General Transgender Discussion

Interesting research found in the New York Times http://www.nytimes.com/2015/08/23/opinion/sunday/richard-a-friedman-how-changeable-is-gender.html?ref=opinion&_r=0 Obtained the article via WPATH Standard of Care on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/groups/WPATH/?fref=nf

Today was my 36th, and had a few appts for my son at the eye doc .. so i told my girlfriend that i wanted to go with fully dressed she was a bit unsure becuase we were dropping our daughter off and the grandparents , i told her not to worry and it would be better for them to see me like this than finding out second hand and i could explain some stuff,, all that went well grandma thought i was a teacher from the school riding along grandpa was a bit unsure bit was cool with it, the akward part is her brother live with her parnets due to being diabetic and he started flirting with me , i got that sorted out fairly quick... onto the appt for my son all went like clock work …

The Courage of Being Transgender in PublicI have long thought that transgender people living honestly as themselves are very courageous. Mirriam-Webster.com defines courage as "mental or moral strength to venture, persevere and withstand danger, fear or difficulty." I believe that the willingness to be oneself, one's true self, openly in public is a scary thing for anyone. Honesty in the face of adversity is a form of moral strength. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/victoria-kolakowski/the-courage-of-being-tran_b_7943418.html?ir=Gay Voices&ncid=newsltushpmg00000003 Note: Mods to please move this article as you deem appropriate.

I think this is one of the toughest things for me at this point. I wish I knew of a local transgender friendly cosmetics person who could come and do my colors. I have gone into Target to see if I could get some makeup, but there is so much selection. Need concealer, foundation, powder, blush, eye shadow, eyelash lengthener, (Blanking out one what you call it), lipstick and such. I have a number of different nail polishes, but rarely put them on as I might have to take them off quickly. Mostly sticking to clear for right now. I have had the wife come home unexpectedly and we are not at that point where she has seen Emma. She only knows about me. I just feel I want to get …

Well i finally told my girlfriend and she is one happy camper about sat her down and just said this is how i feel and would like to live and she it is ok with it and she loves me ether way etc...

This Sunday, July 26th, I will celebrate my tenth anniversary of introducing Gennee to the world. I've gone from a cross dresser to transgenderist to transgender woman. Each year has brought successes. I overcame my fear of using the ladies restroom. I traveled out of town as Gennee with no repercussions. One big plus is I've received numerous compliments on the pink hat that I wear. I am part of a transgender women group with whom I have made friends. I am very happy and joyful and look forward to each day that I have.

So I am a butch dyke and never have worn feminine clothing, looking in the mirror I look for square jaw, broad shoulders, muscle definition, I shave my head, I hide my tits, I do not like "girlie" things but I do like women, I have always felt this way. Despite not being femme I have never minded this body until now - for the last couple years it bleeds a lot and often and I am sick of it, fibroids - Hate the idea of a hysterectomy because I think most surgeons and hospitals are unsafe and a body needs its parts, But T - I would love to take T and look more masculine and stop bleeding (if it would do that.) Am over 50 but menopause is not visible on the horizon yet - is t…

Always wise to reveal yourself when dating. Just force yourself to watch a Jerry Springer episode that has transgender guest on and they tell someone they have a penis and watch the fireworks go off. If you do need to tell someone make sure it's in a safe place as their manhood may take a jolt and cause reprisals. This picture may be silly but it can get real.

Darren Wee | 07 July 2015 "‘So, in the Bible, when a man sleeps with another man like with a woman, it’s an abomination. See, the emphasis is on a man betraying his status: He has feminized himself. So it’s a gender violation as opposed to a sexual violation.’" -- gaystarnews.com Jesus was gay or "at the very least' queer, says theologian ______________________________________ So, what's this guy's angle? Crackpot? Preacher with a twisted fantasy? Trying to whip the conservatives into a frenzy even more so than they're already in? Or did this guy just throw trans people under the bus in an attempt to get the hets off gay peoples' backs? Just wonderin' ....

With the Supreme court ruling in favor of gays marrying , what of we transgender people ? I'm NOT Gay. In fact men as bed partners disgust me . A couple of the females and I know one Trans man who knows me well know the deep seated reason I made that statement . I did not transition to have sex ! I have come on this hellacious journey to see myself as a mature woman with the appearance of a lady . STILL, EVERY Day, I'm "Sired " or denied my place as a lady simply over my being a Transwoman ! Where are Trans rights people ? Where are our rights to be free to live where we choose , to worship , to shop to live without fear of violence ? For DECADES , I have supported Gay th…

My Dear Friends, Today I have been the victim of adult bullying. What is embarrassing about it is that it was a senior lady picking on a 57 year old woman (me). Have also had a woman in her 50's pick on me while waiting for the bus in front of my building and a young man about 20 years my junior (30's) at a bus stop. Do not think that there is anything about my appearance or behavior that is "weird," BUT, I DO look like a Lesbian (which I am) and have a deep voice. Have grown my hair long and modified my dress to fit in better in a conservative (country folk) town. Have lived in NYC for ten years, and never was bullied. Now I live in a small town the last three years.…

Hi everyone my name is Jo and I am new to the site and wanted to ask about how I get started with my transition from MTF. I have made an appointment with a therapist and I have read about transitioning from multiple sources but I still don't quite know what all the steps are. I am married and have a beautiful little girl and I want to make sure that I do everything correctly for them. I always felt I was different growing up and began crossdressing at an early age but I didn't understand why and neither did my parents. I recently came out to my wife and she is supporting me. Please if anyone wishes to help me out I would greatly appreciate it.

