told her this.She said if this is what I wanted to do,go for it.I hugged her and told her she will meet the new me.I went to a few tgirls I became friends with,made me over as a tgirl and learned to live my new life as a woman.It was on a Sunday,she met the ne…

Expanding Black Masculinity to End 'Black on Black' Anti-LGBT Violence Huffington Post (blog) At the beginning of February, Deoni Jones, a 23-year-old African-American transgender woman, was stabbed to death at a Washington, DC bus stop -- the suspect, a 55-year-old black man. Later that month in Atlanta, 20-year-old Brandon White was viciously...

This was shared to me on my Facebook by a good friend of mine . She often sends me these links as a "Teaching tool " As I am a Suicide prevention councilor and a M2F group owner : http://transgenderuniverse.com/2016/08/08/dealing-with-the-fallout-when-your-transition-goes-nuclear/

I am very lucky to have a very loving husband in my life,his name is Alex and we have been married for a year.It will be 2 years in December.Alex and I have been good friends for a long time and he knows I am a pre op,always liked the pre ops.We started dating 4 years ago and he was divorced a year before.I broke up with an ex of mine,this ex of mine forced me to have the GRS which I did not want to do.Alex sees I am happy as a pre op being this way for 18 years.Plus we do something together,adult films as a second job.Plus he knows I do help out the transgendered community also.My parents whom adopted me when I was 14 see I am happy and have a great life with him

My family now understands I live as a woman fulltime.It was hard when I came out to my parents and sister I that I was going to live as a woman fulltime last year.We have been working on it through a counsoler and I got a surprise.I got a hug from my parents including my sister knowing this is me and they love me with their unconditional love.Good thing is this is off my back including my family's.My family never gave up on me and knew working things out would help out.

Last month, it was gel nail color (which is still a beautiful metallic blue). Today, it was nail threading my ugly male brows into pretty, feminine a arches. I haven't left the apartment in mens face and gear in well over a month; the two big boxes of "Christopher" stuff is readied for the Goodwill bin. On Tuesday, I go to Walter Reed Army Hospital to see an endocrinologist. I feel so good, so pretty, and so feminine! ---Christine

I've had several meetings over the past couple of months with a man who is providing me with some professional services. Before our first meeting I told him via email that I am a transgender woman. If that made him uncomfortable then that was fine and in which case I asked that he refer me to another colleague. We talked about it on the phone: he's a fundamental Christian and although he has a lot of experience with gay colleagues and customers he'd never encountered a trans person. If I was game to help educate him he was very interested in learning. Since then we've met a couple of times including yesterday. In the course of our conversation I mentioned that I'm sc…

Today is the ninth anniversary of my coming out. It was such a relief when I first came out. All the internal stress and tension dissipated with that one act. Ever since that day my has been wonderful. Over these years I grew from a struggling cross dresser to a contented transgender woman. It's wonderful when I read that many men and women come out on their own. I have tried to be helpful to others in any way possible. I have been helped immeasurably by man people on the forums and in person. Looking back, it has been an interesting journey to say the least. It get more interesting every day. I certainly would not change anything.

I've hit a dry spell in my life. It happens periodically and sometimes it may be needed. Don't know where to go at present so I'll stay where I am until things change. It's a good time to assess where I am in my journey.

Dan Bilefsky, July 25, 2012 "Twenty years ago, Serbian newspapers jeered that transsexuality was an act against God. "Today, people are coming from around the world to Serbia for sex-change operations, which are now subsidised for Serbs by national health insurance. ""It is surprising that a conservative, patriarchal country is becoming a centre for sex-change operations...," said Cristian, a transgender activist from Belgrade..." -smh.com.au Serbia becomes hub for sex-change surgery

haii my name is Kira. lately i've been stuck in my transition, no longer getting free hormones or therapy via insurance and living in texas where it feels surprisingly harder to achieve them at all. so brainstorming led me to this site http://igg.me/at/KiraSrsAid/x/3649208 i guess im asking for advice and some financial help. any donation no matter how small will be amazing the ammount i listed on that site is deffinitly not all i will need, but it is for the bare minimum again, im asking for advice on how to start moving my transition foward again. im also posting this website for anyone else who may want to try it as a sourse to gain money for any s…

The trans community feels underrepresented under the LGBT umbrella but we need to play a part in fixing that ourselves 24 October 2012 | By Ashlee Kelly Ashlee Kelly: One transwoman who says trans people would help their community by being more visible. I love being part of a community. Knowing there are other people similar to yourself all around the country, even the world, is a comforting feeling. Whether the differences between you are small or huge, having the backs of those like you is an important safety net. As the saying goes, there is safety in numbers. That's why I am a strong believer in the LGBT community. -gaystarnews.com The silent 'T': are tr…

I was interviewed today by a journalsm student from Columbia University. He questioned me about the LGBTQI minstry here at church. I shaed with him what I would lke for the ministry to achieve. I shared about my own personal journey. He was very interested in the church as well as the ministry.

I know I ask an awful lot of questions, but as many of you know this is the first time that I'm open with myself and others about who I am. I wanted to know, because I'm in the process of looking for a new job, When would be the appropriate time to tell your employer about name/gender/pronoun business?