Hey friends, Chrissy and Blue, No worries or quibbles about the title of the piece, I get where you're both coming from. I really appreciate your friendliness in your feedback and hope you feel the same from me. I am also a little taken aback by the title. Like I wrote, I guess I just assume that Ms. Boylan and her editors applied their best judgement, and I suppose that on balance it doesn't matter as much as the fact that such a piece was positioned at the top of the NYT's digital front page. In and of itself that speaks volumes! Emma
I pondered that too and decided that her use of the word "agenda" reminds us of how that word is used by the people who would otherwise deny us our basic rights. Maybe you're more concerned with her use of "gay" in the title. I also thought about this and felt: - To be gay is to be part of the overall LGBTQ community. She didn't, for example, title it "My Gay/Lesbian Agenda." - Yes, "gay" is more commonly used for homosexual people but the piece brings up trans-specific issues. Maybe her title will encourage more readers to read it who might otherwise not if it were titled "My Transgender Agenda." - Last, she is undoubtedly and well known as trans, and an outspoken spokeswoman for all of us. I'll bet she thought about this long and hard, and I trust her judgment. Emma
Jennifer Finney Boylan wrote an excellent opinion piece: https://www.nytimes.com/2017/07/24/opinion/transgender-lgbtq-rights-texas.html?action=click&pgtype=Homepage&clickSource=story-heading&module=opinion-c-col-left-region®ion=opinion-c-col-left-region&WT.nav=opinion-c-col-left-region
Dear Chrissy, Happy Birthday, even if I'm early! I loved reading your timeline history. You've made such great progress. I also get hopeful that I will also have at least some depression lifted in transition. I don't expect it to change everything at all, but do expect that being a woman will finally solve a major problem for me. We all have fears of being alone, rejected. That's so sad to feel that way. As Karen wrote I also feel that there is someone out there for each of us. But it's scary to think that we just might not encounter that person. I know this: all the times I met new dating partners I wasn't looking or trying. I was just being myself, doing whatever it was I was doing. I think that's a better way to live anyway. Easy for me to say. I'm also sorry to hear about your sister. It sucks how she is treating you. Be you, Chrissy, you're good and lovely, Emma
Hey Charotte, Good to hear from you and sorry about those nasty people. I don't know what being slimed is. I guess it's good? Hope so! And, great to hear about those superbike riders. Goes to show that for younger people being trans or gay is just another example of human diversity. xoxo Emma
Blue, I've been collecting photos of women with possible styles, and plan on reviewing them with a pair of women friends who know me personally so I can get their opinions. Then I will also show the stylist and get her feedback. I hope that works or at least makes the best of it! I should be able to post a photo in about a month...
I agree with Blue. I loved the way you told your story and the outcome of course, too. I'm not happy with wigs for myself and am going to get it styled in about a month. I have a high forehead and some hair recession/thinning there too. I really hope mine will look as good as yours!
The 0.6% number comes from a fairly recent study by The Williams Institute at UCLA. Indeed, they doubled their previous 0.3%. Note that the percentage is only for the adult population, about 1.4M people total. For perspective they say 3% are gay/lesbian.
NYT: IBM Takes Out Full-Page Ads Against Texas 'Bathroom Bill' "As one of the largest technology employers in Texas, IBM firmly opposes any measure that would harm the state's LGBT+ community and make it difficult for businesses to attract and retain talented Texans," the ads read. Neat!
Bravo, Blue. This is much less about government's possible overreaching into normal parent-child relationships than those that are actually damaging. I was in the latter camp but almost 60 years ago, so my treatment and abuse by my mother - if anyone other than she was ever aware of it - would probably not have raised eyebrows or concerns anyway.These days we know so much more, there is absolutely no excuse for denying a child his/her identity. To look the other way is irresponsible and cruel.
I just had mine pierced three weeks ago! It was a little scary and hurt a little but it was over pretty quickly, with new titanium studs in place. They are healing fine, no pain. As far as I can tell they are healed but I've been advised strongly to keep up with the twice daily saline soaks for at least 6 weeks. Okay, better safe than sorry...
Hi Patrice, and welcome! Glad you're liking what you're finding. We try hard to make meaningful posts in the forums, and have the blog area for personal discussions - which I like a lot. I don't receive notification emails when I receive a "like" so I looked around to see if I could figure out why. Please try this: - Pull down on your name in the upper right corner of the screen to reveal the menu. - Select "Notification Settings". - There, I found that I don't have much selected at all and one can opt out of everything. Hope that helps and, even more, that we hear more from you. Emma
Hey Kitrah, sorry you're having a tough time, especially with your family and friends. That, combined with money worries, is a heavy load to carry. I wish I had something helpful to offer. You seem to be thinking it all through very well. Maybe the best thing to do is try to stay patient, heal and get over your physical pain, and keep recording your options. At some point a new path will open for you to try out. Maybe that will be to move out of the US. Or maybe to another area or state. Best wishes to you. I'll be thinking of you. Emma
I came across this blog about a month ago, which is by an endocrinologist who writes about his experiences in practice. From what I can tell it's mostly directed at fellow practitioners but it has a wealth of information for patients, too. Here's the post I found (and commented on) that I find so helpful and... hopeful: Why I Wish All My Patients Were Transgender