I am a male who has just started a relationship with a trans girl. Just for the sake of clarity: she is a genetic male who CD's now but is about to start on hormones and identifies as a female. I guess I have been what you would call an admirer for a long time now, but this will be my first real relationship other than a random Craigslist hookup or two! point being is that I would like for this relationship to be more, and to develop into something and I want to do my part. my plan is to treat her like a lady, but other than that I really have no idea of any other way to help her as she deals with transitioning. I was hoping that the community here could give me some …

"Honey guess what? I'm really a Transphobe!" - The Jerry Springer Show & Transphobia You may have seen me posting on Twitter and Facebook about "The Jerry Springer" show, and that I find it extremely Transphobic. In fact I detest it and I know MANY Trans People who it's affected - some who delayed transition because of fears of ridicule and the stigma attached and exacerbated by this show... and others who gave up their goals because of this show. This is for all the girls and guys who made it, and to those who sadly didn't. So - "The Jerry Springer Show". It wouldn't look out of place at a carnival... Jerry could easily stand there as ringmaster, the audience eat…

At some point in the life of a transgender person their outward appearance is so important, especially at a young age. I wonder for those reading this that are middle age or older, how important is passing in public before and after transitioning and for those who have no plans to transition how important is passing to you? Also would be nice to know how important is it to not just pass but to look great? I would like to hear from male to female and female to male.

I'm so sad so stressed I feel like I'm trapped in a bad dream and can't get out. I try to forget about my pain but the more I try the more it hit's my heart I walk every day a lie as. I should be walking a beautiful woman but I'm not I'm stuck a male that is stuck in a cage screaming let me out I'm so stressed so sad

This may be an obvious question, but in case of being caught in public restrooms while dressed up as a girl, is it only a psychiatrist / therapist that can provide a 'safety letter' to avoid trouble with police/ storeowners thinking someone is a perv, or can general practitioners do that as well? I have contacted and been told by a gender therapist that they were unsure what I was referring to when asking about such a letter... whereas I was previously in an area where it was recommended by TG support groups to have a document specifically stating "so and so is undergoing transition" which was apparently acceptable but only if written by that persons psych. (It's also po…

It isn't huge news that former Alabama governor and failed presidential candidate Mike Huckabee is no friend to the LGBT community, but it is curious how he clings to his bigoted ways in the face of widening understanding and acceptance of transgender people. This article titled Huckabee wishes he could've identified as female in high school gym appears on CNN.com. "Former Arkansas Gov. Mike Huckabee said earlier this year that he wishes he could have Identified as a woman in order to shower with his female classmates after high school gym classes... A CNN reporter asked for his reaction to Caitlyn Jenner's Vanity Fair cover in which the former Olympic champion, and self…

Can I be depressed now ???

Jus as the title sez, it's Prom season for R O S M Y , ( Richmond Organization of Sexual Minority Youth ) in Richmond Virginia . This has become , "My Prom" . See, in 1968 when In was about to graduate High school, I couldn't even have come close to attending my own prom . I knew I was Transgender then and earlier . In 2009, I was allowed to go to that Prom as a Chaperone . It was sooooooooooooo gratifying to be there in a Thrift store evening dress and getting my picture taken by a "REAL " photographer . This year , as in years past , I again get to be with "My kids " . Yes, those full of energy youths who identify a little differently than mainstream society . They are…

I found this browsing on facebook, and I throught it was fun and informative aswell http://assignedmale.tumblr.com/post/97385408302/emergency-webcomic-about-a-transgender-girl

I have a question that I'd like to throw out to people for feedback, though I think I already have my answer. Since I'm still quite early in transition, I've had an internal debate going on over what I would do if I get a job interview (I'm looking around). Do I go as I am, or do I do a little en homme? I feel like I should go as i am (professionally of course!). If I get the job I'll have to do that, so I might as well start off with it, and it's better to know upfront if it's a problem. So that might be my answer, but if anyone has any thoughts I'd certainly appreciate it xoxo Christie

Well, we all pass throu life wondering about this life we were born into, it never seams easy, its always a struggle, it throws us curve balls, sadness seams to dominate our days, ignorant people surround us, there never seams to be enough time, it all zips by or creeps along, we dont fit in, you can never find that happy moment or place, we feel to heavy or to thin, we are all in but life just seams to be standing on the side lines. Well, what can you do about it, I am still in this game but I keep striking out. I have come to understand that no matter what we all do nothing matters, at the end of the day tomorrow brings another inning, is it insinsanity to keep steppi…

Being transgender is not simple. That said following back on defensive actions doesn't even help! Than what is one to do? Simply use the kamakazi approach in whatever seem right at the time for temporary use.We are not robot's as British dominate on American politics to this day.The world isn't perfect in binary form 1's & 0's its whole series of numbers ranging from 12,11,10,..,3,,2,1,0 sort of issues.Therefore it required to be cherish those of us have backup plan F,G,Z etc.But those who don't even stay in forums yet alone being transgender.Happy weekend everyone Kiss

Many times elating, sometimes deflating. There are times when I go out, shopping, when I am always referred to as Ma'am, or Hun, or some feminine pronoun, and other times, I am referred to as "sir". I am grappling with the disparity from day to day. I have gone out without makeup, and have been addressed as a woman, other times, when I am fully feminine, when I am addressed as "sir" Here are my non-scientific findings: When I feel "confident" in my gender role, I seem to pass easily, generally regardless of how I am dressedWhen I am nervous or frightened in my surroundings, even when I "think" I am dressed passably, I have trouble 50% of the timeI am not racist in any…