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  1. Lori added a comment on a blog entry: Walking Back from Lake Washington   

    Nice to see you out enjoying life!  
    Looks like you're dressed kind of light for the weather lately. You aren't cold?  
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  2. Lori added a post in a topic: Out2Enroll - Free Assistance for Selecting Healthcare   

    There is definitely a sense of taking a step backward, however, I think the momentum is in our favor. In the long term I think we'll retain necessary transgender medical services. 
    The National Center for Transgender Equality issued a press release on this subject https://transequality.org/1557-FAQ 
    My hope is that Trump has other matters to focus on and that transgender health care will remain intact. In the meantime, it is really important that transgender people be enrolled in health insurance by the December 15th deadline. 
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  3. Lori added a comment on a blog entry: Into   

    See our PSA video Transgender People Are Extraordinary!
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  4. Lori added a comment on a blog entry: Into   

    Every trans person I've ever known who tried to repress their inner identity has failed. There may be exceptions, but this goes way beyond a lifestyle choice. I can relate to your statement about you hoped the feelings would leave so you can be normal. I felt the same. I suspect most of us have felt this way.
    My first bit of advice is to explore your identity to start figuring out where you may fit on the gender continuum. Are you happy to crossdress at home or do you feel a compelling need to transition to female? I'm going back a ways here but I first thought I must be a crossdresser, so that's what I tried. It was fun and liberating for awhile, but I became aware that I needed more. My search for happiness and equilibrium in life eventually resulted in complete transition which I have never regretted. 
    Best of luck as you go forward on your journey. 
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  5. Lori added a post in a topic: dumb relatives   

    I'm sorry to hear this. Hopefully, you have some trusted friends or maybe even extended family you can confide in. That won't change the difficulty with your immediate family but maybe it will make things more tolerable. 
    Some people relocate to find a more suitable environment to transition, so that might be what you need to do. I'm not sure of your age or situation but wishing you all the best as you get things figured out. My advice is to try to prioritize your goals and then start addressing things one at a time -- hopefully with some support from friends or family. 
    Kindness is good.  
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  6. Lori added a comment on a blog entry: Karma DOES Indeed SUCK!   

    Yeah, well... ​I guess it's great news in part. ​​​So congrats on the gender marker part.
    ID is such a royal pain. I suppose you could go back and ask if you can get it with a middle initial, but you probably don't want to invite scrutiny. 
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  7. Lori added a post in a topic: how to do voice cont.   

    Tucker Carlson is well known for idiotic statements. See http://www.azquotes.com/author/2482-Tucker_Carlson 
    Now, I disagree on people holding the door for me. Gosh, I wish everyone would simply be kind to each other, regardless of gender. I appreciate when people hold the door for me, or allow me to get in line in front of them, or help me pick up something I've dropped. I appreciate these kind acts regardless of gender and I would probably be one that holds the door open for you. I do it for men also. I can't recall an awkward situation. It is usually an opportunity to exchange smiles and perhaps a short verbal exchange. 
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  8. Lori added a post in a topic: dumb relatives   

    I grew up with the same. Many of us did. It makes life very difficult when your family uses religion to support their ignorance. 
    It isn't always that way. This video was recently posted on our Facebook page. It is the heartwarming story of a conservative, Catholic family's acceptance of their transgender son. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GW8Plf_IXGs&feature=youtu.be
    I'm wondering if you've talked with your family, or if that would make any difference. It is indeed a difficul t situation to be in and only you can determine how open you should be with them. Wishing you the best of luck. 
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  9. Lori added a post in a topic: Out2Enroll - Free Assistance for Selecting Healthcare   

    Out2Enroll is an organization designed to help LGBT people find adequate healthcare insurance from the options available under the Affordable Care Act. https://out2enroll.org/
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  10. Lori added a post in a topic: US - Transgender Birth Certificate Laws & Policies.   

    US - Transgender Birth Certificate Laws & Policies. More information at http://www.lgbtmap.org/equality-maps/identity_document_laws

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  11. Lori added a post in a topic: US - Transgender Drivers License & ID Laws By State.   

    US - Transgender Drivers License & ID Laws By State. More  informaton  at http://www.lgbtmap.org/equality-maps/identity_document_laws

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  12. Lori added a post in a topic: US - Name Change Laws & Policies by State.   

    US - Name Change Laws & Policies by State. More information at http://www.lgbtmap.org/equality-maps/identity_document_laws

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  13. Lori added a comment on a blog entry: Q&A: MVP Karen Payne Talks With Us About Being A Transgender Woman In Tech   

    This story is posted on the TGGuide Facebook page, along with a link to a NYTimes.com article. Congrats Karen! 
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  14. Lori added a comment on a blog entry: the ocean or the beach   

    I recall that during transition, when I needed new friends, I had a theory that worked out pretty well. If I met just one new friend, they would usually lead me to additional friends.  There were plenty of people I didn't feel I had anything in common with or just didn't care to have as friends, so I was still pretty selective about friends. But every now and then I'd make a new friend and that usually opened to door to additional social experiences and friendships with their circle of friends. By the time I had completed transition I had a circle of trusted friends. 
    Another random memory just popped in my mind. I didn't come out to everyone. I more or less just moved on, but I did tell a few closest friends and family of my transition. One thing that stood out was that it was often very surprising who would drift away after I told them and who would emerge as a new solid friend. Sometimes the closest friends from before transition couldn't handle it so they drifted away. Other, more casual friends, would sometimes step up to become a strong part of the support network. 
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  15. Lori added a comment on a blog entry: the ocean or the beach   

    That is a good physician who takes the time to ensure you have an adequate support network. My physician did the same. 
    Each situation is a little different. When I began to transition in the late 80s there weren't a lot of readily available resources so I really felt alone. I browsed personal ads in the newspapers, and later on dating sites -- for friends, not lovers. That may sound odd but it worked. I located a nearby transgender suppport group and made new friends there. I came out to a few cisgender people who became supportive allies. Due to the support group and new friends, I was able to locate qualified professionals including an endocrinologist, general physician, mental health therapist and an electrologist. It all took quite a bit of time but it was worth going through the steps. Those personal connections can help make a difference. 
    Speaking of employment: I was educated and highly qualified, but in a field that wasn't very accepting of LGBT people. I left an established career to transition privately and re-emerge in stealth mode. Things got really tough but it was through my personal contacts that I located a great job that lasted about seven years, through and beyond my transition. 
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