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  1. ​That's sad. Almost as disgusting as the bigotry and hatred in that city.
  2. UsernameOptional

    "The Art of Passing"

    ​Hiya Ace - Yeah... there be many women here! I guess over time, I've just gotten used to it. It also helped that back when I first joined, there were several women that often made it a point to include what few guys were here in on the many discussions. Though the threads are old... don't forget - there is a FTM forum here on the TG Guide Board. There's a lot of good reading there. I think it's safe to say that most of it is still relevant today. Check it out -Mike
  3. It seems like we've heard other stories out of Kenosha... that city must REALLY have some SERIOUS phobias when it come to people of the TGLB community. That school put the boy thru four years of hell... he should have been awarded $800K for each year!
  4. What a way to start the year. Another sickening, unnecessary loss. The only good part (if any part at all can be good), is that from the various articles I've read so far, it doesn't appear that being trans had anything to do with this tragedy.
  5. Emanuella Grinberg, CNN | Updated 6:52 PM ET, Thu January 4, 2018 "Sarah Kate Ellis, President and CEO of GLAAD, said a recent report from the LGBTQ advocacy group shows that 20% of millennials identify as LGBTQ, and more young people are rejecting traditional binaries." --cnn.com Washington state offers third gender option on birth certificates
  6. UsernameOptional

    And away we go!

    Points 4 and 6 well-taken. Thanks for explaining.
  7. UsernameOptional

    I Don't Care Much for Myself Tonight

    Being a moderator just means we have to set an example, as in following the rules... stuff like that. Doesn't mean we can't hurt, and come looking for someone to lean on. The way I see it... our hurts and heartache ain't all our fault. And it never will be until society changes for the better. Big hugs to you, Emma. I'm glad you're feeling better. -Michael
  8. UsernameOptional

    And away we go!

    Hello TransFormation... and welcome to TG Guide. I'm usually pretty bad about welcoming new members - thank god the women around here take up the slack in that department. But on occasion, a new member will come in with something that reels me in. This is a very open and welcoming board - mind you, it is not restricted to only those who are transgender or intersex. Instead, we fly just about every flag imaginable - including the flags that cisgender and gay people walk under. We include family, friend, ally and on occasion have even tolerated foe if it meant exposing truth, or trying to share enlightenment. There has even been one member who was not trans, whom we later decided was simply using this board as a testing ground for a novel or something. All that said, I have to admit that I don't always read blog entries either. Once again, I must be humbly and ever so grateful for some of the insatiable readers that roam these halls. A person has to come up with a pretty catchy blog title for me to put on the brakes and stop in for a while and check things out. I hope you take no offense as none is intended, but your username and Jackie Gleason-like proclamation caught my eye. Now to the meat of my introduction: 1. About half your entry is all about making sure we know you will give up no details about the woman of whom you speak. I commend you on your respect to her status as trans. I hope you will soon come to learn that respecting one's identity is the number one rule among trans and [and usually] among gay people. We do not out anyone, and those who do become a kind of pariah. What one chooses to share with us is wholey up to the individual. We, of all people, on such a site, need no such castigation. 2. Perhaps in time you will learn that it's really not necessary to announce your sexual preference/orientation. Before reading, "I am heterosexual," I had already assumed as much. As a rule, the only people who assume they will be perceived as gay are those who harbour homophobic tendancies, and/or do not believe/respect 100% that a trans woman is a woman, or that a trans man is a man. 3. In that despite your privileged status as a straight, white man, you apparently ARE subjected to some degree of unacceptance - a Frenchman who is percieved to have turned his back on his people, his culture, his heritage in being English-educated. Magnify whatever slights you have noted by 1,000 times, and you will then understand the great degree of unacceptance we endure 24/7/365. I believe if you endured that level of unacceptance, your blog entry would no doubt have a very different tone. Or at least reason for existence. 4. You are either clairvoyant or highly presumptuous in stating that no one here has ever heard of your books let alone read them, or never seen your blog. I wonder why you believe this. Do you believe trans people to be less intelligent? Perhaps we cannot afford your books? Have you determined what we are or are not interested in? 5. I'm not a woman....and I can't help but think I have an idea why she left you - the writing is, on the wall so-to-speak. Just above, in your blog entry. The answers are all there the way I see it. My apologies in advance if I am being presumptuous. Or wrong. I've been known to find my own foot in my own mouth. 6. Or are you another come here looking for more fodder to fuel the writing juices? After all, you do so bluntly comment how low readership is on this board. Makes me wonder why you are REALLY here... -Mike
  9. I hope this is the beginning of the end of the bigotted actions by the Great Orange Orangutan. WTG, Logan!
  10. Sad to know that there are only two states. Makes it appear that all other states consider it perfectly okay to for someone toi beat the crap out of, or kill a gay person - all the killer has to do is claim his freakin' homophobia kicked in and he panicked. I commend Illinois for having passed such legislation, but unless I'm not understanding all of that article, it's not clear to me if this new law applies to those who assault or kill trans people, also. I hope it does. -Mike
  11. UsernameOptional

