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Why I reject the growing anti-label movement.

I keep seeing in group after group a demand to reject labels. And I can't support it. History has made me really wary of this idea. In Europe, most people couldn't read. It wasn't just the expense of books, it was a choice by their leaders that they should not. And the spread of literacy across Europe did indeed change everything, and directly influenced the various revolutions. In America, very few slaves were allowed to learn to read and write, only those that their masters deemed requir

October 12, 2016

Obligatory Bree is gonna talk about politics - aka my fear of Turmp isn't just about Trump.

I had a REALLY uncomfortable conversation with a friend of mine today who was worried that a third friend had offended me with a sort of inappropriate outburst of hate against Clinton in the middle of game raid night. And I admitted it had made me really uncomfortable, but...not on the political front. And then the conversation got way personal, and I realized that what scares me most isn't Trump himself and his crazy, dangerous things that he spouts. There is always that one person yelling cr

October 10, 2016

Tiring week over

I've just spent a week away from home, working. Early starts: late finishes. Not so much sleep over the past few days but it was a good week, nevertheless. I've spent the last few evenings in the company of my team mates and my manager. It was the first time we had all managed to get together like that for a couple of years. And it was great to see their initial reactions to my appearance were positive. It was great to experience their total acceptance of who I am first-hand, in the flesh, beca

October 7, 2016

Instinct vs. Medical advice.

So my back is killing me today, I slept wrong the night before last or something. You know, when you just wake up and your back says "#$&& no!". My natural instinct is really to find a comfortable position that doesn't hurt, and stay there. Until it heals up. But what the doctor told Nikki last time he did this was that the fastest way to realign the back and heal the problems is walking. And it's taking all my willpower to ignore my instincts and listen to her. But every hour I'm

October 6, 2016

MonicaPz's Blog

Nine Relationship Stages That All Couples Go Through

The following is an article that a friend sent me, with which I really resonate with. "Wondering what relationship stage you're in right now? Here are the nine relationship stages that all couples go through, not how love starts." "Relationships are unique. No one experiences love in the same way." "You may have been in several relationships in your life, and every relationship is unique. But there are a few traits that are in common with every relationship." "Relationships, just like life, h

MonicaPz

October 3, 2016

nicky

Rrrrr

Why is everyone that is not my doc (family that is ) worried about what is or not between my legs or if i have GRS . it is really not any of their concern .......ugh , i came out to you to let you know who am not to try and control my life or my journey ............

Nickyw

October 1, 2016

Training Over

What a training course. Enlightening, saddening, revealing, a little scary at times, but ultimately well worth the investment in time and money. Do I feel confident in giving first aid in a mental health emergency? Not 100% but it's like physical first aid - you hope you never have to do it but it's reassuring to know you have the skills and knowledge if it comes down to it. I will be better at spotting signs in myself - signals that my own mental health is suffering a dip. I will be better at s

September 29, 2016

So apparently I do have more need for external validation than I thought.

I was just watching a video on YouTube posted by Phil DeFranco's wife (he's a funny youtuber with a take on the news I often enjoy and watch sometimes) and she is describing a break in that had happened to them, and talking about it made her cry. After we had the break in, I couldn't talk about it without falling to pieces either, and I wasn't entirely sure why, as we were not injured and yes we lost a lot of things, but we were okay and it was over. Watching someone else struggle with the sam

September 27, 2016

Training

I'm currently heading home after day 1 of a two day training course. The training is in mental health first aid. Not only is it fascinating and educational, but it's also enlightening from the perspective of my own mind. I've learned a lot today. About how to spot signs that a person's mental health may be taking a dip. And that includes my own. Day 2 promises to be just as educational. The trainer appeared to be a little worried that she might have stressed us out and she has sent us home wit

September 27, 2016

You have got to be kidding me.

We'd finally gotten settled with a good doctor, who knows about Nikki's issues and has been great with both his and mine, and the main office is closing our town's location. ARGH! Finding the right doctor and getting a comfortable relationship going is HARD. *headdesk*

September 22, 2016

Putting my hair in Nikki's hands.

