General Transgender Discussion

People have always questioned my sexuality, but I thought they were crazy because I have always been attracted to females. I am now coming to the conclusion that inside I feel like a woman inside. However, is it normal to feel like a woman and still be attracted to women? If so does that make me a lesbian? I think that it is odd but it all makes sense at the same time. I have always enjoyed lesbian love stories and had felt very connected to the characters. Is it even possible to be and transgendered female and have a lesbian relationship? I hope this isn't a stupid topic. :blink:

Hiya all As I've said in the 'description', I'm posting this after reading the 'feel like a woman not attracted to men' thread... I'm not really attracted to men either... until I start thinking of myself as a fully transitioned woman... Has anyoe else experienced this 'swotch of attraction'? Or think this would happen if they did transistion if they have not... I have more to say on the subject that sort of explains more how I feel, but I'd like t see other peoples viws first before saying more

Is it common to be gender dysforic not have an actual problem with my genitals? I know the feelings inside of me, but they do not result in an inward to outward hatred of my body. P.S. I am going to see a doctor that deals with transgender issued people, so I am sure that I will come to terms more about myself. I just figured I'd post this for feedback and for the points of views of others. I am willings to answer any questions in the case that you are wondering, "Whats going on with this person". Thank you everyone for your time. Bye. :)

For those of you who are unfamiliar with culture tests, the American Culture Test is at http://www.zompist.com/amercult.html. Other people have contributed their own culture tests--24 countries and 5 regional cultures. Basically, it's a list of things that are 90% likely to be true of you if you're American. I'm thinking about creating a male/female culture test (for our culture, of course--the English-speaking world, that is): one list for women, one list for men, using a format similar to the American Culture Test. I can't think of very many, though, because it's only been the past year that I've really started to understand that female culture isn't "just the way…

I've been drinking and this may sound weird.. but I have to say it. Is anybody lonely in the transtion? I am. How do we talk,besides this forum. How do we talk to the people we know. This seems to be such a lonely journey. Do we really have to go thru this alone? I know there are support groups....but in northern wisconsin! Besides my shrink I don't have anyone to. Maybe this is just the time of the month; but I am really feeling down. Does anyone else feel the same way?

Do any of you workout? What are your work out routines like? Also, is there a way to work out to make your muscles smaller (I know, dumb question, but I had to ask)? The reason why I asked is because I have a muscled/athletic build. I'm 6ft, 160 lbs. Thanks for your time everyone.

Well.. I haven't been a fully active member here for a long while. Mostly because I reached a stage in my transition where I could be myself, so it was nice and I became comfortable and I didn't think about my problem so readily as to come here and share my thoughts. Of course, from time to time, however, I did drop in and say hello to you all. Post my thoughts on current topics and so on. However, my comfort has began, to in a way deteriorate. I suppose it is that same vicious cycle I talked of in an earlier reply of mine. The more I experienced, the more I wanted more. What I said was that, when I tried to be a girl as a boy. I found contentment in roleplay online. T…

Hi! I'm Mani, and I just signed up for these forums today. A little about me, I'm transgender (ftm); 20yrs old in college where I'm gonna try to be stealth; studying film with a hobby in graphic design. Feel free to ask me any questions ~Mani

Hello everyone! As long as I can remember, I've felt like I was female in a male body. However, for many reasons, I have decided against transitioning; I've decided it's just not for me. I've decided I can accept being female in a male body. Does anyone else here feel as I do? (If so, you might want to check out my site: http://www.geocities.com/girlinside123/)

Ok mates, I'm in full panic mode. Had my first official transgender related shrink's appt. Got nervous. Had mom sitting there eyeing me and basically negating everything I was saying. I now have to take a bunch of personality and IQ tests to make sure I'm "sane". I'm scared. What should I do?

So, I got laid off on Friday.... Nothing to do with my being TG, just lack of work... Echhhhh.

I was going to search for a previous topic, but apparently all the words are too short So.. my apologies if a thread has already been started on the topic Anyway, has anyone read this book? I heard about it earlier, and finally got a copy today on a separate recommendation from a friend. It's been really interesting reading so far. The full title is: Self-Made Man: One Woman's Year Disguised as a Man, by Norah Vincent

Ok, now this post may not be worded exactly correctly but my question is, I was at work today and Donna Lewis' I love you always forever came on the radio. Now, way back in the day, like middle school/early high school, anytime this song came on, I would immediately be consumed by this somber mood. Nothing depression-esque or even sad really, almost like when you see that moment in a movie where someone dies and that person is like thinking of them and its a bittersweet moment of rememberance. Well, this song would come on, usually at the god-awfully early hour of 715am (back then it was horrid, now 6am wakeups are usual due to being 'grown up'.) but anyways the song w…

Hi. I am new to the board and just wanted to say Hello. I am TG and don't see anyway to transition or "come out" with out hurting others. I am married and have two precious girls I couldn't bare to see hurt. I think one reason I got married was I thought it would "cure me". Ha. Before I got married I was under going electrolysis and working on my figure. I feel myself going back in time trying the same things "without electrolysis". DOES IT EVER END? I just wish I could atleast dress and lay back fem for one whole day. Seems impossible these days.