    HIV Among Transgender People

    "There is so much work to be done for the transgender community." -- Lori I'd say the workload has been increased exponentially considering the current political regime is tearing down everything achieved in the past years. Meanwhile, those stats will probably worsen until things return to a more positive trend.
  12. Drumpf & his GOP continue their slow and intentional destruction of the advances made in the past few years ... Lena H. Sun and Juliet Eilperin December 15 at 6:53 PM The Trump administration is prohibiting officials at the nation’s top public health agency from using a list of seven words or phrases — including “fetus” and “transgender” — in any official documents being prepared for next year’s budget. --washingtonpost.com CDC gets list of forbidden words: fetus, transgender, diversity _____________________________________________________________________________________ "Kelly did not say why the words are being banned, according to the analyst, and told the group that she was merely relaying the information." -- wapo.com They're banned because it would make discussion about those topics and topics affected by certain issues/illnesses/diseases difficult at best. And without discussion, it gets pushed to the back burner and eventually forgotten. After those topics are forgotten, the haters and bigots can sneak in and remove any rights and benefits they want to strip people of. This country is going to hell in a hand basket... and if yer not rich, white, heterosexual, cisgender, male and entitled, yer screwed. We should all probably start practicing how to kiss our own butts "good-bye." I guess I better start losing a little weight to make the feat a little easier.
  13. I saw the episode when it aired. She's sweet as she can be. She seems, at least to me, what any kid wants in a Grandmother - fun, loving, lots of hugs and home made cookies.
  14. UsernameOptional

    Rihanna wont use trans people marketing tool

    Kudos to Rihanna. I've commented a few times here around the board that I felt some were simply "going after" trans people to capture some sensational angle... and thereby making a rather nice payday for themselves. If Rihanna does employ a transgender person... just as she says it's not her business if a person is trans, it should also not matter to anyone else. You either like her beauty products or you don't. After all... is that not the market she's in - beauty products, not human grandstanding? Nice catch of an article, C2P.
  15. UsernameOptional

    Karma DOES Indeed SUCK!

    So, I've been here at my Mum's house long enough now that the time came to get my vehicle's license plate replaced. I've got a new plate and now I blend in with the locals. I've also been here long enough that my old driver's license was about to expire and I had to prepare for a new one. Being that I was going to end up getting a license in a new state, I figured I'd go online and see what all would be required... what paperwork/documentation, or whatever, to prove I'm a legal citizen of the good ol' U.S of A. While doing my homework, I discovered that I could actually start the process for getting a license - online. Okay...that was cool. For getting a license for the first time in this state, you have to fill out an application and then go thru the list of required documentation and pick out the ones you are able to provide, or must find a way to obtain. While filling out the application, the Devil crawled up on one shoulder, and David Michael crawled up on the other shoulder. Being that most humans have only two shoulders, naturally, there was no place for that little Angel that likes to be across from the Devil to counteract any of his shenanigans... LOL. The Devil and I were gonna get along juuuuuuuuuuuuuuuust fine. Anywho... I came upon two boxes - one for male and one for female. There have been many a story about people who's driver's license had the wrong sex marker on them. And of course, anyone can make a mistake... so, I accidentally on purpose hit the box for male, 'cause, well, the idea of having to check female yet again, was distressful. It's becoming more so, more and more. I figured the hell with it - if anyone asks, I'll simply tell them I was in a hurry at the time, only half paying attention, an' obviously hit the wrong box. <shrugs> The days were dwindling. I had only about seven days left on the current license. Reluctantly, I hauled my sorry butt to the DMV to get a new driver's license. Armed with BC, marriage license, application number and current DL, I stood in line waiting for the next available agent. Finally, a free agent. I walked over and sat down, layed all my stuff on the counter, said "hello," and gave the lady my application number. She pulled up my application and went to work. Now... this woman had three documents in front of her that clearly stated my birth sex. I assumed she either didn't see the "M" on my application since she didn't question me, or she just took it upon herself to make the "correction." I sat quietly while she got everything filled out and entered into the system. She pulled a sheet of paper from her printer and advised me it was a temporary license and that I should keep it on me until I get the permanent one. I forked over my money, she collected everything I had given her, the temporary license, and handed it all to me saying that my permanent license would arrive in the mail within 15 days. I thanked her, we wished each other a good day, and I left. A couple days later, I pulled my wallet out to get that temporary license - I had folded it up before I had even left the DMV parking lot, not wanting to see the information on it. But then, I had to see what sex was on it - if it was on there at all since it was, after all, only a temporary license. I slowly unfolded the paper, and then tried to hone in on where I thought the sex marker might be. MY GOD, SHE DIDN'T SEE IT! And yeah - - it looked THAT glorious! I thought my heart was gonna pound it's way straight thru my sternum. I allowed myself a minute or two of sheer, unadulterated, child-like giddy excitement, then stifled it, and came back down to reality, believing there could be the possibility that between then and whenever the permanent license was created, someone might spot and "correct" that "M." I re-folded the temporary license and put it back in my wallet. Just a few days later, the permanent license arrived in the mail. I slowly opened it, bracing for the worst. I fully expected to find a "corrected" license and a letter to announce/explain such. Instead, an "M" nearly jumped off the card at me. I was very happy. Right or wrong, correct or incorrect, I was happy. I didn't even care that the name and the sex marker contradicted each other. I sat at the desk for a moment just looking at the license. And then I spotted it. That twit had entered my entire name... not just full first name, but full first name AND middle name - SPELLED OUT. If there's anything I hate worse than my first [given] name, it's my middle [given] name. And the bad part is... the application indicated that entry of a middle name or initial was optional, and all that was on the old license was an initial. I surely wasn't expecting that! Karma. Freakin'. SUCKS!
  16. UsernameOptional