Waiting for my hair to dry out, and then I'm putting the one thing about my physical form I feel good about into...Nikki's hands. He's going to first bleach it, then dye it deep emerald green. I'm finally going to have my dream hair, my favorite color, green. I've been trying to do my part to help find the balance between Nikki's two sides, and have invited him as far into the girl world as I go, which isn't far really, when someone online is judging me purely on behaviors and interests they

September 21, 2016

Good night

It was a good night. My train arrived late into London and I had to double-time the walk to meet with the psychologist, but it all went well enough. I was hot and sweaty and feeling dishevelled by the time I arrived but, to be honest, I didn't look as bad as she did. It was evident that her office had no air con and she had had precious little fresh air all day. She looked more tired and dishevelled than me. The interview went well. We covered old ground but that didn't rattle me at all. I simpl

September 17, 2016

Karen's thoughts

Observations, the female voice in LGBT M to F

With no disrespect I’ve been noticing the more I’m with cross-dressers that two things (at least from my experience in the last several years) is, the majority of cross-dressers will not transition so they are part-timers only and that they never attempt to mask their voice to female mode and one reason I believe for the voice aspect is they only do to trans-friendly establishments. Keeping with voice, I’ve only met three post-op transgender and I’m astonished to find they don’t attempt to chan

KarenPayne

September 16, 2016

Step 3

On my way to London to see the psychologist from the GIC. Sitting at the station waiting for my train. It's windy but the sun is shining and I'm feeling good. Step 1 was getting the T prescription. I ordered my supply for the fourth month yesterday and it arrived today. Step 2 was getting to see the psychiatrist from the GIC. That was weeks ago. Today is step 3. Goodness only knows what step 4 will be. I haven't a clue. The T is redistributing my body fat already. It has also given me a few whis

September 16, 2016

Haha! Turned tables!

Since we have decided sharing closets works for us, I have made my self at home in his comfy black knit cargo shorts. I LOVE these shorts. Next spring I am planning to buy several more, as these are fantastic shorts that don't ride up indelicately on me like my shorts. I like the longer length and bigger pockets than on the female version I have. Nikki complains a lot that I absconded with his shorts. But they are COMFY. Oh my god comfy. And he absconded with my sparkly butterfly shirt, s

September 12, 2016

Wow Newegg, that was fast. And marital ramblings after that.

So...making Nikki's computer dream a reality, which is the project I've been on since January pretty single-mindedly, has finally come to fruition today. And those parts got here FAST. Like laser fast. So I cleaned out the dining room table so he has a work space (on the weekends that area is set up for gaming as there is a Friday night and a Sunday evening game), and he's like a little kind in a candy store right now. It was worth every moment of locking myself in the bathroom at work to ha

September 10, 2016

Tried Virtual Reality yesterday. Mind blown.

So printer died a horrible death, moment of silence for my little desk friend. Moment over. IT was a fast moment, it wasn't that nice a desk friend. Nikki and I can't be without a printer, we use it constantly. So I ordered a new one, and we went to Best Buy to pick it up. Now, Nikki just got to order the components to put his new computer together, the same one we built for me around Christmas, only he gets it $100 cheaper because prices go down with time. LOL So he was browsing around

September 9, 2016

Finding Lisa

Transition Update

My FFS surgery is scheduled for 12/2. My full-time date at work is 12/19. I am still part-time, but dress almost all of the time, except work. I have been on HRT for almost 17 months and filling in nicely. My name change order came through. I was going to change my license but have been sick the last few days. With work, I haven't gotten to it. But that is next as well as my SS Card. Then my passport. More disclosures. What I am finding is that everyone is accepting at first, but after the shock

LovelyLisa

September 8, 2016

Autumn Sad

Sometimes cliches exist for a reason, and as excited as I get when the pool goes up, as happy as I am in it all summer, I never really hit the full depth of how much that pool means to me as when I am facing the oncoming autumn and knowing it's about to go away for a long, cold winter. So I'm frantically swimming as many days at the sky will let me, and trying to store away every moment of pool joy to mull over in my winter blankets. And I'm reminded it's not just a pool. It was a lifelong dr