Some words seem to become difficult in a TG situation. I'm curious what substitution words people have developed to get around this. Good example: "wife". See, I started out saying "SO" partially because I didn't feel like exposing that detail at the time, but partially because it's an awkward sort of word to use. I somehow can't see a lesbian couple calling each other "wife" or even "husband" if one was really butch, unless they were doing it as a joke. I don't know, maybe they would? I guess if a lesbian couple did somehow manage to get married in the current political climate (Massachusetts and Canada excepted ) they'd probably be pretty proud of it. But what do …

I know I saw one message on the forum about this when I searched, but I wondered if anyone ever thought they were going through MPD when sorting out gender identity issues? From very early days in my childhood I think I compartmentalized the "girl stuff" in my head and started thinking of her as a ghost personality in my head. Not of the strength that the media-sensationalized MPD people, where there's a total switch-over, memory loss, etc. Just kind of like an imaginary friend who happened to have many of the same wants, needs, and interests as me. An imaginary friend who liked the girl clothes I had and wanted to just wear them, but the guy body had other ideas... …

I am 6 ft and at 160 pounds. I was just wondering your folks sizes before you transitioned. Am I just to big to transition if it is what my heart desires. I ask because I do have a thin, muscular build. Thank you so much for your input. Bye Bye ^_^

Have many of you here went to therapy before deciding to change your entire life. I want to find some support groups in NYC before thinking of engaging in an all out transition (as far as wearings fishnets, makeup). I know I have feminine tendencies, but I don't know if I am the type to be a transsexual (it could be a strong possibility). I want to be examined because while I don't want to make any life altering decision that I am unsure of, I also don't want to be a miserable 50 year old man because I lived the wrong life. I love my long hair and want it to be even longer. I love painting my nails and wearing chokers. lol. I am going to call some places and get som…

Here's an article I read today about the relevance of Pride weeks. There is a recognition that gays and lesbians are becoming more and more acceptable in society particularly by the younger generation and that the focus needs to shift towards the transgenders and transexuals. http://lifewise.canoe.ca/Beauty/AskIvana/2...22/4282306.html Bonnie

Hello everyone, My name is Matthew (despite the Jennifer name, which is just what my female name would be, if I were a girl) and I am 18 years old. I apologize for the length of what this post will likely be, but I stumbled across your website tonight and after reading all of your indepth knowledge and experiences, I felt the need to join. I don't know... maybe it's in ways a cry for help over what have become such conflict feelings inside me, or maybe just to talk to someone who can relate. I know you probably hear get these questions all the time, so I apologize. Anyways... Since I was six years old, I have had the urge to dress up as a woman (bet you would have N…

To the mods: I posted this in another forum, but I think it may be helpful to some so maybe it will get more traffic here. Want to stop? I'm sure you have all been there. What is this crossdressing thing really about? Perhaps I can shine a little light on the subject and share some of the insights I recently stumbled upon. What it comes down to is: What do you really want? You have to be willing to be honest with yourself. Be willing to look beneath the surface and really want to see what is there. There is a reason why you crossdress. You believe it will make you happier or bring you closer to peace. That's the bottom line. That's what everybody on earth…

Howdi all, How do your TGism reflect itself in dreams? Have you always dreamt 'in the persona' of your 'brain/true sex'? I tend to be genderless in my dreams anyway, but occasionally I have dreams in which I 'know' I'm a woman, but to be honest, I have more where I'm certainly the extrernal person I am now ... i.e. male.... Actually I drream quite vividly every night, which I'm happy about, though more often than not the details fade within minutes if I don't concentrate my mind on them. Some of my friends claim the 'never dream'... I'm not sure thats true, I read somewhere we all dream but we don't all remember them. I'm grateful I do though. Last n…

My apologies for the whiney ennui of this post up front. I feel like I need to get it off my chest though. I'm not even completely sure where to start with this, it's all tangled up in my head... so I'll start here: I've waffled a lot. I'm not as completely sure as to the state of my mind as some of you are with yours. However, I realized the other day that if I had a "magic button" that would make me into the real GG female image of myself that I see in my head, and change everyone's memories and such to match it.. you know, parallel universe or whatever.. I wouldn't hesitate more than a second to push it. I think that says a lot. I also realized that the "full d…

I know I've been posting a lot of threads lately... sorry I just love to talk. I've spent a lot of time lately just meditating on, and seeing beauty everywhere in the world. I know how cheesy that sounds, but doing things like life drawings tends to do that to you. There's something intimate about putting down a person's lines and shadows on paper and unless you hate your work, it's impossible to not find beauty in your subject. It spills over into the rest of life. I grew up seeing images of TSes of the Jerry Springer variety, like some of the other threads I've seen posted on here -- badly botched implant jobs, real drag queen looking types, don't really seem to …

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