    what a great Day

    "Journey from Grit to Grace." I like that. Sounds like the makings of a book. Good title anyway... Congrats to ya's both. -Mike
  17. UsernameOptional

    "The Transgender Manifesto"

    If you missed that November 5th dated, this book is also available free if you subscribe to Kindle Unlimited.
  18. This is cool. I wonder if the program will benefit both men and women?
  19. "Transparent" is one of the few creations including a trans character that I have enjoyed. While I am sorry to hear of the allegations against Jeffrey Tambor, who played Moira, I can't help but wonder how his departure from the program will affect the storyline. Will they get another actor to take Tambor's place and keep Moira... or will they find a way to write Moira out? Without Moira, without the transgender parent, it's just my opinion that "Transparent" will just be another primetime-like drama. I haven't seen "OITNB" - perhaps it's time to check it out....
  20. UPDATE -- November 21, 2017 "In ruling that the ban likely violates the federal constitution, the court found noted that “A capricious, arbitrary, and unqualified tweet of new policy does not trump the methodical and systematic review by military stakeholders qualified to understand the ramifications of policy changes.”" -aclu.org Federal Court Blocks All Aspects of Trump’s Transgender Military Ban
  21. Anyone notice how in several incidents, the suspects (if/when found) were charged with only second-degree murder? From the DailyBeast article ---The story about a woman who was murdered, and then her body burned, REALLY got me, "surveillance video led police to arrest 45-year-old Michael Davis and charge him with second-degree murder and first-degree arson. As the Journal noted, police investigators determined that there had been a “personal relationship” between the alleged killer and the transgender woman." It's as if the arson is considered the more heinous of the two crimes!! WHY??
  22. So true nature is unkind to both - trans women get the better genitals if they opt for GCS, and of course they don't have to deal with scars on their chests. On the flip side of that coin, though we're missing the right plumming... many trans men are rarely if ever noticed as anything but men. I didn't mean to come off as ungrateful - I am glad to see more in the media about trans men. And it's funny you mention that "sisterhood." I've always known it existed - I just never understood it. I'm not even sure I really know what it feels like or what the requirements are. I do know, however, that any female past the age of the onset of puberty seems to sense that I don't belong. It's very unsettling. Best wishes to you also for a happy T-day... -Michael
  23. It's nice that TIME saw fit to give some face time to men. Ironically, I find that the sexism is still blaringly obvious in that, the article highlights how society treats a person once they are perceived as male. Just under the surface, no matter how progressive this society prefers to claim it is, men are still more important than women. Makes me wonder if the author of that piece even realized or entertained the idea that trans woman are also subjected to a sexually cultural change, in that they are no longer treated as men, and therefore are no longer afforded "male privilege." Or if it would even have mattered. After all, they're only women...
  24. UsernameOptional

    Trans Women Storming the Political Arena

    I'm not sure how or why the links were the same for all three women in my update above... but I've fixed them. And while I'm at it, I hate to say anything to over-shadow the wins of people from our community... but, I was a tad disappointed that these accomplishments didn't seem to get much coverage in mainstream news. Talkshow hosts sure jumped on it though... they thoroughly enjoyed that karma jumped up and bit many haters in the posterior!